Olan.....is the sweetest pea ever! ;)

Because we already have enough problems on here, let alone, NOW we are being pointed out to others, to do WHAT with exactly? Don't you wonder/

In typical pea fashion a few peas go from zero to 60   Every statement or opinion is not all or nothing

After the mentioned instances a few peas did say they were worried to share to much/to personal because of non peas either being directed here or finding the threads. Some other peas have slowed down their posting because they feel the tone of the board has changed for them. And some people feel Olan doesn't post for discussion but more to put us in our place for how blacks have and are being treated. And so she can point out how racist most of the peas are.

Leave it to the internet for a someone to take a sentence that says scared, to people having anxiety or more 

cindyupnorth Oh yes, because sitting on another "private" board gossiping about everyone here is so much nicer. It is only, "bullying" (using your word) if you don't do it behind people's backs. :eyeroll:

I have no clue as to who this "Olan" person is and the only reason I clicked on the thread was it was at six pages and figured something ridiculous was going on and I was right. I didn't even have to read all six pages to figure out the jest of this post.

For those who complain about how people have been run off of this board because it's "too mean" or whatever excuse they are using, surely can't be the same people who has participated in what appears to be a pretty big pile on another person on this thread?

That's not happening where I am. I don't know if other private boards are doing it. maybe they are. I know there are quite a few.


And I KNOW you don't know how you come across. I have no idea what someone would do with our posts. I know exactly what bullying means. I think I've used it twice here? not sure. Don't care. You come across as a bully.

1) Some people will always think any forum that doesn't validate any asinine or crazy pants opinion they have is bullying them
2) Some people care way too much about what people say on the internet and not enough about what happens offline
3) Some people are fucking crazy and over-invested in what other people are doing and saying
4) Anyone who doxxes someone or otherwise breaches the boundary between online and real life (barring a life or death emergency) is an asshole and a bad person.
5) This place is a gentle meadow of rainbows and kittens and flowers and gumdrops on the scale of 0 to Scary on the internet

That's all I've got.

A question was asked what are people wary of posting here. I answered that question as it was being discussed in that part of the thread. I don't get why my response to literally a question that was actually asked in this thread is such an issue.

Edited to add, going back to look, it's a question YOU asked. I answered your question.

I could be wrong, but I find it hard to believe that Olan wants to sic her friends on the peas. They might come here to discuss a thread. <shrug>. It's a free country, and it might be interesting discussion. YMMV.

I think we are all aware of the fact that Mrs. Tyler's employer was contacted. Over at the other site. Probably more than a decade ago.

I think the Peas who posted at that time were (and still are) in universal agreement of the fact that what happened to Mrs. T was fucked up and wrong.  Still, if you don't want something you put on the web to come back and haunt you, then don't put it on the web. Period. Crazy people are EVERYWHERE, and the web is full of crazies with too much time on their hands. Does it make it right? Of course not. But it happens, all the time, so it's in our best interest to protect ourselves.

And you straight up said that you were afraid that Olan and her friends might look people up. I can see why you deleted. 

Psssst: I didn't call you out, and no one would have known it was you if you hadn't decided to defend what you supposedly didn't say. You are contradicting yourself, but I don't care enough to argue, either. We both know what you said and how ugly it was. I don't need to put words into your mouth. You obviously realized what you said was problematic because you deleted it.

Was less than a decade ago. In fact probably more like 2-3 years ago. I watched that happen here and it was disgusting.

It did not happen here. It happened at Two Peas. This forum is three years old. So you are incorrect, christine58.

It's disgusting and bat shit crazy either way.

It was disgusting that's for sure.

Olan liking posts seems like no big deal to me.

I actually think that there are many on the board who don't realize how much they share. It's not what is posted in one post - it is the cumulation of many posts.

There is no excuse for what happened to Mrs Tyler - it was awful but she was one who definitely overshared information. If you read her posts - she basically shared all her information here. If I remember correctly - she posted her full name, occupation, where she lived, pictures of her house and pictures of her and her family.

How many links have people posted to houses they are buying over the years. That totally creeps me out when people do that.

There are many posts where people post their name, spouses name, location, age or occupation. If you answer all these questions - you might as well start posting your address and phone number because if someone wanted to - they could easily find Your address and phone number.

It's all common sense - don't overshare - nothing to worry about.