tanya2
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Post by tanya2 on Sept 29, 2017 3:44:26 GMT
I agree, just order whatever you want to drink. if anyone even bothers to give you a hard time (and I bet they won't) just tell them you feel very strongly about drinking & driving
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Post by PaperAngel on Sept 29, 2017 3:52:56 GMT
Please do not feel peer pressure to consume alcohol. Consider fruity frozen non-alcoholic drinks, such as a virgin strawberry daiquiri, to keep appearances without drinking something you dislike. Otherwise, try dessert wines, such as moscato, that are sweet & fruity without an "alcohol" taste. Hope you enjoy the new club & its reading selections!
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Post by garcia5050 on Sept 29, 2017 4:26:01 GMT
I sometimes don't feel like drinking, and my drinking friends are pushy, so I'll just have a Shirley temple. If I do feel like something mild, then I will have a spritzer.
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Post by mom2samlibby on Sept 29, 2017 6:00:42 GMT
Fuzzy naval or amaretto sour
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Post by LeaP on Sept 29, 2017 6:26:16 GMT
Shirley Temple of course! I made these for my daughter's birthday party and the grown-ups went crazy. It is made with ginger ale, a splash of grenadine, and a maraschino cherry.
Also, I agree with the other posters that advise you not to feel like you have to drink. I like to drink, but depending on the bar or if I am tired I choose not to. I would never cast judgment on somebody who choses not to drink.
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Post by Patter on Sept 29, 2017 10:19:57 GMT
Thought I would ask here if there is a drink I can order that isn't a strong drink or tastes a lot like alcohol. Thanks! Soda. You're welcome. Seriously, drink what you want, no explanations necessary. Yes, that! I haven't had an alcoholic drink in 24 years. I hate alcohol. I am a water drinker. Sweet tea on occasion. I don't care what others think. Someone at my daughter's workplace invited her to a party with alcohol and he asked her what she liked to drink. She said she didn't drink, and his response was "We have to get you drinking." She said "No thank you. I don't like the taste." End of discussion, and who cares anyway. You have to do what is right for you. Also, if you are not a drinker, a mild drink could still effect you greatly since you don't drink. Will you get behind a wheel of a car and risk a DUI? Just food for thought.
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Post by Patter on Sept 29, 2017 10:24:26 GMT
This isn't middle school. Just because your peers are drinking doesn't mean you have to. I always hated the taste of alcohol. At a bar I would order a good ole' 7-UP. Who cares what others think? You're an adult. If you don't want to drink then don't drink. If someone says something tell them that you just don't drink and if they persist, ask them if you're back in middle school. I agree with you, but I have to say that I have gotten more peer pressure from a few people because I don't drink than I ever did for anything in middle school. I can't tell you how hard some people try to push an alcoholic beverage on other people. That is so sad. Why do people have to push alcohol on people? I don't get it! What does it matter to them? There are SO many reasons someone may not drink--medication, cost, religious reasons, in recovery, heck you never know.
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Post by monklady123 on Sept 29, 2017 10:26:56 GMT
Add me to the list of those who say just order a soda (or whatever you call fizzy non-alcoholic drinks in your area -- "coke" or "pop" or something else, lol). Or water if that's what you want. Or fruit juice of some kind. All bars have lots of that because it gets mixed with alcohol. No reason to drink just because the people you are with are drinking.
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Post by Kerri W on Sept 29, 2017 10:28:57 GMT
Order what you normally drink and skip the alcohol. You shouldn't be drinking and driving after even one drink if you never drink. How do you know how that one drink is going to affect you? And what happens months from now when your coworkers find out you don't really drink? You'll look silly for faking it. Give them the benefit of the doubt that they'll act like adults and not give a second thought to your beverage choice.
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Post by miss_lizzie on Sept 29, 2017 10:32:43 GMT
I don't drink either, so I have a soft drink (like Coke). Could you do that?
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Post by monklady123 on Sept 29, 2017 10:34:01 GMT
I agree with you, but I have to say that I have gotten more peer pressure from a few people because I don't drink than I ever did for anything in middle school. I can't tell you how hard some people try to push an alcoholic beverage on other people. That is so sad. Why do people have to push alcohol on people? I don't get it! What does it matter to them? There are SO many reasons someone may not drink--medication, cost, religious reasons, in recovery, heck you never know. I was just thinking this as I was reading through the rest of the thread (yeah...I replied before I read all the replies, lol). I don't understand why it's so important to some people that others consume alcohol. Especially the types like the one who said to your dd "we'll have to get you drinking". ![:blink:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/pd7N3dneptLj3pbgz5Gd.jpg) Why? As if we can't have fun without an alcoholic drink in our hand?
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Post by Patter on Sept 29, 2017 11:00:12 GMT
I agree monklady123--why do they have to get her drinking? I don't get it. My girls have grown up seeing me have a great time without alcohol. They know you can have an AMAZING time without alcohol. They make the right choice for them as we all should.
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Post by peabay on Sept 29, 2017 11:03:45 GMT
I'm in a book club with a bunch of real boozers and I'm getting over a bout of gastritis so I can't have any alcohol at all (even before, I was a nurse one beer kind of drinker. I drank enough in college to last my whole life.) I just drink water. And just say "no thanks" about 100 times a night when they try to pour me a glass of wine. You don't owe anyone an explanation or have any reason to feel embarrassed. Just practice "no thanks. Water is fine." Let them wonder if you have some dark history with alcohol or are still nursing a hangover from the night before or whatever.
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Post by epeanymous on Sept 29, 2017 11:14:35 GMT
I love cocktails, but I've been pregnant a lot, so have years of experience of going to events and bars and not drinking (often when not yet visibly pregnant or telling people), plus I now sleep badly if I have drinks in the late evening. I just ask the bartender to make me a virgin version of whatever juice-based cocktails they have on the menu, or I ask for some pineapple juice; it feels festive (I don't keep things like pineapple juice at home) but is non-alcoholic.
I think every decent-sized group has some non-drinkers in it. I am sorry you've been made to feel uncomfortable about it. If you really feel like you want to have a drink, I would ask for something like a wine spritzer, but I don't think you should feel like you have to.
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Post by Scrapbrat on Sept 29, 2017 11:29:33 GMT
Wow, lots of judgment on here. I'll just answer the question you asked. I agree with the poster that suggested having a white wine spritzer. This will be very light and it's something you can nurse the entire evening.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 29, 2017 11:40:15 GMT
This isn't middle school. Just because your peers are drinking doesn't mean you have to. I always hated the taste of alcohol. At a bar I would order a good ole' 7-UP. Who cares what others think? You're an adult. If you don't want to drink then don't drink. If someone says something tell them that you just don't drink and if they persist, ask them if you're back in middle school. I agree with you, but I have to say that I have gotten more peer pressure from a few people because I don't drink than I ever did for anything in middle school. I can't tell you how hard some people try to push an alcoholic beverage on other people. I do not drink. In MY experience, it is the ones with a serious drinking problem that push me/call me names/tease me. Like you said, it is worse than middle school.
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Post by pondrunner on Sept 29, 2017 11:46:47 GMT
Wow, lots of judgment on here. I'll just answer the question you asked. I agree with the poster that suggested having a white wine spritzer. This will be very light and it's something you can nurse the entire evening. It's OK to judge peer pressure for what it is.
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Post by liya on Sept 29, 2017 11:52:59 GMT
I do drink but when I don't want to I really enjoy a club soda with lime. Sometimes I'll ask for a splash of cranberry in it to mix things up. As others have said a wine spitzer can be a light drink if you like wine.
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Post by piebaker on Sept 29, 2017 12:25:31 GMT
If I drink, I light up like a Christmas tree and start perspiring (it's genetic), so I drink cranberry juice and club soda.
I have had white wine spritzers in the past or a pumpkin beer but there is a bitter taste.
Have fun at the book club.Suggest Starbucks or Panera for the next meeting.
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Post by scrappysurfer on Sept 29, 2017 12:43:42 GMT
Like everyone has said, there's no need for you to drink if you don't want to.
If you insist on having something besides water, then order a virgin pina colada.
Do you like the taste of sweet tea? There are sweet tea flavored vodkas that mixed with lemonade taste nothing like alcohol. Delicious.
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Post by maryannscraps on Sept 29, 2017 13:38:37 GMT
When I don't feel like drinking and want something festive, I order a skinny virgin margarita. I love love love lime, and the skinny margarita mix is yummy. Or I order a seltzer and lime (I like my water with bubbles.)
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Post by ChicagoKTS on Sept 29, 2017 13:48:24 GMT
While I think you should just drink what you want but for appearance, I think just putting a lime in a glass with club soda, cranberry juice with some 7up, or a coke makes it “look” like an alcoholic drink. Or white wine spritzers are very mild if you like wine.
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Post by littlemama on Sept 29, 2017 13:53:58 GMT
Order what you want and don't worry about the others.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 29, 2017 14:17:13 GMT
I agree with you, but I have to say that I have gotten more peer pressure from a few people because I don't drink than I ever did for anything in middle school. I can't tell you how hard some people try to push an alcoholic beverage on other people. That is so sad. Why do people have to push alcohol on people? I don't get it! What does it matter to them? There are SO many reasons someone may not drink--medication, cost, religious reasons, in recovery, heck you never know. Because I do not drink. In MY experience, it is the ones with a serious drinking problem that push me/call me names/tease me. Like you said, it is worse than middle school. THIS. ^^^ I come from a family with a lot of alcohol/chemical abuse (not my parents, but several of my siblings have/had serious issues). DH's family has a history too. At one point years ago I decided that even though I *don't* have those tendencies myself, I really didn't like it much, it's just not a good habit to get into plus it's expensive and I would rather spend my money on other things (especially back in the days when I barely had any money to begin with). When I gave it up entirely, the pushback I got from some of our "friends" at the time was insane! If you didn't have a drink in your hand there was no way possible you could be having any fun! ![:rolleyes:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/Ui47LhQw2NqWVWNNqtfM.jpg) DH completely understood and supported my reasons for not wanting to drink, and having grown up with alcoholics himself it totally baffled him that people could push someone so hard in the name of so-called fun. Even after I had been a non-drinker for a number of years, it would blow me away by how many people could not believe or understand why I wouldn't want to have a glass of wine or whatever when everyone else was. People I knew through work or hobbies or social groups would say, "I bet you'd be REALLY fun if you had a couple!" Um, NO, I'd be sleeping under the table which I don't think is all that fun, but thanks anyway. The people who seemed to pressure others the most always tended to be the ones who had the biggest problems with it themselves and honestly didn't even realize it. I think subconsciously, the reasoning was, "If everyone is getting a buzz/drunk, no one will notice how drunk *I* am." Needless to say, most of those "friends" are not in our social circle anymore. It's amazing how much more actual fun a person can have when there aren't a bunch of people hounding you all night because you're not getting lit up and stupid like they are. Normally I don't care whether people are drinking or not, but if you're going to give me crap about my NA beverage and then you proceed to get falling down stupid drunk, heck yeah I'm going to be a little judgy about that. (Especially if you're doing it in front of your kid/s.)
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Post by styxgirl on Sept 29, 2017 14:59:50 GMT
I used to have the same issue!
It was common for people I worked with to drink at our company's yearly sales meeting. I absolutely don't drink if I have to drive. Not even one. Plus, it's no fun if my spouse isn't there too!
People would hound me so I invented a "drink" that I love that makes it look like I'm partaking but I'm not ...
I would go to the bar alone and order 1/2 orange juice and 1/2 pinapple juice with a straw.
When people would ask me what it was, I would just tell them the "bartender's special" Worked like a charm!
My other trick is one my Grandmother taught me ... She and her group were really social drinkers back in the 60's and 70's. As she got older, she didn't really drink anymore. When she would go our with friends, she would order a 7-Up or Sprite with a splash of Cola in it. Looks like a mixed drink with whisky, but it's not!
But, don't feel pressured to drink if you don't want too!
I also hate going to bars because it SO darned expensive!!!
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Post by psiluvu on Sept 29, 2017 15:14:09 GMT
Order a club soda with a lime. It will look like a vodka soda. ![:yeahthat:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/yrGoHMAelQz8f2Qt0sjb.jpg) That is exactly what I do when I am the DD. I do love club soda though so I am not really trying to "hide" something.
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Post by GiantsFan on Sept 29, 2017 15:55:39 GMT
Order whatever you want - water, soda, iced tea, coffee. Just because you are at a bar doesn't mean you have to have an alcoholic drink.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Sept 29, 2017 16:39:19 GMT
The people who seemed to pressure others the most always tended to be the ones who had the biggest problems with it themselves and honestly didn't even realize it. I think subconsciously, the reasoning was, "If everyone is getting a buzz/drunk, no one will notice how drunk *I* am." Agreed!! You said better what I was thinking!
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Post by bianca42 on Sept 29, 2017 16:53:54 GMT
DH and I have a strict NO drinking and driving rule for either of us. (We drink at home, but my tolerance is low so it's just not worth the risk to either of us.) The girls from work all get together several times a year for a "winos" group. It's eating, drinking wine and catching up with each other. I always drink water and I don't care what anyone thinks.
Nobody gives me a hard time. I wouldn't drink to make other people comfortable.
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Post by dizzycheermom on Sept 29, 2017 17:06:07 GMT
I'm not "not a drinker", but I hate beer and wine, so that makes it tough at parties sometimes. I like 'fruity' drinks, and if I go to a restaurant or bar and don't have a strong hankering for a particular drink, I often just ask the server to surprise me with a girlie drink--something that comes with an umbrella and hopefully fruit on a stick--and I usually have pretty good luck with that! I like the hard iced teas (as long as they aren't a malt based drink, which goes back to hating beer, lol!) and lemonades. I like a Singapore Sling or anything with grenadine in it. I love the pineapple flavoured Malibu (even straight on the rocks, but it's good mixed with 7-Up, too), and I like the regular Malibu/coconut rum. Amaretto is good on the rocks--as long as you're sipping! I make my own *most amazing* raspberry cordial/vodka, which is my fave! Mostly anything that contains 7-Up/Sprite, rum/vodka, some kind of sugary liquid (juice, grenadine) and maybe some fruit is hard to go wrong with . . . So what is your raspberry cordial/vodka drink? ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg)
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