ddly
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Post by ddly on Apr 27, 2019 22:11:42 GMT
That’s terrible! I can’t believe there was so little notice.
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Peamac
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Post by Peamac on Apr 27, 2019 22:12:15 GMT
Are they afraid that any flashing lights/disco balls/etc may trigger a seizure? That's the only thing I can think of. Or that they'll have to pay the school nurse to attend, in case something happens. Or that the school would be sued if the student has a seizure. That sounds more like a trigger for an epileptic seizure than for asthma. If they can ban a kid for asthma, they're opening Pandora's box. True- but they may not know there's a difference between seizure due to asthma and seizure due to epilepsy. |
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Post by LiLi on Apr 27, 2019 22:15:44 GMT
Perhaps a note from the doctor stating it would be ok for the student to attend? I feel like this is what most schools would require.
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Post by pierkiss on Apr 27, 2019 22:19:54 GMT
If prom is tonight, I would have tries to figure this out previously. They were informed this morning that she could not attend. Oh hell to the no. I would escalate the shit out of this. And if my kid had previously been planning on attending, she would be trying to attend tonight. I hope your friend doesn’t just drop this if they don’t let her in. |
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Post by johnnysmom on Apr 27, 2019 22:21:46 GMT
If prom is tonight, I would have tries to figure this out previously. They were informed this morning that she could not attend. Ok I rarely say this but f*ck that shit. If there was advance notice then a doctor could have been consulted, a parent could chaperone, etc. if nothing else the girl would have had time to come to terms with the situation instead of being in prom-prep mode for the past month(s). That’s total BS that they pulled this this morning 😡🤬🥵 |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 27, 2019 22:27:43 GMT
They were informed this morning that she could not attend. Has she been in attending school prior to this or was she out for a period of time and the prom would have been her first time back? How did they even know she was going to attend prom tonight? Did someone alert the school? |
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 27, 2019 22:36:45 GMT
If prom is tonight, I would have tries to figure this out previously. They were informed this morning that she could not attend. who called this morning? Call that person back and inform them if she isnt allowed in, that she will be getting a lawyer on monday. Then offer to be very close |
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Post by leftturnonly on Apr 28, 2019 1:41:27 GMT
If prom is tonight, I would have tries to figure this out previously. They were informed this morning that she could not attend. Oh, Hell no! Sadly, I would not have been surprised to see the school district my kids were in try this kind of stupid thing. Please let us know how this night turns out. |
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Post by meridon on Apr 28, 2019 1:43:31 GMT
This is for a Prom...not the child's education. That being said...I would ask for the nurse to attend. A 504 can cover school events such as field trips, sports, extra-curriculars, even PTA events. This....it can be put in the 504 that a nurse will attend. If there isn't a 504, there needs to be one put in place ASAP. I've chaperoned prom for 18 years and we've never had to have a nurse attend, but we've had to have one go on the senior picnic, go to graduation practice, go on field trips with us, etc. This district is looking to get sued if they bar the student from attending. They will absolutely lose......unless there's no 504. This is a situation where you don't get what you don't ask for. |
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Post by alexa11 on Apr 28, 2019 2:56:12 GMT
This is terrible! I have no advice except tell mom to not stay quiet.
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Post by scrapaddie on Apr 28, 2019 3:26:19 GMT
Are they afraid that any flashing lights/disco balls/etc may trigger a seizure? That's the only thing I can think of. Or that they'll have to pay the school nurse to attend, in case something happens. Or that the school would be sued if the student has a seizure. That sounds more like a trigger for an epileptic seizure than for asthma. If they can ban a kid for asthma, they're opening Pandora's box. I think the concern is for the seizures, not for the asthma... That being said, it is up to the parents to advocate. It sounds like a single administrator is afraid that the lights etc, might set off a seizure. It would be a simple thing for the parent to talk to the administrator and, if that fails, to go over his head. |
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 28, 2019 14:06:52 GMT
Did she end up trying to go
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Post by littlemama on Apr 28, 2019 14:42:16 GMT
I would say that the school has to protect itself at a loosely supervised event. The parent should get a doctor's note stating that it is fine, provide instructions in case something goes wrong, and offer to chaperone the prom, so they are on site. Also, a couple of the students attending with this student should be aware of what to do.
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Post by wezee on Apr 28, 2019 17:03:25 GMT
Are they afraid they would be held libel? So many other what if's could happen, are they going to ban anyone who could potentially have an issue? That is just absurd. If the student did have an episode how is that going to harm the other students? I would fight tooth and nail on this one!!!
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Post by AnotherPea on Apr 28, 2019 17:51:27 GMT
I suspect there is a lot more to this story.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Apr 28, 2019 20:33:59 GMT
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Post by leftturnonly on Apr 28, 2019 20:43:23 GMT
a loosely supervised event. Since when are proms loosely supervised? Maybe when I was a kid when I and my date rode his trusty dinosaur to the dance. |
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Post by peabay on Apr 28, 2019 20:44:10 GMT
That would never happen at our school - either educationally or extracurricularly - our school is committed to providing access for ALL. (we hear constantly "all means all.")
We have two medically fragile eighth graders for whom nurses were provided so they could attend the 8th grade dance last year.
We have a wheelchair bound seventh grader who wanted to attend a weekend ski trip arranged by his middle school. While his dad did chaperone, the school provided a special bus that could accommodate him.
We have special ed paras who attend dances and proms with their students (obviously not "with" as in a date, but who attend to supervise and help.)
I would fight that tooth and nail. That is not acceptable.
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Post by leftturnonly on Apr 28, 2019 20:48:03 GMT
I suspect there is a lot more to this story. Yeah, well, I don't. It may only have been the decision of the one person who called the family to tell them the girl couldn't go. School administrations can make some incredibly stupid decisions, so even if it was from the board itself, that doesn't necessarily mean much. For all y'all with competent school boards, congratulations. You won the lottery. |
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Post by leftturnonly on Apr 28, 2019 20:51:49 GMT
That would never happen at our school - either educationally or extracurricularly - our school is committed to providing access for ALL. (we hear constantly "all means all.") We have two medically fragile eighth graders for whom nurses were provided so they could attend the 8th grade dance last year. We have a wheelchair bound seventh grader who wanted to attend a weekend ski trip arranged by his middle school. While his dad did chaperone, the school provided a special bus that could accommodate him. We have special ed paras who attend dances and proms with their students (obviously not "with" as in a date, but who attend to supervise and help.) I would fight that tooth and nail. That is not acceptable. If my kids had gone to a public school like that when they were little, the entire direction of the lives of my entire family would have been greatly different. |
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 28, 2019 23:30:40 GMT
That would never happen at our school - either educationally or extracurricularly - our school is committed to providing access for ALL. (we hear constantly "all means all.") We have two medically fragile eighth graders for whom nurses were provided so they could attend the 8th grade dance last year. We have a wheelchair bound seventh grader who wanted to attend a weekend ski trip arranged by his middle school. While his dad did chaperone, the school provided a special bus that could accommodate him. We have special ed paras who attend dances and proms with their students (obviously not "with" as in a date, but who attend to supervise and help.) I would fight that tooth and nail. That is not acceptable. If my kids had gone to a public school like that when they were little, the entire direction of the lives of my entire family would have been greatly different. a teacher at our middle school said she wouldn't take a student with diabetes on a field trip (self monitored and controled). She was non renewed |
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Post by leftturnonly on Apr 29, 2019 1:17:33 GMT
a teacher at our middle school said she wouldn't take a student with diabetes on a field trip (self monitored and controled). She was non renewed Gurrrllll..... I can't tell you how many field trips I chaperoned with my diabetic daughter. They really did not want to pull that sh!t with me. |
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Post by Really Red on Apr 29, 2019 1:28:12 GMT
Miss Ang What happened in the end? I hope this was one rogue person making this idiotic decision. Seriously!
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 29, 2019 1:32:42 GMT
In our high school, we had a young lady who suffered from grand mal seizures that happened whenever. She played on the basketball team and there were several occasions that the game had to be put on hold while she had a seizure on the court. My husband knew her well and took care of her if the nurse was not in attendance. She played all four years and the school went above and beyond for this young lady in classes and on the court. I cannot imagine that they would have banned her from going to prom.
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Apr 29, 2019 2:26:11 GMT
I'm hoping they still went. I'd insist my child go anyway and be there in a moment's notice if needed. I'd come with my phone recording because I'm sure stories would change later.
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Post by gritzi on Apr 29, 2019 2:35:27 GMT
I hope your friend's daughter was permitted to attend. No way would I sit quietly and have her denied.
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Post by Country Ham on Apr 29, 2019 16:33:14 GMT
I suspect there is a lot more to this story. Yeah, well, I don't. It may only have been the decision of the one person who called the family to tell them the girl couldn't go. School administrations can make some incredibly stupid decisions, so even if it was from the board itself, that doesn't necessarily mean much. For all y'all with competent school boards, congratulations. You won the lottery.I I suspect the big factor here is that she has only been having seizures for 2 weeks. Going to read the OP for an update.
ps.. btw not every school has nurses, paras to attend dances etc.
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Apr 29, 2019 16:33:51 GMT
Miss Ang curious if they let her in or not?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2019 16:46:26 GMT
Yeah, well, I don't. It may only have been the decision of the one person who called the family to tell them the girl couldn't go. School administrations can make some incredibly stupid decisions, so even if it was from the board itself, that doesn't necessarily mean much. For all y'all with competent school boards, congratulations. You won the lottery.I I suspect the big factor here is that she has only been having seizures for 2 weeks. Going to read the OP for an update.
ps.. btw not every school has nurses, paras to attend dances etc.
In our district, paras and nurses are only in site for school hours. None attend after school activities. And they shouldn't have to in my opinion. After school activities are optional and not part of ones educational hours. Dd has rare condition with sub conditions and we are in the area of off campus dances in case something happens. Admin is aware of her epi pen being on her. But I would not expect her 1:1 para or nurse to be there. |
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Post by Miss Ang on Apr 29, 2019 20:11:14 GMT
Update in OP!
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