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Post by christine58 on Apr 10, 2017 13:11:26 GMT
Oh I am SOOO glad my mother didn't "celebrate" this with me. Dear god WHY???
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Post by anniebygaslight on Apr 10, 2017 13:12:16 GMT
Oh I am SOOO glad my mother didn't "celebrate" this with me. Dear god WHY??? Yep. That. |
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Post by melanell on Apr 10, 2017 13:15:26 GMT
No, my mother didn't do anything special and I have no daughters, so I never really had the chance to come up with anything special. I think in general I would have spent more time discussing the feelings about the whole situation, instead of just the facts about the period itself. I think whether we did anything else would depend upon the girl. I also think it would depend upon how the first few periods went. My first was a bit of a non-issue for me. But one of my cousin's girls was miserable with cramps right from her very first time.  She wouldn't have been in a good place right then for doing anything special. And even for the first several months afterwards, she was pretty much miserable all of the time either because she was experiencing it or dreading the next one. poor kid. Luckily things did settle down for her after the first 6 months or so. But that was a rough time for her. She just needed a lot of extra understanding, love, & comfort. |
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Post by melanell on Apr 10, 2017 13:16:39 GMT
Oh I am SOOO glad my mother didn't "celebrate" this with me. Dear god WHY??? Like that Period Party commercial from a few years back?  |
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Post by giatocj on Apr 10, 2017 13:17:54 GMT
Nope...no celebrations here. Truth be told, it never entered my mind the celebrate the event.
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Post by seaexplore on Apr 10, 2017 13:18:27 GMT
No party, no big deal about it. Just give her a big hug and "welcome" her to womanhood. Then move along.
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Post by lbp on Apr 10, 2017 13:20:30 GMT
UGH! No way would I have wanted that! My mom had already purchased the necessary supplies and explained what would happen. No need to celebrate!
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Post by styxgirl on Apr 10, 2017 13:20:43 GMT
Nope ... The only traditions we have is going to the store to buy girl supplies and to talk about how to feel better until it's over, not make a mess and clean up after yourself!
This season on Nashville, Rayna gave Daphne a gift from Tiffany's to mark her first period. My friends and I thought is was over-the-top.
I think I would have been uncomfortable if my Mom would have made a big deal about it.
I also think my 2 DDs 12 and 14 would have not appreciated the gesture either.
Each family is different though and if YOU want to do something, then DO! :-)
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2017 13:23:11 GMT
My mother decided that the entire family needed to know that I started. I stopped telling her anything after that.
I would suggest that you not spread the news.
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Post by amom23 on Apr 10, 2017 13:24:08 GMT
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Post by littlemama on Apr 10, 2017 13:26:42 GMT
I would have been horrified.
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Post by compeateropeator on Apr 10, 2017 13:28:59 GMT
Another one that was extremely happy not to celebrate or do something special to mark the moment. That would not be for me so Sorry I am no help. Hope you get some good ideas though.
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Post by cannes on Apr 10, 2017 13:30:10 GMT
I bought her a carton of ice cream and a bottle of Midol. That was the extent of our celebration.
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Post by kluski on Apr 10, 2017 13:33:52 GMT
Every family is different but my dd didn't even want to stay home. I thank God every month that she doesn't get the cramps that I have always had. I used to pass out
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Post by gillyp on Apr 10, 2017 13:40:32 GMT
I would have crawled under a stone if my mother had suggested any form of "celebration". As it is, she was brought up by Victorian parents and didn't tell me a thing!
I remember seeing a scrapbook page on the theme in the old Peas gallery or UKS gallery years ago and thinking - why on earth?!
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Post by Tammiem2pnc1 on Apr 10, 2017 14:03:54 GMT
No celebration, just no. I would have been so embarrassed. My mother basically handed me a tampon and wished me luck! LOL. Seriously, she helped me where she could, but we certainly did not make a big deal over it.
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Post by basketdiva on Apr 10, 2017 14:05:19 GMT
Oh I am SOOO glad my mother didn't "celebrate" this with me. Dear god WHY???  |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2017 14:06:32 GMT
Please don't.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2017 14:09:52 GMT
Oh I am SOOO glad my mother didn't "celebrate" this with me. Dear god WHY??? Sorry I have to agree with christine58 I've not heard of anyone " celebrating" this |
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Post by Darcy Collins on Apr 10, 2017 14:10:10 GMT
Well you can go all Navajo on her and plan a 4 day feast and celebration with everyone you know. But if you're not Native American, she may disown you.
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Post by Country Ham on Apr 10, 2017 14:11:45 GMT
Of course this was over 40 years ago but my mother said "here's a pad, put it on" and the event was thus celebrated.
I am with everyone else. It's a biological function that's it.
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Post by Minnesota*Mom on Apr 10, 2017 14:15:39 GMT
No celebrations in our house either. There are many other great things in life to celebrate. This isn't one of them.
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Post by Kerri W on Apr 10, 2017 14:17:35 GMT
Oh I am SOOO glad my mother didn't "celebrate" this with me. Dear god WHY??? Let's repeat this. |
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Post by rickmer on Apr 10, 2017 14:17:55 GMT
no, there was no celebration over here. DD's friend let her stay home from school and they went for a nice "ladies lunch".
that is the only time i have heard of any type of recognition of this it a life event.
your dd may enjoy the idea of special time with you, but i would poke around a bit first.
even though she has no reason to, it just may be embarrassing for her and she may want to try to forget about it.
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Post by gar on Apr 10, 2017 14:21:54 GMT
No, sorry, I don't see any need to celebrate that particular event any more than I celebrated my first hot flush. I certainly talked to them, showed them what they needed to use, answered any questions, probably gave them a hug and that was about it  |
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Apr 10, 2017 14:24:07 GMT
My daughter would have been mortified.
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Post by nurseypants on Apr 10, 2017 14:28:31 GMT
Erect a red tent in the backyard.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2017 14:31:54 GMT
I think it depends on your dd's attitude towards it. Does she want to celebrate or do you?
For my first dd, I explained to her how to use a tampon, (because my mother NEVER talked about any of it and I had to have a friend show me how to insert one...talk about mortified) told her the basics and said I was always here if she had questions. I gave her a small pouch filled with tampons and pads to carry with her to school every day for "just in case". That's it. That's all she needed and wanted.
My other dd is just SO ready to be grown up. She just can't wait for all of the milestones. So for her, if she wanted to celebrate I would take her someplace special like Starbucks or a favorite restaurant for lunch.
I say do what you think your dd will appreciate.
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Post by workingclassdog on Apr 10, 2017 14:33:33 GMT
Gotta agree... no way...
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2017 14:40:40 GMT
Got it. The Peas hate their periods. Truth be told, I do too. It's a moronic system and one I would never have instituted if I were the omnipotent designer of the universe. Far better to have a little switch somewhere - "yes, ready for kids" or "no, not interested". I think we'll still do something to mark the occasion when it happens. Probably a little weekend away. But thanks for the insights.  |
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She wouldn't have been in a good place right then for doing anything special. And even for the first several months afterwards, she was pretty much miserable all of the time either because she was experiencing it or dreading the next one. poor kid. Luckily things did settle down for her after the first 6 months or so. But that was a rough time for her. She just needed a lot of extra understanding, love, & comfort.
