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Post by candleangie on Oct 22, 2018 7:20:42 GMT
When we moved out one set of parents gave us a cleaning basket full of everything we would need to keep our place tidy, and the other set stocked our kitchen spices from a-z. They were, hands down, the most useful gifts we were given.
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Post by jennrs on Oct 22, 2018 10:23:57 GMT
My daughter moved out a couple of years ago and had just her bedroom stuff. She now has a houseful of everything. I remember her and her husband being so worried because of not having things, but it all really accumulated fast.
The things I remember them needing was a good plunger, a big ladder, a leaf blower and office supplies like envelopes, stamps, paper, scissors, sharpies, pens, masking tape, paper clips and rubber bands.
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Post by Patter on Oct 22, 2018 10:55:31 GMT
Congrats to him. My daughter just closed on her first house in June, and one of her sisters will be living with her too beginning next year (hopefully). Hubby and I had a blast helping her move in, going shopping with her, and doing whatever she needed. We all shopped together, dd would pick out what she wanted, and we paid. We wanted to. We were blessed to be able to do that and had a blast. She had never mowed a lawn before because we have a lawn service. So, we bought her a lawnmower and edger. Hubby taught her how to mow, and she has been doing great and having fun taking care of her own lawn. Does he need lawn stuff? I know not right away and not as winter comes but . . .
Things we had on hand that first day were paper towels, a step stool, toilet paper, garbage can and bags, cleaner (we only use Dawn/vinegar/water mix), a tool set, batteries, etc. If we didn't have something, we ran to the store or used Amazon. Have fun. It's an exciting time!
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Post by ferblover on Oct 22, 2018 12:41:25 GMT
A shovel! You know it could snow here tomorrow ![:D](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/grin.png)
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Post by Nanner on Oct 22, 2018 13:02:38 GMT
My son bought his first house and moved in in August. I did the same thing - buying stuff and storing it in the spare bedroom. (I still have my list, so here's some of the stuff I got for him)
I also did his first grocery shop for him, and included things like zip lock bags trash bags saran wrap aluminum foil his favourite spices kleenex dishwasher tabs laundry supplies several bottles of hand soap
cleaning rags flashlights extension cords lamps picture hanging supplies front and back door mats sprinkler and hose snow shovel
dishes, pots & pans, cutlery, glasses, mugs bakeware kitchen utensils towels and face cloths tea towels and dishrags and scrubbers air tight containers serving bowls keurig coffee maker ninja blender toaster tea kettle
I had bags and bags and bags of stuff in that spare room.
We had also bought a new lawn mower and still had our old one, and he was very happy to get that!!! He also had a bunch of furniture already, some that he'd bought and some that we'd given him, so he didn't need much of that.
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Post by Fidget on Oct 22, 2018 13:04:17 GMT
I haven't read all of the responses but when each of my kids moved out I went grocery shopping and supplied them with all of the condiments and staples they might need. I picked up other items if I was out shopping and saw something that I thought they would need.
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Post by CeeScraps on Oct 22, 2018 13:07:50 GMT
My oldest is buying a house and closing next Friday. He's been packing this week and filling up the garage. I've been silently purchasing things I know he'll need and storing them in the other kid's room. My son jokes that all he needs is his mattress and his snowboards. While I believe he is good with most furniture and other large items, I know that when he moves in, there will be items that will be needed that first week that neither one of us are thinking about. We've got some cleaning supplies, batteries, tools, and paper goods, but I was wondering if there are things that one might need that first week that aren't on our list. My son works 10-12 hour days M-F and probably won't be making a lot of trips to the store. Younger son will be joining him too, but he is in college and has informed us that he will keep his summer home (ours) as well as his winter home (brother's place). TOLIET PAPER!! Whenever we have sold a home I ensure that the bathrooms each have a couple of rolls! Every "new" house we've moved into NEVER has had toilet paper. It's a pain, but now something I carry in the car when we move.
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Post by carhoch on Oct 22, 2018 13:11:27 GMT
If he needs help I’m sure he can get a hold of you in the meantime let him deal with it he’s an adult.
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Post by littlemama on Oct 22, 2018 13:31:32 GMT
Spices, ziploc bags, foil, plastic wrap.
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Post by thundergal on Oct 22, 2018 15:21:30 GMT
I can only imagine the pride that must come when one of your kids buys his first home. How amazing is that?! Congratulations to you BOTH! It sounds like you've thought of a lot of it already and there are good ideas here. That being said, I'd see if you can't get yourself to stop worrying about what might present itself and let him find his way as he gets settled. And I LOVE the idea of a year of Amazon Prime so that he can continue to get what he needs delivered for free and not spend every dang day at Target! I think busy meant well in her post. Enjoy this time...very special!!
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Post by Montannie on Oct 22, 2018 15:30:18 GMT
I'm LOLing at your younger son's "summer home/winter home" set up!
Your favorite spices, measuring cups and spoons, quality knife set are my suggestions.
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Post by Zee on Oct 22, 2018 15:36:57 GMT
I got my son a fire extinguisher and an emergency ladder, which seem silly but I sleep better knowing he's got those. He's actually still at home but they're in his room and he can take them when he goes. I'll expect he'll take his furniture and linens and I'll buy him utensils and stuff just because I'll feel better about how he's doing on his own if I know he has the basics.
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Post by busy on Oct 22, 2018 16:10:59 GMT
I dunno, maybe I'm mean and terrible, but I'd leave it to him to figure out and acquire what he needs. He's obviously a mature adult if he purchased a home. I'd let him be an adult and take care of himself. I'd buy a nice housewarming gift he needed like a set of cookware or something. Congratulations to him on buying a home! I'm with that, although I think a year of Amazon Prime prepaid, and a Amazon GC (in amount that you feel comfortable with) would be a nice gift as he sets up his home ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg) Then he can just order stuff as he realizes he needs it and voila, 2 days later he's got it! This is an awesome idea. I guess this is one of those areas where people have very different ideas about growing up, independence, etc. It's all good. My parents paid for my college 100% and I never worked during school. I've been raked over the coals about it here in the past - lots and lots of peas are very against that. But the deal in our family was they completely provided for all of us until college was done and then we were to take the tools they'd given us and apply them. And we did. I personally wouldn't have wanted my parents to set me up with a bunch of stuff when I got my first home because *to me* that would be a message that they didn't think I could do it myself. There are lots of different perspectives. Everyone should do what feels right in their situation.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Oct 22, 2018 16:15:45 GMT
Family recipes.
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 22, 2018 16:44:47 GMT
I'm in the in-between camp. Part of the adult experience of moving out is standing in a Bed Bath and Beyond wondering what can opener is worth it. But, I get it's a huge financial responsibility when you move out and have to buy everything up front. Personally, I'd only gift consumables--paper products, condiments to stock the fridge with, trash bags, cleaners, etc, all the boring stuff. Gift him an Amazon or BB&B giftcard for the rest. He has most of the non-consumables. For Christmas the last few years I have been adding to his "hope chest." I am thinking a trip to Sam's to buy the consumables is what he needs the most. I am letting him buy the stuff he wants for furniture and decorations. He is really relaxed about having "things." He does have a lot to learn. Even if I showed up with a moving truck of things, he'd still have a lot to learn. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg) . I am primarily wanting to know what little things people needed when they moved in that they didn't have. I haven't moved for 30 years and cannot remember move in day too well.
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 22, 2018 16:48:08 GMT
Congrats to him. My daughter just closed on her first house in June, and one of her sisters will be living with her too beginning next year (hopefully). Hubby and I had a blast helping her move in, going shopping with her, and doing whatever she needed. We all shopped together, dd would pick out what she wanted, and we paid. We wanted to. We were blessed to be able to do that and had a blast. She had never mowed a lawn before because we have a lawn service. So, we bought her a lawnmower and edger. Hubby taught her how to mow, and she has been doing great and having fun taking care of her own lawn. Does he need lawn stuff? I know not right away and not as winter comes but . . . Things we had on hand that first day were paper towels, a step stool, toilet paper, garbage can and bags, cleaner (we only use Dawn/vinegar/water mix), a tool set, batteries, etc. If we didn't have something, we ran to the store or used Amazon. Have fun. It's an exciting time! My son and his brother have had their own mowing business since fourth grade. He is "inheriting" one of our mowers and blowers. The people who owned the house are leaving a shed full of tools, lawn tools, and a grill. He lucked out with that, for sure.
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Post by Basket1lady on Oct 22, 2018 16:58:56 GMT
A shower curtain. I still remember our first apartment and not being able to shower until the stores opened the next morning. 28 years later, I still put a spare shower curtain in our “first box” (first box you open), even though most showers have glass doors now.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Oct 22, 2018 17:01:14 GMT
I think as long as he has toilet paper and coffee he can run out to Target as he figures out what he still needs... I actually think you shouldn’t overwhelm him with too much stuff. My mom is the kind of person that buys buys buys... because some day she or someone else may need it. She's generous and kind and thoughtful. It would terrify me if my mom presented me with a pile of this "stuff." That I'm now obligated to drag around. But I am the kind of person that if I don't need it regularly around, it doesn't get to stay. I've lived on my own for 25 years and gone through maybe three boxes of tissues, never needed a step stool, gripper thing, vaporizer or night light. I love the idea of the Prime membership and GC or Bed Bath and Beyond GC.
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Post by Patter on Oct 22, 2018 17:08:39 GMT
Congrats to him. My daughter just closed on her first house in June, and one of her sisters will be living with her too beginning next year (hopefully). Hubby and I had a blast helping her move in, going shopping with her, and doing whatever she needed. We all shopped together, dd would pick out what she wanted, and we paid. We wanted to. We were blessed to be able to do that and had a blast. She had never mowed a lawn before because we have a lawn service. So, we bought her a lawnmower and edger. Hubby taught her how to mow, and she has been doing great and having fun taking care of her own lawn. Does he need lawn stuff? I know not right away and not as winter comes but . . . Things we had on hand that first day were paper towels, a step stool, toilet paper, garbage can and bags, cleaner (we only use Dawn/vinegar/water mix), a tool set, batteries, etc. If we didn't have something, we ran to the store or used Amazon. Have fun. It's an exciting time! My son and his brother have had their own mowing business since fourth grade. He is "inheriting" one of our mowers and blowers. The people who owned the house are leaving a shed full of tools, lawn tools, and a grill. He lucked out with that, for sure. Oh good, and what is it with people leaving stuff when they moved. It was a 90 year old lady that owned my daughter's house; she passed away. The shed was full of stuff, the closests had unopened boxes from HSN, and the patio furniture was all left also. She inherited a lot also. Glad your boys have the mowing experience and equipment. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg)
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Post by workingclassdog on Oct 22, 2018 17:09:03 GMT
What a concept.. when my son moved out we didn't buy a thing. HA.. but he was in the military so no housing for awhile, but when he did get his own place, he did it all on his own. It was FUN to visit him in Germany though. Typical bachelors pad.
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Post by MichyM on Oct 22, 2018 17:09:20 GMT
I think as long as he has toilet paper and coffee he can run out to Target as he figures out what he still needs... I actually think you shouldn’t overwhelm him with too much stuff. My mom is the kind of person that buys buys buys... because some day she or someone else may need it. She's generous and kind and thoughtful. It would terrify me if my mom presented me with a pile of this "stuff." That I'm now obligated to drag around. But I am the kind of person that if I don't need it regularly around, it doesn't get to stay. I've lived on my own for 25 years and gone through maybe three boxes of tissues, never needed a step stool, gripper thing, vaporizer or night light. I love the idea of the Prime membership and GC or Bed Bath and Beyond GC. Yep, thats why I suggested the Amazon Prime membership and GC. I can visualize, 20 years from now, the kid being asked "why do you have this old toaster oven/microwave/electric can opener/pie server or other kitchen appliance/utensil/etc stashed in the back of your pantry?" The answer: "oh, my folks gave it to me when I moved out, even though I never eat toast/use an electric can opener/hate microwaves (it's a thing, my 28YO son hates them, go figure), etc." It sounds to me like the OP has done a lot for her son, which I commend her for. He's 24, and seemingly in a good place. At this point I'd let him decide what is important to him to have in his home, instead of deciding for him.
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 22, 2018 17:15:19 GMT
I have been typing my favorites and keeping them on the computer. They know where to find them when they are ready to actually cook beyond the basics. I love having my mom and gmother's hand written recipes, but I know my boys aren't into sentimental like I am.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Oct 22, 2018 17:22:17 GMT
Your question is about the first week, so my answer will be solely about survival items
-shower curtain liner and rings. He can buy the outer curtain later. -one bath towel; one dish towel; one sponge or scrubby -a bottle of dish soap can be body soap, shampoo, dish soap -roll of toilet paper; roll of paper towels -a couple garbage bags; he can use a cardboard box for recycling -hammer, mallet, flat head and Phillips head screwdriver, box cutter -flashlight; matches if a gas oven has been dormant -fork, knife, spoon, plate, bowl, glass -in a bad tap water area: water filter pitcher -bed linens -extension cord -smoke alarm
Yeah, I’ve done this twice in the last year.
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Post by MichyM on Oct 22, 2018 17:26:58 GMT
I have been typing my favorites and keeping them on the computer. They know where to find them when they are ready to actually cook beyond the basics. I love having my mom and gmother's hand written recipes, but I know my boys aren't into sentimental like I am. Yes, I gave my son a binder filled with family favorite recipes, must have been a year or so before he graduated college. I also have them all in a shared dropbox so that he (or I) can also access them while at the store doing the grocery shopping. Since that time we each completely (on our own) revamped our way of eating. He could probably make a wonderful binder for me now ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg)
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 22, 2018 17:40:53 GMT
Your question is about the first week, so my answer will be solely about survival items-shower curtain liner and rings. He can buy the outer curtain later. -one bath towel; one dish towel; one sponge or scrubby -a bottle of dish soap can be body soap, shampoo, dish soap -roll of toilet paper; roll of paper towels -a couple garbage bags; he can use a cardboard box for recycling -hammer, mallet, flat head and Phillips head screwdriver, box cutter -flashlight; matches if a gas oven has been dormant -fork, knife, spoon, plate, bowl, glass -in a bad tap water area: water filter pitcher -bed linens -extension cord -smoke alarm Yeah, I’ve done this twice in the last year. Yes, this exactly. Thank you.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Oct 22, 2018 17:54:48 GMT
Your question is about the first week, so my answer will be solely about survival items Yes, this exactly. Thank you. You’re welcome. In L.A. last year, my son and his roommate got the keys to their grimy* little apartment and immediately they and my nerdling husband huddled about racing to the cable company to get the WiFi router. I said, “Maybe on the way back you could stop and buy... [insert the things from my above list they would need simply to survive the first night sleeping on the floor in a completely barren apartment].” They were all dumbfounded at my brilliance about shower curtain liners and multi-purpose dish soap. Turns out there are things harder to live without than WiFi. Not many, but a few. * “Grimy” reminds me I meant to put Lysol wipes on my list. And depending on the size/state of his wardrobe, laundry detergent.
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on Oct 22, 2018 18:36:24 GMT
Pay for his first year of Amazon Prime and let him handle the rest as it comes up.
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 22, 2018 19:08:32 GMT
I think as long as he has toilet paper and coffee he can run out to Target as he figures out what he still needs... I actually think you shouldn’t overwhelm him with too much stuff. My mom is the kind of person that buys buys buys... because some day she or someone else may need it. She's generous and kind and thoughtful. It would terrify me if my mom presented me with a pile of this "stuff." That I'm now obligated to drag around. But I am the kind of person that if I don't need it regularly around, it doesn't get to stay. I've lived on my own for 25 years and gone through maybe three boxes of tissues, never needed a step stool, gripper thing, vaporizer or night light. I love the idea of the Prime membership and GC or Bed Bath and Beyond GC. Almost everything I am getting for them is consumable. I am more looking for moving day hacks.
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 22, 2018 19:09:05 GMT
Pay for his first year of Amazon Prime and let him handle the rest as it comes up. His brother has it for half the price as a college student. I am sure he will share.
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Post by mikklynn on Oct 23, 2018 14:47:08 GMT
I'm still doing this, LOL. Our former DIL, whom we love as our own, just got a new place. I took her to Costco to stock up. I also bought her all new towels.
Whatever we do for her, also benefits our grandchildren, as she and our DS have joint custody.
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