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Post by gillyp on Apr 21, 2018 22:08:04 GMT
Daniel Craig could probably persuade me to do anything.
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Post by uksue on Apr 21, 2018 22:11:32 GMT
I was almost 42 when I had my third - at that time I was fit and healthy and I was still exhausted !
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Post by padresfan619 on Apr 21, 2018 22:24:51 GMT
What new parent isn’t tired? Good for them!
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Post by KikiPea on Apr 21, 2018 23:10:37 GMT
¯\_(ツ)_/¯ If they want it, that’s what counts. My SIL has my nephew at 40. My brother is 48, and wouldn’t have it any other way. He’s a smitten kitten! |
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Post by melanell on Apr 21, 2018 23:10:43 GMT
It's not for me, but I'm all for others deciding it's right for them. There are plenty of women out there who probably have more energy to deal with a newborn at 48 than I had a decade earlier than that.  I know some people raise their eyebrows at women having babies in their 40s in general, never mind this far into their 40s, but in my mom's family, there have been a good number of women who had babies well into their 40s, so I don't really even consider it that unusual. I'm just glad it's not me.  |
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Post by melanell on Apr 21, 2018 23:16:28 GMT
I had my first child at 30 and my fourth at 40. While I had good and easy pregnancies every time, being older definitely made a difference. If it was a choice, I’d try to have babies before the mid-thirties... but sometimes it’s out of a person’s control. I’d rather have a baby later than not have one at all. That reminds me of this video I saw recently of a 53 year old mom. Seriously..this video had me teary-eyed. I could just feel how lucky this woman considers herself to be to have this little girl.  Better late---53 year old mom on Youtube |
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Post by hannahruth on Apr 22, 2018 0:19:26 GMT
I thought I was getting too old for babies at 30 (my second and last).
A baby at 48? No but the thought of a 10 year old at 58 is enough to do my head in!
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Post by scrappyesq on Apr 22, 2018 0:30:15 GMT
I don't have a choice....I never wanted to have a child when I wasn't married (although I know plenty of people that did. Just not my thing). I didn't get married until I was 34, then life happened. I'm 44 and I figure at the earliest we won't have our first until I'm 45 or 46. Not how I thought things would be, but I don't want children with anyone but DH. It gives me hope to hear stories like this.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 22, 2018 0:34:37 GMT
But chances are she won’t see many grandkids. Her child will have parents with health issues most of her life. My mom was only 2 years younger than that when she had me. She knew all 11 of her grandchildren well. She did have health issues at the end of her life (about 1.5 years) , but it wasn't "most of my life" ... My dad was the same age then, as Daniel Craig is. 50 I was born way later than my siblings and was quite a surprise. LOL But having older parents wasn't all bad. We did fun things because they were retired by the time I was in middle school. We traveled and they were financially secure, so life was just a little easier than what my older siblings got to experience. This was before the age of having your kids in every kind of activity from toddler age on, so I remember going on bike rides with them, playing backyard catch, fishing, going for drives, and just hanging out talking, etc. I always felt lucky having older parents. Same. My mom was 40 when she had me and 42 when she had my younger brother (and there were six more before us!). I have several siblings that had kids at 40 or beyond, so it isn’t unusual in my family. I had my only at 43 and I have no regrets because we were as ready as we could have been at that time. Neither one of us would have been good parents in our 20’s (and we were married to each other back then already). Now having said that, and knowing what I know now about myself, I don’t think I would have a *second* one any later than that. I go through life perennially tired, not so much from chasing my kid around but more because I sleep so much lighter now in the 8+ years since being pregnant / having her. Motherhood has drastically changed the quality of my sleep for the worse and any little sound coming from her room wakes me up. |
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Post by scrapmaven on Apr 22, 2018 0:55:19 GMT
I'm in my 50's and I have just enough energy for college kids. Power to her if she has the energy.
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Post by dewryce on Apr 22, 2018 1:16:32 GMT
No judgement here, I'd do anything to have a child at that age. Unfortunately, my body doesn't want to carry a pregnancy to term so we are going the surrogacy route. I turned 45 two weeks ago and DH is 47. We just walked in the door 5 minutes ago from one of his triathlons. Is it ideal? No. Would we prefer to have had them earlier and have more time with them? Of course. Did life give us that option? No. Are we confident we can raise a happy, healthy child? Yes, as much as anyone can be. I love your answer. I wish you all the best with surrogacy. I hope we get to welcome your baby to the pod someday!!! Thank you! |
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Post by scrappinmama on Apr 22, 2018 1:42:06 GMT
I will turn 48 this year and there is no way in hell I would want to. But she is wealthy, will probably have a nanny to care for the baby, so she will only have to deal with her pregnancy. After that, the nanny will pretty much raise the child. Assumptions much!!! This might be a much longed for child and she might be completely hands on. As she’s ‘wealthy’ she can probably afford not to work for a while. Yup I'm assuming. This is a message board. We're discussing a topic about someone that we don't know. We're all assuming. And for the record, having a nanny doesn't mean that a child isn't wanted or loved. She obviously wants a baby.  |
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Post by donna on Apr 22, 2018 1:44:54 GMT
I personally couldn’t have done it. I was glad I had my two at 25 and 27. We then shut the factory down when we were 27. We just knew we were done.
I do believe that people have to do what is right for them. My dh’s brother And his wife had infertility issues with their first child. She was born when bil was 43. They then had another child a couple of years later. They are amazing parents and admit it was best for them to be older parents. Every circumstance is different.
I hope they have a healthy, happy pregnancy.
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Post by scrappinmama on Apr 22, 2018 1:48:44 GMT
But she is wealthy, will probably have a nanny to care for the baby, so she will only have to deal with her pregnancy. After that, the nanny will pretty much raise the child. God, this is insulting. Plenty of people have nannies or other childcare arrangements and that does not mean they aren’t still parents raising their own child. It wasn't meant as an insult. I never said that ALL nannies raise kids while the parents do nothing. I know people who have nannies. The nannies watch the kids while the parents work. The parents take over once they are home. They raise the kids, not the nanny. But there most definitely are wealthy people who let the nanny do everything. |
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Post by Sarah*H on Apr 22, 2018 1:50:27 GMT
I'm about to be 45 and looking forward to this next stage of life. I enjoy all of the freedoms I have now that my kids are older - I can hop on my bike and ride for 3 hours if that's what I want to do and feel no guilt. DH and I are taking a long vacation by ourselves this summer. We have so many plans for what comes next and I know it's going to be fantastic. But... if I could do it safely and I could have confidence in a healthy pregnancy and baby, I would have another one at 48. Unfortunately, I couldn't do it again safely at age 31 so it's theoretical (and those regrets are probably the reason I would do it now if I could.) Someone important in my life is essentially raising a child on this time frame and I think it keeps her engaged and younger than she might otherwise feel.
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Post by PNWMom on Apr 22, 2018 2:15:37 GMT
I had baby #1 at 39.5 years old and will give birth to #2 2 weeks after I turn 41. Wanted a baby at 35 but cancer got in the way and pushed things off a few years. We've spent a college fund and several years fighting for both these girls and I wouldn't have it any other way. I'll be a much better mom at 41 than I would have been at 20 or 30 or even 35. I'm in Seattle, and it is becoming more and more common here for people to have only one or two kids and to have them near 40. Among our close friends (friends from childhood/high school), 1 had their first baby 5 months before us, and another is having their first this summer (also IVF for them). My siblings had kids in their 20's but I'm good with our plan. Plus, my paternal grandparents are in good health and live independently on a farm in their late 80's, and my maternal grandmother is still living and in her late 80's and lives totally independently other than driving. I've got decent long-life genes and will take good care of myself so I can be there for my girls when they are adults.
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Post by Jili on Apr 22, 2018 3:15:38 GMT
I'm 50, and I cannot even imagine being pregnant at this point in my life. I'm happy that my kids are adults now (I have a high school senior, but not for much longer). I'm around a lot of younger women at work, and there are babies being born right and left. It's a little weird being the 'old' person in the group, and it's also strange to really think about how having a baby really woudn't be possible for me any more-- but I wouldn't want to do it, either.
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Post by stacmac on Apr 22, 2018 3:19:51 GMT
A friend of my mums got pregnant unexpectedly at age 46. They didn't think they could have children! They are very happy.
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Post by used2scrap on Apr 22, 2018 3:28:12 GMT
Why isn’t anyone talking about Daniel Craig’s age?
This is just sexist bullshit.
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Post by Dixie Lou on Apr 22, 2018 3:35:04 GMT
I had mine at 26, 28 and 31. I wanted another one at 35 but not for long.
Kudos to all those who have children later in life. Mine are now grown and I am so glad!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2018 7:33:32 GMT
Why isn’t anyone talking about Daniel Craig’s age? This is just sexist bullshit. Probably because it isn't his body that has to go through the physical stresses of pregnancy and birth. |
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Post by gar on Apr 22, 2018 9:33:43 GMT
Why isn’t anyone talking about Daniel Craig’s age? This is just sexist bullshit.  Because he won't be pregnant. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2018 10:14:43 GMT
Why isn’t anyone talking about Daniel Craig’s age? This is just sexist bullshit. Because he won't be pregnant. I agree if we were all talking about that aspect of it but some are not in so far that RW will be lacking sleep,old or tired as the baby grows up or the child will have to put up with her health problems. That applies to both parents, not just to the mother. |
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Post by gar on Apr 22, 2018 10:28:39 GMT
Because he won't be pregnant. I agree if we were all talking about that aspect of it but some are not in so far that RW will be lacking sleep,old or tired as the baby grows up or the child will have to put up with her health problems. That applies to both parents, not just to the mother. That's true - I wonder if he'll be passing on some work to be at home doing his share. |
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Post by camcas on Apr 22, 2018 12:39:20 GMT
Maybe she didn’t have a choice ..wanted kids but didn’t happen till now
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2018 12:51:16 GMT
I have a friend who was infertile and had the opportunity to adopt at 44. It changed her life so much for the better. She had lap band surgery and lost 150 lbs so that she could be present in her son’s life. She started working out daily and completely altered her eating habits. Her son is now 15. She attends his boating activities every weekend, and she and her husband are very active with the other families at all sorts of social activities at his school. She is having the time of her life and they love this boy dearly.
I’ve always thought I wouldn’t have the energy for kids at an older age, but I babysit for my grandkids a couple of days a week (from infancy) with no problem. I love doing things with them and miss them when they’re gone.
I think the hardest part of fame must be the idea of being subject to so many peoples’ opinions.
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Post by melanell on Apr 22, 2018 13:04:02 GMT
I don't have a choice....I never wanted to have a child when I wasn't married (although I know plenty of people that did. Just not my thing). I didn't get married until I was 34, then life happened. I'm 44 and I figure at the earliest we won't have our first until I'm 45 or 46. Not how I thought things would be, but I don't want children with anyone but DH. It gives me hope to hear stories like this. I wish you all the best when the time comes.  |
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Post by seaexplore on Apr 22, 2018 14:40:26 GMT
I'm 41 with a newborn. I had my only other child when I was 36. I dont feel any more exhausted than the (often much) younger moms around me. I feel like I'm a much better mother now than I would have been in my 20's. Yep. I was 37 with my first and almost 42 with my second. I was in no way ready to have a baby before I was 35! I also had multiple miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy after we decided to have kids at 35. Who knows if we would have had the same fertility issues if we were younger. Both my kids are totally healthy with no genetic issues, which was my concern with having kids as an advanced age mom. |
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Post by seaexplore on Apr 22, 2018 14:44:11 GMT
I don't know. I had my first at almost 25 and my second at barely 34, both were completely planned, but we hadn't planned on secondary infertility. Anyhow I'm going on 42 and while we aren't planning on any more I'd be semi-ok if there was an oops. One. A single, not twins, not twice, one oops. I loved being pregnant, but that second pregnancy was harder on me, mostly emotionally due to the issues of getting/staying pregnant. I don't know if it's true everywhere but here is the small-town midwest I'm one of the old moms in my son's first grade class, there are grandparents not much older that me.....that part is tough. I am 44 with a first grader and 2 year old. I'm old enough to be some of the 1st graders grandparent. |
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Post by seaexplore on Apr 22, 2018 14:51:33 GMT
Why isn’t anyone talking about Daniel Craig’s age? This is just sexist bullshit. Um, because women's fertility declined sharply after 35-40. Because genetic issues become more common due to “old” eggs. I LOVE that there are so many older moms on here too! |
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Because he won't be pregnant.
