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Post by Deleted on Nov 26, 2018 18:19:37 GMT
My husband’s brother is seeing a woman who has a “list”.
She won’t get married again unless it is a true love and brother is not her true love. I really respect her for not settling.
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 26, 2018 18:34:27 GMT
I would imagine that a perfect person would also want a perfect person, and that wouldn't be me. I married a nice guy who had similar morals and expectations. So far, it has worked out.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 26, 2018 18:43:47 GMT
I would imagine that a perfect person would also want a perfect person, and that wouldn't be me. I married a nice guy who had similar morals and expectations. So far, it has worked out. But he is your perfect match, just like my husband is my perfect match. |
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 26, 2018 21:38:46 GMT
I would imagine that a perfect person would also want a perfect person, and that wouldn't be me. I married a nice guy who had similar morals and expectations. So far, it has worked out. But he is your perfect match, just like my husband is my perfect match. Ha. No, he's not my perfect match, but he is a really great person. We made a few really great kids. I think we ended up being a good match. He did take a fair amount of training though. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 26, 2018 21:46:11 GMT
But he is your perfect match, just like my husband is my perfect match. Ha. No, he's not my perfect match, but he is a really great person. We made a few really great kids. I think we ended up being a good match. He did take a fair amount of training though. I think this why it is said marriage is organic and grows. |
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Post by Prenticekid on Nov 26, 2018 21:58:33 GMT
I find it much more palatable for someone to put off marriage waiting for the right one. The OP gave a normal example and then a crazy one, so I'm talking about the normal one.
I remember being appalled when I was a young woman at how my peers married the first thing that looked at them twice. That is seriously no way to choose a husband, right? I'm talking when we were 18-20 and had never been anywhere or done anything. There was sheer panic in some of my friends to get married and have babies right away. They then settled into the most mediocre marriages. There they remained or eventually divorced.
A lot can be said for waiting, don't you think?
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Post by hannahruth on Nov 27, 2018 14:13:05 GMT
Waiting for the perfect one is a waste of time. Life changes us as we grow - who is perfect at 20 is not necessilarily perfect at 30, or 40 whatever.
DH and I met at high school in 1968 and have been together since - married in 1972. I can assure you that the person I am now is certainly not who I was 50 years ago!
Together we have grown, developed friendships and interests over the years both as individuals and as a couple. We are still our own people but at the end of the day we are a team and we have worked at being the best we can for each but neither of us in "perfect" by any means.
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Post by Tamhugh on Nov 28, 2018 1:46:45 GMT
I think it really depends. There are people who are perfectly content if they never find "the one" and get married. For them, I think it is a good thing to wait until they find their perfect match, or don't, as the case may be.
On the other hand there are those people who say they really want to be married and have a family. If one of those people goes out on a few dates and then feels like the other person is not a good match, that is not being too picky. However, if they don't even give the person a chance and eliminate them from consideration for silly reasons, that might be too picky. An example is a friend of my older DS. He wants a wife and family. He is almost 30. In the past year, friends have attempted to set him up with several different girls and he has turned them all down. 1 because she had a job that he didn't like, 1 because she had acne, and a 3rd because she didn't look like his type in a picture. Meanwhile he constantly pursues girls who are not attracted to him and he can't understand why they don't give him a chance.
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