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Post by melanell on Jun 18, 2017 3:31:01 GMT
Oh my gosh, before I even opened this thread I was thinking "No, but I sure did give a stink eye to that chatty family at the graduation today. Why go if you're going to just chat through the entire thing?
Then at one point the daughter (teen) had a water bottle that she had finished and she kept crunching the empty bottle over and over again. At that point a woman in front of me looked back at them and gave them a nasty glare, too.
Finally, some unseen person behind me did let out a very emphatic "SHHH!!!" in their direction.
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Post by melanell on Jun 18, 2017 3:33:07 GMT
I have once or twice, it's never gone over well and once really escalated the situation. I suffer in silence now. This is exactly why I don't usually say anything. I figure that if people are acting rudely, they might act even worse if called out for it. Save
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Post by melanell on Jun 18, 2017 3:36:24 GMT
I have a friend who talks (loudly!) when we go to the movies and it drives me batty. I don't go to the theater with her often because of it. I've "jokingly" said "shhhhhhh!", hoping she will get the hint, but she keeps on yapping. I have a friend who talks during events and I always try to just nod quickly or smile and then very obviously look engrossed in what is happening to try to give her the hint. If that doesn't work I say "oh, what was that? Darn, I just missed something." Thankfully a few of those tends to do the trick, but I need to do them every time. Save
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Post by peano on Jun 18, 2017 3:43:10 GMT
Luckily I haven't had to recently, but several years ago, after trying without success to get some people to shut up during a movie, I went to get an usher, which worked.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 18, 2017 4:17:35 GMT
Ha, yes! My DH sat in church one day fuming when two young college boys wouldn't stop talking during a ceremony. He turned around and told them that he came to hear the guy on stage, not them.
And I don't become a nice person in movie theatres...two young teenage girls wouldn't stop talking and giggling right in front of us. I fumed for a while but eventually leaned over and told them I paid to watch the move and not to listen to two girls chat and giggle like little school girls. They were quiet but glared periodically. 😀
Another time a group of young teen boys wouldn't stop acting like idiots. I must have been in a mood because I got up walked over and said two words "shut. up." Then sat down with apparently a middle finger pointed in my direction. 😀 but they were quiet after that.
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 18, 2017 4:21:55 GMT
My friends and I (all of us teachers) were at the theatre to see "Dirty Dancing" and these women two rows behind us kept talking.
Eventually my friend turned around and said "shh" but they kept on so then she turned around and said "can you please be quiet?" in her very best, calm teacher voice at the same time as someone else said "shh" They made some comment about paying a lot of money for their seats and my friend answered "so did WE!" Finally they stopped. As we were leaving they were still in their seats and were talking loudly about how RUDE people from Adelaide were and they wouldn't like to come back!
And I am going to be honest here I have wanted to say it so many times at staff meetings or training and development seminars I have attended. Teachers can be the worst side talkers. Funnily enough many times it is the ones who run their classes with an iron fist, allowing very little noise who are the ones who keep talking themselves. I always turn my back on them and ignore because it is a bit hard to tell off colleagues whom you have to work with daily. Corinne
So very true. I am good at writing notes instead of chatting.
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Post by ~summer~ on Jun 18, 2017 4:24:44 GMT
I don't think so though I have wanted to.
I have though told my MIL to be quiet when she answered her cell phone in the middle of my son's band concert. She got very indignant and yelled at me "excuse me for needing to work and take a phone call"....which was funny because I "work" and take phone calls but not in the middle of a concert.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 18, 2017 7:08:08 GMT
All. The. time. I have no qualms about telling people to stfu. I really don't understand why people think they have to right to ruin other people's experiences by talking. slightly different, but I was on a chairlift going up a mountain yesterday and some guy behind me started bouncing his chair to make his daughter laugh. Of course it bounced the whole cable and everyone's chair started bouncing around. I really wasn't in the mood, and after the third time I yelled "stop". I didn't hear his reply, but he stopped. I could understand some goofy teens, but this guy was way too old not to realize what he was doing affected everyone else.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jun 18, 2017 7:33:05 GMT
Yep. In the theatre when the woman in the row behind insisted on singing along. Eventually she was asked to leave when someone else made a bigger fuss.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 18, 2017 7:58:01 GMT
I was at Culvers once when Matthew was like a year and a half old. A high school team was in there after an event and they were being ridiculously loud. My parents and I were in a booth and couldn't even hear each other.
I finally turned around and said, "would you mind keeping it down a bit? You guys are very loud and we're inside and we can't even hear each other at our own table."
The coach lost his shit on me, accusing me of trying to silence him because I was a white woman and he was a black man. He said if I had a problem I should have complained to the manager and let HIM do the talking. I was dumbstruck. I told him his race never occurred to me in this issue and I said, "why would I go tattle on you instead of talking to you person to person like an adult human being?" He didn't have an answer and stopped after that but he screamed and cussed at me for a long time. I couldn't believe someone would intimidate someone in front of a baby or kids they were leading but this guy was nuts and I was afraid because he was so unhinged.
Aside from telling one know-it-all 10 year old homeschool boy to shut his trap because even though HE knew everything on the field trip, the rest of us didn't, I've never done it again because that one guy was so aggressive. I don't need another one of those encounters.
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Post by Lindarina on Jun 18, 2017 8:24:29 GMT
After I became a teacher I found it much easier to shush people on pucblic. I've developed a stern body language and the famous teacher stare that makes people obey right away ![:D](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/grin.png) No, not really. I've never tried shushing someone over 20. Not brave enough ![:D](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/grin.png)
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Post by miominmio on Jun 18, 2017 8:32:37 GMT
I have told people to be quiet before, and will do so again. They usually send me a nasty glare, but one got really nasty. I let him rant for a few seconds, then told him to shut his trap or else I would call the cops and tell them I felt threatened ![:D](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/grin.png) THAT shut him up pretty quick! I've dealt with nastier people than him in my life, and it takes a lot to scare me.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 18, 2017 9:33:54 GMT
Yes I have told adults and children to stop talking/singing/rustling candy papers and looking at their phone/tablet ( the light it very distracting) and I have no hesitation in doing so.
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Post by tduby1 on Jun 18, 2017 10:59:19 GMT
I think I might have been the culprit at this years dance recital. Dd is 17 and has been dancing since she was 3. The stars of the show every single year are the 3 and 4 year old classes because honestly they just get on the stage and do what ever they want. One little girl might be standing on her head, while another is twirling in circles and at least one stops half way and starts bossing the others around (every single year- my daughter was the one when she was little), directing them on stage. There is always one singing their little heart out rather than dancing. When Dd was little she was too close to the curtain once and would dance right off the stage and back on again. It is the cutest thing and *everyone enjoys it so much, giggling at the cuteness the entire time.
This year the people in front of us had a little dancer and took offense to the giggling, ours specifically. They shot us a stink eye several times and finally at the end of their first dance they made a big show of moving to get away from us.
I think their problem was they were recording the show (which we are told at the very beginning is not allowed anyway) and they didn't want the giggling In it. Of course, if they wanted a professional video of it, they should have just bought one from the professional videographer hired to record the show.
And if I was rude for giggling then so was an entire auditorium full of people, including the dance teachers. But I think they were far ruder for relocating 1/4 of the row mid-show and I doubt they were any happier in their new seats.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jun 18, 2017 11:05:21 GMT
slightly different, but I was on a chairlift going up a mountain yesterday and some guy behind me started bouncing his chair to make his daughter laugh. Of course it bounced the whole cable and everyone's chair started bouncing around. I really wasn't in the mood, and after the third time I yelled "stop". I didn't hear his reply, but he stopped. I could understand some goofy teens, but this guy was way too old not to realize what he was doing affected everyone else. (bolding mine) Oh my gosh, I would have peed myself! What a dumb, inconsiderate thing for him to do.
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Post by Rhondito on Jun 18, 2017 13:35:46 GMT
My daughter and I were eating in an Applebees one afternoon, sitting in the bar area, when on the tv all of the sudden there was Urban Meyer announcing his departure from UF - I was stunned. There was a group of men behind us talking loudly and I couldn't hear the tv. I turned around and gave the loudest SHHHHHHH known to man. Then there was silence. My daughter was mortified. After the report was over I realized what I had done and I walked to their table and apologized, explaining I was a huge Florida fan and had been taken off guard and my mother instincts had come out. They were actually very nice about it - thankfully!
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Post by JoP on Jun 18, 2017 15:08:35 GMT
Yes in both the cinema and the theatre. They get the look/stare first and if they continue they get a shhhhh please!
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Post by SabrinaP on Jun 18, 2017 18:02:53 GMT
I was at Culvers once when Matthew was like a year and a half old. A high school team was in there after an event and they were being ridiculously loud. My parents and I were in a booth and couldn't even hear each other. I finally turned around and said, "would you mind keeping it down a bit? You guys are very loud and we're inside and we can't even hear each other at our own table." The coach lost his shit on me, accusing me of trying to silence him because I was a white woman and he was a black man. He said if I had a problem I should have complained to the manager and let HIM do the talking. I was dumbstruck. I told him his race never occurred to me in this issue and I said, "why would I go tattle on you instead of talking to you person to person like an adult human being?" He didn't have an answer and stopped after that but he screamed and cussed at me for a long time. I couldn't believe someone would intimidate someone in front of a baby or kids they were leading but this guy was nuts and I was afraid because he was so unhinged. Aside from telling one know-it-all 10 year old homeschool boy to shut his trap because even though HE knew everything on the field trip, the rest of us didn't, I've never done it again because that one guy was so aggressive. I don't need another one of those encounters. Did you contact their school? I sure as hell would have been emailing the athletic director and the school principal. This behavior is unacceptable from a school coach.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 18, 2017 18:13:05 GMT
I was at Culvers once when Matthew was like a year and a half old. A high school team was in there after an event and they were being ridiculously loud. My parents and I were in a booth and couldn't even hear each other. I finally turned around and said, "would you mind keeping it down a bit? You guys are very loud and we're inside and we can't even hear each other at our own table." The coach lost his shit on me, accusing me of trying to silence him because I was a white woman and he was a black man. He said if I had a problem I should have complained to the manager and let HIM do the talking. I was dumbstruck. I told him his race never occurred to me in this issue and I said, "why would I go tattle on you instead of talking to you person to person like an adult human being?" He didn't have an answer and stopped after that but he screamed and cussed at me for a long time. I couldn't believe someone would intimidate someone in front of a baby or kids they were leading but this guy was nuts and I was afraid because he was so unhinged. Aside from telling one know-it-all 10 year old homeschool boy to shut his trap because even though HE knew everything on the field trip, the rest of us didn't, I've never done it again because that one guy was so aggressive. I don't need another one of those encounters. Did you contact their school? I sure as hell would have been emailing the athletic director and the school principal. This behavior is unacceptable from a school coach. I did and the school ignored me.
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Post by cycworker on Jun 18, 2017 18:21:59 GMT
I haven't needed to, by what I can only imagine is luck. I think it's the combo of my death glare, which includes a severely raised eyebrow, and the wheelchair. I've been told I've perfected the look to the point people likely fear I'll run em over.
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Post by finaledition on Jun 18, 2017 19:40:49 GMT
I would have done the same. I was just amazed at the rudeness I saw when I attended my kids' graduation. I've also hollered for people to sit down when I'm trying to take a photo and they are just aimlessly milling about.
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Post by anniefb on Jun 18, 2017 22:06:23 GMT
I usually just try giving 'the look' and hope that does the trick.
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Post by tincin on Jun 18, 2017 23:18:17 GMT
Too many times to remember them all. My favorite time was at a football game. My XH and I waited patiently through the first half of the game for half time. We were sitting directly in front of a father and son, maybe 11 or 12. When half time started they began yelling and carrying on. I turned around and politely asked them to quiet down, that we couldn't even hear the band which was why we were there. The boy told me no he didn't have to and didn't care because he was there to see the game and his father sat there with a smirk on his face. Then they got even louder.
No worries. After half time, when the game started I stood up. I was directly in front of the young man. He yelled hey sit down, I can't see. I turned around, smiled and said, "No, I don't have to. I only came to see the band." I must've stood there for another 5 minutes just to teach him a lesson. The people behind him, also band parents, just laughed. My XH was so embarrassed. Whatever guy but I'd like to believe that maybe, just maybe, he is a little more polite now.
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Post by annabella on Jun 18, 2017 23:36:18 GMT
Yesterday I went to go see the Tupac movie and had young people around me talking. I just gave them the death stare. I'm not going to confront some young hot head who will give a show for his friends.
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Post by maryland on Jun 19, 2017 0:48:25 GMT
My kids were at a dance competition a few years ago and Abby Lee Miller's group was there competing. Abby Lee had a question and answer session for the dancers on the stage before the competition. The girls were so excited! The parents were allowed to sit in the auditorium and listen too. There was a couple in the audience with a screaming toddler. They didn't leave the auditorium to try to calm their child. So a little girl was trying to ask Abby Lee a question, and Abby Lee asked the parents to take the child outside and told them they were being rude (or something like that). I think my husband became a fan of hers after that! ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg)
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Post by maryland on Jun 19, 2017 0:58:19 GMT
Too many times to remember them all. My favorite time was at a football game. My XH and I waited patiently through the first half of the game for half time. We were sitting directly in front of a father and son, maybe 11 or 12. When half time started they began yelling and carrying on. I turned around and politely asked them to quiet down, that we couldn't even hear the band which was why we were there. The boy told me no he didn't have to and didn't care because he was there to see the game and his father sat there with a smirk on his face. Then they got even louder. No worries. After half time, when the game started I stood up. I was directly in front of the young man. He yelled hey sit down, I can't see. I turned around, smiled and said, "No, I don't have to. I only came to see the band." I must've stood there for another 5 minutes just to teach him a lesson. The people behind him, also band parents, just laughed. My XH was so embarrassed. Whatever guy but I'd like to believe that maybe, just maybe, he is a little more polite now. I love that! I don't go to see the games either, I go to see the dance team! I was on the poms at Univ. of Maryland so dance teams and bands are the best part of the game! ![:smile:](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/smiley.png) I love that you did the same thing to them after halftime. I hope it was when their team was about to score!
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Post by txdancermom on Jun 19, 2017 1:11:20 GMT
I have shhh'd people
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Post by ~KellyAnn~ on Jun 19, 2017 1:11:22 GMT
I employ the death stare or shushing because people can turn it around and make a scene.
(I have texted my downstairs neighbor several times. I live in an upper condo and unfortunately, it is not soundproofed well.
The neighbor is a little person with a very high pitched voice and has a dog that barks a lot. Her adult son, with a very loud, deep voice, lived with her in the beginning, and they argued all the time. My dd and I could practically hear, word-for-word, what they were fighting about.
In the middle of the night once, we were woken up by a very intense fight, screeching and doors slamming. I found her number in our condo association page and texted her to see if she was ok or needed the police. It got very quiet. She texted back and said her son had hit her, but she asked him to leave. She was apologetic and didn't realize we could hear her!! Yes, probably because we are considerate and mindful upstairs neighbors.
The son moved out four months later, but we know when he visits. He talks so loud, bangs doors and plays video games wth that incessant repetitive music. I text her and he usually tones it down.)
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Post by sunraynnc on Jun 19, 2017 1:18:48 GMT
During a hs chorus concert, two women behind me kept talking. I gave them a glare and they switched to a foreign language at the same volume! Hello! I can still HEAR you!
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Post by flute4peace on Jun 19, 2017 1:19:53 GMT
More than once. I try to hold it as long as I can stand it but sometimes I just have to say something.
Worst one was a couple years ago. I was playing in the pit band for our school musical & there were a couple of girls sitting in the front row of seats trying to distract the actors & make them mess up. I put a stop to that right quick.
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