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Post by gmcwife1 on Apr 21, 2018 18:12:00 GMT
The term 'gal' really sets my teeth on edge too... but I've noticed some people use it here like it's part of their normal vocabulary. Every time I've seen it used, it's in a condescending way. My apologies. I use the term as the female version of guy. Gal means "a girl or young woman". I honestly didn't know it was offensive. Same for me, gal is the female version of guy. To me calling a woman a girl is less respectful as I wouldn’t call a man a boy. |
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Post by gmcwife1 on Apr 21, 2018 18:16:36 GMT
My ds is now 36 and just celebrated his 11th anniversary with his gf. She came into their relationship older then him and with five kids. He has been a wonderful influence on my grandkids and it’s been a very good experience for all of us. It’s also why I was a great grandmother at 50   |
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Post by kibblesandbits on Apr 21, 2018 18:19:30 GMT
Your daughter is single with a baby. Tell me her experiences. Go. Well, this tidbit adds a whole new dimension to the conversation. SaveSave |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 21, 2018 19:07:08 GMT
Thank you all for answering.
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Post by peasquared on Apr 21, 2018 21:08:07 GMT
I am that woman. I was 27 with two kids under three when I met my DH. Seeing him with my kids for the first time, after quite a bit of dating, was what made me realize he was the one. He was and is a great dad to them and loves them as his own.
Luckily for me, his parents were also supportive. I will never forget the first Christmas my kids came to their house. It was their first time meeting them. My MIL had stockings hanging with their names. It meant the world to me!
I am thankful there are people who see it for what it is; a lovely bonus!
ETA: We are celebrating our 25th Anniversary this summer
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Post by mom26 on Apr 21, 2018 21:36:03 GMT
My ds is now 36 and just celebrated his 11th anniversary with his gf. She came into their relationship older then him and with five kids. He has been a wonderful influence on my grandkids and it’s been a very good experience for all of us. It’s also why I was a great grandmother at 50 I became a grandmother at 40!  One of my daughters was involved in two different relationships where the men had children. We adored those kids and loved having them be a part of our family. We thought of them as our grandchildren. But neither relationship ended well and many hearts were broken. As that is my experience, I would just advise caution to all involved. I would never deter it, as wonderful, amazing things could result, but one should be aware of the fallout if the relationship doesn't last. |
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Post by caro on Apr 22, 2018 0:41:34 GMT
I was the gal with two little ones, a widow. After 42 years and two more kids I would say it worked out pretty well. All situations are different so whether it’s a good thing or not depends. We were 24 and 27. We were both mature adults. We both knew what we wanted in a relationship.
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Post by scrapngranny on Apr 22, 2018 23:18:40 GMT
If the relationship is going to be permanent, you have to love the child as much as the girl.
My grandmother married my (not bio) grandfather when my mom was three and her brother was 4. He was the best grandpa ever. He died in 1989 and I still miss him.
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Post by oaksong on Apr 22, 2018 23:35:24 GMT
I am the child of a teenage mother who had 2 kids by the age of 19, and a father who disappeared from our lives by the time she was 20. It wasn’t an ideal situation, in part because of her narcissistic personality, but we were taken care of as well as most, I guess. She met my stepfather when I was 6. He was always a good father to us. He was unable to have children, and his family treated us like their own.
When DB was divorced with a child, has started dating someone with 2 kids. One of the considerations for him in getting married was the opportunity to be a blessing to her kids, and to create a stable family for all of the kids. He knows that if it weren’t for our stepfather, his path might have been very different, and not in a good way.
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Post by jenjie on Apr 22, 2018 23:50:10 GMT
“When DB was divorced with a child, has started dating someone with 2 kids. One of the considerations for him in getting married was the opportunity to be a blessing to her kids, and to create a stable family for all of the kids. He knows that if it weren’t for our stepfather, his path might have been very different, and not in a good way.” oaksong that’s beautiful. If it wasn’t for my stepmom, who is more of a mom than my mother ever was, our lives would be very different. |
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Post by gale w on Apr 22, 2018 23:56:50 GMT
The word gal doesn't offend me either. Lots of people around here use it, including me. I can't keep up with what is and isn't offensive anymore.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2018 0:27:46 GMT
Well that didn't last long.
My son met a young woman . They have been talking a lot and he has been meeting her for coffee. She must have been special, because he has never shown an interest in dating a gal with a child.
He told me about her last Monday. I am grand baby crazy, and would have one before I leave this mortal coil. Of course I am over the moon excited. Probably bordering on creepy excited.
They were supposed to go for an outing today, but it didn't happen. I think that they are not going to seeing each other anymore.
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Post by tincin on Apr 23, 2018 1:21:23 GMT
My only experience is a cousin who fell more deeply in love with the child than with the mother. It was really hard for him to break up when he knew he'd be leaving that precious child behind, and he stayed in the relationship longer than he would have otherwise. That happened with my son as well. We loved the kids but the mom was a trip. It lasted way longer than it should have because he loved them and worried about them. They dated a couple of years. |
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Post by Legacy Girl on Apr 23, 2018 2:21:54 GMT
The word gal doesn't offend me either. Lots of people around here use it, including me. I can't keep up with what is and isn't offensive anymore. Unfortunately, it gets easier to figure out all the time. EVERYTHING is offensive these days.  |
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