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Post by Deleted on Apr 25, 2019 18:15:29 GMT
Oh my gosh, these kids drive me nuts. We had zero planning problems or issues for the 3 other proms our 2 older girls went to. For one of them, we hosted an after-prom party with about 30 kids over after and almost 1/2 stayed overnight. Wasn't a drinking party, we just have lots of space and no neighbors so it's a good spot for them to hang out. For 3rd DD this isn't her prom (she is a year young, so can only go as a guest) and she isn't a great planner anyway so we are pretty much on the sideline for this. But her BF's group cannot get their plans made - some are fighting (including one of the couples) about it all. The first drama was they split the group so instead of 22 they were down to a smaller group of 10, which hasn't helped! They have a spot to take group pics (that some in the group are complaining about) but no time for when they are meeting there. They have changed dinner reservations 3 times. Not sure if they even have one right now. And DD is now saying she thinks it would be fun to go to McD's with a play area so she can go down a tube slide in her dress  since they can't decide. We offered to host an after party (not drinking) but it sounds like there are a couple of girls that are probably wanting to drink so they won't commit. And boys that won't go anywhere there is any drinking (which confuses me, since DD said some of the girls that want to drink are their dates). Last night DD hung out with 2 of the girls and they now want just the girls to have a slumber party after. DD and her bf want to hang out together (rules from us and his parents are where there is an adult and a group, otherwise they can be home by a curfew) as part of a group, but the group can't agree on anything! There is a little over a week to go and we can deal with last minute if they came to our house. Just wish some of the group would chill out a bit or that a parent would step up and help them plan. Just curious if your kids are having success planning as a group this year and what their after-prom plans are? Hope it's going smoothly for everyone else! |
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Post by StephDRebel on Apr 26, 2019 14:43:13 GMT
This is my sons senior prom.
Dh and I have dubbed the theme 'shit show rodeo' because at this point they'll be lucky if they even get there.
No corsages have been ordered.
They're doing pics in the afternoon sometime.
They're having dinner somewhere.
They're participating in senior March but they dont know what time.
After they're going to a party...or bowling.
After that they were having after after prom here, but I require a conversation with a parent and so far there have been zero.
He knows I'm not kidding when I say a teen won't step foot in my home without parental consent for a sleepover. I dont care of there is a line of kids on the porch who all have parents on date night with their phones off.
I'm willing to help until noon today and after the cutoff hes flying solo and I'm making plans for my time.
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Post by mellowyellow on Apr 26, 2019 14:51:42 GMT
My DD is a senior this year and they are all going as a group. We have her dress and shoes. She mentioned them going to a friend's lakehouse afterwards for the weekend. Other than that I have no idea what all is going on. I figure it will all work out. LOL!
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Post by smcast on Apr 26, 2019 14:53:41 GMT
This would drive me insane!!!! I need details and ahead of time. Good luck ladies
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2019 14:56:09 GMT
Our senior prom is in three weeks and nothing's been discussed other than he plans to go. We need to rent a tux or buy a suit at some point.  |
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Post by workingclassdog on Apr 26, 2019 15:02:07 GMT
I remember those days... I stay out of it for the most part. I helped buy the dress.. the rest was up to her and her group of friends. Figured they need to be adult about it since they want to be an adult night. The only thing is that if there was drinking that she wasn't out running around and to call me if she needed me to get her.
Everything always worked out. They were a good group of kids to work with though. One parent hosted dinner.....and another parent volunteered to cook all the food. I just showed up to take pictures (I did ask if they needed help). I think the best part of the night, ALL the kids stopped and prayed before dinner. I was shocked. It was awesome.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2019 15:22:16 GMT
At DD's last prom her BF didn't "ask" her, (he just assumed they would go, as they were dating, big mistake buddy) so she was all mad and refused to go with him. Their friends made dinner plans without them and her feelings were SUPER hurt in the way that only teen feelings can be.
He finally "asked" her, reluctantly, with the help of his mom I think...she was super confused as to why they were not going to prom and I dropped her a text hint about DD wanting to be asked...
So then we needed a last min dress, omg was that the trip from hell, and shoes, etc...and I basically had to beg another parent to let them in the limo and pay waaaayyyy too much for it. All that and DD said she had a crappy time and she and her BF broke up soon after.
GAH.
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Post by used2scrap on Apr 26, 2019 15:31:40 GMT
DS is a Sr and so far says he isn’t going again this year. Ugh. I think it’s too late for tickets now. He has a sweet friend at another school in town that is strongly dropping hints she wants him to ask, but he’s insisting that it’s too awkward to invite himself to her prom. Sigh.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Apr 26, 2019 16:10:57 GMT
My dd is going to her best (female) friend's prom in early May.
Holy expensive Batman!!!
Each ticket is $120! Not per couple, but per ticket.
Then she needed a dress, which is not cheap. Then make up, jewelry, shoes, clutch. Hair & nails done. Prom pics.
I'm hemorrhaging cash. But it's her last chance and I don't want her to miss it.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2019 17:05:43 GMT
DS is a Sr and so far says he isn’t going again this year. Ugh. I think it’s too late for tickets now. He has a sweet friend at another school in town that is strongly dropping hints she wants him to ask, but he’s insisting that it’s too awkward to invite himself to her prom. Sigh.
Spin it this way to him. If she's dropping hints, then perhaps she doesn't have a date and doesn't want to go alone. It would be nice for her to have her friend by her side.  |
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Post by holly on Apr 26, 2019 17:24:55 GMT
DD has her senior prom tomorrow. No boyfriend so she is going with some friends. Last week I was told her and her “date” (her girlfriend) were going to make corsages because it’s cheaper. Ok. Yesterday I get a text saying she needs a corsage. Apparently Dad bought the girls a corsage (she’s going with friends that are sisters). The mom got them a limo but DD doesn’t know where it’s picking them up from. She thinks after dinner at the restaurant. I ask how she’s getting to restaurant. She doesn’t know, obviously doesn’t want to drive. I ask how other friends are getting there. Parents taking them. Apparently not room for one more, says she hasn’t been invited to ride with them. We are talking about 4 kids. Not like 15. This family drives me crazy with plans and my DD wonders why I don’t like her making plans with them. They have let her down so many times in the past. My DD is a planner so I don’t know how she does it. I’m a planner too but am learning to let it go.
Luckily, I’m not out too much money. She is borrowing a dress, shoes were $30, hair will be about $25-30 for an up-do, nails were $40, ticket was $20, dinner will probably be about $30. I haven’t been asked to donate towards limo. Oh and corsage was $25. I feel like I got off pretty cheap, considering.
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Post by lily on Apr 26, 2019 18:08:32 GMT
I don't have any kids going to Prom, but gosh it just amazes me how complicated something like this has become over the years since I was in high school. We never went as a group, it was always just couples and we met up at the actual dinner dance and 'hung out'. No limos, the dinner was at the venue so no outside dinner, and no 'after prom'. And we loved it! The next day we had a trip to an amusement park which was more the senior class, but everyone tended to go with their prom date. Ah the good old days LOLOL!
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Apr 26, 2019 19:35:48 GMT
I was not sad that DD and her date didn't join a group. Even so, I had to guide them through everything because they were clueless. "How are you getting there? Are you doing anything before? Are you doing anything after? Who is paying for what? Do you want a corsage/boutonniere? Does his mom want to meet us for pictures?"
I think a lot of the problem is that these kids really don't DATE like we (or I) did. They go out in groups or meet places, and they are rarely without supervision. They are older than I was when they start driving, so an adult has to be involved for transportation for almost anything at a younger age than prom.
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Post by johnnysmom on Apr 26, 2019 19:56:29 GMT
Yep. They just don’t get the logistics and what’s important and what doesn’t really matter.
Ds has been worried all week that his vest/tie won’t match her dress. We went off of poorly lit pics because even tho I’d asked for a swatch of fabric we didn’t get one till Tuesday (prom is tomorrow). I said it’ll be fine, both are red but his accessories are a bit darker than her dress.....so not a big deal but it’s stressing him out for some reason.
It took them forever to decide on a restaurant, it’s just the two of them since it’s his prom (she’s from another school, they’re skipping her prom, same night) and his friends are either going to restaurants he doesn’t want to go to or they’re taking a party bus with kids he’s worried might drink or smoke pot.
Then he’s worried about not having enough time to get from prom to after prom before the doors lock.....ummm, surely the teachers thought this through and the venues are only 20min apart, the hour you have is plenty of time to come home and change and make it there with time to spare 🙄
Gf’s mom texted me today and said it was ok for gf to sleep on our couch after they get home at 4:30am, so that’s settled at least. Now we just have to hope it doesn’t rain till after pics at the park 🤞
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Post by kelly8875 on Apr 26, 2019 21:18:13 GMT
Senior prom is tomorrow for DD. Her and her BF are very low key. She has her dress, doesn’t want a spray tan, pedi, mani or anything. Old shoes, hair down. She’s easy. We are getting her hair done, by the same gal that normally does our hair. Pictures will be at his house, it’s going to rain m, maybe snow, tomorrow. They don’t even care. They’re going in a small group, just 2 couples. Pretty sure she’s spending the night at his house, they’re hosting for some post-prom fun. I’m not concerned, they’ve been together over a year, and she and him road tripped it last summer to meet his family on vacay 6 hours away. He’s a great kid, she’s a great kid. I love no drama  |
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Post by trixiecat on Apr 26, 2019 21:30:01 GMT
My daughter and her boyfriend decided not to go to Junior prom due to some financial issues on his end. She really didn't care. Then 6 days before he told her he would like to go and to ask me if she could. I said no way! I was not going run to find a dress (that would have to be altered - she is overweight and short), buy shoes, etc. Plus the Junior prom is really just like a homecoming dance...limited snacks, dj...that is about it. And most kids don't even stay the 3 hours and leave after 2.
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Post by trollie on Apr 26, 2019 21:30:02 GMT
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Post by teach4u on Apr 26, 2019 21:31:00 GMT
Prom tomorrow in winter storm. School is running shuttle to and from. 3- 8 inches, 1 inch per hour possible
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Post by smcast on Apr 26, 2019 21:47:49 GMT
teach4u, here too. I feel so bad for the kids. Every year, it's usually chilly, rainy, and/or windy.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2019 0:58:39 GMT
Prom tomorrow in winter storm. School is running shuttle to and from. 3- 8 inches, 1 inch per hour possible Ick! Sure hope it is on the low end of the range! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2019 1:19:58 GMT
My dd is going to her best (female) friend's prom in early May. Holy expensive Batman!!! Each ticket is $120! Not per couple, but per ticket. Then she needed a dress, which is not cheap. Then make up, jewelry, shoes, clutch. Hair & nails done. Prom pics. I'm hemorrhaging cash. But it's her last chance and I don't want her to miss it. Wow! I thought ours are bad at $50 each, $120 each is crazy! Ours doesn't include food, though...hope your DD's does. Ours is a fun venue that's a bowling alley but they have a ballroom, arcade and laser tag, too. Her BF told me the kids can do everything except laser tag this year since couples were being "naughty" in there. He then said he's def doing laser tag anyway  he didn't mean it that way but he got a raised eyebrow look from me  |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Apr 27, 2019 11:14:20 GMT
My dd is going to her best (female) friend's prom in early May. Holy expensive Batman!!! Each ticket is $120! Not per couple, but per ticket. Then she needed a dress, which is not cheap. Then make up, jewelry, shoes, clutch. Hair & nails done. Prom pics. I'm hemorrhaging cash. But it's her last chance and I don't want her to miss it. Wow! I thought ours are bad at $50 each, $120 each is crazy! Ours doesn't include food, though...hope your DD's does. Ours is a fun venue that's a bowling alley but they have a ballroom, arcade and laser tag, too. Her BF told me the kids can do everything except laser tag this year since couples were being "naughty" in there. He then said he's def doing laser tag anyway  he didn't mean it that way but he got a raised eyebrow look from me Her venue does include food, though I'm not sure exactly what. It's being held at some ritzy hotel with a ballroom. I heard from the grapevine that the tickets are so expensive because they are expecting a low turn out. Well, damn. Then pick a less expensive venue. I bet your dd will have fun at the bowling alley+. Sounds like it'll be a blast. 😁 |
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Post by StephDRebel on Apr 29, 2019 2:45:47 GMT
They made it through the night.
Hair and makeup went well. The corsage place closed early so they didnt have flowers but made it for photos on time. There were a million people at the covered bridge taking pics and a dozen people jumped in the middle and started having a wedding. That was weird. It was a LONG wedding too, 30 minutes or more easily. It started raining as soon as they were finished so we snapped a few pics under the bridge and sent them to dinner.
No one called for a reservation and the steakhouse was busy so they ended up going to cracker barrel and then on the way to the dance they hit a pot hole and had to call for a ride. We swapped cars and dealt with that and then went to the senior walk. I cried most of the way through senior walk, it suddenly hit me that hes my last baby. I laughed hysterically when they announced them and I cheered. He immediately said there's my mom!" And then "I love you the most' after I yelled I love you. So many awws from the moms.
They had a blast and danced until the last song before going to a friends house. We rented a moon bounce but it was freezing so they state inside most of the night. The only thing they prearranged was for us to pick them up in case they were drinking and they called around 130. We got them home, made grilled cheese, gave them water and chatted for a while before they crashed around 4.
I had 2 that didnt drink at all and 2 that had hangovers this morning. (My son included. The jackhole had two Mike's hard lemonades and threw up before bed. Good grief. )
They had to be at the school for cleanup at 8 and spent the day laughing at them whining about being so tired and then took them to my favorite brunch place for greasy burgers and fries before naps for everyone.
They had a great time, hopefully they learn to plan soon!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2019 11:21:35 GMT
Awww, the senior walk moment sounds sweet...you need a video of that so you have the sound! Sounds like they handled all their challenges pretty well, otherwise! The bounce house idea sounds so fun...too bad the weather was sucky.
We have dinner reservations made (back to the original place for the 3rd time), we have given up on any after party plans and DD's promposal was the hugest bust (for her....turned out great for the other 2 girls involved). I may need to do an update on that.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 29, 2019 11:43:14 GMT
As a mother of all boys, I've never been involved in any prom planning (beyond ordering or buying a tux). My sons always shrugged and said, "Dunno," to any questions about how the night would go. The girls did the planning and the boys just did what the girls told them to do. Ha.
(Now on the girls' side, it was often drama as I would hear from their moms. I think I got the lucky side!)
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Post by warrior1991 on Apr 29, 2019 15:10:45 GMT
My niece is going with some friends from school. (Niece is home schooled, but is best friends with the 2 girl foreign exchange students from a local high school (and youth group). Prom is this Saturday (May 4th). They all went shopping for dresses, but ended up ordering from online. She is so excited to go.
I can't wait to see their pictures.
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Post by used2scrap on May 4, 2019 4:41:39 GMT
DS is a Sr and so far says he isn’t going again this year. Ugh. I think it’s too late for tickets now. He has a sweet friend at another school in town that is strongly dropping hints she wants him to ask, but he’s insisting that it’s too awkward to invite himself to her prom. Sigh. Update, they went to the beach for a “not a date” afternoon, and went to see Avengers Endgame which ds insisted was “not a date” so he drove his younger sister and brother too. Well it was supposed to be a date and she was going to prompose him, with a bow tie she had made from the hemming remnants from her dress! So she asked him via FaceTime much later that night. Tonight he surprised her after her school musical with his promposal response poster and flowers! They’ve only got two weeks to figure out details, which is going to be crazy with exams and such. But he’s over the moon! |
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Post by Deleted on May 4, 2019 11:52:30 GMT
DS is a Sr and so far says he isn’t going again this year. Ugh. I think it’s too late for tickets now. He has a sweet friend at another school in town that is strongly dropping hints she wants him to ask, but he’s insisting that it’s too awkward to invite himself to her prom. Sigh. Update, they went to the beach for a “not a date” afternoon, and went to see Avengers Endgame which ds insisted was “not a date” so he drove his younger sister and brother too. Well it was supposed to be a date and she was going to prompose him, with a bow tie she had made from the hemming remnants from her dress! So she asked him via FaceTime much later that night. Tonight he surprised her after her school musical with his promposal response poster and flowers! They’ve only got two weeks to figure out details, which is going to be crazy with exams and such. But he’s over the moon! How thoughtful they both were! That's great he is going and so excited about it!😊 I'm still can't believe what a bust my DD's promposal was, but she was determined not to dwell on it and didn't. Our prom is today and I can't wait! Last night he asked if I had enough fabric from her dress to sew a pocket square...barely but I made what will stick out look good and we'll have to pin it in place. |
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Post by malibou on May 4, 2019 15:07:20 GMT
I have the ds that wants nothing to do with any of this stuff.  I knew he wasn't going to be the kid that wanted to go to events and such - nuts don't fall far from the tree - but I still hoped. Ds won't walk graduation either. I was pretty solid in my appreciation of not having to deal with all the details and such, but as it gets closer, I wonder if we should have pushed at him. |
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Post by fredfreddy44 on May 4, 2019 15:43:41 GMT
Stories like this make me glad I missed almost all this crap. DD went to jr and senior proms. Jr prom was like the mess you are describing but I stayed out of it and just asked for photos. Sr prom she went with 3 friends and no dates so plans were easier to make.
Ds never went to a single dance and ds2, who is ending his sophomore year, seems to be on the same track. Makes me a bit sad but it isn't my life.
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since they can't decide. We offered to host an after party (not drinking) but it sounds like there are a couple of girls that are probably wanting to drink so they won't commit. And boys that won't go anywhere there is any drinking (which confuses me, since DD said some of the girls that want to drink are their dates). Last night DD hung out with 2 of the girls and they now want just the girls to have a slumber party after. DD and her bf want to hang out together (rules from us and his parents are where there is an adult and a group, otherwise they can be home by a curfew) as part of a group, but the group can't agree on anything! There is a little over a week to go and we can deal with last minute if they came to our house. Just wish some of the group would chill out a bit or that a parent would step up and help them plan.
he didn't mean it that way but he got a raised eyebrow look from me 
I knew he wasn't going to be the kid that wanted to go to events and such - nuts don't fall far from the tree - but I still hoped.