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Post by Zee on Jul 7, 2016 20:07:35 GMT
I want to lay eyes on them and hear them speak and after that I don't much care.
I'm still getting over the loss of the boyfriend DD had two years ago...he was fun! The current one is very quiet but he's been around almost two years so he's kind of part of the family now.
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Post by stingfan on Jul 7, 2016 21:35:19 GMT
Honestly, I don't really try to get to know the boyfriends or.other friends. They're all welcome here whenever a parent is home, but I don't really try to engage them. I just let them do whatever they're here to do with my kids.
I guess that puts me in the minority here. I never really thought about it or thought it was odd.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 7, 2016 21:46:37 GMT
My son's girlfriend makes a beeline for me when she gets here. We always chat for a bit and then the kids do something. I think you should start off slowly showing interest, but let the kids decide how much you are involved.
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Post by daisydonna on Jul 7, 2016 21:58:57 GMT
Not directed at OP because I know her question was why other mom didn't host daughter....
But just Another opinion here....why WOULDNT you want to get to know boyfriend girlfriend? Or just plain friends? They very well could have the biggest impact on your child. No matter what the age of your child.
I am a tad shocked that some are very blasé about getting to know friends or boyfriend girlfriend of your child. As a mom we instantly can have that gut feeling that things just aren't right. That your child acts totally different around them. Or, on the flip side, that they are a wonderful influence to your child. No way to see any of that unless you spend time with them. Making a point to get to know them.
They are children. They need an adult. Yes, it is dating and as voltagain said it is for potentially marriage. This isn't one to simply have absolutely no involvement.
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Post by MsKnit on Jul 7, 2016 22:13:18 GMT
Of course. I am interested in all of my son's friends. They are an interesting bunch. Some of them call me 'mom' or 'mama last name.'
However, there are a couple of them that I know to be the ghost that gives them food and drink. LOL!
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Post by Dixie Lou on Jul 7, 2016 23:35:47 GMT
My daughters are all in their 20's so things are different now than when they were in their teens. I am not social so it was my then husband who met the boys, whoever. I spent plenty of time driving the girls and their friends around so I got to know them that way. I didn't really know the boys or girls who were around in passing.
My oldest DD lives with her boyfriend and we know him fairly well. He takes good care of her and she loves them so the fact I think he's extremely cocky doesn't matter. We had a huge falling out 1 1/2 years ago and it's taken this long to get over it. But we have all moved on. I didn't meet him until the day she moved out. His parents live an hour away and he is not close to them nor have we met them.
My middle daughter has had a steady boyfriend for at least five years. His parents live in our same city but we've gotten together with them only few times. They spend much more time at his house, basically because he has animal allergies and we have animals but also because they have a game room and more to do.
My youngest daughter's boyfriend has been in her life for almost three year. His family lives out of state but the mom has recently moved about an hour away from us. They would much rather stay over here because his mom is controlling and puts him to work at every chance. My daughter and her BF liven another state than we do so we don't see them much either these days
My DD's are 26, 24 and 22 so it's a little different!
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Post by maryland on Jul 8, 2016 1:03:02 GMT
I want to lay eyes on them and hear them speak and after that I don't much care.I'm still getting over the loss of the boyfriend DD had two years ago...he was fun! The current one is very quiet but he's been around almost two years so he's kind of part of the family now. That made me laugh! I am already attached to my 16 yr. old's boyfriend of a few months. He calls me "mom" and I love that! We snapchat too. My kids set up snapchat on my phone with them, and her boyfriend. I just send him pictures of my daughters or the dog. He is so good to my daughter!
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