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Post by gmcwife1 on Mar 8, 2019 3:19:05 GMT
we never hold hands. dh is using his walking sticks, we are of different heights and speeds. married for 36 yrs.. We are also different heights and it’s uncomfortable. I didn’t think about different speeds, but that is a good point, we are that too! We will touch or hold hands in the car or while we are seated next to each other though.
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Post by chlerbie on Mar 8, 2019 3:31:42 GMT
We've been together for 20 years, and yes, we do. We're both huggy/kissy kind of people. We never even pass each other in the house without giving each other one. We are also snugglers in bed.
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Post by finaledition on Mar 8, 2019 3:44:42 GMT
No. Never. Maybe while we were dating, but I can’t think of the last time we held hand. Been married 26 years and not indicative of what goes on behind closed doors. 😜
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Post by AllieC on Mar 8, 2019 4:45:32 GMT
No no no no no, absolutely not! We are the antithesis of the romantic couple, so it's never going to happen. I don't have any problem with other people doing it, but for us it is just the weirdest thing. The other day we saw an older couple walking along holding hands, so we joked that we should do it to. We grabbed each other's hand and lasted about 1.7 seconds before we both shuddered and said "Ugh, no!" I'd like to say that I wish we were more romantic, but.... I actually don't. exactly this LOL
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Post by camanddanismom on Mar 8, 2019 4:59:02 GMT
We hold hands frequently!
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Post by dewryce on Mar 8, 2019 6:39:27 GMT
He is 6’4 and he has large hands, it isn’t comfortable to hold hands. I sometimes hold his thumb. I tell my DH he has mitts, not hands! But it makes me feel delicate when he holds my hand We definitely have a way to do it though, anything else just feels wrong and we have to switch. I want to know, gloves (fingers intertwined) or mittens (fingers together)? It always looks weird to me when I see mittens.
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Post by JoP on Mar 8, 2019 7:43:18 GMT
Yes we hold hands, married nearly 28 years and together for 33
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Post by gar on Mar 8, 2019 7:45:31 GMT
Yes He's probably more likely to be the one to kiss me or hug me in public too. Together since high school, 30 years +
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Post by craftykitten on Mar 8, 2019 7:47:51 GMT
We have a height/hand size issue but we make it work. I am the right height to grab his bum And we always kiss going through a kissing gate.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 8, 2019 7:50:17 GMT
Always
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Post by anniebygaslight on Mar 8, 2019 8:25:35 GMT
No no no no no, absolutely not! We are the antithesis of the romantic couple, so it's never going to happen. ..... I'd like to say that I wish we were more romantic, but.... I actually don't. This is us to a tee. No.Just.No!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 8, 2019 8:28:51 GMT
We hold hands, hug and kiss (no tongues) in public. If we're together we're touching.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 8, 2019 8:46:19 GMT
Yes, we hold hands,arms, or a quick kiss and a hug in public.
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Post by candleangie on Mar 8, 2019 8:58:24 GMT
Yep! All the time. 🥰
But he’s almost a foot taller than me, so we can’t intertwine fingers.
Sometimes we just link pinkies.
We’ve been together since we were 15 years old. 25 years and counting!
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Post by J u l e e on Mar 8, 2019 11:50:45 GMT
Not all non hand holders are dried up prunes bereft of magic in their relationships! I have a joint condition that makes hand holding super painful. There's just no way to make it comfortable, especially while walking. I can maybe do it while sitting, but my hands at a weird angle for any amount of time or being the least bit squeezed is torture.
Don't even get me started on having to shake hands with people.
ETA - we don't have a television in our bedroom though, so hopefully that legitimizes us! =)
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Post by Neisey on Mar 8, 2019 12:41:26 GMT
We've been married about seven years now. When we first started dating again, we made a trip to a mall to do some shopping. I told him how sweet it was that he held my hand so much. He retorted that it wasn't out of sweetness, it was "to keep me from handling everything in the store." He said I was one of those people who shopped by touching and by holding my hand he was "speeding up the process!" Lol! The man always makes me laugh. Reminds me of my ex...when we first started dating he always opened the car door for me. Come to find out it was only partially because he was acting the gentleman. In actuality he was hoping to prevent me from scratching the car finish around the door handles with my rings lol. Also, when he was looking for engagement rings he knew he would not be buying a solitaire as he felt the stone would stand too high and also be a potential scratching issue. 😁 That being said, we were hand holders, although we could never hold hands while he was in his military uniform. My now SO and I aren't so much hand holders but are (appropriate for the surroundings) touchers. We also kiss hello and goodbye in public. Touch is one of my love languages.
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Post by jenb72 on Mar 8, 2019 13:00:16 GMT
Yes - sometimes it's holding hands or sometimes I have his arm. We hug/kiss hello and goodbye when we meet somewhere, too. If we're standing in line somewhere waiting for something I'm normally lightly rubbing or scratching his back. Physical touch is DH's love language (mine is Words of Affirmation with Physical Touch as a close second).
Jen
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Post by Deleted on Mar 8, 2019 13:11:02 GMT
We do hold hands, hug, and even kiss in public. No tongue or anything. I often take his arm or squeeze his knee. Early baseball season and late marching season is cold here so you will find us sitting close together.
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Post by schizo319 on Mar 8, 2019 13:44:36 GMT
No. He tends to have sweaty hands and our hands don't really "fit" together comfortably (I have gigantic man hands, and he has relatively small hands for a guy).
I'm much more "touchy" than he is, but I don't think I'd put physical touch very high on either of our "love language" lists.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Mar 8, 2019 14:02:22 GMT
not typically. We'll hold hands (very rarely) and if we're at a restaurant / bar, etc. I'll kiss DH if I get up to leave the table for some reason, or give him a hug out of the blue... But typically we're not doing any overly *gushing* displays of PDA when we're out. Partly, I just don't like walking that close to someone else- to me, it feels like we're going to trip over each other.
Something about seeing couples walking so close together (like with their hands-in-each-other's-back-pants-pockets close), just grates on my nerves-- it always looks somehow fake or *too needy* to me.
ETA: not holding hands or not doing physical PDA in public doesn't have anything to do with whether the couple 'likes' each other or not... we both have larger personal space bubbles when we're out and about in a crowd, but we like each other just fine, lol.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 8, 2019 14:09:29 GMT
Adding: We have been together 29 years and right now we both have the crud. I am okay with finger waving at him through a window, but he seems to thinks I need to be touched ( feels more like a mauling).
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Post by summer on Mar 8, 2019 14:34:36 GMT
We do hold hands.
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Post by chitchatgirl on Mar 8, 2019 14:39:08 GMT
We hold hands. DH isn't really big on PDA and is much more affectionate at home but holding hands has always been a staple for us both in public and private. When holding hands we do occassionally give the other one two quick squeezes. Its our way of telling each other "Love you" or "I'm here" and started at our wedding. We were doing this picture with my arm around a door so he couldn't see me and him kissing it. He gave me two quick squeezes and we let go. Did the same thing while we were actually getting married and it felt like the preacher was going on and on... All that said, I do randomly pinch or slap his but in a store aisle when no one else can see. I like to keep him on his toes. Which reminds me he's due for a sneak attack booty pinch : :
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Post by beachbum on Mar 8, 2019 14:46:55 GMT
We hold hands often, but not every time we're out and about. It depends on what we're doing. Walking down the beach, yes. Grocery shopping, no. When the kids were little they thought it was funny, us 'old people' holding hands. When they got a little older they thought it was gross (oh, I do not miss those teenage years... 3 teenagers in the house at once, WTF were we thinking!). Once they became adults they were just used to it. DD2 told me once that she thought it was strange that her friends' parents never held hands. She said she thought one friend's parents didn't even like each other, and that most of the parents slept in separate rooms. She told me that she would marry someone whose parents held hands, then he'd be more likely to do the same. And she did.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Mar 8, 2019 14:51:04 GMT
And we always kiss going through a kissing gate. craftykitten, what is a kissing gate?
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Post by onawhim on Mar 8, 2019 15:04:22 GMT
Nope. In fact I don't remember the last time my husband touched me. Don't worry, I'm now getting therapy.
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Post by Jennifer C on Mar 8, 2019 15:21:19 GMT
I love touching my dh. He is very hands off.
We've been married for 18 yrs and together for 24 and we have settled on holding hands in the car. I will ask for a kiss/peck in public and he will, but I don't like to be all kissy face and smoochy in public.
Now I do love his booty and that forces me to pinch or pat. He's ok with that because I don't embarrass him, he says. Ok.
Jennifer
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Post by mellowyellow on Mar 8, 2019 15:23:22 GMT
Yes most definitely! We always have and we will celebrate 25 years this year.
Our DS broke up with his fiancee last September and one of the reasons was she didn't give him affection. He told me....."I want what you and dad have. Y'all still flirt like y'all are 16 years old." LOL!
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Post by craftykitten on Mar 8, 2019 15:29:56 GMT
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Post by valincal on Mar 8, 2019 15:35:37 GMT
We kiss in public quite often and hold hands on occasion. We always call each other by our pet names too. Hopefully not too aggravating to others, lol.
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