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Post by Mary_K on Jun 28, 2014 22:18:29 GMT
The 2 sisters from next door spent the night with dd last night.
I fed them dinner and snacks last night, breakfast this morning, lunch and snacks at 11:00 & 1:00 and now, at 3:00, they're looking for a another snack or "late lunch" as they called it.
Just because they spent the night doesn't mean I'm supposed to feed them for the weekend, does it?
ARG!
Mary K
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Post by *christine* on Jun 28, 2014 22:19:51 GMT
My son and his friends eat me out of house and home! This weekend my son is with his cousins so he's eating on someone else's dime for a couple of days!
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Post by paget on Jun 28, 2014 22:19:59 GMT
Oh I would be over that already. I would tell them it's time to go home!
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Post by 1lear on Jun 28, 2014 22:21:33 GMT
OH, I'd tell them the sleepover was over and they needed to go home!
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Post by Mary_K on Jun 28, 2014 22:29:00 GMT
Right before dinner I'm telling them we're having family dinner and it's time for them to go.
I already heard them scheming to spend the night again. NOT happening!
Mary K
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Post by gina on Jun 28, 2014 22:29:21 GMT
That's when you say you have somewhere to be and show them the door.  |
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 28, 2014 22:36:04 GMT
How old are they?
When dd (14) has a friend over I find time to grab them both and ask then together what their plans are, what the other parents are OK with and then we set expectations for when the guest is leaving, who's driving who home, meals, etc. Over summer break, if the kids were being respectful and all still enjoying each other's company, I wouldn't be bothered by a multi-day play date.
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Post by fiddlesticks on Jun 28, 2014 22:45:00 GMT
Right before dinner I'm telling them we're having family dinner and it's time for them to go. I already heard them scheming to spend the night again. NOT happening! Mary K A family dinner is a perfect way to send them on their way! |
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Post by stargazer on Jun 28, 2014 22:46:03 GMT
Definitely always set an end-time for a sleepover! It always seems like such a good idea beforehand, but I definitely need to know when it will all be over within the first 30 minutes.
Although now my son is older & they look after themselves I don't mind so much (especially if you saw my post in the "why your teen makes you smile" thread) but when 12 yo dd's friends come over it's a different story.
Hope they take the hint soon!
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Post by RosieKat on Jun 28, 2014 22:55:11 GMT
Oh, my! I'd never think to let my kids stay past late morning unless I was told/requested otherwise! I figure the sleepover host provides dinner if it's an early sleepover time, maybe a late snack, and breakfast. We are just barely dipping toes into sleepover land, so I guess it's good to be forewarned...
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Post by oktrae on Jun 28, 2014 23:27:32 GMT
That would be very annoying. My mother used to tell parents we had to leave the house the next day by noon whether we really needed to or not. We would leave, but sometimes it was just to run to my grandmother's for a bit.
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Post by Miss Ang on Jun 28, 2014 23:29:42 GMT
I would have already made the announcement: "Hey girls, I have some stuff to take care of so you'll need to head home before 4pm". Thanks for staying! It's been fun!  And then if I felt bad, I would wave them goodbye, get into my car and run somewhere; even if it only takes 5 min. before you come back. But I probably wouldn't do that, just giving you an extra "out". |
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Post by rxgal on Jun 28, 2014 23:32:52 GMT
You're the mom, right? Don't be spineless, just tell them that the sleepover is over and they need to go home. Don't be held hostage by kids in your own home.
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Post by Mary_K on Jun 28, 2014 23:33:51 GMT
DD is 10 and the sisters are 7 & 11.
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Post by Mary_K on Jun 28, 2014 23:35:24 GMT
Yeah, need to get a spine.
But.... They're gone!
Yes!
Mary K
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Post by Nanner on Jun 28, 2014 23:47:12 GMT
oh lordy, I remember those days!!!! Glad they're gone.
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Post by *KAS* on Jun 28, 2014 23:52:33 GMT
I don't have kids so I don't know how that works, but I'm surprised their mom didn't call or come over and get them if they are that young and she hadn't seen or heard from them all day!
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Post by elaine on Jun 28, 2014 23:58:48 GMT
I think that tonight your daughter gets to go there for a sleepover!
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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on Jun 29, 2014 0:06:11 GMT
I'd tell them it's time to go home!
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Post by rumplesnat on Jun 29, 2014 0:13:55 GMT
I'm always ready for the kids to be gone by the end of breakfast!!! Rarely do they last until lunch.
I find that after being together for a long previous day and sleepover, extending the time spent together the next day causes some conflict a lot of the time and it's just time for everyone to go back to their own home to regroup.
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Jun 29, 2014 5:39:10 GMT
I'm glad that they've gone home. I'm actually surprised that the other mom didn't ask what time they'd be returning home. It sounds like they had a great time.
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Post by peasful1 on Jun 29, 2014 6:25:35 GMT
Yeah, if you want them to go, have them check to make sure someone is home and to expect them, then send them home. No biggie. I guess I'm in the minority, though. This doesn't bother me. I enjoy having their friends over and hearing their conversations. They fix their own snacks and lunches, though, so it isn't as if it is more work for me.
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Post by perumbula on Jun 29, 2014 7:21:35 GMT
You don't need an excuse to send kids home. When they have overstayed their welcome, tell them it's time to go. It's easy to do it politely without embarrassing anyone. Just a quick, "hey, thanks for coming! You'll need to head out soon. Do you have all your stuff?" is fine. You don't have to wait for dinner or say you're going somewhere. Just say goodbye.
BTW, it's also perfectly acceptable to expect guests to live by your meal schedule and not theirs. I've happily told visiting friends "I'm sorry. Our snack/meal time is at *fill in the blank*. Would you like a glass of water or milk right now?" There's no reason to have extra meals/snacks for them just because they know they can get it out of you.
Often we as mothers are part of teaching other people's kids how to behave when visiting. Their mothers aren't there. Kids don't listen to "this is how to behave" lectures. I consider it neighborly to help my kids' friends learn what's acceptable behavior at others' homes. In setting boundaries for the friends I'm also showing my kids what I expect from them when they go visiting. If I let the friends walk all over me, then I'm showing my kids that visitors get to do whatever they want. It's not a lesson I want my kids to learn.
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Post by I-95 on Jun 29, 2014 8:21:55 GMT
I already heard them scheming to spend the night again. NOT happening! Mary K I just knew that was coming! |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 29, 2014 8:25:35 GMT
My son's friends always used to go home at 10. I didn't make the rule. The kids knew to call their parents then and went home at 10. It worked perfectly for us.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jun 29, 2014 8:49:48 GMT
Tell them to go. Simple.
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Post by stargazer on Jun 29, 2014 9:10:39 GMT
Glad they're gone!
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Post by Judy26 on Jun 29, 2014 14:52:54 GMT
Whenever this happened at my house I started handing out chores. Funny how quickly they remembered they had somewhere to be!
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Post by scrappinmama on Jun 29, 2014 14:55:20 GMT
It's always hard when people don't read social cues. They should have left by noon.
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Post by fotos4u2 on Jun 29, 2014 21:43:46 GMT
Right before dinner I'm telling them we're having family dinner and it's time for them to go. I already heard them scheming to spend the night again. NOT happening! Mary K LOL, been there. I've been known to tell dd that it's the other kids turn to host. If they want another sleepover it needs to be at THEIR house, that usually shuts the scheming down quickly. There are very few kids I'm willing to put up with for multiple days (I like to think I'm laid back, but for some reason all three of my kids have annoying friends ). |
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And then if I felt bad, I would wave them goodbye, get into my car and run somewhere; even if it only takes 5 min. before you come back. But I probably wouldn't do that, just giving you an extra "out".
