Post by beanbuddymom on Aug 1, 2016 2:28:59 GMT
And drama like this disrupts your world view. When ds was going through a divorce I hardly scrapped at all because my dream of a happily ever after for him and his kids--and I guess by extension to everyone- was damaged. I have included pic's of her sometimes in relationship to their kids, but I don't focus on her. And as they have gone on with their separate lives, there are not many photos of her anyway.
I know your dd is feeling pretty negative about this girl right now, but can you ask her what she MISSES about the times in the photos where they both appear and then do one spread about that. It may help her move on, too.
I wouldn't try to cut the girl out completely. Just don't write about her, unless you do the page I mentioned above. Of course xBFF will be in the team shots, maybe some of the group shots at bd parties and such, but years from now when dd looks at her book, she will hopefully look at those photos as proof of the good that WAS rather than of the loss.
((((HUGS)))) and sorry for hijacking the thread to do a mini therapy session!
DD I have not asked but I am sure she misses the friendship and the seemingly good togetherness they shared. It wasn't until later in the friendship that we realized that a lot of her behavior was manipulating and her need to be around DD was out of control more than wanting to be with her. I don't know what else DD misses but I would say it was like a sisterhood for her many of the time before she realized what type of person this girl was.
The even sadder thing is, when she is with new friends I see very few pictures and she won't let me print any for scrapbook. She says it's going to jinx her new friendships because I had printed a bunch of picctures with old BFF right before her big blow up with her. So she refuses to print any or put any on her wall in place of the other ones that she ripped down. She uses snapchat which is temporary and only occasionally posts pics that others have taken of her group of new friends. Hoping she is able to trust again soon or at some point.