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Post by jackib on Sept 2, 2014 18:22:17 GMT
DH and I have been married 26 years this December. We have one DD who we had later in life. She will be 13 in December. Not sure why I added all this but anyway a couple of the ladies that work with DH told him that for our 25th anniversary he should get me a new wedding ring. They suggested 2 carat. DH came home and told me that he would get me a new ring and how much he was willing to spend.
I started looking at rings and I found one that I liked. It was smaller than the ladies suggested and MUCH less than what DH was willing to pay. I showed it to DH and he doesn't like it. He says it looks too much like the one I have. It is similar but I have yellow gold and it is white gold. The diamonds are a little bigger than what I have.
I finally found out that DH is thinking a solitaire. I like "sets". I asked him what I would do about a wedding band and he asked "What do you need one of those for?" I really don't want just a solitaire, especially without a wedding band. To me that is the engagement ring. I don't want to get a "Halo" ring, while I think they are pretty they are not my style (If I even have a style).
I know we have had wedding ring pictures before but ladies show me what you have or what you like. I did pick mine out 26 years ago and I still like it but would like to upgrade.
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Post by freebird on Sept 2, 2014 18:31:42 GMT
How about just getting your ring rhodium plated and getting a bigger diamond set in it? Sounds like you like the one that you have now.
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Post by jackib on Sept 2, 2014 18:35:26 GMT
How about just getting your ring rhodium plated and getting a bigger diamond set in it? Sounds like you like the one that you have now. I should look into that. Right now my rings are not soldered together (Another story) and one of the bands has a small crack in it so I could all the work done at that time.
I also am sentimental enough that I don't want to change the ring I have and just keep it. For what I am not sure, Give to DD some day...
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2014 18:38:01 GMT
DH and I don't have wedding rings or engagement rings, so my thinking may be way off... but shouldn't YOUR ring be something YOU like, not something that the ladies your DH works with suggest or something that HE wants?
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Post by Darcy Collins on Sept 2, 2014 18:46:06 GMT
I have a solitaire and a band that wraps around the solitaire. Similar to this one, although mine includes sapphires in the band:  |
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Post by jenjie on Sept 2, 2014 18:46:53 GMT
Or you could get an anniversary ring, which you would wear with your wedding set.
But do not feel like you have to change if you are happy with what you have.
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jackib
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Post by jackib on Sept 2, 2014 18:52:26 GMT
DH and I don't have wedding rings or engagement rings, so my thinking may be way off... but shouldn't YOUR ring be something YOU like, not something that the ladies your DH works with suggest or something that HE wants? Oh yes it should be my choice I would think if he told me I could have one but DH is not a man of original thought when it comes to getting gifts. This is the man that bought me the same exact necklace two years in a row. I suggest something and it goes in one ear and out the other but if someone from work suggests it well dang that sounds like a good idea.
I only brought this up because this weekend we were at the mall and wandered into a jewelry store and did quick look, and he was looking at the solitaires and I was looking at the sets. DD was just shaking her head.
I am not upset or anything just looking. I haven't exactly run right out and bought something. Just curious what others have/like/want and puzzled over DH's thinking.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Sept 2, 2014 18:56:13 GMT
DH and I don't have wedding rings or engagement rings, so my thinking may be way off... but shouldn't YOUR ring be something YOU like, not something that the ladies your DH works with suggest or something that HE wants? Oh yes it should be my choice I would think if he told me I could have one but DH is not a man of original thought when it comes to getting gifts. This is the man that bought me the same exact necklace two years in a row. I suggest something and it goes in one ear and out the other but if someone from work suggests it well dang that sounds like a good idea.
I only brought this up because this weekend we were at the mall and wandered into a jewelry store and did quick look, and he was looking at the solitaires and I was looking at the sets. DD was just shaking her head.
I am not upset or anything just looking. I haven't exactly run right out and bought something. Just curious what others have/like/want and puzzled over DH's thinking.
hmmm - perhaps it's important to him that he can give you a "big" diamond. I recall a coworker who was searching for a diamond for their anniversary. They married young, and it was a big deal to him that he could now afford a bigger diamond. Just speculating..... |
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Post by jackib on Sept 2, 2014 18:58:18 GMT
Darcy I like that.
Burning Feather, I do have an anniversary band. My wedding set has like a "swirl" shape and the anniversary band does not fit real well with it. I have worn them together but to me it doesn't look right. I have thought over the past 5 years of changing my ring but I didn't think I would get the go ahead from DH.
On the up side I get to drag him into stores to look at all the sparklies as DD puts it.
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Post by mimima on Sept 2, 2014 18:59:39 GMT
I recently had some work done on my set - the stone (a pearl) had come loose, so I replaced it. I've had some soldering work done through the years, but still love my set so I'd never change.
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Post by jackib on Sept 2, 2014 18:59:56 GMT
Darcy you could be on to something.
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Post by roundtwo on Sept 2, 2014 19:18:18 GMT
Look into a custom made ring that will sit well with the curve of your existing set. I had a custom ring made and was surprised at how reasonable the price was.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Sept 2, 2014 19:24:00 GMT
Darcy you could be on to something. Particularly if your "swirly" ring is like my Aunt's with quite a few small diamonds in a design, but no main stone. He may be seeing the solitaire style, and think it would be nice if you had a "big" diamond. He might not understand that the solitaire is usually coupled with some type of band - so they're still sets. Or I could be totally misunderstanding the situation. If the main stone isn't your style, it isn't your style. I don't think you should wear something everyday that you don't love. |
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Post by luckyexwife on Sept 2, 2014 19:43:44 GMT
Look into a custom made ring that will sit well with the curve of your existing set. I had a custom ring made and was surprised at how reasonable the price was. I was going to suggest the same thing. For their 20th anniversary, my sister had a custom band added to her wedding ring. Her ring also had a swirl, and the jeweler did an amazing job of designing and putting the new band on. They could fix the crack and add more to it. |
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Post by 3SugarBugs on Sept 2, 2014 19:52:59 GMT
If you have an anniversary band, can't you wear that as a wedding band and then get a solitare to go with? That way it's more of a set (for you) and DH still gets the solitare look too....
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Post by krc11 on Sept 2, 2014 20:02:51 GMT
I'm thinking he wants to upgrade you to a bigger stone. Are friendly with any of his co-workers? If you find what you want, snap a photo and send it to her and gush about how you hope he picks this style. Maybe she'll pass it on...
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Post by scrapaddie on Sept 2, 2014 21:10:02 GMT
At 25 years, I got an anniversary band. I love the way it looked with my wedding ring and engagement ring because both of those wins were very very small. Now that I am divorced, I still wear the anniversary band on occasion. 32 years of marriage should earn me a right to wear some type of ring.! LOL
Funny. Should earn came across as ' s$&t on me'. Kind of fitting!
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Post by Jili on Sept 2, 2014 21:16:20 GMT
If you have an anniversary band, can't you wear that as a wedding band and then get a solitare to go with? That way it's more of a set (for you) and DH still gets the solitare look too.... This is exactly what I was thinking. I have a solitaire and when we were married I had a plain gold band that was just a little wider than the solitaire band. At 10 years I got an anniversary band that I now wear along with my solitaire. Personally, I love this look. Simple, yet really classy. Maybe you could wear a new solitaire with your current anniversary band. You could also get your current set repaired, and then you can alternate wearing the two different ring sets-- depending on which one you feel like wearing on any given day.  |
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Sept 2, 2014 21:33:40 GMT
DH got me a 2 carat 3 stone princess cut anniversary band for our 25th. I wear it on my right hand, and my original set still on my left.
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Post by jackib on Sept 2, 2014 22:04:03 GMT
I do have a "Main" diamond in my setting. When you look at my ring the "engagement ring" has one straight side and one curved side and then the wedding band is the opposite so when you look down on the ring it looks like a "wrap". There are 4 small diamonds in each side of each band. Does that make sense? When I add my anniversary band there is a small gap on one side where the wedding band curves up. If I do get a new ring I do want to go with white gold or platinum.
I don't know the women at work at all. I have met them at holiday gatherings when on the few occasions I have been to DH's office. He works an hour from home.
I was just checking to see what others like and how they feel about a solitaire without a wedding band whether it has stones or not.
What I wanted to do was ask my mom for her original setting. She had the diamonds taken out and put in another ring and then this April someone broke into the house and took all the jewelry including the setting.
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Post by gar on Sept 2, 2014 22:08:04 GMT
I would go for an eternity ring in your situation.
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Post by leannec on Sept 2, 2014 22:14:57 GMT
For my 40th birthday a few years ago dh gave me a trinity ring ... I wear that now with my wedding band   |
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Post by jackib on Sept 2, 2014 22:21:25 GMT
Leannec that is very pretty. I really like the wedding band what was the original setting like?
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Post by zeutdog86 on Sept 2, 2014 22:28:17 GMT
I am too sentimental to upgrade and/or change my wedding rings even though I don't wear them now. I removed them when I was 7 months pregnant with DD1 and I've never been able to wear them since. My rings are a size 4. Since DH doesn't wear his either, I have all three on a necklace and only wear occasionally.
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Post by KikiPea on Sept 2, 2014 22:47:18 GMT
The first pic is my original wedding ring that DH picked out all by himself, which I love.  . I have lost 45 lbs with 15 to go and with the diamonds going down the sides, I'm not sure I can have it sized down small enough to fit my left finger. I am very sentimental and would love to continue to wear it, so if I can't get it resized small enough, I now have one I can wear on the left and I will wear this one on my right. So, DH bought this one  To wear as my wedding ring. It's actually considered an engagement or anniversary ring, so I could wear it on either hand. I love them both! I also have an actual 3 diamond past, present, future anniversary ring that I will eventually have turned into drop earrings and a pendant so I can still wear the diamonds DH picked out for me. |
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Post by KelleeM on Sept 2, 2014 23:00:22 GMT
 I've been married less than two years. My dh picked out my rings and we were both shocked that I loved them...they're not big but I really love them! |
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Post by jackib on Sept 2, 2014 23:55:43 GMT
Kelleem Those are very pretty
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Post by Basket1lady on Sept 3, 2014 0:03:18 GMT
I like the idea of taking the rings that you have to a jeweler and asking for a custom design. You can keep your original set and alter the anniversary ring and have a larger stone(s) added. Our 25th anniversary is next year and DH wants to buy me a larger diamond for exactly the reason Darcy stated. We married right out of college and my rings were on sale. DH has his grandfather's wedding ring. I don't want a new set, but I wouldn't mind something a little bigger, as you really can't even see the diamond chip, it's so small. But it seems like bad luck to toss the old set, and I'm not a superstitious person. I'm glad we married when we did and we got the rings we could afford.
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Post by *christine* on Sept 3, 2014 0:38:18 GMT
If you still love your wedding rings, why not another piece of jewelry altogether? I never wore my engagement and wedding rings together, I wore them on each ring finger. For our 10th anniversary, I got a domed platinum ring with lots of diamonds, and then for my 40th bday, I got a three stone sapphire and diamond ring.
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 3, 2014 1:35:23 GMT
I wear my wedding ring on my left hand my mom's wedding and engagement ring on my right hand. I love having her rings. Nothing wrong with diamonds on both hands. I also took a giant ring she had with three diamonds in it and had the gold melted and the jeweler made me a new ring that mimics my wedding one. Love that one too.
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