Just T
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Post by Just T on Aug 8, 2014 19:32:35 GMT
for the first time? I am! A week from today is freshman move in day for my daughter. She's so excited, we have bought most of the necessities, but still have some little things to take care of this weekend.
It shouldn't be a big deal for me as my sons both joined the Navy, so it's not like she is my first kid to leave home, but it feels "different" I guess. She's only going to be 2 hours away, which is nice.
What are you worried about?? I am worried mostly about how she is going to handle it all. She is going on a basketball scholarship, and I worry about her being able to play sports and keep up with her school work. She also got a scholarship from the dept. she is majoring in, and she has to maintain a certain gpa to keep that of course. If she loses her scholarships, she won't be able to continue at that college because it's private and really expensive. The only reason she can go there is because of her scholarships. She knows that, so hopefully, that knowledge will keep her motivated. LOL
I'm just a bundle of nerves about it all. I'm so excited for her, though. I absolutely LOVE her school and am so proud of her and thrilled that she is able to go there. But those worries..
So, how are you doing if you are sending a kid off to college for the first time? And just for fun, if you don't mind sharing, where is your child going? My daughter is going to a private all-women's college in Columbia, MO--Stephens College. She is majoring in graphic design/marketing/business/communications. It's called something that I can't remember. LOL Integrated Business Communications or something like that.
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Post by fotos4u2 on Aug 8, 2014 22:21:42 GMT
Mine is slightly different since dd has actually been in junior college for the past 3 years and is just now transferring to a 4-year university. We're all excited, but nervous. Because she's already done the "college thing" I'm not concerned about the classwork more about the social stuff. Will she make friends? Get along with her roommates (5 girls in a 5 bedroom/1 bathroom dorm room). Will she like it? She's going to be a 6-8 hour drive away so if she hates it, there's not much we can do.
Dd is a Psychology major and will be going to San Jose State. Thankfully she's only going to be there for 2 years and then she'll transfer somewhere else (hopefully closer to home, but who knows she might like it up there!) for her masters or doctorate.
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 8, 2014 22:37:01 GMT
Me.
My oldest is going off 8 hours and three states away. He is going to sign with the National Guard also. I am alternately proud, nervous, excited for him, anxious for me...I am not sure from one day to the next how or what to feel.
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Post by 2peafaithful on Aug 8, 2014 22:39:23 GMT
I am but it will be his senior year and he could graduate in December. He has one course that if he doesn't take online this fall will have to carry over and take in the spring.
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Post by cmpeter on Aug 8, 2014 22:41:38 GMT
Me...ds leaves for college on August 17. He's our first to leave the nest. I am excited for him and also naturally a little worried. He's been so level headed and responsible. I am pretty confident that will continue through college, but you never know for sure, right? He's rooming with one of his best friends from high school.
He's going to Washington State University (go Cougs!), which is about 5 hours from us. He's majoring in engineering and possibly playing lacrosse. He's waiting to make a final decision about lax until after he has a better idea how much free time he'll have for a sport. I am worried about how his relationship with his girlfriend is going to progress. She's going to a different school. At first they were going to break up, then they decided to do the long distance thing. He was an emotional wreck (they both were) when they first thought they would break up. I adore her and wish the best for them both (whether they stay together or break up), it's just hard to think of the potential emotional strain on the horizon.
He'll be fine...I am sure of it...I am pretty sure of it...I hope so...he'll be fine! That's what goes through my mind on a daily basis. LOL
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MizIndependent
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Post by MizIndependent on Aug 8, 2014 22:49:48 GMT
August 21st here. Yikes. It's coming right up!
I'm not really feeling too much anxiety though...she's only going an hour away so, we're still close (but not TOO close, lol).
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Post by theboydbunch on Aug 8, 2014 22:50:00 GMT
I am, but as a sophomore. Move in date is August 24th...It's coming soon! Our son lived at home and commuted to his university last year, this year he will live on campus. Although his school is only 30 minutes away, from home and 10 mins from my work, I'm going to miss having him home and know our daughter will (she is 15 and they are very close). I'm a little worried about how he will adjust to living on his own and balancing playing a sport, having a social life and keeping up his grades (he has am academic scholarship). Although he is very responsible, it's also very different having full freedom of living at school...
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Jili
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Post by Jili on Aug 8, 2014 22:55:10 GMT
We take our dd next Thursday. In the meantime, we're trying to make sure we have everything she needs (not done yet) and then there's the process of figuring out how to get it all into our cars. Dd is attending a school about 2-2 1/2 hours from here. Not far at all. I'm edgy about it but am thinking that it won't sink in until she's actually gone. She will majoring in (so far, anyway) speech-language pathology (like her mom...), and will be singing in the choir this fall. She has opted not to join the marching band. Dd and I just had lunch with her roommate and her mom this afternoon. They live a couple of suburbs away and did not know each other previously-- they met through a private Facebook page for admitted students. I'm hoping it works out well for them. I am worried about how his relationship with his girlfriend is going to progress. She's going to a different school. At first they were going to break up, then they decided to do the long distance thing. He was an emotional wreck (they both were) when they first thought they would break up. I adore her and wish the best for them both (whether they stay together or break up), it's just hard to think of the potential emotional strain on the horizon. He'll be fine...I am sure of it...I am pretty sure of it...I hope so...he'll be fine! That's what goes through my mind on a daily basis. LOL I'm also concerned about my dd and her boyfriend. They've been together about a 1 1/2 years, and will be attending different schools. I think that is good. I just don't know what to think. He's a nice guy and they have been good for each other. I have no idea what will happen but don't want either one of them to hold back from enjoying their college experience. I think that their last evening together next week is going to be a tough one. I don't think it is really hitting either one of them yet.
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Post by stampinbetsy on Aug 8, 2014 23:01:00 GMT
I moved my dd in on July 25. She is currently in Paris with the rest of the freshman class. She is going to a very small private liberal arts school, and I am afraid it is going to be a huge culture shock (her graduating class was 1400 - twice the size of the college!). She is going to find out really quick that she is going to have to work harder than she has in the past. Worried about how long it will take her to figure this out.
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Post by kristalina on Aug 8, 2014 23:03:07 GMT
Both of mine are leaving this month, in different directions. My 22 yo is transferring to an art school in San Francisco and my younger is going down to Santa Barbara. Both are moving into unfurnished apartments and need everything. So I'm busy - or should be anyway! The older gets her house this Sunday, they younger the last week of Aug.
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Post by emelle64 on Aug 8, 2014 23:18:49 GMT
Our DD will be starting her 2nd year at a university about 1000 miles from where we live. It's been wonderful having her home over the summer and I'm dreading that drive back to the east coast and then leaving her again. It was awful when we drove away last year and I don't know that it'll be any easier this year. But, I was thrilled that she had a great first year and I"m excited for her that she'll be living in a house with 3 other girls. I just miss her so darn much.
I had similar worries last fall Just T about DD managing the balance between sports (she's a long distance runner) and the academic side of things but she did very well. She too has a scholarship that is also dependent on keeping her average up. At her university, varsity athletes in their first year have to attend mandatory study hall sessions two nights/week and it is expected that your studies are your priority. I hope your DD does really well.
Emelle
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Post by cakediva on Aug 8, 2014 23:22:33 GMT
We are, DD starts the first week of September. But she'll be living at home and going to the University 20 minutes from home!
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Post by Dixie Lou on Aug 8, 2014 23:31:20 GMT
I am sending my sophomore child off to college in a different state for the first time. She won't know her roommates. She is thrilled. Then I am sending my last semester senior back to her university on the same day. We'll be an empty nest here for the first time. I'm not worried about the senior at all but a little sad that this was her last summer at home. She will start grad school in January and that is continuous, no summer break. Sophomore daughter isn't sure she is coming home for the summer either. I'm not old enough for this! (I am!)
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 8, 2014 23:32:00 GMT
Sent my oldest last year. The first week was odd, but then he came home for the weekend (40 minutes away) and every weekend after that! I didn't have the opportunity to miss him. He is best friends with his younger brother and did not love the college experience. "Everyone just smokes pot." He decided to work for a year and figure out what he wants to do.
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Post by ljs1691 on Aug 8, 2014 23:35:38 GMT
Not off to college but off to Germany from Tennessee for his senior year of high school. He leaves in two weeks. I am guessing it is roughly the same emotion though. Excited but going to miss him. He will not return for breaks or holidays.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 9, 2014 2:34:52 GMT
Our oldest moves into school the day before Labor Day. She's going to Montclair State, and majoring in graphic design.
I'm not too worried, she's got a good head on her shoulders. She tends to worry about balancing everything, so I guess I would say that I'm worried about her worrying too much. :-)
I'm also thinking how this will affect our three younger ones, as they're very close. I don't think they realize how much they're going to miss her until she's gone.
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Post by scrapbookdiva on Aug 9, 2014 3:16:53 GMT
Add me to the list. My dd goes to Calgary three hours away from home on the 27th. She will be living at Sait but going to Bow Valley College to study criminal justice.
I am nervous and excited for her. The population of her apartment complex is 702. The population of our town is 750!! Talk about an adjustment!
But I am also incredibly proud of her. She has really bad ADHD, and we were told many times over the years that she might not graduate with her class or go to college. But she worked hard and proved them wrong. And even won a couple bursaries!
I'm an emotional mess but trying really hard to be strong. And happy.
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Post by Debbie on Aug 9, 2014 4:33:08 GMT
My baby leaves for college Labor Day weekend. She has earned a nice scholarship from the nearby state college, so she needs to maintain a certain gpa. I'm more worried about the social aspect. She's never been a joiner, so I hope she leaves her comfort zone and joins some things. We already went through this with our two older daughters, but each is different
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Post by auntkelly on Aug 9, 2014 4:41:52 GMT
My son will head off next week for his senior year at Notre Dame. My daughter will be a sophomore at the University of Oklahoma. It was so nice having them both at home this summer. I'm really going to miss them!
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Post by BSnyder on Aug 9, 2014 4:49:26 GMT
Dropped my dd off on June 26. It is a 3.5 hr plane ride from home to there. I'm not worried. She juggled a lot of activities/sports and worked hard to get there. Mostly I'm sad (and a bit jealous) for myself that she moving on to new adventures and leaving us behind. But, I'm excited for her and I know she'll do great!
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Post by finaledition on Aug 9, 2014 5:30:29 GMT
In about a month we will be sending our son off to school. He's attending cal Poly SLO and majoring in comp science engineering. We are all doing pretty good with it, knowing that this was a great fit for both his personality and career choice helps. The area surrounding this college is a great place for a weekend getaway so we've already booked the parent weekend in October. We're cohosting a big goodbye party next weekend as we will start to see more kids getting ready to take off.
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Post by Memo on Aug 9, 2014 6:33:05 GMT
We are! Our oldest son will be attending NAU, about 3-1/2 hours away from us. He will be majoring in Hotel/Rest Mgmt. He has Asperger's and we've done a lot research into their Disability Resources and the campus itself and I feel very comfortable sending him to NAU. He leaves on the 20th and we still have so much to do!
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Post by maryland on Aug 9, 2014 11:36:21 GMT
My daughter is still in high school, but will be going off to college next year. I am sad just thinking about it. I know that if she gets in to a school she really wants to go to (Univ. of Maryland, UNC or NC State) that will make us even more happy/excited for her. She is a great kid, hard worker, very smart and never gets into trouble. So I can't picture having worries for her, more just me being sad that she is not at home anymore.
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cjp
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Jun 28, 2014 12:03:04 GMT
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Post by cjp on Aug 9, 2014 11:48:52 GMT
Me! Our youngest goes on Labor Day weekend. I thought I had dealt with all the emotions at graduation, but as it gets closer I realize how hard it's going to be. At the same time I am so happy and excited for him!
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Post by gonewalkabout on Aug 9, 2014 12:03:17 GMT
Me. The first child to leave. We've also moved (3weeks ago today) so she is already set up, 5 hrs away. Her freshman year starts on the 21st at USC, nursing.
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Post by Karmady on Aug 9, 2014 12:57:36 GMT
Me. Dd is moving out on Aug 29th. She's going 5 hours away. We've bought most of the things she needs. This week she's going out for lunch with her roommate who lives an hour away. They've never met. I guess they are suite mates since they both have bedrooms and share a kitchenette and bathroom.
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Post by scrapsuzy on Aug 9, 2014 20:32:54 GMT
My dd (our youngest) has spent the past 2 years getting her Associate's Degree from a Junior College, and for most of that she was living in Colorado (we're in GA) with my oldest son, his wife, and their baby. She took most of her classes online. And she moved back home several months ago when they got transferred. Now she is going off to school 2 hrs away, living in a dorm (one roommate, bathroom down the hall). We are very comfortable with the school itself, as our oldest graduated from there, and our 3rd son went there for 2+ years. We love the campus and the small town it is attached to (literally, the campus is just 2 blocks from the town square. She actually left last weekend, as she had to be at the elementary school for pre-planning (she will be working in a classroom 2 days a week, but it's not student teaching). It was irritating to learn that though she was expected to be there, the dorms weren't open yet and so we had to make other living arrangements for her, for a week. She's home this weekend getting the rest of her stuff, but can't get into the dorm until Monday morning (which is early, as the rest of the students don't arrive until Friday). So she will have to throw all her stuff into the dorm and rush off to class, then come back later to sort it out. My 3rd son is actually taking her up there, to help her move-in. I'm not sad that she's going, but I do have some concerns. Mostly stuff like will she make friends, etc. She has already made 3 friends though, girls doing the same thing she is so they can carpool (it is a 45 min drive from the campus to the elementary school). So my worries may be already taken care of. I'm also concerned about dating. Even though she is 21, she hasn't dated much at all. She can be fairly naive in that area, but she is also pretty tough, having had 3 older brothers. Even she says she gives off a "Don't Eff with me" vibe to guys, and she is trying to be better about that.
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Post by drivingmisscrazy on Aug 9, 2014 20:49:48 GMT
My oldest is leaving in a week. I'm excited -- but have so much apprehension at the same time. He took a year off after graduating hs. He just wasn't ready last year, and we're still not sure now. He's going to be 3 1/2 hours away. Moving into a student apartment with 2 friends and another random roommate. One of the friends has been there for a year already and seems to have his stuff together. Ds's best friend is also going for the first time. Worried about him tagging along. Ugh. NOT the best influence. Told ds this is his one and only shot, so make the best of it.
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Post by scrappingfor2 on Aug 9, 2014 21:26:13 GMT
I have to stop opening these posts.
TOMORROW. We take our DD to Ball State in Muncie In, it's a little more than an hour away. She is studying to be a social worker with a minor in Spanish. I am every kind of emotion there is. I'm a bucket of tears. I just don't want to be that crying mom tomorrow. She is going early for a special program so I am hoping there wont be too many people around, I know her room mate wont be there yet.
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tiffanytwisted
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Aug 9, 2014 23:31:20 GMT
Congrats to all the little Peas heading off into the world! Good luck to all their moms as they send them off. Mine isn't going away (local community college), but here's what I'm worried about. I've heard many times that Mother Nature turns them into beasts at this time in their lives so it's easier for us to let them go. What happens to those of us w/beasts who still live at home?!! How will we make it thru the next few years w/out killing each other? This is our scenario, too. Lovely girl, no drama relationship (a nice change). They first said it would be 'don't ask/don't tell'. Now they're going to try to remain exclusive. I don't see this working out well. I just have to keep chanting "I will stay out of it. I will stay out of it." and hope for the best for both of them.
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