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Post by seikashaven on Jul 1, 2014 3:07:17 GMT
You are the best mama your baby has ever had. They arent comparing you to anyone.
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Post by scraphappyinjax on Jul 1, 2014 3:09:13 GMT
I think what you said in your OP was great. Do start a college fund as soon as possible. In a blink of an eye that sweet, innocent baby will be graduating HS and going off to college.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2014 3:15:55 GMT
Newborns love skin to skin contact, and it's a great way to get dads to feel needed too!
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 1, 2014 7:22:18 GMT
I second these. I am (finally) scrapping my son's first few years - he'll be 10 this year. I kept a journal of all his milestones and the funny things he said when he first started talking. We were reading it the other day and he LOVED it! Most of the stuff I would never had remembered if I hadn't been so diligent with the journaling.
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Post by ModChick on Jul 1, 2014 8:06:57 GMT
Sorry didn't read them all but love the wisdom of nap when they are napping!
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Post by ModChick on Jul 1, 2014 8:09:18 GMT
Love these. I thought I'd scream if someone said "Sleep when your baby sleeps." I had someone tell me that when I had twins and I felt so hostile towards that person as my kids did not sleep together. I like "trust your instincts." A mom really does know stuff innately. Also, every age is a good age. There is something to love about every single age. I was so worried about my kids getting older, but there are good (and bad!) things about every single age. Haha, just read this, sorry! I've found the sleeping advice priceless though....
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Post by Really Red on Jul 1, 2014 9:21:05 GMT
Haha!! I thought you were mocking me
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 1, 2014 11:44:47 GMT
Sleep when the baby sleeps, and firmly show visitors the door when they have outstayed their welcome.
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Post by gar on Jul 1, 2014 11:48:28 GMT
Every stage is exactly that - a stage, not something that will last forever so when you're struggling with feeding, potty training, weaning or whatever and you're feeling like "This is never going to end!!!" remember that it will, and probably pretty soon Oh and remember - The days are long but the years are short. Some days feel never ending when you're going through a tough patch but before you know it 'baby' will be at school/graduating/getting married and you'll wonder where the years went
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Post by miominmio on Jul 1, 2014 11:50:53 GMT
You will survive the first few sleepless months, I promise. Months?! Some kids don't sleep for years! "This too shall pass" is good advice!
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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on Jul 1, 2014 16:05:46 GMT
True Mio, both of mine were almost two before they fully slept through the night... but the first two months of so I thought I wasn't going to survive, after that my body adjusted to the lack of sleep!
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Post by MissBianca on Jul 1, 2014 16:36:13 GMT
Don't make the house dead quiet when baby sleeps. If they live in a dorm 18 years later, it's not always quiet.
Don't buy a ton of clothes, they grow out of them way to fast
Pack extra clothes in diaper bags. There will be a blow out at least once.
Take your car to the police station and have the car seat installation inspected. Get a second base for your spouse or mom or day care providers car, makes life so much easier!
Place your purse and diaper bag in the back seat so you don't forget the baby.
Save for college now, I'm learning that way to late.
Teach them the basics - balancing a check book, doing dishes and laundry, basic meal prep
trust your gut
Read to them, every chance you get. DH's first grade teacher, Miss Dorothy, told him that if you can read, you can learn to do anything. He has held that close his whole life.
write down funny words. We still use our kids funny words.
Buy a 1000 loveys. DD has 3 blankets that are exactly the same and we cycled them out so they have even wear. And if lovey goes out with you, it stays in the car! No hunting for it in the store.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 1, 2014 16:39:54 GMT
True Mio, both of mine were almost two before they fully slept through the night... but the first two months of so I thought I wasn't going to survive, after that my body adjusted to the lack of sleep! DS15 was 4! And that's the reason his sister is 7 years younger;-)
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Post by alissa103 on Jul 1, 2014 16:41:37 GMT
Not only should you trust YOUR instincts, but trust baby's instincts! If baby is hungry, feed him. Just because he "just ate" doesn't mean he's not hungry (or whatever).
You cannot spoil a baby by holding him too much, no matter what your grandma says. They need and crave being held by us, to smell mom, to hear a heartbeat.
If she's nursing...
1. Do NOT wait to get help if there's an issue. Find a lactation consultant prior to birth and have her number handy.
2. Remember that for every bottle given to baby (pumped milk or formula), she needs to pump around the same time to remove milk or her body will ease back on supply. Supply and demand. This is how so many mamas lose their milk. It's easier just to nurse in the middle of the night vs. pump while daddy feeds. You're up anyway.
3. Nursing gets a lot easier after the first few weeks. And then it's tons easier than bottles! Take it day by day (or even feeding by feeding) and one day you'll realize, "I got this!"
And my favorite: We were all perfect parents before we had children. It's ok to change your mind, to do things you never said you'd do, etc.
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Post by justkallie on Jul 1, 2014 17:02:12 GMT
"No!" is a complete sentence. Use it often - it comes in handy with all people in all occasions.
Do not contemplate any drastic haircuts after you have the baby. You won't be thinking straight for at least six months after delivery, so avoid the "What did I just do?" cry that no husband can fix!
Remember who you were before the baby and always make time for that girl to get out and be someone other than "mom" for a few hours...
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Jul 1, 2014 17:05:20 GMT
Everything looks worse in the dead of night. My aunt, an ER nurse, told me this in regards to sick kids. It's so true.
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Post by candleangie on Jul 1, 2014 17:25:51 GMT
If your child CAN do something on their own, then she should be taught how and then allowed to do so. (Within reason, of course).
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Jul 1, 2014 17:37:40 GMT
So much great advice here!
MissBianca, I especially loved your list.
I must respectfully disagree w/peabay, however. When they're young, as far as I'm concerned there are no battles. If they ever think they can win, you're in big trouble. Now, as for teens, that statement is completely true. If I didn't pick my battles, we'd simply be battling all the time!
Oh, and can't reiterate enough that you should start saving for college early. I too, am learning that the hard way.
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