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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Nov 2, 2017 16:02:56 GMT
so I dont say it out there.
My Fucking Ex just spent $150 on MAKE UP for our daughter's birthday.
He has not given me a penny for her in months. He owes me thousands of dollars in back child support.
I just lost my job. I'm worried about having enough money to put food on the table.
He stopped paying for her health care back in Jan and didn't tell me.
There are things she needs that would have been a good gift with a small treat.
I don't want her to not have nice things. I just think he should be focused on making sure her basic needs are met... let her auntie or grandparents buy her the "extras".
I bought her some clothes for her birthday. She understands.
Buying her extravagant gifts right now is all about him. He really doesn't give a damn about her.
Thank you I needed to say that or I was going to type it to him or worse on FB.
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Post by scrappyesq on Nov 2, 2017 16:03:36 GMT
Hugs.
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Post by Anita on Nov 2, 2017 16:05:34 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2017 16:08:06 GMT
That sucks, but I do think you need to "type it to him".  |
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Nov 2, 2017 16:18:45 GMT
That sucks, but I do think you need to "type it to him". Maybe I should, but it just sucks always being the bitch! |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2017 16:19:16 GMT
really sorry hugs
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Post by anniebygaslight on Nov 2, 2017 16:23:58 GMT
I am sorry. He is a knob.
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Post by malibou on Nov 2, 2017 16:27:39 GMT
Yes, you need to type it to him. Is he aware you lost your job? Does he have a job? Why isn't he paying support? What an asshat he is.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2017 16:29:31 GMT
It's not being a bitch if you are stating facts.
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Post by femalebusiness on Nov 2, 2017 16:35:31 GMT
He needs to disappear as he is worthless. Let me know the time and place and I'll help you bury the body. Asshole!!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2017 16:48:36 GMT
That sucks, but I do think you need to "type it to him". Maybe I should, but it just sucks always being the bitch! You are NOT being a bitch. Get that out of your head right now. You are fighting for what is rightfully yours in order to provide for the basic needs of your daughter. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Nov 2, 2017 17:12:54 GMT
What an asshat! I'm so sorry
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Nov 2, 2017 17:14:49 GMT
Gah, I can't imagine. Is he doing it to get to you? Is he aware you lost your job? Why isn't he paying child support?
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Post by heartland on Nov 2, 2017 17:19:24 GMT
That just sucks. (((hugs)))
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Post by miominmio on Nov 2, 2017 17:22:35 GMT
I hate parents like that! Hugs.
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Post by flanz on Nov 2, 2017 17:25:04 GMT
Be firm in advocating for your daughter. Who cares if he thinks you're a bitch? You need that $ support and he needs to pay it!
(((HUGS)))
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Nov 2, 2017 17:47:36 GMT
(((hugs)))
I'm sorry you are dealing with that.
I totally get it, and want you to know that you are not being a bitch by wanting your ex to actually support your dd's basic needs.
It makes no sense to hand over $150 in fun gifts when all her most basic needs aren't being met first.
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Post by PaperAngel on Nov 2, 2017 18:11:20 GMT
(((hugs))) Expecting money owed to care for your daughter doesn't make you worthy of being called anything other than a responsible parent! Hoping you get the necessary paperwork filed to force your child(ren)'s father to pay arrears & find a great job soon. (((hugs)))
Happy Birthday to your daughter; hope she enjoy(ed) her special day! 🎉
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Post by casii on Nov 2, 2017 18:19:11 GMT
Ugh! We'd collectively hold your earrings while you boxed his ears.
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Post by azredhead on Nov 2, 2017 19:17:38 GMT
That sucks, but I do think you need to "type it to him". Yup and just him, it sucks being the kid on that end! HUGS to you both! |
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Post by craftedbys on Nov 2, 2017 19:55:19 GMT
He needs to disappear as he is worthless. Let me know the time and place and I'll help you bury the body. Asshole!! Now, now. Don't type it out! Then they can throw around words like "premeditated". It HAS got to seem spur of the moment. Not that my friends and I have discussed this, LOL. |
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Post by used2scrap on Nov 2, 2017 20:08:12 GMT
I'm sorry. People that want to be the fun hero instead of the solid day in/day out responsible parent suck!
Like $50 in makeup and $100 in support for necessities would be awful right?
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 2, 2017 20:17:11 GMT
That does suck and you have every right to be really ticked off.  It’s hard when only one parent pays attention to all the stuff that really matters. I hope your DD had a great birthday. Hugs— |
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Post by Lexica on Nov 2, 2017 20:25:51 GMT
Been in this spot many times with my son. I am assuming your ex knows you are without a job at the moment? Would he freak out if you told him you wanted to send your daughter to him for a few months until you got a job to better support her since he isn't paying any child support, or would he jump at the chance to get custody of her, even temporarily?
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Post by littlemama on Nov 2, 2017 20:27:23 GMT
I cant envision spending $150 on makeup for myself, much less a teen (I'm assuming she is a teen). Crazy!
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Post by maryannscraps on Nov 2, 2017 20:48:26 GMT
What a jerk. How can he just drop her from his health insurance? Big fat toad.
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Post by Really Red on Nov 2, 2017 21:01:49 GMT
I hear you. I hear you so so SO well. Can you write this to him (said the parent who has to do things like this from time to time)
"Thanks so much for the thoughtful gift for DD. It is exciting for her to get makeup, particularly now since I lost my job. She does have some real needs, though, and it would be great if you were able to come through on those. I'm struggling with even having enough money for groceries, much less clothing for her. If you are able to get me some of the back money you owe, I'd be super appreciative. I know times are tough for all of us, but I want to be sure DD has the basic necessities as well. Thanks a lot!"
Every time I have to be sweet to my ex, my sister has an apoplectic fit, but I get what I want. When I am short or mean, I don't get it. It's worth it to me to say it nicely even though he should know it!! It isn't fair that you're the only one thinking of her, but you have to get your money!!!
And I am sorry.
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Post by destined2bmom on Nov 2, 2017 21:03:21 GMT
Hugs! I can understand and I sympathize with you and how you feel about him and the situation.
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Post by pudgygroundhog on Nov 2, 2017 21:03:21 GMT
You have every right to be angry - what an ass. I'm sorry. |
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Post by lucyg on Nov 2, 2017 22:48:45 GMT
He sucks. I'm sorry. |
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It’s hard when only one parent pays attention to all the stuff that really matters. I hope your DD had a great birthday. Hugs—
