I'm pissed at my insurance agent

Well, hey little lady, did you buy a car that brings out the color in your eyes? What a sexist asshole! I would call your insurance company and demand a new agent. Meanwhile, I would also call this guy back, cause I'm like that and let him know that going behind your back like that is absolutely not appropriate and he has now lost a client!

IF (and that's a BIG if) the agent normally deals with your husband and this is only the first or second time he's spoken to you about the policies, I can see why he MIGHT call DH to verify that it was actually you that he spoke with and that the change is something DH approves of (as in, not someone else who has no authority calling to make the change- ie, one of DS's friends pranking him, an angry exGF, etc).

Insurance companies do have laws they have to follow as to who is allowed to make changes on a policy, what changes need to be in writing and which ones can be dones over the phone, etc. Just because both you and DH are listed on the policy doesn't necessarily mean you both have the authority (per insurance laws) to make changes.

Guess who is at this very moment working on moving her policies?

How do you do that? Check first if it's legal in your state to do that without informing the other party. Why do you do that?

What an ass. I'd be spending the afternoon calling around for quotes and moving everything ASAP. Once it's moved, I'd light his ass on fire with a letter to him, copying any managers you can find, along with corporate. Depending on how their company is structured, there may be several people to include in your list -- agency manager, District manager, regional VP, etc. There will be a Customer Relations department at corporate that handles strictly problems and complaints. They will be very interested in hearing what you have to say.

I work in for two insurance agents. Neither of them would ever dream of making a follow up call to anyone's husband to contradict what the wife had called in. If you're a named insured on the policy, we are going to do as instructed and move along, not play divide and conquer with your spouse.

Your rep has to be older. When I started, we had one old guy around in our agency who did business like that. He's retired now. My reps miss him, because they'd get reassigned all the accounts where he'd managed to piss off the wife.

And, his favorite life insurance sales bit was to get a meeting with both spouses, pitch a big life policy on the DH, and if they turned down the sale, he'd say to the wife "Your DH must not love you very much of he isn't willing to protect you financially." Winner.

I'd still call him today and ask why he called my husband. I'd be all for lighting him up and changing everything, but I'd want to make sure I was right. I'm inclined to think he's a sexist, but I'd want to confirm that before I reported him.

It's not enough to demand a new agent - from what I remember, whatever agent sold the policies keeps getting commission on the policy as long as you keep renewing, even if you change to a new agent. You need a whole new company, and like everyone else said, make sure everyone up the chain knows exactly why you are changing.

Also, autocorrect changed your insult to kind of a compliment

I'm thinking that he wasn't playing the "little woman can't make a decision" card so much as the "if I can get out-of-touch husband to renew everything with one payment, that gets me another year" card. Which is still totally sexist, but in the opposite direction!

I'd be ticked as well. However, I learned that most companies are sexist when helping my niece with financial items when she went through a divorce.  For example, a credit card is taken out in both husband and wife's name, but if the wife calls to get a pay off amount, she can't get the info because the husband is always listed as the primary.  IRS is the same way.  With that, I'm thinking that is also how the insurance company operates and he was just confirming with the "primary".  Shouldn't be this way, unless a couple decides it should be that way.  Like a place on the account that indicated equal partners or one is primary over the other. 

I have USAA and they don't do this. I'm the one who has a military connection to qualify and have had them my entire life. My DH has never called them. I have done all the business with them our family has needed including adding and removing car policies, changing our house policy when we moved out for a reno, and making updates. I recently got a call from them to update some info and they asked for me not my DH.

When we first got married and moved in together some utilities were in my name and some were in his name. It was hard because if I didn't start the account sometimes they would question my authority to make changes (which is understandable). After our remodel I made sure everything was in my name so I didn't have to involve DH (what he prefered). If a company called him to ask a question about our account he would tell them to call me.

I would guess some people record the conversation because they aren't taking notes and wish to be able to refer to what was said. I get what you are saying, but it's not being used in a court of law but as a reference. That's not to say I am 100% comfortable with it, but many of the companies will state that they record calls when going through a central call centre, yet the local branch is kind of shielded because they don't. 

Nope. I'd be out of there too. What an ass.

Wow,some balls there...he would be sitting on them take a deep breath and soon would be upchucking them...idiot...

That came from me reading too many insurance complaints and not checking the source!! Sorry! I'll go edit.