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Post by anniefb on Mar 18, 2017 23:11:48 GMT
I agree with a rescue cat but would be concerned about her ability to pay ongoing care etc for 2 cats if she's struggling so much.
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Post by workingclassdog on Mar 18, 2017 23:17:31 GMT
If I ask my sister for any money it wouldn't be for a cat. There is no way I would ask money for a pet. If my utilities were going to be shut off or I am close to losing my home, I would ask for help. Anything that would be an emergency. Nothing else.
I would suggest to adopt a cat. Even that you still have to usually pay some kind of money for it. But no way would I shell out $600 (or $2,000) for a pet.
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Post by pjaye on Mar 18, 2017 23:29:59 GMT
If a person can't afford to pay the vet bills for the animals they already own...then they have no business getting even more animals.
Purebred/shelter/rescue cat - it's a moot point, she cannot afford to pay the bills for the two cats she currently owns, so there is no way I would support, financially or otherwise, her getting yet another pet.
You need to tell her that very bluntly. When she is in a financial position to pay her own vet bills without borrowing money from family members THEN she can pay for anther pet herself.
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Post by slicksister on Mar 18, 2017 23:47:15 GMT
Hell to the no!
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Post by papersilly on Mar 18, 2017 23:55:20 GMT
Never. We adopt, not shop.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2017 0:13:29 GMT
Buy her some chickens, at least they will feed her.
Can't go wrong with chickens.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2017 2:34:35 GMT
Makes no sense to pay that much for a cat she cannot afford to buy. She needs to get an ordinary affordable cat or save toward another fancy cat.
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Post by freebird on Mar 19, 2017 2:40:07 GMT
Nope. I wouldn't. but I'd give her a ride to the humane society and pay half the adoption fee. Or here's a crazy idea, nothing She doesn't need pets she can't afford.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2017 2:57:14 GMT
Thanks for all the replies. It seems the peas are all in agreement for once! Unfortunately, despite being 44, my sister still acts like she's a teenager and my mom enables her by giving her money, and making excuses about her poor decisions. My dad just stays out of it.
My husband and I are against buying animals from breeders and both our cat and dog are adopted from shelters. So in principle we could not lend the money for a designer pet.
Still feel a tiny bit guilty, and I doubt she'll speak to me for a long time after I tell her. But I agree with everyone, if she can't afford it, she shouldn't have it.
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Post by freecharlie on Mar 19, 2017 3:21:51 GMT
Honestly, I shocks me that someone would even ask for that
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Post by birukitty on Mar 19, 2017 3:28:24 GMT
Here's my take on the situation. Your's sister's sick kitty is still alive and has 6-9 months to live. Her focus should be on making those 6-9 months as stress free as possible. Why the rush to buy a new kitten now? That is a sure fire way to introduce a TON of stress into the lives of these two sphinx cats who are bonded and live together. I'm pretty sure the reason the other cat was howling was because he/she knew something serious was wrong with the other cat and was expressing anxiety and worry. Perfectly normal if you ask me given the situation. Once the two cats are back to living together again and in their normal routine the howling should stop. But if your sister brings in a new kitten into this established two cat household that's a huge mistake. That's the very last thing a very sick cat with heart failure needs! Tell her if she cares anything about her sick cat (and I'm sure she does) she needs to hold off any thoughts about new kittens (a cat) until her sick kitty has passed. Then she needs to give her remaining cat time to grieve (not to mention herself).
I've had cats for the past 48 years. My two elderly cats Biru and James passed away within 3 months of each other in the winter of 2014. It was a very difficult time for us.
I'd like to mention though that I personally didn't get a full bred Siamese kitten because I'm materialistic. I'm the last person I think who can be thought of as that way. I drive an 18 year old car and I love it. I buy my clothes from Goodwill and Ebay. I had a flip phone and was very happy with it. Just recently was forced into getting an Iphone because I'm going on a trip to Poland with my parents in May and my flip phone won't work there. I got a used Iphone 4S from Ebay. I'm not into designer anything-although I did buy my first designer handbag but it was also from Ebay and I got it at a huge savings ($120.00 vs. $438.00). I haven't had a vacation in 8 years. Because DH isn't able to take the time off work.
I've had shelter kitties my entire life until Biru. He was my first Siamese and he was what is known as a Traditional Siamese. They are the old fashioned version with the round faces and full bodies-the way they looked when they first came over to England from Siam. Biru was an extraordinary cat-so intelligent and insightful. I got him for $400.00 which is the same price I paid for Jesse last year-my new Siamese. I think at this point in my life I can decide if I want a Siamese kitten from a breeder or not. I think Jesse needs a brother, so I'm hoping to convince DH when I get home from my trip. If he agrees we'll get the new kitty from our local shelter which is where we got James.
As for your sister OP, no I don't think she needs to borrow money for a new Sphinx cat or kitten. Certainly not now-and I've explained why above-and not later either. If she can't afford to pay for the cat herself, then she certainly can't afford to pay for the upkeep. Getting the cat is only the first step. The upkeep is even more expensive in the long run. Food, litter and vet bills and up very quickly.
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Post by kristi on Mar 19, 2017 3:29:30 GMT
no
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Mar 19, 2017 3:40:51 GMT
My answer would be no.
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Post by kate on Mar 19, 2017 4:04:33 GMT
Sphinx cats tend to have heart issues. So she may be looking at another $2K for her other Sphinx, and a risk of the same if she buys another one? That alone would drive me to adopt a rescue.
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Post by flute4peace on Mar 19, 2017 4:40:12 GMT
I agree with all the above.
Around here the best place to get kittens is a farm. Barn kittens are neverending. And free.
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Post by freecharlie on Mar 19, 2017 5:13:31 GMT
I agree with all the above. Around here the best place to get kittens is a farm. Barn kittens are neverending. And free. it sounds like the sister is always broke. A free barn kitten needs shots and to be spayed or neutered and if the sister has no money she likely wouldn't do either. Adopting has its costs, but then they will have their first or more shots, are fixed, and are often microchip pedal. If she really wants a cat and can't pay the adoption fee (a mistaken IMO) she can wait until the humane society has a lower cost. Ours will have lower costs on cats after spring beacuase they get an influx of kittens. Adult cats are as low as $10.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Mar 19, 2017 9:29:09 GMT
Neither a borrower nor a lender be.
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Post by jamielynn on Mar 19, 2017 12:51:54 GMT
Luxury purchase - not a chance unless the $600 is a gift to her which I also think is crazy.
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Post by friendly on Mar 19, 2017 16:54:23 GMT
Pit bulls are wonderful dogs and don't deserve the bad rap they've been getting. They were bred to be used as nanny dogs.
I'll stop derailing this thread, sorry.
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Post by annabella on Mar 19, 2017 16:55:16 GMT
NO
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Post by Zee on Mar 19, 2017 17:13:37 GMT
Pit bulls are wonderful dogs and don't deserve the bad rap they've been getting. They were bred to be used as nanny dogs. I'll stop derailing this thread, sorry. They actually were bred to be fighting dogs, as I'm sure you know full well. Fighting pits = "pit" bulls. I'm not here to knock pit bulls. I've met some wonderful pit bulls who are great with people and kids. I just don't want one in my home with my cats.
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Post by friendly on Mar 19, 2017 18:26:24 GMT
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Post by Darcy Collins on Mar 19, 2017 19:14:50 GMT
Pit bulls are wonderful dogs and don't deserve the bad rap they've been getting. They were bred to be used as nanny dogs. I'll stop derailing this thread, sorry. Unfortunately too many losers have taken to breeding pit bulls for purposes very different than nanny dogs. Most of the pit bull/pit bull mixes found in OUR shelters are there due to being impounded by animal control either for neglect or aggressive behavior. The puppies are snatched up quickly by people who don't live in towns that restrict them - and I have no doubt are raised to be great dogs. Unfortunately the older dogs often have behavior issues as they were raised by assholes.
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Post by librarylady on Mar 19, 2017 19:59:32 GMT
Have not read anyone's response to this question.
No way on this earth would I give her the money.
A loan = expectation for repayment. You would never get the money back. If you have $600 you want to toss her way, go ahead. But do so knowing it is a gift of $600 because it will not be repaid.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2017 21:22:11 GMT
Mid-forties and she is broke? She has spent half of her working life and she doesn't have any savings? That is just crazy! What happens when her parents are no longer available to bail her out financially? They have set her up to fail as an adult.
Just my brutally-honest opinion. I have a SIL that is in her late fifties and has nothing to show for it. MIL keeps enabling her. An $8,000 loan for her home, turned out to be an $8,000 donation. DH and I will not bail her once MIL is gone!
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Post by pierkiss on Mar 19, 2017 21:24:09 GMT
Hell no.
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Post by txdancermom on Mar 19, 2017 21:28:06 GMT
I would not give/lend her the money for the "fancy" cat....there are plenty in shelters that need good homes
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Post by maryland on Mar 20, 2017 0:05:33 GMT
Sorry about her cat.
Your husband is right. She can't afford it so she should adopt a homeless cat. When she can afford another cat that she wants, and if she wants three cats, she can buy one. But either wait or adopt.
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Post by maryland on Mar 20, 2017 0:07:47 GMT
I agree she should consider getting a rescue cat. It just seems ridiculous to have to borrow money to buy a cat, when there are thousands available for free. Has she looked to see if there is a Sphinx rescue society? Most purebred associations have them. Even if there are costs associated, they are going to be less than the cost of a new cat. My brother got his dogs from Great Dane rescue leagues. Your idea is great!
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Post by MsKnit on Mar 20, 2017 0:31:54 GMT
I agree with all the above. Around here the best place to get kittens is a farm. Barn kittens are neverending. And free. it sounds like the sister is always broke. A free barn kitten needs shots and to be spayed or neutered and if the sister has no money she likely wouldn't do either. Adopting has its costs, but then they will have their first or more shots, are fixed, and are often microchip pedal. If she really wants a cat and can't pay the adoption fee (a mistaken IMO) she can wait until the humane society has a lower cost. Ours will have lower costs on cats after spring beacuase they get an influx of kittens. Adult cats are as low as $10. Don't forget about testing for FIV & FeLeukemia. A neutered pet from the shelter isn't a given either. When we got our first kitten, the waiting list for neutering would have taken beyond her first heat. So we had our vet do it. The shelter doesn't test for either FIV or FeLV. I can't remember how much either kitten's initial vet visit was. However, we had a stray kitten show up at our house. I would have happily kept her. She was such a love. Unfortunately, she was sick and I had to have her put to sleep. She was with us less than 24 hours and my heart was broken. I still mourn her. That visit was $285.
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