MizIndependent
Drama Llama
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Quit your bullpoop.
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Jun 25, 2014 19:43:16 GMT
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Post by MizIndependent on Nov 15, 2018 20:05:38 GMT
Honestly? Volunteering. Getting involved with helping the homeless or another worthy cause you're interested in will get you out of the house and focused on someone else's misery that you can help make better. Lots of ways to do it too and you can often include your kids as well. A friend of mine volunteers twice a month at the local family shelter in food prep - her daughter goes with her, they've been doing it since her DD was around 10. I'm sorry...divorce can really suck. Hang in there. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg)
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Post by mrssmith on Nov 16, 2018 3:20:11 GMT
I understand what you're going through. We've been separated and living in different states for almost a year but he decides to want a divorce, and serve me with papers, 2 weeks before I go through cancer surgery. There's a special place in hell for him but right now, i'm fighting jurisdictional battles and trying to mentally get ready for a mastectomy. My brain is about to explode. Hugs- you can get through this! Wow. What a jerk! Big hugs to you and I hope your surgery goes well.
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Post by mrssmith on Nov 16, 2018 3:22:58 GMT
Honestly? Volunteering. Getting involved with helping the homeless or another worthy cause you're interested in will get you out of the house and focused on someone else's misery that you can help make better. Lots of ways to do it too and you can often include your kids as well. A friend of mine volunteers twice a month at the local family shelter in food prep - her daughter goes with her, they've been doing it since her DD was around 10. I'm sorry...divorce can really suck. Hang in there. ![:)](http://i59.tinypic.com/211nd6h.jpg) I work at a children's hospital, so that always gets me to shift my perspective. I will have to make a plan for when I am home alone.
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Post by pelirroja on Nov 16, 2018 3:28:53 GMT
A good book I always recommend is called "Crazy Time" by Abigail Trafford. It's a little dated but it is helpful to know that what you are experiencing is very similar to what others have gone thru. My divorce didn't really seem real for the first year or so, probably because it wasn't amicable and xdh found ways to legally stretch it out for several years. Even though I was the one who ended things, it took awhile to feel comfortable about it. For me, it was the right decision and I wasn't second-guessing myself but it was difficult to say it out loud and admit it.
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