Friend vent. Please join in.

I'm sad to say I had a similar experience with a close friend. That experience was the start of me noticing how little she did for others, but very happy to ask everyone favors. The whole friendship became very one-sided. I even had a long conversation with her about how the friendship was not working for me anymore. It had become very draining for me.
Three weeks later she called me out of the blue asking me a massive favor, like our talk never happened.
I guess there are just some people who take and take, and never give back. I hope this is not the case with your friend! But seriously, she couldn't pick up a creditcard? Weird....

I see I'm not alone in saying that it is bizarre! Is she normally like this? If she is, then I would have to question the level of friendship. What I would do is before I left to drive out there, call her again and ask her and explain that you will be driving an hour to get it. Give her another chance to make it right. If not, then I would probably pass on the Saturday get together, saying you are "too busy" or just go and give her the cold shoulder. I'm passive aggressive that way:)

I would also ask why she can't walk a block to get the card for you. I would tell her that you would do the same for her.

I can't believe she wouldn't do that for you! That would probably affect the friendship, if it was me.

I read all the responses because I am just floored. A block away?! I'd do anything at any time for someone for something that is a block away.

I know you said you aren't going to say something, but maybe somehow, someway she misunderstood your text? I read it and it is eminently understandable, but sometimes you read things quickly and misunderstand. I'm guessing her no was clear that it was "no, I won't do that" instead of "no, it's not a problem."

I think this will sit with you unless you bring it up with her. I'd say something like,

Hey Frieda. I drove over and got my credit card yesterday. Did I offend you in some way by asking you if you could take a few minutes out of your day to get the card, rather than me taking an hour?

It's a fair question for a good friend and you'll have your answer. She may say, "Michym! Of course I was going to get it for you. What are you talking about?" or "Michym! Don't you remember I was having my heartlessness removed today? I was in the hospital all day." And then you will know.

I am not sure what your relationship is like with her but could you say, "Hey, what was up with you not being able to pick up my credit card?"

I agree with this. But first let me say I'd do this in a heartbeat, even if it was inconvenient, bc I can't imagine having the opportunity to spare a friend that hassle. It also sounds like this friendship might be a little lopsided if you are often doing for her and it's not reciprocal.

But as to the above, we often say, in the context of healthy boundaries and not overextending oneself, that it's okay to say no. She may have something going on you aren't aware of. Also, being single and no kids...it was said she hasn't had to help anyone but herself. But as someone that up until recently was single with no kids for a long time...you also don't have anyone to help YOU. Unless you have generous friends to support you, it also falls to you. Everything from housework to home repair. Bills, car maintenance, work, family gifts, errands, grocery shopping and more. I'm not whining about it...it's life. But we cant assume that because one is single with no dependents they have unlimited free time and energy.

Now for all we know your friend might be an entitled selfish shrew, and this may not apply. I hope this was a misunderstanding and you can get past it.

I understand. I am just curious to what her demeanor will be and if she will bring it up. Please update. 

Man. I'm sorry. I'm going to make a six-hour round trip drive to take my best friend something she can use. She'd do the same for me. I can't fathom not walking a freaking block to help someone out. Sure, she has the right to say no, but considering your history of doing favors for her, I think I'd have to rethink the friendship.

Yeah. And when people do.....believe them.

While “no” is a complete sentence, there are nuances in every relationship where you give more or less information. Based on the OP, I’m going to say the reply was less than friendly. This wasn’t described as a case where MichyM is always asking for something and the friend needs to put up boundaries. It looks to be quite the opposite. I’m not one to hold grudges, but I think this would always be in the back of my head about how lopsided this relationship is. And if MichyM is okay with that it’s all good. The fact she came to post I think does not bode well for this friendship.

It doesn’t seem likes she’s very appreciative of the times when things have been done for her. Her reaction to this it almost seems like she takes them for granted. That’d have me reevaluating if the friendship was one sided, I think.