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Post by luvnlifelady on Apr 13, 2019 15:58:39 GMT
Others have suggested "untagging" too but doesn't that still make it viewable to everyone on her friend's page? That's the annoying factor. There are many within our mutual group I have yet to meet but they are her FB friends so they will see that pic. Just annoying. I wouldn't post an unflattering pic of someone just to make sure they're included. If there wasn't one of me, I would just think they didn't get one. People are not going to say to you, when you finally meet them, “oh you are the French fry lady”. Odds are they won’t even remember that picture. Yah I know. Just something that annoys me as I would think it would annoy "most" people. I wouldn't do that to someone, especially someone new. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Apr 13, 2019 16:00:17 GMT
Just tell her you don’t think it’s a flattering pic and ask her if she has any other to post instead. I wouldn’t overthink it. Yah I don't plan to mention it to her. |
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Post by Kerri W on Apr 13, 2019 16:01:50 GMT
If you're this upset about the photo, untag yourself. Honestly I think you struggle with insecurity. I've been there. Work within yourself to figure out why and you'll be much happier. It wouldn't matter if I untagged myself. The pic is still viewable to her friend list and it's people within our group that I haven't met yet. I don't think it has anything to do with insecurity. Anybody in their right mind wouldn't like it. Would you? Have I ever had an unflattering picture posted? Sure. My response was along the lines of 'omg that's an awful picture (eyeroll)' No, it honestly doesn't rock my world. I'm a long way away from giving two sh•ts what somebody thinks of my appearance. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Apr 13, 2019 16:03:41 GMT
It’s just a picture. Remove a tag if there is one. As for her working on Easter, she might be. Just because banks are closed doesn’t mean customer service centers are. Yes, I do stand corrected on that. The bank she works for looks to be open on Easter which I find very surprising. I still wish she had told me about it prior to me asking her last night. The game is a week from tomorrow. 1 other lady from the group might go so I have a message into her now to see if she's still going. Otherwise, I will go with Plan B (not sure what that is yet). |
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Post by katlady on Apr 13, 2019 16:03:44 GMT
People are not going to say to you, when you finally meet them, “oh you are the French fry lady”. Odds are they won’t even remember that picture. Yah I know. Just something that annoys me as I would think it would annoy "most" people. I wouldn't do that to someone, especially someone new. Yes, I get annoyed when a see a picture of myself that I don’t like, but I don’t stay annoyed for more than 5 minutes. I just shrug my shoulders and move on. I hate being in pictures, so lot of pictures of myself annoy me, but I don’t dwell on it. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Apr 13, 2019 16:05:04 GMT
It wouldn't matter if I untagged myself. The pic is still viewable to her friend list and it's people within our group that I haven't met yet. I don't think it has anything to do with insecurity. Anybody in their right mind wouldn't like it. Would you? Have I ever had an unflattering picture posted? Sure. My response was along the lines of 'omg that's an awful picture (eyeroll)' No, it honestly doesn't rock my world. I'm a long way away from giving two sh•ts what somebody thinks of my appearance. It's hardly "rocking" my world. It's annoying, yes but I won't stop going to the group because of it. Just something that caught my attention. Hope you have a stellar day. |
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Post by scrapngranny on Apr 13, 2019 16:05:19 GMT
You are assuming a lady you just met for the first time has a malicious intent by posting an unflattering picture of you on FB. That is a huge conclusion to leap to.
Move on. There has to be a better use of your time.
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Apr 13, 2019 16:09:37 GMT
To answer your question, yes it would bother me to have a very unflattering photo of myself posted. But I wouldn’t fault her for doing so.
When you see an unflattering picture of someone else do you think poorly of them? You probably don’t really even think about the photo, other than maybe for the briefest moment. People are way too wrapped up in themselves and don’t put the thought or effort into things you think they do.
As you go through your day think about yourself and your actions....you’re in the grocery store line deep in thought about all the things you still have to do that day and maybe you sigh or tap your pen. The person in front of you could interpret that as you being frustrated they are taking too long but the reality is you probably haven’t even noticed them. These types of interactions happen all the time and you need to not read into someone else’s actions.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Apr 13, 2019 16:10:12 GMT
It’s just a picture. Remove a tag if there is one. As for her working on Easter, she might be. Just because banks are closed doesn’t mean customer service centers are.  And, I think you should get over it. This does sound so much like MS/HS drama.
Regarding the service center--Think about the credit cards connected to that bank--24 hr. coverage 7 days per week. It is possible that she is working on Easter.
I do stand corrected on the Easter thing. She works in customer complaints but her bank looks to be open which is surprising to me. It still would've been nice for her to let me know before I directly asked her as the event is a week from tomorrow. If another woman can't go, I will come up with Plan B though. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Apr 13, 2019 16:12:54 GMT
You are assuming a lady you just met for the first time has a malicious intent by posting an unflattering picture of you on FB. That is a huge conclusion to leap to. Move on. There has to be a better use of your time. I think it was her overall demeanor that led me to that conclusion. Hopefully it was just a "one-off" and we will end up being good friends. I hope so since she's in this group and it seems like an overall fun gang to hang out with. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Apr 13, 2019 16:16:19 GMT
I use two banks. Both have 24 hour phone service 365 days a year so I can call to report a stolen/lost card, report an atm issue and other such stuff. The banks are closed at night, week ends and holidays. But I can call the customer service line at any time I need. Sounds like the rest of the group knows she takes photos to post so they are camera aware and pose for her. My guess is that was the best photo she had of you/bf together. Next time pay attention to what the people around you are doing and when you see the camera pointed in your direction smile and pose instead of ignoring it. That's a good idea in general. We were watching two screens of sports though and she took a side shot. There was no way to tell she was taking a picture unless we were deliberately looking at her to our left. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Apr 13, 2019 16:18:59 GMT
That's possible but if it had been me with a pic of her, I would not have posted it. Better nothing than one so unflattering. Then you would be here complaining she left you out and didn't take any photos of you at all. No, I definitely would not. I know there's often times no way to get individual or couple pictures of everyone at an event. Had there not be one of me/us, it would've never crossed my mind that she left us out. That's not where my mind goes. Like I said, we got there last so I also would've just figured we missed the photo chances. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Apr 13, 2019 16:21:10 GMT
Here banks are open on Easter. I agree that it was in poor taste for her to post a pic of you without your permission but in this case, when I feel like you want approval by or inclusion in her friend group, I’d say you draw more negative attention to yourself if you ask her to remove the photo. I think you need to stop analyzing her actions / posts. You’re demonstrating how social media is negative for young people in society because it causes us to feel self conscious about ourselves and be so concerned with how others perceive us. I’m not saying I’ve never felt victim to this, it’s just that your post is currently a good demonstration. I’m sorry she posted an unflattering pic of you. I’m sure your good friends realize that you didn’t have a say in the pic. Yes you're right. This is one big reason my 22 yo DD removed her Instagram. She realized it was having a negative impact. She still has FB, Twitter and probably others I am not aware of though. I also stand corrected on the Easter thing. I had no idea banks were open. That's the first I've heard about it. It would've been nice to get feedback though earlier (and only after I directly asked her) since the event is a week from tomorrow. If another woman can't go, I'll make a Plan B. |
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Post by worrywart on Apr 13, 2019 16:36:14 GMT
Probably old school but I personally wouldn't really like someone that I barely knew posting pictures of me on facebook. I agree that if you can untag yourself then you won't have to see it anymore. Regardless, it probably wasn't done purposefully so I would let it go and give her the benefit of the doubt  |
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Post by christine58 on Apr 13, 2019 17:29:19 GMT
You seriously need to grow up. Are you seriously trying to say that it wouldn't bother you? I find that very hard to believe. I'm the new kid and I just think it was dumb for her to post a pic. that was that bad. I'm not heading for the many bridges in town over it. (shrug) Yes I am serious.dead serious |
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Post by chlerbie on Apr 13, 2019 19:02:55 GMT
If you're this upset about the photo, untag yourself. Honestly I think you struggle with insecurity. I've been there. Work within yourself to figure out why and you'll be much happier. It wouldn't matter if I untagged myself. The pic is still viewable to her friend list and it's people within our group that I haven't met yet. I don't think it has anything to do with insecurity. Anybody in their right mind wouldn't like it. Would you? Honestly...if I was one of her friends and saw a photo of someone I didn't know, I really wouldn't take notice one way or the other about it. I don't think anyone who meets you later will even associate it with you--and even if they were, and they then meet you, they won't have a negative image about you after seeing you. I might be a little annoyed by an unflattering photo, but that would be about it for me. I'd let it go. |
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Post by Zee on Apr 13, 2019 19:11:19 GMT
I don't think I would even recognize you from one sideways pic and if i did, i wouldn't really think about it again. So you've determined she does have to work, i think you're overthinking the rest. Most people would include a bad photo rather than no photo, just to not leave you out.
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Post by nellej on Apr 13, 2019 20:34:08 GMT
I would be annoyed too. Who wants to be photographed and published online looking less than their best?
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Post by papersilly on Apr 13, 2019 23:56:48 GMT
To be brutally honest, this sounds like middle school drama. It’s just a picture. I quoted you because I think it bears repeating. She probably liked that particular pic so she chose to post that one. Her page, Her prerogative. If you can get a hold of the one you like, get it and post it if you think it puts you in a better light. I just think FB moves so fast that nobody will probably care at this point. |
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Apr 14, 2019 0:50:27 GMT
Yes it would bother me if someone posted a bad pic of me but I wouldn’t automatically assume it was on purpose to be a asshole. I wouldn’t say anything to the person either..I think it would be weird.
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Post by trollie on Apr 14, 2019 1:26:40 GMT
you are overthinking this
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Post by shelby on Apr 14, 2019 2:15:34 GMT
I really try to not post negative posts but I'm having a hard time figuring out what you are looking for. You posted a short time ago hat you are trying to host this group and that group, trying to be part of this group and that group, wanting to hang with all kinds of people. I realize that as you say, you are the new kid on the block, but you are also an adult with adult children. your actions make me think of a junior high girl that is trying despertly to belong to the popular group of kids. Perhaps you came on too strong and too fast for her. You cab't rush a friendship.
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Post by Legacy Girl on Apr 14, 2019 2:16:59 GMT
It would bother me because I hate having other people see unflattering pictures of me, so I would kindly ask her to remove it, putting the blame on myself. "Please forgive me for asking, but would you mind removing that photo of me when you have a minute? Next time we get together, I'll put down the french fries and smile for the camera, I promise!"  |
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Post by pilcas on Apr 14, 2019 2:37:13 GMT
Do you really look at pictures of someone you haven’t met and pay attention if it’s flattering or not? Do you really care what people you haven’t met think of you? It’s really not that important.
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And, I think you should get over it. This does sound so much like MS/HS drama.
