loco coco
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Post by loco coco on Aug 4, 2014 22:51:14 GMT
I worry too much. I guess the 1st is about having a healthy pregnancy, we had a rough experience that scared and hurt us both but now we are ready to start trying again. I just hope everything goes ok and that we can have a baby... if not Im not sure we would try again which makes me worry even more! We aren't even trying until late this year or early next year and I'm ALREADY worried. I always told my mom she worried too much and she told me I would be like her one day. I guess we were both right
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purplebee
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Post by purplebee on Aug 4, 2014 22:59:27 GMT
Yes, after reading more on this thread, I realize that my troubles are much smaller in comparison. Hugs to you all, many of you are carrying a very difficult burden, and it is so hard to lay it down. My prayers are with you for resolution, everyone deserves peace in their day-to -day lives.
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TXMary
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And so many nights I just dream of the ocean. God, I wish I was sailin' again.
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Post by TXMary on Aug 5, 2014 0:02:34 GMT
Definitely cancer. It's been 5 years since I was diagnosed and I am so lucky to be alive, done with treatment, and reconstructed back to a pretty normal state. But the side effects are still there. They always will be. I will never the same person again and in some ways, that's a good thing. But the anxiety...the worry and fear that it will come back or spread. That never goes away. I don't want anyone else to ever have to go through what I went through.
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jen4
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Post by jen4 on Aug 5, 2014 1:36:05 GMT
My anxiety is terrible, I worry about everything everyday. I wish I didn't worry about my ex just because I care about him. I worry about my diabetes, my children, my finances and I shouldn't worry about the small stuff in life. Worrying takes away my happiness, trying to think positive and my faith in God and prayers does help get through them at times but not always.
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Post by peasapie on Aug 5, 2014 3:41:11 GMT
My worrying increased exponentially when I had kids and was feeling very alone in being responsible for them. My ex husband was present physically but absent emotionally. It didn't go away until I got into therapy and started on medication. I learned to ask for help, to say no to many things I used to take on, and to do nice things for myself. That helped decrease the overall stress level so I could manage the genuine concerns. I also was taught to put up a stop sign in my head when I started worrying and to force myself to think of something else. It takes practice, but I learned to do it. The problem I had was in telling myself all that worrying was helpful--but it wasn't at all. It took the joy out of my life.
Worrying who will take care of our kids is a real concern and a sign that we don't have enough support in our lives. Is there anyone you can rely on?
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Judy26
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MOTFY Bitchy Nursemaid
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Post by Judy26 on Aug 5, 2014 3:50:17 GMT
I worry constantly that my kids (all young adults) will make wise decisions and find happiness and contentment in life. And I worry that I will never be able to retire.....
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ladypop
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Aug 5, 2014 3:36:55 GMT
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Post by ladypop on Aug 5, 2014 3:55:27 GMT
At the moment it's Firstborn's university studies. He's doing fine, but it's a massive workload and he's stretched pretty thin. It's scary watching him take up an adult workload, and knowing that there's not much I can do to help apart from being supportive and proofreading his work, lol. When he gets his degree, I think I'll line up for one too....Bachelor of Revision majoring in Student Support.
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Post by kristi on Aug 5, 2014 4:02:18 GMT
I would so love to dump this shitty epilepsy that I have. It rules my life & the life of my family. I hate it with a passion. It is uncontrolled by meds so I really have a tough time with it. A few years ago I was implanted with a VNS (vagus nerve stimulator) that is supposed to help with the seizures...so far it has not helped, it just changed the type of seizures I have! In the grand scheme of things I can't complain because I am alive & have not had a seizure in one week, knock on wood everyone please!!! I also would love to let go of my extremely difficult in laws. They wear me out. delila {hugs} my dad had epilepsy since he was a boy. He also had the implant (didn't help). It was a constant struggle for him.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2014 4:45:30 GMT
D S O. Yeah some days I do not want him anymore. Then he makes it up to me. This is why he is DSO and not DF or DH. We are still a long way's off. The good news is WE ARE ON A BREAK! My direct quote to him is bang whoever you want. At this point don't care. I just can't care any longer. I think the love is gone.
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Post by kristalina on Aug 5, 2014 6:19:04 GMT
Both of my daughters are moving away to new cities this month. need I say more?
Hugs to all of you who are dealing with so much.
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Post by callmenutz on Aug 5, 2014 6:40:31 GMT
I thought I was going to lose my mind over a situation with my older sister. Finally, every time she popped into my head, which seemed to be every few minutes, I learned to say "let go and let God". Sometimes I had to say it out loud to jolt myself out of it, or say it and visualize myself handing it over to God. It worked! I think you have to stop the thought the second it enters your head. The stress had gotten so bad (my Dad had died during this time) that I had a mini stroke. While she may not have been the cause of it, it certainly didn't help. I am happy to say that she no longer occupies my mind. There is no one on the face of the earth who is worth losing your health and peace of mind over. I prayed all the time for God to bring me peace, tranquility and serenity of heart, mind and soul. Say it slowly and visualize and feel the words.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Aug 5, 2014 7:34:06 GMT
Both sets of my parents, and DH parents, openly admit they have "favorite" grand kids, and they show it. Neither of mine are on a favorite list, and it hurts them to their souls, to see their cousins favored. I have been a SAHM to both of mine, and all their cousins are/ were with grandparents 10 hours a day, M-F, and a lot of weekends. As an adult, I understand the grandparents are closer to the grandchildren they are helping to raise. It's just hard to explain to kids. I wish I could help my kids to let it go.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Aug 5, 2014 7:51:33 GMT
Both of my daughters are moving away to new cities this month. need I say more? Hugs to all of you who are dealing with so much. {HUGS} How hard, but exciting for your girls. Be proud and strong Mama.
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theshyone
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Post by theshyone on Aug 5, 2014 7:57:02 GMT
My anxiety over being diagnosed with a sudden death syndrome. I've had three SCA have a brain injury, the thought of more SCA, more oxygen depravation, more brain injury just paralyzes me. Knowing my daughter could have the same thing happen, could die at any moment just overwhelms me. Long qt sucks. In two years my family has five confirmed cases, my sister and I both SCA survivors. The anxiety is monumental. I'd like it to go away.
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mallie
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Post by mallie on Aug 5, 2014 11:37:56 GMT
Both sets of my parents, and DH parents, openly admit they have "favorite" grand kids, and they show it. Neither of mine are on a favorite list, and it hurts them to their souls, to see their cousins favored. I have been a SAHM to both of mine, and all their cousins are/ were with grandparents 10 hours a day, M-F, and a lot of weekends. As an adult, I understand the grandparents are closer to the grandchildren they are helping to raise. It's just hard to explain to kids. I wish I could help my kids to let it go. If it truly hurts your kids to their souls to see the favoritism, then maybe you all should stop seeing the grandparents?
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Post by Goldynn on Aug 5, 2014 15:04:20 GMT
Worrying who will take care of our kids is a real concern and a sign that we don't have enough support in our lives. Is there anyone you can rely on? Right now I have a great support system. My fear is that he will end up in a group home if my husband and I can't care for him in our later years. I just worry about him and his future: he can barely walk, he's entirely non-verbal - he's just so vulnerable. I need to try harder to just take one day at a time.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2014 15:13:54 GMT
Oh how I wish I could let go of the hard feelings I have with my SILs. We have basically not spoken in the 3 years since my FIL died. After 20 years of being treated like crap, I had just finally had enough. Yet, I still try to work things out with them and I get dumped on again. Why can't I let it go? DH doesn't care in the least.
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Post by meowgal on Aug 5, 2014 15:23:39 GMT
My anxiety over being diagnosed with a sudden death syndrome. I've had three SCA have a brain injury, the thought of more SCA, more oxygen depravation, more brain injury just paralyzes me. Knowing my daughter could have the same thing happen, could die at any moment just overwhelms me. Long qt sucks. In two years my family has five confirmed cases, my sister and I both SCA survivors. The anxiety is monumental. I'd like it to go away. Scary, for sure. My Dad passed from SCA in 2001 but didn't have an implant. Have you considered one? They are lifesaving and also give you a lot of peace-of-mind.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2014 15:54:12 GMT
Mine would be not being good enough. I compare myself to everyone...what they do better than me. Essentially, It's comparing my "behind the scenes" footage to everyone else's "Highlight reel". I wish more people would be real and really put struggles and issues out there.
Case in point, I asked my SIL to come over one day to help me look at paint samples for my new place since they just built a new house and went through all this. I told her I was really struggling and it was stressing me out big time. She replied, Oh my gosh..it's just paint! Relax! So I told myself again, ugh...you are just way over-reacting and it will be fine..she didn't struggle with her paint..only you.
When my mom asked me how the paint picking was coming along a few days later, I vented to her that it was really stressing me out and that I guess I was making a bigger deal about it cuz SIL just went thru it and she was like relax!!. My mom tells me that SIL was freaking out just like I was and SIL called my mom for help and had a terrible time deciding on what colors!
Now if she just would've put it out there that she understood and had a tough time too, I wouldn't have felt so bad about it.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2014 15:56:21 GMT
I worry too much. I guess the 1st is about having a healthy pregnancy, we had a rough experience that scared and hurt us both but now we are ready to start trying again. I just hope everything goes ok and that we can have a baby... if not Im not sure we would try again which makes me worry even more! We aren't even trying until late this year or early next year and I'm ALREADY worried. I always told my mom she worried too much and she told me I would be like her one day. I guess we were both right We are going to start trying in the fall. I'll be praying that both of us get knocked up quick and successfully!!
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theshyone
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Post by theshyone on Aug 5, 2014 15:57:54 GMT
My anxiety over being diagnosed with a sudden death syndrome. I've had three SCA have a brain injury, the thought of more SCA, more oxygen depravation, more brain injury just paralyzes me. Knowing my daughter could have the same thing happen, could die at any moment just overwhelms me. Long qt sucks. In two years my family has five confirmed cases, my sister and I both SCA survivors. The anxiety is monumental. I'd like it to go away. Scary, for sure. My Dad passed from SCA in 2001 but didn't have an implant. Have you considered one? They are lifesaving and also give you a lot of peace-of-mind. I do have a ICD. I had many complications and actually had three in six weeks, with four surgeries because of it. It endangered my life as much as the SCA did. I may one day have to entertain that for my daughter and that thought horrifies me. Being so young, there can be so much time for complications. One of the few treatments that can be just as deadly as the reason you have it.
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loco coco
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Post by loco coco on Aug 5, 2014 16:00:33 GMT
I worry too much. I guess the 1st is about having a healthy pregnancy, we had a rough experience that scared and hurt us both but now we are ready to start trying again. I just hope everything goes ok and that we can have a baby... if not Im not sure we would try again which makes me worry even more! We aren't even trying until late this year or early next year and I'm ALREADY worried. I always told my mom she worried too much and she told me I would be like her one day. I guess we were both right We are going to start trying in the fall. I'll be praying that both of us get knocked up quick and successfully!! thank you so much!! I will pray for you as well, we can support each other!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2014 16:34:15 GMT
I think it's so easy to feel isolated in our struggles, especially when you look at Facebook and everyone seems to always be happy and together. This thread is a good reminder that we ALL have struggles and worries that we wish we could let go of - none of us is alone in that.
For us, it's an unstable job situation for DH and fear of delayed paychecks or simply not getting them. We're in the hole quite a bit due to this situation and while we're working hard to resolve it, it's not an easy struggle. It's clouding everything for us right now and it's just keeping us from being able to move forward in life. I'll be happy to let that go hopefully soon!
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MaryMary
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Post by MaryMary on Aug 5, 2014 16:34:56 GMT
Like freebird, I wish I could move past the issues my childhood gave me (PTSD and anxiety). And figuring out how to deal with a broken/crazy mother would be helpful, too.
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~Susan~
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You need to check your boobs, mine tried to kill me!!!
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Post by ~Susan~ on Aug 5, 2014 16:41:41 GMT
I worry about everything. Hell, I worry about all the worrying that I do, lol. I try to make light of it most days, but sometimes it is paralyzing. I think it comes from being an only child raised by a single mother. I was her outlet or venting board. She always treated me like an adult in that respect. I think it is okay to be honest with your children, but not to the point where they think it is there fault when things don't work out or if they think they are the reason for your hardships.
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humblegal
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Post by humblegal on Aug 5, 2014 17:25:17 GMT
I lost both my parents last year. Dad first and because he was taking care of Mum with cancer, we brought her to our home to take care of her until she passed. But she refused to sign a will and the probate process has been a nightmare due to family members who not only refused to help mum when she was sick but are like animals trying to pick the carcass now. I go to sleep and wake worried I may do the wrong thing or make a mistake that one of them will try and harass me even more than I already had to deal with. I have a good lawyer his office helps, but I sure have learned that I will not leave my children in this situation, even unintentionally. Just can not wait until it is done and I can breath again. Then maybe I will finally be able to take a little time to grieve.
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