Grrrr...I'm Fixin' To Have To Write Apology Notes!

Wow, I can't believe your son graduated! Time flies. Yeah, this is one of the pains in the butt but you are a good mom for making sure they get done. I always offer to address the envelopes to help things move along.

BTW, you look FAB Keri!

Was a bad mom and didn't throw a grad party for mine     but it is always a pain to get them to write them for any occasion.  

Good luck - stay strong!  

I am right there with ya. DD has about 1/4 done. She said she feels overwhelmed. Has over 100 to write. So we divided them up in smaller piles, vs looking at a huge pile, and she has been doing a pile ever so often. When did your ds graduate? DDs was end of may! I was like, you NEED to get these out before july 1st. Don't think she's going to make it though. She works a full time job in the summer, plus friends, etc. SO I get it, but it's like a cloud hanging over things.

We do this too.

Monica* - I love your new photo!

It's fun to receive the gifts that someone went out of their way to purchase and wrap and possibly mail. Yet, my kids think the one minute that it takes to write a thank you note is like an eternity. It's called gratitude attitude, dears.

Kerri, dd has been writing these personal notes in every card! ha. She got a thank you yesterday that was 2 lines, and she was like....I need to do this! ha. So I think the thank you's she's doing now will be much less personal.

Sort of a hijack but.... When I was very young (20) and in the throws of love, lust and wedding planning
my only job was to write thank you notes.  It was my only job because my mother orchestrated the entire multi thousand details for this summer garden extravaganza.  I was given a list of people and presents and personalized notes on which to write.

i missed sending one note for a gift given by my grandfathers step-sister (someone I'd never met).  It was a stack of large white flour sack dish towels.  Ten of them, and ten years later in the middle of a divorce (also a summer extravaganza) and moving out, I found the list of people sending gifts and their addresses.

So I sent her a thank you note ten years later telling her those fabulous dish towels lasted longer than the marriage.  I got a call from another distance relative about 2 months later telling me she had passed, but that thank you note was the highlight of her last six weeks on earth.  It got passed around the nursing home multiple times and created a lot of stories among the folks.

so sorry,had to get that off my chest.  And to say... It is so true, "better late than never".

I've had the same problem with my DS. I like to tell him that I know he's an "adult" and I put finger quotes around adult. He likes the entitlements of adulthood but not the responsibilities. Drives him crazy.

I've had to impound gifts from use until thank you's are written. My kids are both awful at it. I can nag and nag and they just don't hear me. So I release gifts one at a time once thank you's are written addressed and stamped. (except my sisters she literally said she didn't care to my kids ) Then I had to institute the 'cash last' policy: that I only release cash after all thank you's are written, because they would not finish if they didn't really need the gift yet.

That is a smart idea. I'm going to have to keep this in mind when my kids graduate.

It was such a pain to get both my kids to write those thank you notes after they graduated, it was tempting just to do it myself. Of course, that is exactly what they wanted. I held out, and they finally got the notes written after much angst and arguing.

My son who just graduated on May 30 finally wrote his thank you notes last week. You would have thought I had asked him to go have a root canal, but he did finish them. Now if he would just get a job.

My kids are 7 and 10, but ever since they were old enough to draw, the rule has always been if you don't draw/write thank you letters within 2 weeks the gift would be returned. We've never had to do this, the threat alone was enough (they know me well enough to know I would carry out the threat)