What does this say about me as a mother?

I cried for two days when I crashed my husband's car into a wall. Partly because I was such an idiot and partly because he loves that damn thing so much. No judgement here.

My poor kids went to school with me every day through junior high and then with their dad for high school. There were no tears, they were always THERE. Tomorrow all three of my men will be leaving for school (college -two students and one teaching). They will all be home for dinner. Sigh.

No, it's not. Like others have said, your kids are just going off to school for and will be home in the same condition they left in later that day. But even after they fix your car you'll KNOW it was totally munched. Of course I would cry, that's what I do when I'm Pea livid! I wouldn't even want that car back knowing it was basically totalled.

OH, I'd get their insurance involved! Damage like that can cause the frame to be bent and it will never again drive straight or feel totally right. If they want to keep their insurance out of it I'd want a totally new from the dealer replacement. They can have the one they damaged.

I don't think you are a terrible mom either.

So I have a question about this situation. If insurance IS involved, would the car then show as having been in an accident if someone runs, say, a Carfax report?

Yes, this! I did cry when my older dd first went to college. The entire 2-hour ride home and the rest of the night. It was a difficult adjustment for awhile. Now she's a junior and she just moved off campus. We've been moving her in gradually over the course of the summer. She went for good last Wednesday, and I waved goodbye and then went about my business. I'm really excited about all of the opportunities she has and all of her new experiences.

I'm much more anxious about things like her driving, the car, general safety, etc. than the fact that she's not home. I talk to her so much via text and phone that it doesn't feel terribly different (most days). 

I only shed a small tear or two when he started 1st grade after that I couldn't wait for the school year to begin.  Now the car, that's entirely different.  I would have cried too and DH would have been on the phone immediately ordering a new vette because there's no way in hell he would except a repair on that much damage.  Please don't let them just fix it, report it to the insurance co.  There could be frame damage and besides, once the owner finds out want it's going to cost to repair he won't want to pay that bill.

I can totally relate to have you must have felt when they called.  We have 3 vettes and believe me, dust doesn't get time to settle on them.  

I'm sorry about your car. Definitely involve your insurance company. And don't roll over easy on this -- insist that you are "made whole" again with no shortcuts to how that happens.

Ha. Sometimes the things that freak on emotions are so strange. It is like we absorb it all until that proverbial straw hits the proverbial camel's back and then all hell breaks loose at the most unusual time.

My youngest is leaving for college today. Thanks to the stupid a/c dying, I have to stay home. Thankfully my parents stepped up and are going with him to move him in, but I am devastated. Now, he is only five hours away, in my hometown, surround by family that still lives there and a place I visit with regularity already, but this is a milestone moment that I am going to miss. Add to that the stupid a/c dying, my fridge dying and having to throw away all the contents of said fridge, worrying about the boy in Baton Rogue, and a host of other stuff going wrong...I did good up until this morning.

Then I opened the peanut butter jar for my morning peanut butter toast and it was pretty much empty. I lost it. Sat on the kitchen floor and cried until I could hardly see. Who does that? Puts away empty peanut butter jars?? And who sits on the kitchen floor crying so hard that it scares the cats??

Straw. Camel's back.

Didn't cry over all the other stuff involving the kids. But peanut butter? Sure. Lose my shit completely.

Oh that doesn't make you a bad mom or anything - your boys are older, you knew they were going back to school and you have been through that a lot of times.  It is exciting for them to start a new school year (especially the senior) and therefore, I don't see why you would cry over that.  Going back to school is a normal, usual occurrence that you knew was coming.

Having your car smashed isn't anything you saw coming and was so unexpected and random....it is okay to be upset about it.  Thank goodness they are going to repair everything.