The only thing I boycott on Facebook...

Yup

I don’t like commercials for the end if April / beginning of May either. All the sappy all moms are perfection commercials. Blech

My mom was far from perfect and my relationship with her was strained. I hope I’ve done better but still I’m not perfect. So all perfect commercials aggravate me. They either remind me how strained my relationship with my mother was or they point out all of my motherly failings. Lol either way depressing.

The cards are the worst! Why do they all have to have ‘vest’ type of sentiment in them.

I wish they were more real like hey you did the best you could and I still love you. Seriously

I prefer when my kids make me a card and say what they really feel. Like when DD thanked me for teaching her how to grocery shop. Lol it was real and it was something I did right!

yes.

It seems we've been ramping up for Mother's Day for a month now, doesn't it? Between TV ads, FB, billboards . . . ugh. Seeing my friends, who bitch and bitch and bitch about their mothers all year long go all lovey-dovey, you're the best, I'm so blessed on this one day? Gag.

My mom and I do just fine, I hope my kids like me. I just hate all the commercialized crap that surrounds these Hallmark holidays. So done.

I hear you. My mom is gone, and our relationship was often strained. My DH doesn't buy into "Hallmark" holidays, so Mother's Day is pretty much a non-event in our house. To be fair, he doesn't expect anything for Father's Day, either. But it would be nice to be celebrated and pampered like some of the women I see online.

I'm sorry that Mother's Day is sad for people. I had a fantastic mom, but I'm sad too because she's gone. I'm terribly envious of those who still have their (good) mothers. I would never be one to say to someone with a bad mother "at least you have one." Sometimes that's worse. Sending love to anyone who hurts on Mother's Day.

i don't get the whole thing about posting stuff to your mom on FB. my mom's bf uses her account and she never looks at it so he would have to show it to her.

i want DD to say things to me, not about me. and as others have mentioned, ppl bitch and complain all year long and then post some sappy stuff, the hypocrisy is slightly annoying.
my mom and i have a good relationship and i love her very much. she was not a perfect mom (what is that anyway??) but she *always* tried to put me first and do her best. like OP says, the areas i felt a bit let down are where i tried to improve myself as a mother.

not everyone has that hallmark relationship with their mom... and that is okay. step away if you need to, pretty sure you won't be missing much.

Any love I had for my mother died the day she said my children weren't her real grandchildren.

I don't understand the total devotion done people have for their parents. Especially those with abusive parents.

I understand. My mother passed away years ago. Prior to her passing, I usually bought her a plant and a generic "Happy Mother's Day" card and left after 1 hour. LOL. She was never my best friend or friend at all. She was somewhat crazy and I could guarantee that during my 1 hour visit, she would spend some of this limited time criticizing me. Thank goodness for my own family who are great people

I have a good relationship with my Mom, but I sometimes cringe at some of the overboard postings on FB also. I guess if I had a bad relationship, I would concentrate on my relationship with MY children. Which I am sure you all have been great Mom's. Think of those posts being about YOU. You being a great Mom! Except the really crazy outlandish ones. haha

Boy can I relate. I don’t have much of a relationship with my mom. We’re the only siblings living near them which puts extra stress on us to keep them satisfied. Unfortunately I’m also the one that wouldn’t care if I never saw her again.

She’s mentally ill, possibly narcissistic, and incredibly manipulative. Everyone thinks she’s the sweetest. She has people thinking I’m a horrible daughter because I don’t spend time with her. I’m quiet and leave it alone but you can only be told so often in a round about way what an awe full mother she thinks you are. My sister and I had a sisters weekend last winter and from there my sister planned to spend a few days at moms. She gets there and is crying and laying in a guilt trip that she feels left out and would like to be included. And apparently it’s all my fault that we don’t have a good relationship. My teenage years were hell, apparently my fault, even though people even told her that she goaded me on. I just got to the point where I’m done.

But she’s on Facebook. So all week and especially on Sunday she’ll be reading all the sappy mother’s day posts and then She’ll feel sorry for herself that she doesn’t have that. She supplied us with our basic needs as a parent but never developed a relationship, and now it’s my fault.

And she’s repeating herself with the grandkids. When they were little they loved spending time at grammas. They played, watched cartoons and ate like kings. Now they’re teens and my parents don’t know how to have a relationship with teens.

So at some point today we’ll have to stop by with the kids and drop off some flowers. I would do nothing but it’s easier to drop off some flowers and stay for an hour and then walk away.

So yeah, I have actually started to hate mother’s day.

Yes she is.   She’s a sweetheart.

Good lord, your mother is dead to me as well.  What a hurtful and ugly thing to say.  My aunt has no biological grandchildren, but my heaven, she loves them and takes such joy and pride in her grandchildren it is beautiful to see.  One time someone said something to her about not having “real”grandchildren and I don’t remember what her response was but I am pretty sure the woman she said it to can and hopefully feels the burn all these years later.  And my aunt is one of the kindest people I have ever met and never has an unkind thing to say to anyone, unless they question the realness of her grandchildren, I guess. 


It must must be hard to understand devotion to parents if you have crappy ones, but there are good parents out there that are worthy of the love they receive.  I totally get where you are coming from regarding abusive parents though, that is hard to see. 

I lost my mom to cancer almost 30 years ago. It is still pretty painful. She was my best friend. I generally avoid FB on Mother's Day also. But here is my take on it. I am fortunate that I had the BEST mom for 23 years. I know many people don't. So while I avoid FB that day, I am thankful for the time I had and knowing that at least half of me came from an amazing person. I am also really happy for those people who still have their mom and have a good/great relationship with their mom.

OP, I do hear what you are saying though. To never have had something that others have had and some have lost must really suck.