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Post by leeny on May 25, 2018 1:02:02 GMT
Do you have everyone's cell phone number? The make, model and license plate of the car they will be in?
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2018 1:10:04 GMT
Be aware of who is around them.
Most of the campgrounds have a host, so if somebody decides to bother them , there is a person to go to.
A whistle, and walking stick are a good thing to have and bear spray.
Keep food and food scraps picked up.
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Post by lucyg on May 25, 2018 1:25:18 GMT
I think you are way overreacting. Millions of people go camping every year. Once in a great while, one of them shows up on Forensic Files. No need to sit around worrying about this, at least any more than you worry about her driving, crossing the street alone, or living on campus without you.
Get the names and phone numbers of the girls she'll be with, the location where they'll be camping, and the plate number of the car they'll be in. Then forget about it.
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Post by leannec on May 25, 2018 1:31:01 GMT
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Post by medennis4 on May 25, 2018 1:33:32 GMT
right?
My 21 YO DD is going camping this weekend with 2 girl friends about 5 hours from here --just the 3 of them. We don't know the girls very well as she met them at school but do know they are not party girls. DD hasn't been camping in at least 10 years and even then we went only 2 times in a camper trailer and she was with her mom and dad.
So, my concern is how do you ensure your safety when tent camping and especially when it is 3 girls, all of who are under 100 pounds!!
I'm just worried that they will be a target being alone and vulnerable.
What would you want your DD to know (without freaking her out or making her think you are crazy--my DD would be in the latter party)? Is it crazy to want them to take pepper spray and maybe a horn? I watch too many crime shows so my nerves are really on end about this. I know she is 21 and is old enough to spread her wings, I'm just concerned that she won't be behind a locked door.
Any advice or kind words to me to help me feel better? I watch the same crime shows I'm sure since my first thought when I read your post was "oooh...that episode of "Criminal Minds"!  I'll be no help because my dd (age 22) will be driving in August BY HERSELF from Northern Virginia to New Orleans. And you know all those crime shows with scenes at rest stops!  I don't camp so I have no advice, but yeah I'd worry too. We're moms, that's what we do. I watch crime shows and have a DD, too so I can understand your concern. I have no experience camping but like the suggestions others have given you. |
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on May 25, 2018 1:38:58 GMT
The odds, that three young ladies randomly decided to go camping by themselves, is unlikely. There will be boys and friends. That part is likely being omitted from the informing the Parents, part of the info.
My only advice, go to the restrooms in groups and never ever alone. Especially at night.
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Post by likescarrots on May 25, 2018 1:41:00 GMT
Do you have everyone's cell phone number? The make, model and license plate of the car they will be in? LOL, what? If my mom asked me for these things at 21, I would have busted a gut laughing at her. Seriously, these are adults. |
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Post by carhoch on May 25, 2018 1:45:00 GMT
The odds, that three young ladies randomly decided to go camping by themselves, is unlikely. There will be boys and friends. That part is likely being omitted from the informing the Parents, part of the info. My only advice, go to the restrooms in groups and never ever alone. Especially at night. They are adults they don’t have to tell their parents anything . |
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Post by Zee on May 25, 2018 1:50:23 GMT
I think you are way overreacting. Millions of people go camping every year. Once in a great while, one of them shows up on Forensic Files. No need to sit around worrying about this, at least any more than you worry about her driving, crossing the street alone, or living on campus without you. Get the names and phone numbers of the girls she'll be with, the location where they'll be camping, and the plate number of the car they'll be in. Then forget about it. This. She's 21, not 12. I go camping with DH all the time and have never once felt unsafe at any campground, even when walking to the bathroom alone. Generally, campers are a friendly lot who look out for each other and are just there to have fun. Have cell numbers and then let it go. I say this as the mother of a 23 & 20 year old who go on cross country adventures without me even knowing who they're with sometimes. |
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Post by smokeynspike on May 25, 2018 1:51:56 GMT
At 21 years old, I would just make sure I have your own child's cell phone number and the name of the campground where they will be staying.
I don't even know if I would have mentioned that to my mom at that age. I had been living on my own for three years by then four hours away from home.
Melissa
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Post by ntsf on May 25, 2018 1:52:23 GMT
I was brought up in the outdoors. camping, climbing, skiing. we looked at giving info on who with, plans to come back, license.. as essential safety steps.. whether you were 21, 16 or 35. standard operating procedure. I still do it. it is not about control, but where to start looking if you don't show up. my kids in their 20's do it too.
I certainly went off in the woods by myself or with friends.. and no guys. I even did a 45 mile hike alone at 20. so you don't need guys out in the woods ..
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Post by lucyg on May 25, 2018 1:52:56 GMT
I think you are way overreacting. Millions of people go camping every year. Once in a great while, one of them shows up on Forensic Files. No need to sit around worrying about this, at least any more than you worry about her driving, crossing the street alone, or living on campus without you. Get the names and phone numbers of the girls she'll be with, the location where they'll be camping, and the plate number of the car they'll be in. Then forget about it. This. She's 21, not 12. I go camping with DH all the time and have never once felt unsafe at any campground, even when walking to the bathroom alone. Generally, campers are a friendly lot who look out for each other and are just there to have fun. Have cell numbers and then let it go. I say this as the mother of a 23 & 20 year old who go on cross country adventures without me even knowing who they're with sometimes. I should add that the reason I said to get that information was to make mom feel better, not because I think she'll really need it. |
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on May 25, 2018 1:54:21 GMT
The odds, that three young ladies randomly decided to go camping by themselves, is unlikely. There will be boys and friends. That part is likely being omitted from the informing the Parents, part of the info. My only advice, go to the restrooms in groups and never ever alone. Especially at night. They are adults they don’t have to tell their parents anything . True. But in this case, she told her Mom, she was going camping. Had she not told, this question wouldn't have been posted. LOL!! I am in my 50's, and usually let my Mom(or someone) know when I am out of town, the basic area "where I will be, approximate day and time of expected home". Just in case, someone should at the very least know my general whereabouts, should I happen to go missing, get stranded-car problems, at least they would know a place to start, if a search were necessary. |
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Post by Chips on May 25, 2018 1:58:40 GMT
Make sure she drinks water, wears sunscreen and checks for ticks. A lot of campers use permethrin on their gear. She'll have a great time with her girlfriends!
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Post by Darcy Collins on May 25, 2018 2:01:14 GMT
I think the issue here is you're not used to camping. I went camping with my friends in high school. The idea that a campground is conducive to attacking three young women is just really not accurate. She'll be fine.
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Post by TXMary on May 25, 2018 2:26:37 GMT
When I was your daughter's age, my best friend and I went tent camping. We were in a state park though. This was way back before cell phones. We had a blast! I bet she has a great time and everything will be fine.
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Post by busy on May 25, 2018 2:40:40 GMT
I would be far more concerned with them being smart about wildlife safety - not keeping food in their tent, etc.
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Post by snyder on May 25, 2018 6:13:26 GMT
They are going somewhere east of Redding, CA near WhiskeyTown. I think it is a campground and one that one of the friends has been to before so that is good. We are going to be talking to DD and I'm just trying to figure out what type of information I should get from her?
Campground name and location
Friends' cell numbers
Expected return date/time--check in with us on her return
?? My brother lives about 5 miles from there outside of Shasta. I would say it is safe, but as other said, it would not hurt to take some pepper spray or something similar as we never know in this day and age what can happen. |
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Post by katiejane on May 25, 2018 6:26:48 GMT
I would ask the campsite info. I would suggest the girls swap parents numbers in case of emergency, but I wouldn't take them.
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Post by used2scrap on May 25, 2018 7:26:41 GMT
The odds, that three young ladies randomly decided to go camping by themselves, is unlikely. There will be boys and friends. That part is likely being omitted from the informing the Parents, part of the info. My only advice, go to the restrooms in groups and never ever alone. Especially at night. Seriously? You don’t think girls can like to camp unless there are boys involved? As a girl who loves to camp I can’t wrap my head around this (and yes I’ve “randomly” decided to camp with other girls and no boys anywhere to be found. And survived. And had fun). Some good advice in this thread. Mag light, whistle, bear spray, first aid kit, extra water, tell others location/plans. I hope they have fun! |
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Post by not2peased on May 25, 2018 9:31:00 GMT
They are going somewhere east of Redding, CA near WhiskeyTown. I think it is a campground and one that one of the friends has been to before so that is good. We are going to be talking to DD and I'm just trying to figure out what type of information I should get from her?
Campground name and location
Friends' cell numbers
Expected return date/time--check in with us on her return
?? your daughter is 21 and an adult-you sound way too involved in her life. I would give her a small container of pepper spray, and honestly, that's more for critters than it is serial killers. find out the name of the place (but only because its smart for everyone to tell someone where they will be)and then let her do her thing. If she needs advice she can ask you. It wouldn't have even occurred to me to even tell my mom where I was going at age 21 |
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Post by tuesdaysgone on May 25, 2018 9:48:55 GMT
They will be just fine. They are young adults and campgrounds for the most part are filled with family types. You've received great ideas in this thread and I hope that can put your mind at rest.
One of the best memories of my college days was when I went with two other girls to Mt. Hood and we set up our tent in the pouring rain. Good times!
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Post by christine58 on May 25, 2018 9:55:34 GMT
I took them down because I couldn’t resolve the size issue. But a few people said I should keep them up. Now you. Thank you. I’ve been busy but I can add them back. 😊 Apparently I have the same issue but I'm not taking mine down ... they shrink quickly after the thread opens so I think you should put yours back up Yours are gone also |
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Post by Dalai Mama on May 25, 2018 10:11:33 GMT
The odds, that three young ladies randomly decided to go camping by themselves, is unlikely. There will be boys and friends. That part is likely being omitted from the informing the Parents, part of the info. My only advice, go to the restrooms in groups and never ever alone. Especially at night. I can’t imagine, at 21, being so concerned about my parents knowing that there would be guys on a camping trip with me that I would feel the need to lie about it. That’s some messed up family dynamics. |
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Post by maryannscraps on May 25, 2018 11:35:53 GMT
She'll be fine. My DD is 23, lives in another state, and goes on vacations/camping/overseas without my knowledge. She's been sent alone to Germany, Israel, and Halifax for work in the last 6 months. Never a problem. I don't worry about it in the slightest. I'm
Your daughter is an adult, and you've probably taught her to be careful about her personal safety. She'll be fine.
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Post by Country Ham on May 25, 2018 12:09:58 GMT
At 21 I am not sure I would say much more then "Have a good time". My 13 year old daughter is under 85 lbs and has one of the strongest and fastest kicks in her DOJO so their stature wouldn't concern me too much. At their age if they don't pack everything they need it will be a learning experience and sometimes those guffaws make experiences more fun and challenging.
The rest of the stuff? Worrying about dangers from other people, the elements, or animals etc. There are never any guarantees. Trust their common sense on safety.
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Post by tara on May 25, 2018 12:49:23 GMT
The odds, that three young ladies randomly decided to go camping by themselves, is unlikely. There will be boys and friends. That part is likely being omitted from the informing the Parents, part of the info. My only advice, go to the restrooms in groups and never ever alone. Especially at night. When I was that age most of my friends and I were married or at least living on our own but some of my best times I had at that age were with just my girlfriends in a cabin by the lake. Those weekends we had three rules. No men. No curling irons. No makeup. Just us eating our heads off and playing board games or sitting around the fire talking about life. Op I wouldn’t worry. IME campers tend to look out for one another. |
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on May 25, 2018 13:04:13 GMT
The odds, that three young ladies randomly decided to go camping by themselves, is unlikely. There will be boys and friends. That part is likely being omitted from the informing the Parents, part of the info. My only advice, go to the restrooms in groups and never ever alone. Especially at night. I can’t imagine, at 21, being so concerned about my parents knowing that there would be guys on a camping trip with me that I would feel the need to lie about it. That’s some messed up family dynamics. In todays "helicopter parent" world (a general terminology, not a "lump them all in the same category), and the fact that in this day age, not all 21 year old "qualify" as "full fledged, self supporting adults"....omission of facts sometimes occurs. In my opinion, not a lie.....more of a "need to know" basis. |
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Post by leannec on May 25, 2018 13:31:37 GMT
Apparently I have the same issue but I'm not taking mine down ... they shrink quickly after the thread opens so I think you should put yours back up Yours are gone also Interesting ... thanks for letting me know! ETA: They are still showing up for me ... weird  |
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Post by christine58 on May 25, 2018 13:47:17 GMT
Interesting ... thanks for letting me know! ETA: They are still showing up for me ... weird Now I see them..LOL |
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