zella
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Post by zella on Dec 22, 2016 4:29:10 GMT
Good or bad, I really want to hear it all. I have refused to entertain this idea, primarily because I'm terrified of losing memories of my sister. But I am now considering it because my depression isn't lifting with therapy and meds. And I've been through a LOT of meds. It still scares the crap out of me, but I can't spend the rest of my life wishing I was dead. And if that means I have to do something drastic, then maybe I have to do something drastic.
Thanks in advance to anyone willing to share.
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Post by beachbum on Dec 22, 2016 4:47:04 GMT
I know one person who has had ECT for depression. I didn't know about it until years after, I only knew that something had made a difference in her life. I can't say she was super bubbly and cheerful after, but there was a big difference in her attitude. She told me later that it was a very difficult decision to have it done but she was glad she did. While she was still depressed she was no longer in the deep depression that she felt she would never climb out of before. She didn't mention any memory loss so I can't speak to that. I hope that you find something that works for you and brings you out of your pain. I hurt for you.
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Post by elaine on Dec 22, 2016 4:49:48 GMT
In reading your posts over the past few months, I have often thought that ECT might be a good option for you. I haven't had it myself, but have worked on a locked psychiatric ward and seen it work wonders on people who were suicidal and for whom medication wasn't working to alleviate the depression.
The bottom line - it is important that you stay alive, and if this is able to help you do that, it is worth it, IMO. You have built up such a wealth of memories of your sister over the years that it is unlikely you would lose all of those memories to ECT.
It is a serious intervention, so I'm glad that you are taking time to gather information and think about it thoroughly.
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Post by peanutterbutter on Dec 22, 2016 4:55:45 GMT
I know several individuals who use it, and feel it is successful for them. They have tried every medication etc, and come to this. It is scary to contemplate, and may have some side effects, but it has had a positive impact for these individuals , and they don't regret their decision to do it. Good luck with making a decision and finding a successful treatment for yourself.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2016 4:58:29 GMT
My closest friend credits ECT with saving her life. She had a variety of issues beforehand, but it was done for the depression that was resistant to pretty much everything else. It's been years and years, and it was a real game changer for her. She's pretty content and easy going now. I don't think ECT made her all sunshine and rainbows, but that was her real personality and the treatment let her get back to herself.
I'm hoping for the best for you, whatever treatment options you decide on.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Dec 22, 2016 5:00:10 GMT
I have a friend who used it.
It helped her a lot.
It took her a long time to get back to being herself.
It has been three years, and she is better more even, but she has lost her spark.
She is a better mother, and much more able to deal with everyday life.
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Post by peano on Dec 22, 2016 5:07:00 GMT
In reading your posts over the past few months, I have often thought that ECT might be a good option for you. I haven't had it myself, but have worked on a locked psychiatric ward and seen it work wonders on people who were suicidal and for whom medication wasn't working to alleviate the depression. The bottom line - it is important that you stay alive, and if this is able to help you do that, it is worth it, IMO. You have built up such a wealth of memories of your sister over the years that it is unlikely you would lose all of those memories to ECT. It is a serious intervention, so I'm glad that you are taking time to gather information and think about it thoroughly. I agree with Elaine's comments. I also worked on a locked psychiatric ward and have witnessed ECT. The experience of the patients I knew who had it was that the memory loss was primarily short-term, not long-term, but I think it is wise of you to fully explore this option.
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Post by houston249 on Dec 22, 2016 5:07:12 GMT
Ok, i have no personal experience with this, all I have is discussions with my grandmothers whom I respected greatly.
The only thing I do have is my grandmothers ( born 1898 and 1902, both lived into my 40s) discussing this with many times my aunt and mother. How it has come so far. That today it can be a God send for those who can not be helped with medication and/or talk therapy. That it is now considered safe. How well it is regulated now.
Your wise to investigate it. If you do decide you might do this, maybe you can start writing down all your memories you have of your sister asap, like an insurance policy for her memories.
Just a pretty notebook with an intro page of facts. name, dob, hair and eye color, height, weight a maybe a picture. the rest could be lists and small stories about her. Easy lists like favorite meals and least liked food kind of memories. Your favorite memory of her. Carry it with you now, write in it when you are waiting in line or have a free moment. Heck, you might be out buying cat food and remember a story. Dont wait until u get home, write it down then and there. You could get a small voice recorder and do the same if you are not a writer.
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zella
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Post by zella on Dec 22, 2016 7:01:22 GMT
Thank you all, ladies; I knew you'd come through.
I do intend to start recording all my memories of my sister, just in case. Of my daughters, too, but I'm less worried about that since they are still alive and live with me. I'm going to use a voice to text program, so that I can just talk.
Thank you all for your kindness and support. As always, you help me so much, you don't know.
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Post by inkedup on Dec 22, 2016 7:14:12 GMT
I don't have any personal experience with ECT, but a friend of mine from college was sent to Europe for ECT treatment in the 90's. Her problem was drug addiction, so not the same, but she came back a different person. In a good way. She managed to overcome heroin addiction and believed that it also helped treat her severe depression, which was the underlying cause of her addiction. She is still stable (20+ years later), has a great job and a beautiful family. Before I met her, I thought of ECT as this terrifying and inhumane treatment. She was open with us about the experience and always said it was nothing like what we imagined. She had some side effects (memory loss that I think she recovered from, and some balance issues for a few months after. Nothing long-term that she has ever mentioned.) I applaud you for being open to any kind of treatment, zella , and I hope you are able to find relief in the coming year. I know you are suffering. Sending love to you.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Dec 22, 2016 8:16:57 GMT
My BFF did it, but he passed away before we could really see the results. After the treatment, he had some memory problems, and he spoke more slowly, but he felt so much more like he remembered himself. He was absolutely on his way out of his darkness. I wish you peace in your decision. Positive thoughts, and hugs to you.
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Post by LeaP on Dec 22, 2016 8:36:30 GMT
My MIL had it three times before I met her. Per my husband, she has some memory gaps, but she has never relapsed even though she has had a lot on her plate. Last New Years eve, my FIL passed away and several months later her beloved 18-year-old cat passed. A year has passed and she has gotten another fancy cat and is having the cabinets in her kitchen replaced. She is also planning a trip out west to visit us, but she has been too busy.
If your doctors think it will help you, seriously consider it.
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Post by not2peased on Dec 22, 2016 16:13:49 GMT
my stepdad's mom did this many years ago. the change was absolutely profound. she went from being almost catatonic (her depression was severe, following the death of her husband) to being her normal, upbeat, happy self.
she lived for a number of years after that, and as far as I know, her depression did not return
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Post by yivit on Dec 22, 2016 17:12:31 GMT
I have a friend in Tennessee who had ECT with success. He did have some memory issues afterwards though.
Have any of your doctors mentioned VNS (vagus nerve stimulation) as an alternative? I have a friend who works for the company who manufactures the device (it's an implant). It was originally developed for drug-resistant epilepsy bit had also been used for drug-resistant depression.
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Post by zella on Dec 23, 2016 10:39:12 GMT
yivit, I will look into that. Thanks. I am currently trying to find a psychiatrist. Mine left the hospital system I use primarily and no longer takes any insurance. I'm probably going to have to pay out of pocket for psychiatry; there are very few. Will let you all know if I'm going to do it. Had a great day today. Both girls plus Cora and I all went Christmas shopping tonight. We were gone for 8 hours or so. Very tiring, but so good to feel NORMAL! I'm now in bed, about to go to sleep. DDs are wrapping presents. And Cora is still awake (and it's 2:40 a.m.). Very bad!
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Post by elaine on Dec 23, 2016 14:16:51 GMT
yivit , I will look into that. Thanks. I am currently trying to find a psychiatrist. Mine left the hospital system I use primarily and no longer takes any insurance. I'm probably going to have to pay out of pocket for psychiatry; there are very few. Will let you all know if I'm going to do it. Had a great day today. Both girls plus Cora and I all went Christmas shopping tonight. We were gone for 8 hours or so. Very tiring, but so good to feel NORMAL! I'm now in bed, about to go to sleep. DDs are wrapping presents. And Cora is still awake (and it's 2:40 a.m.). Very bad! I'm so happy that you had a great day - it sounds like oodles of fun.
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Post by dulcemama on Dec 23, 2016 14:35:05 GMT
It worked wonders for my MIL. She has some memory issues but that has actually improved a bit over the years (she had it done almost 20 years ago now).
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Post by Scrappea on Dec 23, 2016 16:18:30 GMT
I pm'd you.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Dec 23, 2016 18:35:33 GMT
I have a friend in Tennessee who had ECT with success. He did have some memory issues afterwards though. Have any of your doctors mentioned VNS (vagus nerve stimulation) as an alternative? I have a friend who works for the company who manufactures the device (it's an implant). It was originally developed for drug-resistant epilepsy bit had also been used for drug-resistant depression. This is a surgery I told you about. I talked to two doctors about it and it has had some amazing results according to the Canadian Journal of Medicine. (I can get you the link) but when I talked to my GP she had 2 patients have it done and one patient had success with it and was pleased and she had who had it done at Swedish Hospital in Seattle and hers wasn't life saving and she kept having to pay to have the wires put in the right spot. This was several visits to the hospital. There is a doctor in Vancouver who does it (Chris Honey) and he is the expert on it. Here is his publication list and you as a nurse would know what a lot of this means drhoney.org/research/ and can check out some of his papers on the subject. He has had lots of success with it. There is another procedure that I am being evaluated for and that is brain stimulation with a magnet. Sounds crazy but they have had good success with it, too. My appointment for intake is Feb 1 and then if I get approved it's everyday for 15 minutes for 3 weeks. My GP said she has heard tons of great things about this therapy and is 100% behind it. The psych is 100% behind it, but he cautions me to keep my expectations low in case it isn't as "great" as I had been hoping. www.mdabc.net/repetitive-transcranial-magnetic-stimulation-rtms is the link and not the clinic I will be going to. The therapy I will be having is covered by medical. Good luck. You have all of us behind you.
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Post by zella on Dec 23, 2016 19:50:43 GMT
Thanks for those links, Elannah. I'll read up on everything. Obviously want to go into whatever I do with lots of info. I do hope the magnet therapy works for you.
Ketamine infusions was another treatment option, but I've nixed that. My younger dd had one ketamine IV at an ER, and her reaction to it was awful. While it doesn't mean it'd affect me the same, we are so alike in so many ways that I decided I wasn't going to risk it.
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Post by birukitty on Dec 23, 2016 19:59:52 GMT
I feel like I'm experiencing dejavu. (Spelling)? I could have sworn you've, or another Pea has asked this question before. Exactly like you posted it.
I personally have experienced ECT. I had 20 treatments of ECT in 2009-2010 both bilaterally and oh, I forgot what it's called but it's when they only shock one side of your brain. Bilaterally is the most invasive. I had suffered from what is called treatment resistant depression for close to 10 years before my doctor suggested this therapy and had been through many different medications. Some would work at first, but then they'd stop working and I'd be on to the next one.
I was told I'd probably lose a tiny bit of short term memory, but that it'd come back and that I wouldn't lose any long term memory. I was so depressed and almost in a catatonic state that I signed the paperwork to okay the treatment, although my sister tried to talk me out of it-she has a degree in Psychology. It wasn't until I was finished with the 20th treatment that I realized what was going on. Yes it did help, but only for a few days and then all of the depression would return. What was horrifying was my memory was disappearing. I put my foot down at that point and refused further ECT treatments even though I was still just as depressed as I was at the beginning. I've lost at least 50% of my long term memories and they are gone for good. I still have problems with short term memory. So much that I have to write everything down. It's impacted my life in a number of ways. Obviously if I had it to do over again I never would have done the treatments. I think they are dangerous and outdated. I also think across the board they do more harm than good. It just isn't worth the risk. There is a class action suit being put together right now from patients who have suffered memory loss because the doctors sugar coat the actual danger before the procedures, and the actuality of it is the memory loss is huge. Don't know if anything will come of it but right now they are collecting case histories.
What ended up happening with me was an Integrative Medicine doctor tested my blood for a defective gene called MTHFR. Turned out I had two markers for it. What it mainly does is if you have the defective gene it means you can't convert B12 from regular sources or even from regular B12 supplements. Over time your body accumulates this loss lower and lower and symptoms begin appearing. Depression is one. If it continues even more dementia is another (this is what happened to my grandmother who I inherited this from-she never knew she had it). There are no symptoms and on blood work your B12 count can look normal. Once my doctor diagnosed mine he put me on the correct B12 supplement my body could tolerate and just like that-my depression vanished. And it has never come back. Oh if I only knew beforehand!
My advice is to get this blood test as soon as you can. Preferably from an Integrative Doctor if you can find one in your area. They are the most qualified in this area. Mine doesn't take insurance and yes I have to pay him out of pocked $150.00 every time I see him but he is worth every single penny. He could have saved my memory if I'd known about him and seen him before the ECT treatments.
I wish you the very best! I know how agonizing depression can be. I lived with it for 10 long years. PM me if you every want to "talk".
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Post by inkedup on Dec 23, 2016 20:11:40 GMT
birukitty , I'm sorry for what you went through. Thank you for sharing your story. I'm glad you ultimately found the cause of your depression.
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Post by birukitty on Dec 23, 2016 20:17:40 GMT
birukitty , I'm sorry for what you went through. Thank you for sharing your story. I'm glad you ultimately found the cause of your depression. Thank you inked up. I appreciate your thoughtfulness. But please don't worry about me. I've made my peace with it. It's our trials in life that make us stronger. And it was a true gift and blessing that I found my Integrative doctor and he found the cause.
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Post by flute4peace on Dec 23, 2016 21:27:29 GMT
yivit, I will look into that. Thanks. I am currently trying to find a psychiatrist. Mine left the hospital system I use primarily and no longer takes any insurance. I'm probably going to have to pay out of pocket for psychiatry; there are very few. Will let you all know if I'm going to do it. Had a great day today. Both girls plus Cora and I all went Christmas shopping tonight. We were gone for 8 hours or so. Very tiring, but so good to feel NORMAL! I'm now in bed, about to go to sleep. DDs are wrapping presents. And Cora is still awake (and it's 2:40 a.m.). Very bad! This just made.my.day!! Uh the good day part. Psych psrt sucks although I do think you can benefit from a new set of eyes.
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Post by terri on Dec 24, 2016 2:27:51 GMT
I'm so grateful for everyone who has shared their experiences. I've struggled with anxiety most of my life and depression for years; this year has been the worst. I'm grateful to have some options I didn't know about that I can now look into. Thank you all.
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Post by zella on Dec 24, 2016 4:30:10 GMT
I'm so grateful for everyone who has shared their experiences. I've struggled with anxiety most of my life and depression for years; this year has been the worst. I'm grateful to have some options I didn't know about that I can now look into. Thank you all. How wonderful that my asking this question has helped you. This is the best of how message boards can work. I hope you have a peaceful holiday time, Terri.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2016 5:53:54 GMT
Have you tried light and heat therapy?
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Dec 24, 2016 6:04:08 GMT
Had a great day today. Both girls plus Cora and I all went Christmas shopping tonight. We were gone for 8 hours or so. Very tiring, but so good to feel NORMAL! I'm now in bed, about to go to sleep. DDs are wrapping presents. And Cora is still awake (and it's 2:40 a.m.). Very bad! I am so happy for you! This just got me out of my Christmas funk long enough to go wrap some presents. Thank you {hugs}
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Post by anniebygaslight on Dec 24, 2016 6:42:07 GMT
A friend of mine who was bipolar, (no longer with us) used to swear by it. In fact she used to beg the medics for it when she was manic, as she said it unscrambled her brain and stopped her thoughts racing. I believe that it isn't used much these days, and some quarters consider it barbaric, but it seemed to work for my friend.
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