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Post by myshelly on Aug 18, 2014 0:26:31 GMT
This is the worst time of the year. I hate it. Summer is magic. It's like this amazing 2 months when my family lives inside a bubble and the real world can't touch us. Summer is swimming everyday. It's endless play dates, fireworks every Friday, boats and snowcones and movies. It's no work, no bedtimes, no responsibilities. It's sleeping late every day and then going to brunch. Tons of family time, tons of friend time. Summer is happiness and innocence and being a kid again. And tomorrow, when teachers have to report back to work, it all comes crashing down I get so depressed this time of year. It feels like the end of the world. My kids are crying, I'm thinking of all the things I wanted to do but didn't. I despise back to school. This was just a vent. Does anyone else hate this time of year?
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Post by padresfan619 on Aug 18, 2014 0:27:54 GMT
I hate back to school time because it means traffic will be even more of a nightmare in the mornings.
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Post by hop2 on Aug 18, 2014 0:31:37 GMT
I guess different strokes for different folks. Ive always loved back to school, especially as a child. Living so far out in the country as a child I had a much more limited access to things like books over the summer. So back to school meant new things to read. Don't get me wrong, we had plenty of fun over the summer, we rode horses, swam in the river played outside all day every day, but I missed my books.
My kids like back to school because they like their fall activities. They do not like to go back after the week off in winter though, thats a tough one.
I am sorry your feeling down about it. Maybe plan something nice to do next weekend to lessen the change.
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Aug 18, 2014 0:31:56 GMT
I hear you. I do hate the lazy days of summer coming to an end. But I do appreciate my kids on a schedule. We started on Aug 8. So just really one week in. I look forward to our school breaks - Labor Day, Fall Break, Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc. Before I know it, summer is here again
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 18, 2014 0:32:09 GMT
I don't hate it because I celebrate having a new year with students, but I do mourn the loss of time with my children and our lack of schedule. We do tend to really make the most of our time when we are all in school though instead of being lackadaisical about it.
I find it odd that your kids are crying. It might be that they are picking up on your feelings. I would try to make it a happy time, not a sad. Celebrate the new year and new experiences they will have.
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Post by myshelly on Aug 18, 2014 0:33:51 GMT
I don't hate it because I celebrate having a new year with students, but I do mourn the loss of time with my children and our lack of schedule. We do tend to really make the most of our time when we are all in school though instead of being lackadaisical about it. I find it odd that your kids are crying. It might be that they are picking up on your feelings. I would try to make it a happy time, not a sad. Celebrate the new year and new experiences they will have. My kids are crying bc their dad has to go back to work, not bc they are starting school.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Aug 18, 2014 0:34:46 GMT
I hate that it is two weeks early for us this year. Seems like summer just started.
But my daughter is so excited to be at a brand new Charter Middle school that we looking forward to tomorrow.!
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Post by chirpingcricket on Aug 18, 2014 0:35:39 GMT
Shelly, you miiiiiiiiight want to consider homeschooling? Because I used to feel like you, and I homeschooled my children after my daughter's sixth grade experience and my son's first grade experience. It's not the easiest thing in the world, but it really can be warm and wonderful and loving. My daughter still struggles (age 26 now) to make it through the world, but she had serious developmental issues. My son, on the other hand, is thriving. And I had years and years of warm, wonderful experiences with my children instead of letting some third party get all the fun stuff.
I'm not saying it's a silver bullet, but... it can be really nice.
In the meantime, I send you lots of hugs and hopeful thoughts!!!
--Cricket
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 18, 2014 0:37:32 GMT
I don't hate it because I celebrate having a new year with students, but I do mourn the loss of time with my children and our lack of schedule. We do tend to really make the most of our time when we are all in school though instead of being lackadaisical about it. I find it odd that your kids are crying. It might be that they are picking up on your feelings. I would try to make it a happy time, not a sad. Celebrate the new year and new experiences they will have. My kids are crying bc their dad has to go back to work, not bc they are starting school. I still think they are picking up on your feelings. Crying because someone has to go back to work isn't a typical child response if the adults don't frame it as a horrible time. I teach. I've been home with my kids every summer since they were young. Every year when it got time for me to go back to work we prepped the kids. They didn't cry (well DS did when he first went to daycare when he was 4, but the younger one didn't). I think kids pick up on their parent's state of being. Are there not any new experiences they will have even though their dad is at work?
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Post by myshelly on Aug 18, 2014 0:37:36 GMT
Shelly, you miiiiiiiiight want to consider homeschooling? Because I used to feel like you, and I homeschooled my children after my daughter's sixth grade experience and my son's first grade experience. It's not the easiest thing in the world, but it really can be warm and wonderful and loving. My daughter still struggles (age 26 now) to make it through the world, but she had serious developmental issues. My son, on the other hand, is thriving. And I had years and years of warm, wonderful experiences with my children instead of letting some third party get all the fun stuff. I'm not saying it's a silver bullet, but... it can be really nice. In the meantime, I send you lots of hugs and hopeful thoughts!!! --Cricket Oh yes, I do homeschool and my kids and I love it! However, DH is a school teacher and he has to report back tomorrow. That's what my family is upset about. That wasn't clear in my OP. I alluded to it when I said tomorrow is when the teachers have to report back, but I should have made it more clear.
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Post by Native New Yorker on Aug 18, 2014 0:37:52 GMT
I'm excited to meet new students and go back to a regular paycheck.
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Post by chirpingcricket on Aug 18, 2014 0:39:41 GMT
Oh yes, I do homeschool and my kids and I love it! However, DH is a school teacher and he has to report back tomorrow. That's what my family is upset about. That wasn't clear in my OP. I alluded to it when I said tomorrow is when the teachers have to report back, but I should have made it more clear. Oh, my goodness! That does make it so much clearer. {{{{{{{{{{Shelly}}}}}}}}}}} I so get it! I hope you find a way to feel happier about the coming of the school season! Smooches! -Cricket
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 18, 2014 0:39:55 GMT
I'm excited to meet new students and go back to a regular paycheck. Do you not get paid year round?
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Post by myshelly on Aug 18, 2014 0:41:24 GMT
Oh yes, I do homeschool and my kids and I love it! However, DH is a school teacher and he has to report back tomorrow. That's what my family is upset about. That wasn't clear in my OP. I alluded to it when I said tomorrow is when the teachers have to report back, but I should have made it more clear. Oh, my goodness! That does make it so much clearer. {{{{{{{{{{Shelly}}}}}}}}}}} I so get it! I hope you find a way to feel happier about the coming of the school season! Smooches! -Cricket Thank you, cricket
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Post by Sarah*H on Aug 18, 2014 0:43:10 GMT
It gets all Sanctimommy on both sides of the coin, doesn't it? It used to be my favorite time of the year but I dread it more as every year passes. I've had a ball of anxiety in my stomach since I woke up this morning and it will get worse all week. We'll get back on schedule and in a few weeks it will be normal and I'll forget why I'm so sad. And in just a few more years, they'll be out the door and there won't be any more end of summer vacations to be sad about.
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 18, 2014 0:49:09 GMT
And on the flip side?
I love this time of year. I grew up in a college town. Every year, when the fall semester started, students flooded my home town. The town became vibrant and alive. People everywhere, football season, all kinds of cool live music...so to me, this time of year is more of a "new year" feeling than even new year's eve.
Everything changes in August.
I have never seen the end of summer as a negative, but a positive. A new start, a new beginning. When I sent my kids off to a new school year, it was a something to look forward to, not a time to mourn.
Just a different perspective.
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 18, 2014 0:52:16 GMT
I like the endless days of summer and the lack of schedule. But it would drive me crazy if it was year round. To everything there is a season.
You will find as your kids get older that they are busier in the summer. My kids volunteer, have sport conditioning and camp, and by next year, a job. Summers are now busy for us because we are trying to get the extra stuff (like behind the wheel) done.
Plan something fun for you and your kids and celebrate what you and the kids do on your own. There is value in that, too!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 18, 2014 0:59:00 GMT
I think you need a reality check. MOST families don't have dad off work for the whole summer. Instead of being sad about him going back to work maybe you need to learn to be thankful for the weekS off you did get that most people don't.
And,yes, your kids are picking up on your sadness. You need to knock it off. Or maybe your husband needs a job with one week of vacation for the entire year.
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Post by scrapnnana on Aug 18, 2014 1:02:09 GMT
My kids are grown now, but I always hated back to school time, too. I loved having the summer with my kids.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 18, 2014 1:05:16 GMT
Ok..changing my response. Your kids are crying because Dad is going back to work as a teacher?? Hello...welcome to the real world. My dad was a teacher and WORKED each and every summer. Sorry but I just don't get why they are crying.
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Post by Nicole in TX on Aug 18, 2014 1:05:49 GMT
I totally get what you are saying, Myshelly. I don't have kids, but I so enjoy not being exhausted all the time, not waking up to an alarm clock, and the sunshine!
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Post by christine58 on Aug 18, 2014 1:10:13 GMT
I'm excited to meet new students and go back to a regular paycheck. Do you not get paid year round? I don't....most teachers I know don't.
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Post by myshelly on Aug 18, 2014 1:10:53 GMT
Do you not get paid year round? I don't....most teachers I know don't. How interesting. All teachers here do. I honestly had no idea some teachers don't.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 18, 2014 1:12:30 GMT
I don't....most teachers I know don't. How interesting. All teachers here do. I honestly had no idea some teachers don't. Really??? I get paid from September till June. That's our school year. If you teach year round then that would make sense....it is interesting.
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Post by christaw on Aug 18, 2014 1:13:55 GMT
Ok..changing my response. Your kids are crying because Dad is going back to work as a teacher?? Hello...welcome to the real world. My dad was a teacher and WORKED each and every summer. Sorry but I just don't get why they are crying. I have to agree!!
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Post by myshelly on Aug 18, 2014 1:14:10 GMT
How interesting. All teachers here do. I honestly had no idea some teachers don't. Really??? I get paid from September till June. That's our school year. If you teach year round then that would make sense....it is interesting. No, not year round schools. Teachers get paid a salary. You take that salary, divide it by twelve months, and that equals your paycheck every month.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 18, 2014 1:16:05 GMT
I don't....most teachers I know don't. How interesting. All teachers here do. I honestly had no idea some teachers don't. Us too myshelly. My contract from my last job will pay me through August. At this new school I had the option of 13 paydays (August-August) or 12 (Sept-August) for my first year in the district. I thought that was how it worked every year. Paras around here vary. In my mom's district you can elect to be pro-rated and get paid the same for 12 months. Smaller monthly paychecks, but still get paid in the summer and normal at the end of January. My old district, this wasn't an option, so they got paid only for what they worked from the 15th-15th.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 18, 2014 1:23:52 GMT
Not here...doesn't work that way with payroll. We are salaried and that salary is divided by 21 pay periods...some choose to do 26 and get a paycheck at the end of June that equals 5 BUT I've heard that the IRS is going to stop allowing that. They have their hands in everything. I don't do the 26 because I'll take the interest on my money not the district.
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Post by Scarlet Ohana on Aug 18, 2014 1:39:22 GMT
It feels like the end of the world.
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Post by melanell on Aug 18, 2014 1:42:12 GMT
I don't like having to have ready to pack lunches every day. I don't like driving DS to school, and now I'll be driving both of them to 3 different schools. I don't like homework with DS [HASH]1. I don't like having to be ready at a certain (early) time every morning. But I never get to sleep in in the summer, so at least i won't miss that. And I won't miss the boys fighting.
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