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Post by peano on May 3, 2016 15:00:51 GMT
I have always been sensitive to my dogs and I have been aware that they tense up and they don't like to have me initiate a big ol' bear hug. That's not to say my current dog will not sometimes come lie or lean against me. If I feel I must have some sugar from Posie, I at least try to sweeten it with some tummy-rubbing or butt-scratching.
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Post by LeaP on May 3, 2016 15:02:44 GMT
In our household, our once proud cattle dog had devolved to a tub of gooey love that sits on laps and sleeps in beds.
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Post by azredhead on May 3, 2016 16:47:43 GMT
My Dh read me this article yesterday. HOGWASH it is! We're also not supposed to have a Lab/Akita that is affectionate. She's one of the most affectionate dogs we've had. She thinks she's a lap dog and she's HUGE! If you stop rubbing the top of her nose she'll hug YOU! Or end up in your lap! Sleeping on the bed with us is one of their favorite things. Duke has to be right up against you and Pia the Lab/Akita has to be touching you.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 16:53:37 GMT
I think dogs are like people in this respect. Humans enjoy being hugged by the right person, in the right circumstances for the right amount of time. What is "right" varies by dog. I could use 250 random online photos to prove humans don't like to be hugged.
I had a sheltie that liked to be hugged at home by her people. She didn't like long hugs and it didn't take much to distract her where she felt she needed to be watchful so hugging was too confining if she needed to dart out and be a guard dog instead of a huggy dog.
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Post by monklady123 on May 3, 2016 16:54:49 GMT
I'm not sure it's a valid study if one looks a photos on the internet. lol. Of course we all know our dogs best and as everyone as said, some like it and some don't. Mine doesn't exactly care for bear hug type hugs, but she likes cuddles. She initiates them so I figure she must like it. lol. For instance if one of us is sitting on the couch the dog will jump up and lay her head on their leg or lap, then swivel her eyes up as if to say "can't you see me here, poor pathetic me, no love in this house, I'm so sad, please pet me...."
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Post by crimsoncat05 on May 3, 2016 17:02:12 GMT
My dog comes over and shoves her entire (70 lb) body under my arm so I'll hug her, so I'll have to say no. She's pretty persistent in getting what she wants. Ditto x3 dogs. I had a 70 lb rotty/lab mix that insisted on being a lap dog. Then we got a 100 lb lab that would shove himself up under your arm. My 77 lb lab mix rescue thinks he's a lap dog too; he will climb right up and into your lap without an invite! The same thing happens with our three Shelties, only they will either pat your arm with their paw or lay their head right on your leg to let you know they want attention.
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Post by papersilly on May 3, 2016 17:37:18 GMT
hug/scratch/belly rub---they're all the same and my dogs love them. if I stop and pull my hand away, they paw me to continue. I know my dogs aren't the only ones who do this.
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Post by raindancer on May 3, 2016 17:39:47 GMT
How very unscientific of him. Yeah. This is not a study of anything useful.
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Post by bostonmama on May 3, 2016 17:40:46 GMT
One of my terrier mixes isn't very much into affection; the other (the female) GIVES hugs. She will lay her head on your chest and grab your neck with her paw! <3
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Post by BlueDiamond on May 3, 2016 17:48:00 GMT
Yeah, that study is a bunch of bull. Not very scientific, either, as some have already pointed out.
You just need to know your dogs, and their signals. One of mine just loves being kissed on the head repeatedly. Especially when we've just come home. I swear, he could be kissed for an hour and not move! The other will take a few kisses on the head, then bumps his head up a bit, as if to say, enough! So I stop!
They both love being held, and will spoon with me under the covers at night (until it's too hot and they come out, panting!).
It's just like people. Some are huggers, and some aren't. You just have to know, and they'll give you signals. As long as you don't push it, they'll be fine.
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Post by carhoch on May 3, 2016 17:52:22 GMT
My male doesn't like to be hugged but it doesn't bother the female.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 18:18:57 GMT
My dog will put herself on your lap until you hug her. She is happiest when someone is hugging her. She LOVES hugs. She's almost as big as we are though, so she doesn't feel threatened or smothered.
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Post by jeremysgirl on May 3, 2016 18:33:55 GMT
My dog is not a hugger. She is very laid back and gentle but she is big, so she has no problem backing out of a situation if she is uncomfortable. Generally, when she wants to be petted, she will come up to you on the couch and stand on her hind legs with front legs on the couch and prefers if you rub her chest/belly. When she's had enough, she gets down and walks away. She is very, very playful and just not much of a cuddler. Every once in a blue moon, she will come up on the couch and sit next to me. It's rare, though, and she doesn't do it with anyone but me. She is DH's dog. She really respects him the most and prefers to play with him over anyone else. Just last night, I was trying to get her to come to me so I could pet her (I guess I needed some dog love) but she wasn't having any of it. DH says I need a small lap dog so I can get my dog love fix.
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Post by newfcathy on May 3, 2016 18:39:03 GMT
My older lab is not cuddler at all, at 65-70 lbs, Chewie wants to be near you, loves to be petted, or have a hand left on her, but no hugs, or sitting in your lap. Obi, thankfully a 45 lb lab, and loves to sleep on us, be in a lap. He will lean on us, then he'll slide down. We can roll him over on his back between us in bed. We don't let him spend the night with us because he will lay on my knees and aggravate my arthritis something awful.
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Post by pridemom on May 3, 2016 18:45:09 GMT
Neither of my dogs like hugs. My border collie lives to give kisses and be next to us, but don't wrap your arms around him. My beagle was used for breeding before we got her and kept crated. She gets close but hates to be held.
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Post by krc11 on May 3, 2016 18:46:36 GMT
I read this and another article about how you should NEVER pet your dog on the head. Hogwash! My dog comes to be patted on the head. He stays there until finally I stop. Looks like he enjoys it to me. In fact, all my dogs do that (about 6-7 in my life time).
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 18:49:23 GMT
This is what Fiona does. DH was just sitting there. She comes up and puts her paws on either side of you and lays her chin on your shoulder til you hug her. Just like people, every dog is different. I think it's silly for them to proclaim something universal about something like this. Attachments:
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Post by disneypal on May 3, 2016 18:55:33 GMT
I've hugged our dogs my whole life, I get kisses from them in return. I think our pets know how to tell when we are showing affection towards them. I am not going to stop hugging dogs
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Post by chlerbie on May 3, 2016 18:58:34 GMT
I have a chiweenie and she's pretty small, but she's a total love bug, who loves to cuddle, be held, get kisses and give kisses. I don't technically hug her, because of her size, but when I get close to give her cuddles, she leans right into me. She's happiest when she's sitting on my lap, or laying on the couch under the blanket with me.
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Post by BeckyTech on May 3, 2016 19:01:32 GMT
Is this the same "expert" that said dogs don't feel guilt? Hahahahaha I bet several of you were right when you said he didn't have a dog and never had.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 19:03:34 GMT
We have two dogs, one big and one small, who both love hugs. The little guy pushes himself up under your chin until you have no choice but to put your arms around him.
But I'd never hug a dog not my own. I know the personalities of my babies and what they're comfortable with. Not going to try that with other animals I don't know.
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Post by 950nancy on May 3, 2016 19:04:43 GMT
Ears back, lip licking, yawning… my dog does all of these. Yet he is the one who crawls up on my neck and presses down on my throat until I give hugs and pets. Maybe he is into doggy S & M. I dunno, but if I am sitting, he is on or right next to me.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 19:05:46 GMT
I've had dogs that didn't seem to want to be hugged. They enjoyed attention but didn't want to be squeezed. Our beagle is weird. She wants to snuggle, leans on DH like a baby would but she gets this frightened look on her face if you hugged her. I think she enjoys steady contact more than hugs. She definitely prefers our bed to us though!
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Post by calgal08 on May 3, 2016 19:09:56 GMT
We have Vizslas, they're known as "Velcro" dogs because they have to hug and touch you 24/7. They will literally jump on you, put front paws around your neck and pull you close. Really, dogs don't like to hug???
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Post by scrapqueen01 on May 3, 2016 19:17:52 GMT
First thing in the morning my chiweenie will lay across my chest for a hug and to be rubbed. As far has not petting her on the head, she will initiate a head rub by taking her nose and pushing my hand on top of her head. If I stop she will nudge me again to keep rubbing. When she's tired of the loving she moves. So much for this "expert's" opinion.
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Post by raindancer on May 3, 2016 19:20:12 GMT
Is this the same "expert" that said dogs don't feel guilt? Hahahahaha I bet several of you were right when you said he didn't have a dog and never had. But he saw some pictures of dogs on the internet!!!!!
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Post by nitad on May 3, 2016 19:21:17 GMT
Our daschund cross loves cuddles anytime, anywhere! My DD basically holds her like a baby and little Lucy just melts into her arms. My retriever cross likes them at the right times. When she is calm and relaxed she will snuggle up right next to you. She likes to spoon in bed ☺️ However... If she is being her usual crazy, hyper self she sees it as a form of play and you might just get more than you bargained for. LOL. Either way though I don't think she ever "hates" it. From my experience most dogs love any attention they get.
I would rather see see a dog "stressed" from a hug than being abused and neglected as so many are.
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Post by Marina on May 3, 2016 19:23:04 GMT
My golden retriever will block my path sitting up and wrapping his paws around me. When I hug my son he thinks it's group hug time. And all 80# of him thinks he's a lap dog. But that is with us his family. Once a friend came in at the front door who he didn't really know. She immediately leaned over him hugging his whole body and talking loudly to him. Ack! He didn't like it at all. I had to share with her that when you first meet a dog that could come off as threatening. Hugs from us, yes! Strangers, no!
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Post by wholarmor on May 3, 2016 19:25:29 GMT
My dog LOVES to hug! When I'm hugging the kids, she jumps up and tries to get in on it. She'll jump up and put her paws on either side of my head and hug away. She also loves snuggling and getting as close to us as she can. Our last dog was not like this. She wasn't much of a hugger.
This study is bologna.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 19:30:10 GMT
It just struck me funny that you used the correct spelling here. Urban Dictionary: Boloneywww.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=BoloneyUrban Dictionary Boloney. The way bologna should be spelled. I sure wish I had some boloney. You mean bologna? No, damnit.. BOLONEY.
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