StephDRebel
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Post by StephDRebel on Apr 6, 2019 21:40:48 GMT
I had to work yesterday so I'm heading to campus now. Staying in the dorms, the whole nine.
Why am I nervous about the other moms?
I don't think I actually care if they like me or not, but does it ever get less weird walking into a group of women?
I'm not sure if it's because of my awkwardness, because of my appearance, or because of my age.
Being a woman is so strange sometimes.
Here we go.
I'm an acquired taste...hopefully they've got some taste! Ha
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trollie
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Post by trollie on Apr 6, 2019 22:09:15 GMT
You're awesome. Go get 'em! Not every one is going to like you, but that is their problem. Not yours.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 6, 2019 22:13:30 GMT
I like fun people. Doesn't matter their age, awkwardness, gender or whatever.
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janeliz
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Post by janeliz on Apr 6, 2019 22:14:45 GMT
I had dinner with a group of women I didn’t know at all recently (our daughters are all friends) and I was feeling the same way. It’s so hard to put yourself out there sometimes! I ended up enjoying myself, though, and I bet you’ll do the same. You have such a sweet and fun personality—-how could they not like you?
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Post by Patter on Apr 6, 2019 22:17:44 GMT
Guess I missed what you are doing. I stayed in the dorms last weekend. My daughter has a private room with a full extra bed so I stayed with her. No other mom's though.  Go have fun! |
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Post by seaexplore on Apr 6, 2019 22:39:22 GMT
You got this! I know those very feelings. You’re fun and friendly so you’ll have a great time. And....if they’re bitches, take notes to come back and share with us! 😁
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seaexplore
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Post by seaexplore on Apr 6, 2019 22:39:35 GMT
Double post!
have fun!
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Post by leftturnonly on Apr 6, 2019 22:47:47 GMT
I don't think I actually care if they like me or not, but does it ever get less weird walking into a group of women? Eh, bring them some sex toys. That oughtta get the ball rolling.  JUST KIDDING!! You will be fine just as you are. |
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Post by Zee on Apr 6, 2019 22:50:07 GMT
How odd that you would be worried, considering what you do for a living. Maybe you're insecure deep down inside and feel like you want everyone to like you, though you say it's not a big deal.
Like when people who came up from nothing want you to know how well they're doing so they mention traveling and possessions and things a lot.
You'll be fine.
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StephDRebel
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Post by StephDRebel on Apr 7, 2019 0:11:10 GMT
The school has moms weekend, dads weekend, and then sibs weekend. Hotels fill up and you can stay in the dorms. There are sponsored activities throughout the weekend. Were doing a comedy show, a campfire and stories at the old asylum, and then tomorrow we're going rappelling.
The bar scene is apparently hopping.
I think I was nervous because the other moms were here getting to know each other since Thursday and I'm crashing the party tonight and because it's a while new dorm and circle of friends for him.
I've always been socially anxious in new crowds, even before I knew how poor I was. Interesting perspective, definitely worth looking into.
The moms are cool, aside from sleeping on a plastic bed it's going to be a good weekend
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 7, 2019 0:15:34 GMT
I not only think it will be fine, I bet YOU will end up putting others at ease because you are such a free-spirited, fun-loving person who is not afraid of being humorously self-deprecating. You'll be fine and have a ball. I'm sure of it.
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Post by Zee on Apr 7, 2019 0:17:08 GMT
The school has moms weekend, dads weekend, and then sibs weekend. Hotels fill up and you can stay in the dorms. There are sponsored activities throughout the weekend. Were doing a comedy show, a campfire and stories at the old asylum, and then tomorrow we're going rappelling. The bar scene is apparently hopping. I think I was nervous because the other moms were here getting to know each other since Thursday and I'm crashing the party tonight and because it's a while new dorm and circle of friends for him. I've always been socially anxious in new crowds, even before I knew how poor I was. Interesting perspective, definitely worth looking into. The moms are cool, aside from sleeping on a plastic bed it's going to be a good weekend walk in like it's a sex toy party and you'll be great. When I walk into a social setting where I don't know anyone, I go into Nurse Mode and act like it's my job. No one knows I'm actually a little standoffish on the inside. |
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Post by Basket1lady on Apr 7, 2019 0:22:27 GMT
I do the Meet and Greet crowd a lot for DH’s work. And with this assignment at the Pentagon, the wives don’t know each other at all because it’s not an office where we can just drop in.
If I’m in a crowd and don’t know anyone, I’ll look for someone standing off to the side who looks equally awkward. Nine times out of 10, that is an interesting person to talk to, just not a very social person.
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teddyw
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Post by teddyw on Apr 7, 2019 3:16:31 GMT
Are you at OU?
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Post by freebird on Apr 7, 2019 3:22:34 GMT
Because deep down we really do want to just be accepted, in our different, out there, wild sorta way. Not everyone's going to like you, but you'll go and find "your people" and probably have fun regardless.
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Post by mom2luke on Apr 7, 2019 3:24:47 GMT
I was at OU Mom’s Day this weekend! |
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Post by scrapmaven on Apr 7, 2019 4:01:26 GMT
With your career and your ability to interact w/people you'll probably make fast friends. You have nothing to worry about. Just be yourself and everyone will like you.
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StephDRebel
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Post by StephDRebel on Apr 7, 2019 4:16:53 GMT
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StephDRebel
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Post by StephDRebel on Apr 7, 2019 4:19:41 GMT
It's totally fine (of course) I don't really do the bar scene and I've never seen my kid socially drinking so i might have been a little worried about that but they all went out last night and went to bed early tonight. We watched a movie and were in our beds watching Netflix by 113o. Whew. This is like camping yall. My back is going to be SO sore in the morning.  |
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Post by J u l e e on Apr 7, 2019 12:51:51 GMT
Fun! We're headed to tour OU after Easter (my daughter's spring break). It's one of the three schools in Ohio with a marine biology program. She may want to start closer to home before transferring out to the coast. What do you, and your son, think of the school?
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Post by peaname on Apr 7, 2019 12:56:49 GMT
I think it’s interesting how even the most confident and put together people have moments of insecurity and panic. Some people just hide it better than others!
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Post by kibblesandbits on Apr 7, 2019 13:08:24 GMT
I always figure the party hasn't started unless I have arrived. I am the extrovertiest extrovert there ever was, and with all you post here I would have figured you for the same. Interesting. |
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StephDRebel
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Post by StephDRebel on Apr 7, 2019 16:02:03 GMT
Fun! We're headed to tour OU after Easter (my daughter's spring break). It's one of the three schools in Ohio with a marine biology program. She may want to start closer to home before transferring out to the coast. What do you, and your son, think of the school? Its been great experience so far! If you have time and want to grab lunch while you're here let me know and we can meet you. I also have a ton of clients on campus if you have any questions for people in the program currently. |
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StephDRebel
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Post by StephDRebel on Apr 7, 2019 16:08:26 GMT
I think it’s interesting how even the most confident and put together people have moments of insecurity and panic. Some people just hide it better than others! I don't know that I've met anyone who doesn't have those moments. I used to be crazy shy and super insecure and I don't know if that ever goes away all the way. I love time with people but it drains me. I can be social and then I need a break. Reflecting, I think this particular moment was not knowing what I was walking into. Interactions with other parents when my kids were playgroup aged were never fun. It was very rare that someone didn't say something that implied I was a shitty parent or should have placed my kids for adoption because of my age so I think it may have triggered some of that. We've had the same community for 10+ years here, opening up to a new group must've brought some of that back. My therapist will enjoy this week. Ha. |
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Post by sabrinae on Apr 7, 2019 16:37:19 GMT
The school has moms weekend, dads weekend, and then sibs weekend. Hotels fill up and you can stay in the dorms. There are sponsored activities throughout the weekend. Were doing a comedy show, a campfire and stories at the old asylum, and then tomorrow we're going rappelling. The bar scene is apparently hopping. I think I was nervous because the other moms were here getting to know each other since Thursday and I'm crashing the party tonight and because it's a while new dorm and circle of friends for him. I've always been socially anxious in new crowds, even before I knew how poor I was. Interesting perspective, definitely worth looking into. The moms are cool, aside from sleeping on a plastic bed it's going to be a good weekend Are you going to Ohio University? If so, you’ll be fine. |
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Post by sabrinae on Apr 7, 2019 16:40:00 GMT
If any of you have any questions about OUlet me know. I’m originally from the area and went to school at OU
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Post by scrapbookwriter on Apr 7, 2019 22:17:45 GMT
StephDRebel, I have a spin-off question for you. Long ago you wrote about a distributor for your company who copied everything you did, including every hairstyle. I just wondered what her hair looks like now? You're adorable, by the way.
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J u l e e
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Post by J u l e e on Apr 7, 2019 23:56:12 GMT
Fun! We're headed to tour OU after Easter (my daughter's spring break). It's one of the three schools in Ohio with a marine biology program. She may want to start closer to home before transferring out to the coast. What do you, and your son, think of the school? Its been great experience so far! If you have time and want to grab lunch while you're here let me know and we can meet you. I also have a ton of clients on campus if you have any questions for people in the program currently. Aww, Steph, what a great invitation! Thank you. I would love that. I will check with Quinn to see which day she scheduled this. I'm losing track. I think she scheduled a general tour in the morning and a college of science tour in the afternoon. But if we can swing it, I'll message you!! |
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Post by teddyw on Apr 8, 2019 3:18:36 GMT
Fun! We're headed to tour OU after Easter (my daughter's spring break). It's one of the three schools in Ohio with a marine biology program. She may want to start closer to home before transferring out to the coast. What do you, and your son, think of the school? My bff’s sister has that degree. She went to grad school in Louisiana-Tulane if I remember correctly. Now she studies wetlands in Ohio for the state. You don’t have to live on the coast to be a marine biologist. She goes to Lake Erie a lot. All 3 of my girls toured there. #2 was going. Even had roommates lined up. Then spring of senior year she changed her mind. She graduates next month from Ohio Dominican |
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StephDRebel
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Post by StephDRebel on Apr 8, 2019 10:18:53 GMT
StephDRebel, I have a spin-off question for you. Long ago you wrote about a distributor for your company who copied everything you did, including every hairstyle. I just wondered what her hair looks like now? You're adorable, by the way. I think I crossed the line with the clippers, she decided to grow it out. She still jokes about it but thankfully shes moved on! Lol |
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