Judy26
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Post by Judy26 on Jul 7, 2016 18:26:11 GMT
I have a huge To Do list. But none of it is so important it needs done right now. I just retired and have always had to manage my time to stay caught up on the work/home front. Now that I have so much free time I find that I am still putting pressure on myself to "Get Things Done!" I wonder if this is just my personality or if I will eventually grow accustomed to having time to relax. Can an A type personality teach themselves to relax or am I doomed to always be looking to check off the next item on my list?
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Post by peano on Jul 7, 2016 18:37:34 GMT
I have been laid up with a sprained ankle for nearly a week with Drs orders to elevate and ice and I feel guilty.
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brandy327
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Post by brandy327 on Jul 7, 2016 18:39:53 GMT
Well I'm the same type personality as you, don't work full time outside of the house (only a few hours per week during the school year at an in home daycare), and I ALWAYS feel guilty for being lazy. LOL The only time I don't feel guilty is when dh is home and he's being lazy too. I feel like if he isn't being lazy, then I shouldn't be either. Sometimes the guilt forces me to get stuff done, other times it just hangs around but doesn't change my laziness.
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Post by Freefallfast on Jul 7, 2016 18:41:42 GMT
Nope. I've accepted that I am lazy. I am really good at getting others to do stuff for me. Or I just decide it's not that important and let it go.
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Post by padresfan619 on Jul 7, 2016 18:43:18 GMT
Only if I have been neglecting my exercise regime. If I'm caught up with that I will be as lazy as I want to be. I'm an adult and can choose to use my free time however I please.
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Post by papersilly on Jul 7, 2016 20:03:20 GMT
yes, absolutely. I get that from my mom who believed that idle hands were the Devil's playground. LOL. for that reason, I don't sleep in on the weekends. I feel compelled to finish chores before doing anything "fun". I never just sit and do nothing. thanks mom.
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Post by mikklynn on Jul 7, 2016 20:06:28 GMT
The older I get, the less I can just sit around. I'm always puttering around the house. Part of it is I'm not home enough. Between my job, DH, and life, it feels like we are on the run all the time.
So, yes, I feel guilty when I am lazy!
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jul 7, 2016 20:14:39 GMT
Feeling guilty? Yes. Enough guilt to get off my ass and do something? Nope! I was raised Catholic. Life isn't worth living without guilt.
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perumbula
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Post by perumbula on Jul 7, 2016 20:15:01 GMT
I do feel guilty, but it doesn't change anything. I'm still more lazy than I should be.
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Anita
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Post by Anita on Jul 7, 2016 20:20:46 GMT
I used to. I somehow got over it.
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Post by anniefb on Jul 7, 2016 20:21:22 GMT
Yes and no. I'm a type A personality as well and do have a lot to do around home - gardening, housework, errands etc as I live alone. However I work long hours during the week and don't want to spend the whole weekend as well. So I always have Sundays off and relax with crafting. I guess it's balance between getting stuff done and knowing that I need down time to recharge.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 7, 2016 20:35:59 GMT
yes, absolutely. I get that from my mom whose believe that idle hands were the Devil's playground. LOL. for that reason, I don't sleep in on the weekends. I feel compelled to finish chores before doing anything "fun". I never just sit and do nothing. thanks mom. LOL did we have the same mom? Mine was like that too. Nothing fun ever happened until all the chores were done, and let's just say there were a LOT of chores. While I tend to keep busy a lot of the time, I'm not the same kind of taskmaster with my own kid. She does have to help out with stuff, but because DH likes to spend the weekends NOT doing housework or yard work we try to chip away at the stuff that needs doing during the week so our weekends are more free to do whatever.
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Post by Merge on Jul 7, 2016 20:36:29 GMT
Feeling guilty? Yes. Enough guilt to get off my ass and do something? Nope! I was raised Catholic. Life isn't worth living without guilt. Ha! Same!
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Post by sharlag on Jul 7, 2016 20:38:48 GMT
Rarely. I'm great at rationalization over my inactivity.
I feel guilty about other things, though.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 7, 2016 20:44:23 GMT
No. After being in a car accident 16 years ago that resulted in a life with chronic pain, I know I have to be lazy in order to be able to do the important stuff. I prioritise what needs to be done, and the rest can wait until another day (and if it bothers others in the household, they are welcome to do it instead). Before the accident, and for many years after, I felt guilty if I didn't do something every waking moment (if I sat on the couch, I had to knit or read, I couldn't just sit there), eventually I got wiser, but it was a difficult lesson to learn.
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Post by papersilly on Jul 7, 2016 20:44:56 GMT
yes, absolutely. I get that from my mom whose believe that idle hands were the Devil's playground. LOL. for that reason, I don't sleep in on the weekends. I feel compelled to finish chores before doing anything "fun". I never just sit and do nothing. thanks mom. LOL did we have the same mom? Mine was like that too. Nothing fun ever happened until all the chores were done, and let's just say there were a LOT of chores. While I tend to keep busy a lot of the time, I'm not the same kind of taskmaster with my own kid. She does have to help out with stuff, but because DH likes to spend the weekends NOT doing housework or yard work we try to chip away at the stuff that needs doing during the week so our weekends are more free to do whatever. I don't have kids but I am that taskmaster with DH. totally different upbringing with him so he's had to adjust. after 25 years, he's grown to understand that I'm most happy and agreeable to goofing off or just hanging out with him AFTER chores are done.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2016 20:48:33 GMT
Yes. Then it affects my ability to fully enjoy being lazy
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2016 20:58:25 GMT
I work more than full time hours during the week, so I NEED time to sit and do nothing or I go crazy. No guilt. Lol. I bet you just need time to adjust to retirement! It'll come.
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Post by calgal08 on Jul 7, 2016 21:02:38 GMT
All.The.Time. I literally can't sit still I have to keep going. On the rare occasions I sit down I immediately have an ongoing list of things I should be doing.
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Post by Jenny in TX on Jul 7, 2016 21:03:08 GMT
If I am home by myself I do not feel one bit bad about being lazy, but if DH is home I feel bad just sitting on the couch watching tv. DH always encourages me to just sit and relax, but I can't do it. I work outside the home during the week, so my lazy days are on the weekends.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 7, 2016 21:06:38 GMT
My teacher personality was Type A for sure. My retired personality is somewhat of a crap shoot. I know of two other people (teachers) who retired the same time I did last May who have since passed away. In their 50's. Girl, if this week was your last, would you be glad your closets were clean? You are retired and get to have time off. I accomplish one thing on a list and get that done. Sometimes a little more, but for the most part, I refuse to return to the Type A personality full time.
ETA: I should say that my house is always neat (not dusted) and the kitchen always looks presentable. I clean up a space as I leave it and my husband does half of the housework, so that really helps enable my newfound personality.
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Post by Grom Pea on Jul 7, 2016 21:16:10 GMT
No, I need time to recharge or I'm not efficient and that's just wasteful. Dh thinks I'm lazy but I get a lot done when I've had time to recharge whereas he's always pushing himself and is in constant pain because he's too stubborn to slow down and rest.
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Post by hop2 on Jul 7, 2016 21:23:05 GMT
I used to. I somehow got over it. I'm also on this bench, I'm here living life, the dishes will still be there later.
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Post by iteach3rdgrade on Jul 7, 2016 21:39:58 GMT
No. I need my down time.
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SweetieBsMom
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Jul 7, 2016 21:43:37 GMT
I don't get a lot of opportunities to be lazy. So when one does come along, I don't feel bad in the least.
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Post by moodyblue on Jul 7, 2016 22:32:06 GMT
Me too! I am one who has high expectations for myself. But I also know that I am lazy in other ways. I tend to be very efficient when I'm working, and I think of it as "working smart, not hard." I recognize that I need time to just totally veg out and relax. Sometimes my body is at rest but my mind can then work on things. I've come up with a lot of plans and solutions while being physically lazy.
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Post by quinmm14 on Jul 7, 2016 22:41:06 GMT
Nope, not even one tiny little bit. I totally embrace my lazy self.
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Post by tuesdaysgone on Jul 7, 2016 22:46:41 GMT
I don't get a lot of opportunities to be lazy. So when one does come along, I don't feel bad in the least. Me too. For 10 months of the year I'm working 10-12 hour days with virtually no down time. I'm blessed to have 8 or 9 weeks off in the summer and I enjoy every lazy second. I get enough done each day to keep the house up and running and the rest of the day is for reading, going out to eat with friends and playing with the cats.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 7, 2016 23:07:30 GMT
I always feel guilty for being lazy. Sometimes I've worked a full day, came home, vacuumed, but then feel guilty for not doing more.
I'm my own worse enemy.
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Post by scrappinmom3 on Jul 7, 2016 23:27:03 GMT
Nope, I don't feel guilty. Life is too short and no one else is racing to do whatever it is, so nope!
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