Women of Color: Thoughts on Hoop Earrings?

And here you go again, looking for ugly where there is none.

Hi-jack - Mile High Pea? 😀 Is that new admin or have I just missed it before?

You did misunderstand. I don't care about hoop earrings or who wears them so I am the wrong black woman to poll anyway. The thread is titled "Women of Color: Thoughts on Hoop Earrings". She asked a question to "Women of Color" to a board of mostly white women. So the conversation becomes how white women think black women behave and what terms they should accept to describe themselves. @geoegiapea said something in another thread and someone got upset and called out my assumption that no one would challenge the socially unacceptable comment she made. Well If you read back a couple pages you will see the woman from my hometown again making racially tone deaf comments. Also note who agreed with the statement. Unchallenged.

Am I correct in understanding most people take offense to my participation because I am pointing out socially unacceptable lines of thought?

I know the other issue is this assumption that I am angry and hate all white peoples so I will try to find a way to put this link in my signature. I think its important to read. I've been a member here for at least a decade I've listened to pea perspectives for many many many years but now when I share my own the pea treatment of me changes.

www.blackpast.org/1981-audre-lorde-uses-anger-women-responding-racism

Thanks for sharing, that was an interesting read. I will need to read it a few more times to fully absorb it. Seems like it could have been written last week let alone over 30 years ago. I think this is very true: "Most women have not developed tools for facing anger constructively" and I wonder how we learn to do that and what it looks like in practice.  I also wonder how this plays against the trope of the "angry black woman" - how do we avoid using using that to devalue and dehumanize, and still acknowledge and respond to the anger so well described here? 


And here you go again, bringing the ugly. 


I didn't read it that way, more as pointing out that if someone really wants to know what women of colour think about an issue, this isn't exactly the best place to ask. 

(ETA - just to note, a bunch of other replies were posted while I was typing) 

I think that often you bump an old thread to add a comment that doesn't even make sense in that thread instead of just starting a new thread to actually discuss the topic you want to discuss.

I don't understand how/why you think that tactic is effective.

I don't think it makes sense and I find it annoying.

As for how I view your participation on this board - you drop in sporadically to make aggressive comments about race and then you disappear for weeks or months. I don't really consider you a regular contributing member.

I don't remember you from the old board.

Thank you. If I make a comment/point you don't understand. I almost always angrily attempt to explain it. I can also see where my comments could be viewed as aggressive. As for my level of participation my daily posting has waned and the political climate has changed. There was a very long period were I was a regular contributing member. It does become difficult to share recipes when you can see threads like these.

I'm not sure how long you've been a member but I've always known the board was 90% white women. I just found out a pea  dentifies as black so of course I can't claim to know *or speak for* every single black pea but my guess is there are no more than a dozen. Even when the viewership was much higher at the old 2peas the number was the same. 

This Mexican American woman does not care if a person wears big hoop earrings or traces their lips in dark lipliner, or plucks all their eyebrows and draws them back in. Just be kind to others. That's really all that matters, isn't it?

i'm not sure why black women have to be equally represented to still have an opinion

as long as there are black women here - why shouldn't the question be asked/answered

gina

Been here since the beginning and many years on the old board. I guess I just never lined people up by color, because I don't care. 

It's been there a long time, you must have missed it. 

The peas hate it when I like their comments but the alternative is bumping the threads. burningfeather I know you were concerned with my "friends" visiting the boards. They've all agreed if/when they participate to creating a sign in name that includes their own screen name hyphenated by my screen name.