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Post by MichyM on Apr 12, 2019 2:20:36 GMT
I've checked my card online, it's fine And hasn't been used since Tuesday evening. And it's in the safe at the restaurant. I'll pick it up tomorrow. And thank you for sharing your thoughts, I really wasn't sure if I was off base feeling annoyed. I won't get into the details, but I do a lot for her. Not necessarily because she's asked, mainly she doesnt, but just because I want to.
And for those who wonder if she could have misunderstood my text, here it is, word for word:
"I just realized I left my CC at XYZ. They have it in their safe and I gave them your name. Is there any chance you could stop by there sometime in the next couple of days? If not, perfectly ok, just thought I'd check!"
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Post by smcast on Apr 12, 2019 2:23:58 GMT
Wow! Guess you can't really count on her. Just a social friend to hang out with.
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Post by MichyM on Apr 12, 2019 2:24:27 GMT
You are going to have to update us after you see her on Saturday! Someone put a reminder on their spreadsheet! I won't say a word about it to her. I should, by I won't.
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Post by alexa11 on Apr 12, 2019 2:32:48 GMT
That makes no sense to me at all!
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Post by MichyM on Apr 12, 2019 2:32:57 GMT
One more little thing. I just remembered I can temporarily freeze my card (chase bank) online so I just did that. I'll unfreeze it after I pick it up. Easy peasy.
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Post by MichyM on Apr 12, 2019 2:37:43 GMT
That makes no sense to me at all! Which part?
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Post by alexa11 on Apr 12, 2019 2:38:59 GMT
That makes no sense to me at all! Which part? That your friend won't walk a block to get your credit card!
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Post by cadoodlebug on Apr 12, 2019 2:39:00 GMT
I've checked my card online, it's fine And hasn't been used since Tuesday evening. And it's in the safe at the restaurant. I'll pick it up tomorrow. And thank you for sharing your thoughts, I really wasn't sure if I was off base feeling annoyed. I won't get into the details, but I do a lot for her. Not necessarily because she's asked, mainly she doesnt, but just because I want to. And for those who wonder if she could have misunderstood my text, here it is, word for word: "I just realized I left my CC at XYZ. They have it in their safe and I gave them your name. Is there any chance you could stop by there sometime in the next couple of days? If not, perfectly ok, just thought I'd check!"This is what you should have texted.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 12, 2019 2:40:12 GMT
Wow, that’s really selfish of her. Heck, I would have done it right then, just so it wasn’t sitting there for an extended time. Something like that would really change how I felt about that person going forward if they couldn’t find 15 minutes in their week to do such a small thing. I’ve dumped people that I thought were better friends when they showed their true colors like that and made it quite clear I wasn’t all that important to them. Bye, Felicia.
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 12, 2019 2:40:23 GMT
I've checked my card online, it's fine And hasn't been used since Tuesday evening. And it's in the safe at the restaurant. I'll pick it up tomorrow. And thank you for sharing your thoughts, I really wasn't sure if I was off base feeling annoyed. I won't get into the details, but I do a lot for her. Not necessarily because she's asked, mainly she doesnt, but just because I want to. And for those who wonder if she could have misunderstood my text, here it is, word for word: "I just realized I left my CC at XYZ. They have it in their safe and I gave them your name. Is there any chance you could stop by there sometime in the next couple of days? If not, perfectly ok, just thought I'd check!"then she is being a dymbass about it
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Apr 12, 2019 2:41:06 GMT
Could she be annoyed that you assumed she’d do it? Since you told her you gave them her name, then you asked her to get it. For some people that would be enough for them to say no just on principle.
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Post by mrssmith on Apr 12, 2019 2:47:01 GMT
If not, perfectly ok, just thought I'd check! The sentence above gave her an out and you said it was "perfectly ok." so, I'd suck it up and spend the hour to get it.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Apr 12, 2019 2:51:40 GMT
Yea, that’s kind of crummy of her
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Post by heathers on Apr 12, 2019 3:07:50 GMT
If my friend had texted me that, I would’ve walked over as soon as I could go grab it. Was she even apologetic about not being able to go get it?
I think I’d be too busy on Saturday to hang out.
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Post by annie on Apr 12, 2019 3:09:27 GMT
This makes me mad for you! SMH
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Post by MichyM on Apr 12, 2019 3:13:12 GMT
If my friend had texted me that, I would’ve walked over as soon as I could go grab it. Was she even apologetic about not being able to go get it? I think I’d be too busy on Saturday to hang out. Not in the least.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 12, 2019 3:25:27 GMT
I'm not sure I would categorize her as a "great friend". If the OP needed a loaf a bread that errand could possibly wait until the next day. A left behind credit card is something one doesn't want to lose or wait days to recover. Unless the friend was in bed with the stomach virus or flu I can't think of a legitimate reason why she could not help out the OP. I should have said closest friend. Clearly she wasn't acting great.
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Post by Skellinton on Apr 12, 2019 3:27:13 GMT
After reading your text I am still annoyed for you. She is not much of a friend.
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Post by pinklady on Apr 12, 2019 3:27:21 GMT
What a total bitch. She may be one of YOUR closest friends but you clearly are not one of HER closest friends.
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Post by tincin on Apr 12, 2019 3:48:16 GMT
Since I’ve gotten older I’ve been much more transparent about my feelings. I would discuss it with her. I would ask why she couldn’t do it for me since it was so close by. I’d rather do that and hear her answer than to wonder why.
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Post by lurkyloo on Apr 12, 2019 4:37:45 GMT
That’s crazy. She gets together with you twice a week? I know west Seattle—is it always you driving over to her?
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Post by miominmio on Apr 12, 2019 4:37:46 GMT
Since I’ve gotten older I’ve been much more transparent about my feelings. I would discuss it with her. I would ask why she couldn’t do it for me since it was so close by. I’d rather do that and hear her answer than to wonder why. Me too. And I have ditched two friends in the past ten years when I realised the friendship was all about what I could do for them, and that they could actually do something for me every blue moon was something that never entered their mind (and that when I asked for help....once....it was declined). Who has time for emotional vampires?
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Post by chaosisapony on Apr 12, 2019 4:46:26 GMT
That's really sad. I have done more inconvenient things for people that are barely acquaintances. It seems this person isn't the friend or type of person you thought she was. It'd be difficult for me to remain friends with her.
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Post by artsydaisy on Apr 12, 2019 4:58:16 GMT
My mouth dropped open when I read your OP. That is a hard one to process. Like many other posters, I've done way more for people I don't even know (friend of a friend/relative). I would do a lot for a friend with a credit card issue because I know what a pain it is to lose one.
Is she out of the country? Maybe she's a spy and on assignment? I can't think of any other reasons she couldn't do it and I'm not sure how I would interact with her in the future. I wouldn't be able to hide my annoyance. Hope Saturday goes well!
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Post by sassyangel on Apr 12, 2019 5:03:41 GMT
I feel quite irked on your behalf. Given those circumstances, a block from my home - for something that would take only a minute, I would happily do that for anyone, and I really don't understand her reluctance to do something like that for a friend. She doesn't even have to go out of her way to give it back to you as you had plans to see each other on Saturday. Seriously bizarre.
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Post by MichyM on Apr 12, 2019 5:50:33 GMT
I appreciate the validation girls.
She's the only friend of mine who has never been married or had children. At times I wonder how that factors in to her ability to offer up a hand on her own, or in this instance respond to my request for help. Does that make any sense? She's never had to "help" any one but herself.
I'm really tired so if this doesn't make any sense I apo!ogize!
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Post by momto4kiddos on Apr 12, 2019 10:23:48 GMT
I'm speechless...is she normally like this? I mean can you count on her if you need something generally?
I would definitely be thinking twice before doing things for her in the future!
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Apr 12, 2019 10:41:35 GMT
Some people are just literalists who can't read between the lines, and by giving her an out, she interpreted as actually perfectly okay to not get it. It really wasn't okay though. Reminds me of most men lol.
I personally wouldn't have typed that last sentence unless she had something going on that I would have truly understood her declining (so she wouldn't feel guilty for doing so).
I wouldn't dismiss the entire friendship *yet* because of it, but I would definitely be side-eyeing our relationship from now on.
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Post by christine58 on Apr 12, 2019 10:42:18 GMT
Not necessarily because she's asked, mainly she doesnt, but just because I want to. Not sure I would continue doing a lot for her. That's really rude of her.
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Post by christine58 on Apr 12, 2019 10:44:21 GMT
She's the only friend of mine who has never been married or had children. At times I wonder how that factors in to her ability to offer up a hand on her own, or in this instance respond to my request for help. Does that make any sense? She's never had to "help" any one but herself. NAH..that's BULLSHIT. I have never been married nor have kids and I help others all.the.time. She showed you her true self.
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