s/o Valentine Parent of Twins-advice needed!

It IS expensive, but you have two children. If they were in different classes or different grades you would need to buy twice the valentines.  Having two in the same class is no different.  Do you want the other kids to feel they can save a little by giving your boys a valentine with both of their names on it?  Or do you want them thinking of your boys as individuals, each deserving of a card or treat? 

eta: at 2 I don't think it is too big of a deal unless you will be with the same group of parents for the next few years.  I doubt the wands can be returned so you might as well have one of the boys give them and get a card or some sticker sheets or something the other child can give.

I didn't see the other thread but I 100% think you're just fine. They sound cute!

In this one instance, the boys are not in pre-school much, and you have a nice item, would think it's fine, but I agree with voltagain, you have two children. For now, the little ones won't care too much about the separate items, but it would be nice for the boys to be known individually, than for "the twins".

Or if you're really worried, get two $1 boxes of paper cards from Dollar Tree in addition to the wands. They have cute stuff and current characters.

I agree that each of your children need to give a gift to each of the other children, not give one joint gift. They are individuals and should be treated as such.

Are wands a good gift to be given at school? For some reason, I envision the kids whacking each other with them...

My only thought is you are sending a message to other families that you consider sons to be a team and will participate as one entity, the twins. Do you want to set up the situation that others treat them this way?

At 2 I don't think it is a big deal to hand out one of something, but if they are going to go through school with many of these kids the pattern could continue. 

You really don’t see a problem with parents treating their children as one unit rather then separate people?  The biggest gripe I hear from twins is that they were dressed alike as children and that they were treated as one person.   It isn’t a huge deal, no one said it was, but if everyone in the class only gave the twins one Valentine to share that wouldn’t be ok, so why is it ok in the reverse?

How nice of you to roll your eyes at something that several twin parents have weighed in on as being an issue when it obviously isn’t an issue you’ve dealt with. 

As a twin mom, my opinion of the OP is that while the wands at 2 are not a big deal, it IS setting the tone for your children’s experience with this set of parents. Being far from 2 (my twins are 26) I can tell you with certainty that not being treated as individuals is an issue that you will deal with. You’re setting the tone now for how that plays out. 

I agree 100% with Kerri W you are setting the tone. You may think tone isn't set at 2yo, but, for example, many (most?) twin parents call their kids the birth order names (first born, second born)all the time. Like Alice and Bob are in preschool, love Alice and Bob, etc. Never Bob and Alice. Yet other parents dress them alike for years (!!!!!) Studies have shown this to have an impact on twins.

Basically, it should be easy for a parent to make their kids feel like they are two separate beings and not one entity, but the problem is the rest of the world sees them as one entity. Make the rest of the world see them as you do.

So, again, totally NOT about two-year-olds getting one or two things on Valentine's Day. It's all about YOUR perception of your kids and encouraging others to see them as you do.

On the other thread, for example, one parent wrote that it was cute that her son called the twins in his class something like Ashley and Other Ashley. That is not cute to me at all. The same parent couldn't be bothered to tell these girls apart herself. I cannot tell you how many people would tell me they couldn't remember who was who with my girls. I have a blue-eyed blonde and a brown-eyed brunette and there are three inches between them. They did not (and do not) like being mistaken for each other. It's as if they aren't important enough to remember.

The struggle is real, even with fraternal twins.

Your children are each going to receive a Valentine from every child; therefore they should each be giving a valentine to every child. Think of them as being in different grades - this wouldn't even be a question.

Mom of twins here. They are almost 24 years old, but I still remember!

I think you are fine for now. Believe me, soon enough they figure out that they are separate people and will find ways to be individuals. Go ahead and send the wands from both kids. They are super young and won't comprehend...they are just giving gifts to their friends! Other kids in preschool are not going to be counting gifts or saying, "Hey, how come they only gave us one gift???" It will all be fine.

All bets are off, though, as they get older. I think age 5 was the year our twins asked for separate birthday parties. And so it began...

How many kids are in a class for 2 year olds? I wouldn’t imagine more than 10.

Lots of great advice here. Your children will be “the twins” forever. You have to show people they are individuals. Being identical makes that even harder (not sure if yours are or not). We had to work very hard to get people to see our girls as individuals. My mom and her identical twin still dress alike and they love it. But we knew God gave our girls different gifts and they are different people even though they look alike. Getting others to see that is a task. You want to start “training” people so to speak that they are individuals. I think adding something small for the other one to give out is a great idea but on the other hand part of me says go as you have it but learn for next time. My girls didn’t start preschool until they were 3, and it becomes increasing different as they got older (especially by 4).

The kids of course won’t remember but the parents do which can set that president that they are not individuals but always seen as the twins.