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Post by maryland on Jun 3, 2016 11:32:16 GMT
I had my existential cleaning crisis this morning too. Like really, is this what my life is? I just clean the same bloody things everyday over and over again. No one in the house voluntarily helps until my head explodes and even then I only get a week of tidy before they stop tiptoing around. I have tried just leaving it but it turns out I am the only one who cares that there isn't mold growing on the living room floor. I am so sick of nagging people. I am not even close to being a clean freak, I just want a reasonable amount of clean and tidiness! I want a whole team of cleaners too. Volunteerism is not something I wait for. I hate cleaning. We all live here and we all pitch in. Dont help? Then you also do t get to have priveledges. Plans with friends but the bathroom is on your list and you didn't do it? Better hustle. And hustle doesn't mean half ass it. It better be right or you still don't go. Great approach! I like the way you handle it! |
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Post by JustKim on Jun 3, 2016 13:41:21 GMT
I love a clean house. I hate clutter. It's a never ending battle
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 3, 2016 13:41:50 GMT
Volunteerism is not something I wait for. I hate cleaning. We all live here and we all pitch in. Dont help? Then you also do t get to have priveledges. Plans with friends but the bathroom is on your list and you didn't do it? Better hustle. And hustle doesn't mean half ass it. It better be right or you still don't go. This is how my parents handled it too. The problem was, after my dad passed away my mom changed up the rules! She would assign us all some tasks, we'd race around getting the chores on our list done. Then we'd want to go do something with friends and she would put a few more things on the list, and a few more, until it was too late to go and do whatever you wanted to do.  Hated that. If she didn't want us to go, she should have just said no. Passive aggressive at its finest. |
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Post by BoilerUp! on Jun 3, 2016 14:20:28 GMT
Can you hire a cleaning service for every other week cleaning? If you came home to a clean house, maybe it would be easier to keep it up?
I don't have small kids anymore, and I don't know if you do either but wondered if this would help in your situation.
I remember how difficult it was to keep any amount of cleanliness or even a routine of cleanliness when we were busy with life and the kids were younger.
Good luck!!!
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Post by raindancer on Jun 3, 2016 14:36:52 GMT
Volunteerism is not something I wait for. I hate cleaning. We all live here and we all pitch in. Dont help? Then you also do t get to have priveledges. Plans with friends but the bathroom is on your list and you didn't do it? Better hustle. And hustle doesn't mean half ass it. It better be right or you still don't go. This is how my parents handled it too. The problem was, after my dad passed away my mom changed up the rules! She would assign us all some tasks, we'd race around getting the chores on our list done. Then we'd want to go do something with friends and she would put a few more things on the list, and a few more, until it was too late to go and do whatever you wanted to do. Hated that. If she didn't want us to go, she should have just said no. Passive aggressive at its finest. That's awful.  My husband and I try to practice the "yes" is as easy to say as "no" and unless we have a valid reason, we try to say yes, to friends, to outings, to fun things. Even if sometimes we aren't up for it, it usually works itself out. But yeah. My house isn't magazine perfect by any stretch, but it is easy to tidy up in a few mins and it is not dirty, just messy some times. Everyone pitches in. I make my kids redo things as well, they are teens now. It's not going to be long before they will be roommates with others, and who wants the slob roommate that doesn't know how to clean? We have a responsibility as parents to ensure our kids can function. I will never understand martyr moms who do all the work around the house and still give rides to kids and pay for their extra activities. You want my help? You better free up some time for me by helping out. If I'm buried in cleaning because you are lazy, then I'm too busy to drive you anywhere and there is not any extra money for you either. My parents and my dh's parents shared this philosophy. It works well. |
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 3, 2016 15:17:51 GMT
I swear, even though DH and I very tidy, the house is never completely clean. Every time I clean something, I see two more things that need to be done. Ugh.
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Post by mellyw on Jun 3, 2016 16:41:46 GMT
My house is finally de-cluttered, somewhat. Happened back in Jan., when my DD moved out. Honest to god, I so realized why my house always felt so cluttered when all her stuff left.
Keeping it clean? That's a whole other ball of wax. DH thought taking all the carpet out a couple years ago was the way to go, Sure, seems nicer until you add in 3 cats who shed & somehow drag cat litter everywhere. I wiped down the hardwood stairs yesterday. We have a split level so the top stairs are out of view by the time I get to the last stair. Go back up the stairs, sure enough, cat hair all ready on the top stairs. I swept them, vacuumed them, then wiped them down. Still not enough.
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Post by threegirls on Jun 3, 2016 18:29:58 GMT
If I don't spend at least an hour maintaining each day (and cooking, laundry, etc.) my house is in disarray. I guess we are just a messy family! The house is "clean" but always cluttered. I don't even think it is about being a messy, we deal with so.much.stuff these days. Awhile ago at a neighborhood party we were talking about how we seem to have a much harder time keeping up our house and wondered how our grandmothers maintained pristine houses (our moms tended to be a little more lax because most worked outside the home). An older lady laughed and said way back when moms didn't work outside the home, houses were much smaller, kids didn't have as many toys and played outside, people didn't have walk in closets full of clothes, houses usually didn't as much stuff, you didn't get a CYA piece of paper for every little thing, stuff like that. Even though we have things like washing machines and dishwashers that previous generations didn't, we are "processing" so much more stuff every single day. Junk mail and school papers from one kid alone is enough to knock my week out of whack if I don't stay on top of it. And yes, pets are lot of work too! Our dog sheds and drools on everything so I have no hopes for my hardwoods being clean. And I don't know what the cat does in her litter box but I am sweeping litter up several times a day. I agree with this. We have access to so much stuff nowadays. The amount of stuff my kids get is overwhelming! Friends, neighbors and relatives give them a crazy amount stuff. I don't remember receiving so much stuff as a kid. I spend more time on "stuff management " than I do actual cleaning. It makes me sad. |
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Post by scrapqueen01 on Jun 3, 2016 22:14:05 GMT
I think this is appropriate for this thread:  |
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Hated that. If she didn't want us to go, she should have just said no. Passive aggressive at its finest.
