imsirius
Prolific Pea
Call it as I see it.
Posts: 7,661
Location: Floating in the black veil.
Jul 12, 2014 19:59:28 GMT
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Post by imsirius on Jul 21, 2017 20:48:03 GMT
Olan said: You all hate me and I think a large number of you voted for 45 and basically ruined the world. If we all hate her, why does she come here? And IDGAF what anyone thinks of me. I asked Olan that very question and her response was basically that nobody will run her off and if she chooses to be here and I don't like it to ignore her. it's all a power trip. |
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flute4peace
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,757
Jul 3, 2014 14:38:35 GMT
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Post by flute4peace on Jul 21, 2017 21:13:19 GMT
I think I need a break. And no, this is not a hair flip and I'm not going to delete my name. But I definitely don't want to continue to come to a place that makes me feel uncomfortable to be black, something I did not choose to be. And I've said for MONTHS there are people and posts here that are causing that feeling over and over. Nothing has changed and I deserve to go somewhere I don't constantly feel uncomfortable. I've been here since 2001 and I feel this board is the most political than it has ever been. I just don't like it and I know myself well enough to know I need to remove myself from it all for a while. I need new perspective. So enjoy guys! I've taken a break before a longgggg time ago and it was beneficial so I hope this one will be too. I wish you all the best, Dani, and will be looking forward to your return. If anything I've said has come across as offensive, please know that it was unknowing and accept my deepest apologies.  |
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Post by *KAS* on Jul 21, 2017 21:14:02 GMT
Olan said: You all hate me and I think a large number of you voted for 45 and basically ruined the world. If we all hate her, why does she come here? And IDGAF what anyone thinks of me. FTR, I don't hate her. Just trying to understand her perspective. But I also don't get a flip about what others think of me. I learned long ago not to post anything here that could haunt me later. I see people here all the time say they tell others about things said with the peas, or do polls here, or share stories from here. Heck, sometimes when talking to somebody IRL I'll say something like "a friend of mine said" when really it was somebody here (so I don't have to explain who you all are, lol). Pea conversations could come up for any number of reasons. So the fact that Olan said she likes things to be able to recall / find them later doesn't bother me in the slightest. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Jul 21, 2017 21:19:43 GMT
Am I the only one who doesn't really pay attention to who likes my posts?? I am so glad to be so confused and I really don't care. Once and awhile I see a pea friend like my posts but for the most part, I read a post, I might or might not comment and move on.. so easy to do. Half the time I don't even know who is posting unless I really recognize certain peas.. And off I go back into the real world.
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Post by ro on Jul 21, 2017 21:20:35 GMT
I think I need a break. And no, this is not a hair flip and I'm not going to delete my name. But I definitely don't want to continue to come to a place that makes me feel uncomfortable to be black, something I did not choose to be. And I've said for MONTHS there are people and posts here that are causing that feeling over and over. Nothing has changed and I deserve to go somewhere I don't constantly feel uncomfortable. I've been here since 2001 and I feel this board is the most political than it has ever been. I just don't like it and I know myself well enough to know I need to remove myself from it all for a while. I need new perspective. So enjoy guys! I've taken a break before a longgggg time ago and it was beneficial so I hope this one will be too. I am.bery sorry to read this. However, I can see why you are so uncomfortable. I am too -- and I am a white woman. I have no issue with Olan because regardless of how many people claim that she instigated it, is unreasonable etc.,the fact is the moment people take her words on a personal level and take such offense at her words, they are the ones who shut down dialogue and assume things can't be so bad because they like black people. I personally find it offensive that peas didn't just accept her experience and focused more on defending themselves and their ancestors. She as a single black woman does not need to provide the answers for us white folk. The onus is on us to be active and respectful of African American people and culture. It's always good to take a break -- I'm off to Europe so I won't be keeping up with the recipe as. Take care dani-Mani |
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Post by melanell on Jul 21, 2017 21:26:25 GMT
I think I need a break. And no, this is not a hair flip and I'm not going to delete my name. But I definitely don't want to continue to come to a place that makes me feel uncomfortable to be black, something I did not choose to be. And I've said for MONTHS there are people and posts here that are causing that feeling over and over. Nothing has changed and I deserve to go somewhere I don't constantly feel uncomfortable. I've been here since 2001 and I feel this board is the most political than it has ever been. I just don't like it and I know myself well enough to know I need to remove myself from it all for a while. I need new perspective. So enjoy guys! I've taken a break before a longgggg time ago and it was beneficial so I hope this one will be too. Hugs to you. I'm really sorry you are leaving and I hope that you will find the board to be a better place when you choose to return someday. Take care. Save |
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inkedup
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,837
Jun 26, 2014 5:00:26 GMT
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Post by inkedup on Jul 21, 2017 21:30:38 GMT
And she admitted to and denied in the same paragraph that she was tracking peas! She's not tracking them, just liking them so she can more easily pull them out to show NON-peas the threads (same as tracking/compiling...) Take responsibility for your own hatefulness Olan, you're quick to blame anyone else. I'm confused...I didn't vote for 45, so I think I'm clear on the ruining the world thing, amiright? Some key words to take from Olan's response here. TO DIRECT NON PEAS TO SPECIFIC THREADS Olan is showing our site to non peas who then target us off site. Ahhhh..this is not right. She is tracking Ps posts, so she can DIRECT them to NON pes?? WTF??? This is the big reason so many of us don't post on here anymore. Or have formed off-shoot groups with people we trust. If she's trying to kill this forum, she's doing a good job. Is there anyway we can start to close the forum down to the public? I don't feel comfortable with someone saying that to us. I'm sure plenty of non-peas peruse this site on a daily basis. It's public and registration isn't required to read. I don't understand the outrage. How is Olan discussing something she saw here any different than one of us discussing it with our husbands or non-pea friends? This isn't Fight Club. I agree with Olan on some things, and disagree with her about others. But it doesn't bother me one whit that she would talk with her non-pea friends and mention something she read here. I don't understand why that would make you so "uncomfortable." |
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Peal
Pearl Clutcher
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Jun 25, 2014 22:45:40 GMT
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Post by Peal on Jul 21, 2017 22:02:42 GMT
Ahhhh..this is not right. She is tracking Ps posts, so she can DIRECT them to NON pes?? WTF??? This is the big reason so many of us don't post on here anymore. Or have formed off-shoot groups with people we trust. If she's trying to kill this forum, she's doing a good job. Is there anyway we can start to close the forum down to the public? I don't feel comfortable with someone saying that to us. I'm sure plenty of non-peas peruse this site on a daily basis. It's public and registration isn't required to read. I don't understand the outrage. How is Olan discussing something she saw here any different than one of us discussing it with our husbands or non-pea friends? This isn't Fight Club.
I agree with Olan on some things, and disagree with her about others. But it doesn't bother me one whit that she would talk with her friends and mention something she read here. I don't understand why that would make you so "uncomfortable." It's kinda Flight Club. Lots of punches are thrown and none of it is real. Save |
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Jul 21, 2017 22:07:41 GMT
Donny, is that you?? did you take the phone away from Sean Spicer again, honey? <pats head> ...just set it down; here's your gold-plated binky... |
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scrappinmama
Drama Llama
Posts: 5,121
Jun 26, 2014 12:54:09 GMT
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Post by scrappinmama on Jul 21, 2017 22:14:42 GMT
Damn this thread is bumming me out. I love to come here and chat, encourage when needed, find out about recipes, mourn when there is a loss, laugh at a funny post, discuss politics, and buy things that I had no idea that I wanted(Instant Pot).  I don't have a beef with either pea. But it makes me sad and nervous when I read some of the accusations. This is the case of one pea's story vs the other and the truth is probably somewhere in the middle. And I'm not meaning to say that someone is lying. It's just that they see it only on their side. The rest of us who aren't involved are just on the sidelines trying to form an opinion. I don't know, because I'm just learning about this issue. I'm rambling. But it's just making me want to post less. For the record, I like posts because I either agree with them, or want them to know that I read their comment, or you know, just like their comment. |
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inkedup
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,837
Jun 26, 2014 5:00:26 GMT
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Post by inkedup on Jul 21, 2017 22:18:59 GMT
I'm sure plenty of non-peas peruse this site on a daily basis. It's public and registration isn't required to read. I don't understand the outrage. How is Olan discussing something she saw here any different than one of us discussing it with our husbands or non-pea friends? This isn't Fight Club.
I agree with Olan on some things, and disagree with her about others. But it doesn't bother me one whit that she would talk with her friends and mention something she read here. I don't understand why that would make you so "uncomfortable." It's kinda Flight Club. Lots of punches are thrown and none of it is real. SaveTouche!  |
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 22, 2017 0:07:11 GMT
I think I need a break. And no, this is not a hair flip and I'm not going to delete my name. But I definitely don't want to continue to come to a place that makes me feel uncomfortable to be black, something I did not choose to be. And I've said for MONTHS there are people and posts here that are causing that feeling over and over. Nothing has changed and I deserve to go somewhere I don't constantly feel uncomfortable. I've been here since 2001 and I feel this board is the most political than it has ever been. I just don't like it and I know myself well enough to know I need to remove myself from it all for a while. I need new perspective. So enjoy guys! I've taken a break before a longgggg time ago and it was beneficial so I hope this one will be too. I understand your need to take a break, but please know that many of us will miss you and hope you return soon. On a side note, like someone else mentioned, I have slowed down my visits and posts because of the change in the board. I try not to post on any thread Olan is on. Everything isn't about race like she wants to make it out to be and I'm tired of my words being twisted into something they weren't. I also didn't vote for 45 and I sure as heck don't need to even see 6 to 8 threads about him on the front page every time I visit. I wish the block feature was working for threads like it does for posts  Olan has specifically said she likes posts so she can show them to other people to show them how racist we are. That is not what we 'think' she said, or someone's side of the story, that is what she has said herself on why she likes posts. She doesn't like what was said in the post, she likes the post so she can find it later. |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 22, 2017 2:50:59 GMT
Anyone can join this forum, close it down to the public ffs! there are a LOT of forums that are closed to the general public. There's nothing wrong with that. it's not oversharing - it's sharing at all it sounds like you are laying blame where it doesn't belong I'm not meaning to put all the blame on Olan. she is just one of a few wacky Ps that are doing these mean things to others. It just brought it to light again. We used to have pages and pages of new threads every day. now we have one page. People are scared to post on here. |
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marimoose
Pearl Clutcher
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Post by marimoose on Jul 22, 2017 4:28:44 GMT
Am I the only one who doesn't really pay attention to who likes my posts?? I am so glad to be so confused and I really don't care. Once and awhile I see a pea friend like my posts but for the most part, I read a post, I might or might not comment and move on.. so easy to do. Half the time I don't even know who is posting unless I really recognize certain peas.. And off I go back into the real world. Much of the time I feel like I am in the dark. I am a tad confused by some of the discussion on this thread and am wondering why I am even giving it any time to try to figure it all out. I read posts that catch my attention, steering well clear of the ones marked political. I love that those are tagged. Some love them, I do not. Much like you workingclassdog, I recognize certain peas, mostly the ones that don't make me tense:) This board is an escape from the real life and sometimes (lately), it fails so I return to the normal world and turn on music:) Life is too short for such strife. |
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craftykitten
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,304
Jun 26, 2014 7:39:32 GMT
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Post by craftykitten on Jul 22, 2017 9:36:24 GMT
Anyone can join this forum, close it down to the public ffs! there are a LOT of forums that are closed to the general public. There's nothing wrong with that. it's not oversharing - it's sharing at all it sounds like you are laying blame where it doesn't belong I'm not meaning to put all the blame on Olan. she is just one of a few wacky Ps that are doing these mean things to others. It just brought it to light again. We used to have pages and pages of new threads every day. now we have one page. People are scared to post on here. Who is scared to post? There seem to be lots of new threads every day. Every single thread has something like 10x the number of views than the number of posts. We all need to remember that anyone could be reading anything we put on here. It's up to us as individuals how much we share and whether that includes anything identifiable. How would closing the forum to non members help? Because I'm sure there are plenty of people registered who don't post. How would we 'vet' new people? You simply can't. That's why it's on each individual to decide how much they want to post and share. |
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Nanner
Drama Llama
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Post by Nanner on Jul 22, 2017 12:34:10 GMT
Dani, I'm sorry you feel like you have to leave for a little while, and I do hope you'll come back after a break.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 22, 2017 15:11:19 GMT
Who is scared to post? There seem to be lots of new threads every day. Every single thread has something like 10x the number of views than the number of posts. We all need to remember that anyone could be reading anything we put on here. It's up to us as individuals how much we share and whether that includes anything identifiable. How would closing the forum to non members help? Because I'm sure there are plenty of people registered who don't post. How would we 'vet' new people? You simply can't. That's why it's on each individual to decide how much they want to post and share. WHO is scared to post here?!! I hope you aren't serious Many. of course I'm not going to post names. I know for a fact I can not post things on here, that I would have posted in the past. There are people that have left the board because of it. I agree with you on the vetting and how to do that. it's basically impossible to do now. Hence why new boards will be formed more and more, and less posting and members here. look forward to more...what's for dinner, share your favorite zucchini recipe, and should I eat this threads. |
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Post by gar on Jul 22, 2017 15:30:13 GMT
Who is scared to post? There seem to be lots of new threads every day. Every single thread has something like 10x the number of views than the number of posts. We all need to remember that anyone could be reading anything we put on here. It's up to us as individuals how much we share and whether that includes anything identifiable. How would closing the forum to non members help? Because I'm sure there are plenty of people registered who don't post. How would we 'vet' new people? You simply can't. That's why it's on each individual to decide how much they want to post and share. WHO is scared to post here?!! I hope you aren't serious Many. of course I'm not going to post names. I know for a fact I can not post things on here, that I would have posted in the past. There are people that have left the board because of it. I agree with you on the vetting and how to do that. it's basically impossible to do now. Hence why new boards will be formed more and more, and less posting and members here. look forward to more...what's for dinner, share your favorite zucchini recipe, and should I eat this threads. I know some folk were wary of the political threads but other than that what are people scared of posting about? Just a couple of weeks ago when we celebrated our 3rd anniversary most people were saying how much more involved in this board than the old one because it was gentler... |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 22, 2017 15:39:22 GMT
I think some of you have a serious head in the sand thinking of this board. what are people scared of posting? anything besides trivial talk. I'm really not going to list the many examples,Plus they don't post them here. they aren't political stuff either.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jul 22, 2017 15:43:11 GMT
I think some of you have a serious head in the sand thinking of this board. what are people scared of posting? anything besides trivial talk. I'm really not going to list the many examples,Plus they don't post them here. I think if people are shaking with fear about posting here they should find another board. They don't belong on a board that causes them that much anxiety. |
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inkedup
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,837
Jun 26, 2014 5:00:26 GMT
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Post by inkedup on Jul 22, 2017 15:43:29 GMT
I think some of you have a serious head in the sand thinking of this board. what are people scared of posting? anything besides trivial talk. I'm really not going to list the many examples,Plus they don't post them here. We get it, Cindy. You're a member of a secret squirrel group where everyone feels free to share social security numbers and cheer Donald Trump and his "accomplishments." If this place is too scary and no longer serves your (or anyone else's) needs, then why even bother posting here? Why not stick to your safe space? |
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JustTricia
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 2,849
Location: Indianapolis
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Post by JustTricia on Jul 22, 2017 15:49:54 GMT
WHO is scared to post here?!! I hope you aren't serious Many. of course I'm not going to post names. I know for a fact I can not post things on here, that I would have posted in the past. There are people that have left the board because of it. I agree with you on the vetting and how to do that. it's basically impossible to do now. Hence why new boards will be formed more and more, and less posting and members here. look forward to more...what's for dinner, share your favorite zucchini recipe, and should I eat this threads. I know some folk were wary of the political threads but other than that what are people scared of posting about? Just a couple of weeks ago when we celebrated our 3rd anniversary most people were saying how much more involved in this board than the old one because it was gentler... We've had, what, two instances where posters here have had real life complications due to what they posted here. I can't remember the specifics of both, but one was a family Birthday party, the second was about a photographer maybe? After those instances many peas said they would be much more careful about what was posted here for fear someone would search out the real life people and let them know what was said about them. |
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inkedup
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,837
Jun 26, 2014 5:00:26 GMT
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Post by inkedup on Jul 22, 2017 15:57:50 GMT
I know some folk were wary of the political threads but other than that what are people scared of posting about? Just a couple of weeks ago when we celebrated our 3rd anniversary most people were saying how much more involved in this board than the old one because it was gentler... We've had, what, two instances where posters here have had real life complications due to what they posted here. I can't remember the specifics of both, but one was a family Birthday party, the second was about a photographer maybe? After those instances many peas said they would be much more careful about what was posted here for fear someone would search out the real life people and let them know what was said about them. And what does any of that have to do with this thread? Or any of us talking with non-Peas about something posted on this public message board? |
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Post by mollycoddle on Jul 22, 2017 16:14:07 GMT
We've had, what, two instances where posters here have had real life complications due to what they posted here. I can't remember the specifics of both, but one was a family Birthday party, the second was about a photographer maybe? After those instances many peas said they would be much more careful about what was posted here for fear someone would search out the real life people and let them know what was said about them. And what does any of that have to do with this thread? Or any of us talking with non-Peas about something posted on this public message board? I think that it's a good reminder that wherever you are online, it's a good idea to leave a light footprint and not to overshare. I remember one pea who overshared and some whackjob called her place of employment. Most of us know this already, of course, because we've seen it happen to others. |
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Nov 23, 2024 7:50:16 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2017 16:15:19 GMT
I think some of you have a serious head in the sand thinking of this board. what are people scared of posting? anything besides trivial talk. I'm really not going to list the many examples,Plus they don't post them here. I think if people are shaking with fear about posting here they should find another board. They don't belong on a board that causes them that much anxiety. Or curl in to the fetal position in a darkened room and stay there. Save |
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Post by femalebusiness on Jul 22, 2017 16:17:44 GMT
I think if people are shaking with fear about posting here they should find another board. They don't belong on a board that causes them that much anxiety. Or curl in to the fetal position in a darkened room and stay there. SaveI started to write exactly that but decided to edit myself so as not to scare the scared ones. LOL |
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Post by gar on Jul 22, 2017 16:37:16 GMT
I know some folk were wary of the political threads but other than that what are people scared of posting about? Just a couple of weeks ago when we celebrated our 3rd anniversary most people were saying how much more involved in this board than the old one because it was gentler... We've had, what, two instances where posters here have had real life complications due to what they posted here. I can't remember the specifics of both, but one was a family Birthday party, the second was about a photographer maybe? After those instances many peas said they would be much more careful about what was posted here for fear someone would search out the real life people and let them know what was said about them. Indeed, but we were discussing people being afraid of the sharp tongue of other peas here not common sense rules for the internet. |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 22, 2017 16:40:21 GMT
I think if people are shaking with fear about posting here they should find another board. They don't belong on a board that causes them that much anxiety. I never said it caused them that much anxiety. and a lot have found other places. why not find a safer place to post then here? Vs the hassle on here sometimes, And yes, some people don't want that. I always like a little debate, so I'm still hanging in here. |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 22, 2017 16:43:49 GMT
get it, Cindy. You're a member of a secret squirrel group where everyone feels free to share social security numbers and cheer Donald Trump and his "accomplishments." If this place is too scary and no longer serves your (or anyone else's) needs, then why even bother posting here? Why not stick to your safe space? WTH? Donald trump?? where in the world did you come up with that/  LOLPIMP!! I am posting to this thread, and to what other's have commented on. I don't have a problem sharing the trivial stuff on here. That's what I post on, and share with. There are many things I would love to talk to the ps about and share. would I?? hell NO!! and many many feel the same way. we just had one person comment on oversharing, and another P stating she likes posts for NON Peas to look at. why? hmmm.... |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 22, 2017 16:45:05 GMT
We've had, what, two instances where posters here have had real life complications due to what they posted here. I can't remember the specifics of both, but one was a family Birthday party, the second was about a photographer maybe? After those instances many peas said they would be much more careful about what was posted here for fear someone would search out the real life people and let them know what was said about them. Two RECENT examples. there are many before those. |
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I don't have a beef with either pea. But it makes me sad and nervous when I read some of the accusations. This is the case of one pea's story vs the other and the truth is probably somewhere in the middle. And I'm not meaning to say that someone is lying. It's just that they see it only on their side. The rest of us who aren't involved are just on the sidelines trying to form an opinion. I don't know, because I'm just learning about this issue. I'm rambling. But it's just making me want to post less.
LOLPIMP!!