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Post by jesslee on May 20, 2019 0:54:25 GMT
Please tell me if I'm being too sensitive about this.
I graduated yesterday with my degree in nursing. This is a second career for me and its been a hard road. Nursing school is no joke. When people say its tough they are not kidding. These last 2 years I have worked my butt off. I have gone through a person tradegy, financial hardship and my family and I have sacrified so much for me to fulfill my dream. I have been the President of our nursing association and have organized numerous fundraisers for local charities and gone to every event. The last year I have been the lab proctor for the first year students. I have done all these things because this is what I love. I would eventually like to teach nursing. Anyway back to my vent/irritation/hurt/pissed off feelings. A month ago me and the other officers of the nursing association and other members of the student body went to a leadership dinner. Congratulating us for our hard work. The student leaders are awarded a student leader stole to wear with their cap and gown. We were told we could not have them that evening but would get them at check in at graduation. I am so proud of this accomplishment and so excited to show this achievement off at graduation. I check in at graduation and they tell me they are out of leader stoles. Excuse me? I was shocked. What do you mean they are all out? I was told I would get one at this event. Nope sorry. I asked to speak to the guy in charge of this. They go get him and while I'm waiting I find out that all of the officers in my organization didn't recieve stoles.
So the guy in charges comes in and tells me his is sorry but he didn't bring enough. Um how is that my problem. We are still over an hour away from graduation go get them. He says that is not possible because he didn't order enough. Ok well you just said you didn't bring enough now you didn't order enough. Which is it? We were at the dinner a month ago and you didn't count right. He then says he is very sorry but will make it up to us by having it mailed to our home. Um. I said that is certainly not making up for it. I was livid.
Long story short we found out later on that some people had their stoles already but forgot them at home so they gave them another which left them short. I am mad. Am I making a mountain out of a molehill? It sounds silly but this was a big deal to me.
Oh and in listening to this another staff member of the college told us we were being petty for being so upset. We earned that. We had family travel from out of state to watch us graduate. I have to be at the college tomorrow for a nclex prep class and plan to go over to the President's office to discuss this with him. I have been thinking about this all weekend and it bums me out. I know this is nothing in the grand plan of things and I will be an amazing nurse. It just stinks!
Then to add the icing on the cake. The newpaper had photos of all the graduations in the paper today and guess who was front and center for my college graduation. Me! lol.
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Post by Deleted on May 20, 2019 0:58:23 GMT
I don't think you are being too sensitive. They need a standard procedure for stole distribution. Either give them out early or not at all to any one. But NEVER give anyone a second one!
IT isn't petty and it can't be made up later. Your graduation pictures are all stole-less. That was the time it was important. Not so much after the event. Like telling a grammy winner we didn't bring enough grammies so we will send you one later.
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Post by jemali on May 20, 2019 1:07:13 GMT
I understand why you are upset! No way should people who already received a stole get another one because they forgot.
Congratulations on becoming a nurse. My DD is a nurse and is so happy.
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Post by PrettyInPeank on May 20, 2019 1:11:04 GMT
I'm livid for you. You are validated.
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Post by RosieKat on May 20, 2019 1:13:09 GMT
I say it's one of those things that maybe "shouldn't" matter, but it does matter, immensely. I would be really upset and frankly, it would probably annoy me pretty much forever. (I don't mean it would ruin my life, but it would bug me.) I'm really sorry this happened.
However, congratulations on all your hard work and success, best wishes as you continue moving forward!
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Post by KelleeM on May 20, 2019 1:17:34 GMT
Congratulations!!
It matters and I’d be fuming.
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Post by jesslee on May 20, 2019 1:19:47 GMT
Thank you for validating my feelings. As always the peas have the wisdom. I have been a member since the old board but don't post very often. Much love to you all!
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Post by mustlovecats on May 20, 2019 1:22:23 GMT
Whoa, I would have been piiiiiiiissssssssssssedddddd.
I don’t know how they should make this right - what would make you feel better about it? If you can figure that out, I’d approach the dean of the department.
Huge congratulations on your achievements. That’s a big deal.
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Post by jenjie on May 20, 2019 1:23:30 GMT
So not cool that this happened to you. At ds’ graduation on the program it stated what each stole or other accessory was for. It has meaning. I’m sorry. And congratulations!
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Post by 950nancy on May 20, 2019 1:26:38 GMT
I am sorry that happened to you and it wasn't okay.
That being said, I imagine that things like this are going to happen to you as nurse. You will be overlooked and under appreciated at times. I think you are going to have to come up with a mantra that gets you through crap like this.
Something happened at my son's graduation (to me, not him) that still ticks me off if I think about it, but I just repeat my personal mantra and it does help. It keeps things in perspective.
And a huge congratulations to you. Going back to school as a full fledged adult with many other responsibilities is not easy.
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Post by leftturnonly on May 20, 2019 1:27:46 GMT
Long story short we found out later on that some people had their stoles already but forgot them at home so they gave them another which left them short. Outrageous Oh and in listening to this another staff member of the college told us we were being petty for being so upset. Unacceptable The newpaper had photos of all the graduations in the paper today and guess who was front and center for my college graduation. Me! lol. Congratulations! I have been thinking about this all weekend and it bums me out. Get a stole. Borrow one if you have to. Get a good photo of you in graduation dress. Seniors get their photos taken all the time on a day other than graduation day. It'll be OK. The people who matter in your life will be able to see your photo and that's how they will remember it. |
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Post by 950nancy on May 20, 2019 1:32:43 GMT
Long story short we found out later on that some people had their stoles already but forgot them at home so they gave them another which left them short. Outrageous Oh and in listening to this another staff member of the college told us we were being petty for being so upset. Unacceptable The newpaper had photos of all the graduations in the paper today and guess who was front and center for my college graduation. Me! lol. Congratulations! I have been thinking about this all weekend and it bums me out.
Seniors get their photos taken all the time on a day other than graduation day. It'll be OK. The people who matter in your life will be able to see your photo and that's how they will remember it.Perfect advice. My son's gf borrowed the cap, gown and stole from a friend because she wasn't going to be in town for graduation. I took pictures for her at the college. Way better than the ones taken in the stadium. |
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Post by yodutchess on May 20, 2019 1:35:29 GMT
You were wronged. I would be upset too. I have my BSN and when I graduated no one had honor cords or any of that. We all had the salmon (hood? I forget what it is over the black robe). But if some one had something and I was entitled to it and I did not get one in that moment, I would be upset.
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Post by samantha25 on May 20, 2019 1:38:52 GMT
Congratulations. I can understand your frustration with not being recognized because you do deserve it and earned it. I thank you for doing all that you have done and will do.
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Post by maryland on May 20, 2019 1:39:13 GMT
You have every right to be upset! That's not fair to you, you worked so hard. And they didn't seem like the felt bad about it. My daughter is a nursing major and she works so hard!
Congratulations on your degree! You will make a great nurse!
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Post by Lexica on May 20, 2019 1:39:32 GMT
I was angry right along with you when I thought the guy didn’t order enough. When I read that there were people who were given a SECOND stole, I crossed over into feeling pea livid for you. I cannot believe someone would have the nerve to ask for a second stole because they simply forgot to bring theirs. Shame on them. If they forgot, they go without. It is unconscionable to take one that was for another person!
I don’t know what would make me feel better at this point. Sure you can complain so that there isn’t a repeat of this for upcoming graduations, but what about your graduating class? Perhaps request that your nursing group that were entitled to stoles return for photographs in their gowns and stoles at the school’s expense? Then you would at least have a photo for your records. Ask them to publish it in their school paper, if there is one, with the caption that the group was unfortunately omitted from the proper recognition.
My mother went back to school to become a nurse after she divorced my dad. She had 3 little kids, worked, and went to school at night. I can remember how exhausted she was and what an example she set for my sisters and me. My oldest sister ended up becoming a nurse too. Her husband is a doctor. And now my niece has decided to follow in their footsteps and become a nurse too. We had lots of medical issues discussed at our holiday functions.
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Post by PrettyInPeank on May 20, 2019 1:43:29 GMT
I like the idea of borrowing one and taking pictures. Maybe even getting a photography session to remember it by. Pinterest has cute graduation picture ideas.
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Post by hockeymom4 on May 20, 2019 1:53:36 GMT
Congratulations on your amazing accomplishments. You and your loved ones must be so proud. I hope you have a wonderful career.
I would be so PISSED.... definitely speak to/email whoever you need to..... not ordering enough is bad but giving people a second one is outrageous......
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Post by trollie on May 20, 2019 1:58:33 GMT
I'll validate you. Proud of your accomplishments! THAT, they can't take away.
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Post by jesslee on May 20, 2019 2:00:06 GMT
I love the idea of getting pictures done with the stole. I'll be looking into that. I will have it for my shadow box and that will displayed everyday in my house. I love pinterest and will have to check out what they have for ideas. I am very thankful my family was there to celebrate with me. This was just one of those bumps in the road.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on May 20, 2019 2:03:16 GMT
Borrow one and get those pictures taken! What he did was WRONG!!
You have accomplished so much... Congratulations!!
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Post by anaterra on May 20, 2019 2:12:05 GMT
I think you should take a boudoir photo in JUST the stole... just for urself... but ""wear"" it and reclaim it!!
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Post by peaname on May 20, 2019 2:16:13 GMT
Oh, I’d be pissed about it but don’t let it stand in the way of being proud of your accomplishments!
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Post by Layce on May 20, 2019 2:21:06 GMT
Congratulations and welcome to the thankless job of nursing! There is good advice on this thread and I hope it helps mitigate some of this justifiable anguish you have expressed here. Reminds me of when YDD graduated high school and did not receive her honors cords in time due to some mix-up that was never explained to our satisfaction. My niece received only a paltry few of her wedding day photos and no video due to an apparently incompetent professional wedding photographer. Shit happens and we just have to suck it up. And that sucks. In any case, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for becoming a nurse. May your nursing career surpass all you've hoped planned and dreamed of for the future! <insert two thumbs up here>  |
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Post by 950nancy on May 20, 2019 2:22:54 GMT
I love the idea of getting pictures done with the stole. I'll be looking into that. I will have it for my shadow box and that will displayed everyday in my house. I love pinterest and will have to check out what they have for ideas. I am very thankful my family was there to celebrate with me. This was just one of those bumps in the road. We did one that had the graduate blowing school colored sequins off of her cap towards the camera. Another one was the graduate walking up some stairs outside while holding the stole over her shoulder looking back at the camera. It was really cute. |
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Post by annabella on May 20, 2019 2:33:57 GMT
I would be livid!!!
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Post by originalvanillabean on May 20, 2019 2:59:45 GMT
Whoa, I would have been piiiiiiiissssssssssssedddddd. This! Congratulations on your accomplishment! I spent many hours helping my sister study and it’s hard. You earned it! |
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 20, 2019 3:10:34 GMT
Congrats on your graduation! I’d be livid about that too. You earned the distinction and you should have received the stole in time for your photos. That sucks. My niece is an RN and I know how hard she worked to get there. It’s definitely no joke.
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Post by Zee on May 20, 2019 3:10:47 GMT
Congratulations!
And, at this age, who cares about a stole? It's just not something I'd think about or care about. Bit, if they're giving them to some people who forgot theirs, that's definitely not right and I'm glad you are pointing it out so that they can fix the process going forward.
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Post by pierkiss on May 20, 2019 3:22:56 GMT
You are right to be pissed about this. But if you’re going in to talk to the President about this you better bring a solid solution or two, so that this never happens again. They don’t want to just listen to you vent and whine.
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