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Post by LuvAgoodPaddle on Jun 6, 2018 19:45:37 GMT
That's a tough one. We had done only family vacations for the last 19 yrs. We celebrated our 25th anniversary last fall and did an amazing trip with just the two of us. We took our travel trailer to Vegas where we renewed our vows with Elvis, got our first tattoos and went to shows, then headed over to Lake Powell to see some sights that were on our bucket list and then headed to Zion. We had so much fun over the 2 week trip and freedom with just the two of us doing exactly what we wanted, when we wanted...it was the perfect way to spend our 25th anniversary!!
Because the family trip does sound amazing (and its a trip I would love to do), would it be possible to do the family trip but also do a shorter trip for just the 2 of you for your 25th? Maybe a long weekend away at a spa, nice hotel with room service or whatever you two enjoy together. Then save up and do the overseas trip for your 30th anniversary!
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Post by alexa11 on Jun 6, 2018 20:05:58 GMT
I would do #1. Trips don't end when your kids leave the house- trust me. You just have more family to take with you!
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Post by scrappinspidey2 on Jun 6, 2018 20:25:55 GMT
You can do the alone trip any time, but take advantage of being able to travel with the kids when you can. I respectfully disagree with this. You think you can do it alone anytime, but the truth is you don't know. How many family trips have you had vs just an Adult trip for the two of you? I say do the adult trip now. Its just as important. My alone trips never happened because of a gust of wind, but we have TONs of family trips under our belts. My vote would be at this stage in the game, go alone. You won't regret it |
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Post by Gravity on Jun 6, 2018 20:33:34 GMT
I vote for trip #1 as I sit on a beach in Mexico.
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Post by mrst on Jun 6, 2018 20:36:36 GMT
There's no way you can see much of the British Isles in 7 or 10 days. Maybe London and Edinburgh. I'd wait until you have more to e and there's just the 2 of you.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jun 6, 2018 20:50:51 GMT
I vote for trip #1 as I sit on a beach in Mexico. Sounds amazing! Have a drink for the peas! |
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 6, 2018 21:36:10 GMT
I vote #1 because it’s your anniversary (and that’s what dh and I did for our 25th...went to France and Amsterdam.)
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Post by Zee on Jun 6, 2018 21:40:10 GMT
Definitely #1 because my kids hate traveling so we've rarely taken them with. No sense ruining a vacation listening to whining and complaining. Vacation time has almost always been just me and DH.
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Post by pilcas on Jun 6, 2018 22:06:05 GMT
I would do #1. Couple time is important too and Even if you only have time to do London and surroundings it is certainly worthwhile.
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Post by melanell on Jun 6, 2018 23:04:07 GMT
My 50th bday and 25th anniversary fall within 2 weeks of one another. Dh and are discussing the following vacations: 1. Dh and I go to the British Isles for 7-10 days. Neither of us have been out of the country before.
2. Family trip (one of the last with two college students) to South Dakota, Wyoming, Colorado. 10 day trip also. Never been to Colorado or Yellowstone.
We would be more likely to travel abroad alone, but not as likely to go to Yellow Stone alone.
I'm conflicted between going as a couple vs. missing out on family trip while the kids are able to go.
WWYD?
We're currently planning trips around a milestone b-day and anniversary, as well. We're planning family trips.
We do have a list of ideas for trips when it's just the two of us again. But we like the idea of getting in a few more trips when we know for sure that DS #1 will be going with us.
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Post by questioning on Jun 6, 2018 23:22:23 GMT
You can't predict fate if fate prevents the next time for either option.
We didn't get to do a last Family trip. We have a lot of other memories to hold onto. I still would have liked one more...
You've got to do what feels right for this moment, celebrate what you feel now.
College kids can make a compromise easy!!! They are old enough to understand you want some couples time on the trip, or can arrive after you and your DH have a romantic weekend first. Or maybe you all do a mini staycation and they see you off at the airport for your adventure. I really don't think it has to be one or the other.
Congratulations on your milestones! I hope you have many unexpected happy travel opps in the future!
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Post by magoosangel on Jun 6, 2018 23:27:43 GMT
Family trip. Enjoy taking them while you can. The west is beautiful and Yellowstone is amazing.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Jun 6, 2018 23:52:12 GMT
I would do the Family trip now. Especially if the "kids" have the time. Once the "kids" are established adults (meaning jobs/careers), they are less likely to have available vacation time.
Then do a long weekend, in the sooner rather than later near future, just you and Husband, to celebrate your 25th Anniversary.
Then start a 30th Anniversary fund now, to do a "trip of a lifetime" for your 30th.
After the 30th, start a 50th "trip of a lifetime...with the kids and grandkids" fund.
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Post by brina on Jun 7, 2018 2:40:23 GMT
Anniversary trip I would go with just my husband. In fact that is what we did. Dh and I each turned 50 and had our 20-year anniversary within three months. We went to the 2016 olympics to celebrate.
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Post by Kath on Jun 7, 2018 2:42:29 GMT
#2. You can do #1 any time, but #2 may never come around again. I have children the same age in college, been married the same amount of years.
Time is fleeting. Soon they will be gone with their own lives and their own families and their full-time jobs. Everything will be different.
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Post by KikiPea on Jun 7, 2018 2:48:38 GMT
#1! You both deserve a trip alone. I say go for it!
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Post by camcas on Jun 7, 2018 4:04:17 GMT
Family trip...I fact we did this last Christmas and visited Hawaii and San Francisco.....was awesome and I know it will be the last family trip with my 2 DS both at uni now
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 7, 2018 4:09:47 GMT
Definitely the family trip while the kids are still able to go with you.
(Having said that..... we planned a family trip to Vietman last year but it worked out to be waaaaaaaay too expensive. So DSO and I went on our own - the first time we'd been overseas together - because we had free accommodation for a week that we didn't want to lose.)
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Post by peabay on Jun 7, 2018 11:34:56 GMT
You can do the alone trip any time, but take advantage of being able to travel with the kids when you can. I respectfully disagree with this. You think you can do it alone anytime, but the truth is you don't know. How many family trips have you had vs just an Adult trip for the two of you? I say do the adult trip now. Its just as important. My alone trips never happened because of a gust of wind, but we have TONs of family trips under our belts. My vote would be at this stage in the game, go alone. You won't regret it I totally respect and understand your opinion. Here's my take: my kids are now mostly adults. We can never take trips now - just the six of us. It's different when your kids are teens and older - you don't get the same time with them and be with them as adults. There's always boyfriends and phones and jobs and distractions. Before my second daughter started her job out of college, we took a 10 day cruise - just our nuclear family. I knew this would be our last vacation together, just us. And I really treasure it. |
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Post by lisaknits on Jun 7, 2018 11:41:57 GMT
I'd definitely take the family trip. After the kids are grown it can be really hard to coordinate everyone's vacation schedules.
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Post by desertgirl on Jun 7, 2018 11:43:21 GMT
The British Isles are not going anywhere. Your kids are. Believe me. It matters less the destination than the time spent together on a once-in-a-lifetime trip for your family as a whole. Again, your kids will be gone. I agree with peabay. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2018 11:49:06 GMT
Family trip. We did one to Italy with our son and it was priceless. You can’t get back to this time when they are all free.
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Post by auntkelly on Jun 7, 2018 13:27:31 GMT
I think either trip sounds great. Just choose the one you think you and your husband would most enjoy at this point in your lives and then don’t second guess yourselves.
If you choose the British Isles trip don’t feel guilty. You’ve put your kids needs and wants before yours plenty of times in the past.
If you opt for the family trip, I would try not to think of it as the last family trip. It puts too much pressure on everyone to make this the perfect trip. Plus, it might not be your last family trip. It’s pretty amazing how even the busiest, most productive, self supporting young adults can find time for a family vacation when mom and dad are paying for a good chunk of it.
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Post by birukitty on Jun 7, 2018 13:40:08 GMT
I'd choose #1. It's been a lot of years since you and your DH have done a trip for just the two of you and it's your anniversary (a big one). Just because your kids are getting older doesn't mean they will never travel with you again. Heck, I'm 58 and I traveled with my mother last year to Poland and I've traveled with my father 4 times to Holland over the past 8 years. Who says travel stops with your parents when you reach a certain age?
I think the time is right for a trip for you and DH. There will always be time for a family trip in the future. And you've never been overseas. Why not make it now for a special anniversary trip?
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Post by disneypal on Jun 7, 2018 19:42:26 GMT
Both great choices but I'd probably choose the family trip in this case
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