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Post by idahopea on May 20, 2019 3:44:01 GMT
I would be livid. I would email the person in charge of the stoles and again make it clear how disappointed you were and that you found out that some people forgot their's and were given a second one. Tell him exactly what you told us. I hope he feels like a pos. Congrats to you! I would do this and also send a letter/email to the chair of the department and the dean or whomever is above this guy. Keep it professional though because you may need recommendations for years ahead. It won't change things for your graduation, but it might change things for next year's class. The lack of concern on the part of the person in charge of the stoles is what would make me so angry. He should have been gushing with apology and trying to figure out how to get the stoles back from the people who received 2 in that hour before the ceremony started. I hope you can recreate the photos once you receive your stole even though it isn't the same as getting to wear it on the graduation day. Don't let this incident take away from your hard work and accomplishments! You have so much to be proud of! Congratulations on your graduation!
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Post by PrettyInPeank on May 20, 2019 4:26:34 GMT
Congratulations! And, at this age, who cares about a stole? It's just not something I'd think about or care about. Bit, if they're giving them to some people who forgot theirs, that's definitely not right and I'm glad you are pointing it out so that they can fix the process going forward. As someone in school during a challenging time of life, sometimes that stole is what makes me stay up until the middle of the night, or come in early, or miss out. It's only a silly stole or cord, yes, but it's not when it's what drives your personal goal.
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Post by hannahruth on May 20, 2019 4:31:05 GMT
I understand why you are upset! No way should people who already received a stole get another one because they forgot. Congratulations on becoming a nurse. My DD is a nurse and is so happy. Those that forgot theirs should have got Ne home to get them - there is no way they should have been given a second stole. Poor leadership indeed. You are certainly validated!
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Post by roberta on May 20, 2019 4:56:51 GMT
In my opinion you have every right to be hurt and furious. There is no way they should have given out drapes to anyone who forgot them when you never received yours.
That being said taking pics after you receive your drape is great. Feel the hurt and anger and then move on. It is not worth it to you to hold on to it or let it spoil the occasion.
Congrats 🎈🍾🎉 on a job well done.
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Post by anniefb on May 20, 2019 5:08:02 GMT
Congratulations and I'm definitely validating you. Not acceptable!
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Post by smcast on May 20, 2019 5:20:51 GMT
Wow! I can't believe they gave some out a second time to people who had forgotten theirs. I'd be talking to someone in charge to prevent that from happening again. Unbelievable!
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Post by AllieC on May 20, 2019 5:23:06 GMT
Congratulations on a wonderful achievement! I think people going back to study as "mature aged"(that's what we call them here) are usually wonderful at their jobs as they really want to study for their chosen career.
I think that while I would be upset about what happened, I wouldn't have been livid or allow it to affect my enjoyment of the occasion. A stole does not take away your achievement! Don't let this be the overarching thing that you remember about your graduation - you graduated and that is awesome. I would report it to whomever you need to and then let it go - for your own wellbeing so you can focus on the positives.
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Post by pattyraindrops on May 20, 2019 5:57:05 GMT
My son graduates this week. It reminded my daughter that 3 years ago the program was missing the * by her name signifying honors or grades or something. She worked really hard for that and it still bothers her when she thinks about.
I get it. So sorry!
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Post by cycworker on May 20, 2019 23:36:02 GMT
Perhaps request that your nursing group that were entitled to stoles return for photographs in their gowns and stoles at the school’s expense? Then you would at least have a photo for your records. Ask them to publish it in their school paper, if there is one, with the caption that the group was unfortunately omitted from the proper recognition. I totally agree with Lexica, jesslee - with one exception. I would be very clear with them that you are livid and you aren't requesting this restitution, because a request implies that no could be an acceptable answer. I would inform them... "You have made a mess. You WILL clean it up. As such, you WILL arrange a photo shoot for those of us who were deprived of a stole, and you WILL pay for it." Editted to add:.they also need to post the new photo with an acknowledgement of there incompetence, such as, 'Due to an error by person X the following students were deprived of the opportunity to wear the stole they rightfully earned at the 2019 graduation ceremony. The department regrets this mistake and has taken the appropriate action." if if I were this person's boss they'd be written up. It's unacceptable.
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Post by pilcas on May 20, 2019 23:44:47 GMT
Congratulations on your achievement! I agree with you. To give someone a second one at the expense of someone else is inexcusable.
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Post by gulfcoastgirl on May 21, 2019 0:11:25 GMT
Haven't read all the responses, but I think you have an absolutely right to be upset.. I know a lot of nurses and i know just getting through nursing school as an average student is hard enough. You deserve all the recognition you are due and I'm sure it was a big disappointment . Without making this about me, i know what its like to be denied the tangible recognition of your achievements. What won't be denied you, however, is your rightful place in the record book. It hurts, i know. I still miss not having the swag I was entitled to, but I can always make myself feel better by knowing the record stands. Think about your tremendous achievement. You're a valued member of the refugee community and your future patients will be blessed.
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Post by destined2bmom on May 21, 2019 0:15:51 GMT
Huge Congratulations on becoming a nurse!
I completely validate your feelings. What that guy did by giving people a second stole is completely unacceptable. I would let the president know and demand pictures. I feel the college should pay for them and republish the pictures.
Let us us know how it turns out.
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Post by lisae on May 21, 2019 0:29:44 GMT
I would be mad for sure. Congratulations on your achievement! I hope you get to teach nursing someday also. With so much passion and commitment for the subject, you would make an excellent teacher.
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Post by PLurker on May 21, 2019 0:39:47 GMT
Congrats!
I validate you.
You deserved it and it isn't trivial to you and shouldn't be treated as such. It was not handled well at all.
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Post by peasquared on May 21, 2019 1:50:01 GMT
I would be livid, hurt and disappointed all in one. Your feelings are definitely validated! I'm so sorry.
But, Congratulations! You must be so proud of yourself!
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Post by 950nancy on May 21, 2019 3:34:52 GMT
Perhaps request that your nursing group that were entitled to stoles return for photographs in their gowns and stoles at the school’s expense? Then you would at least have a photo for your records. Ask them to publish it in their school paper, if there is one, with the caption that the group was unfortunately omitted from the proper recognition. I totally agree with Lexica, jesslee - with one exception. I would be very clear with them that you are livid and you aren't requesting this restitution, because a request implies that no could be an acceptable answer. I would inform them... "You have made a mess. You WILL clean it up. As such, you WILL arrange a photo shoot for those of us who were deprived of a stole, and you WILL pay for it." Editted to add:.they also need to post the new photo with an acknowledgement of there incompetence, such as, 'Due to an error by person X the following students were deprived of the opportunity to wear the stole they rightfully earned at the 2019 graduation ceremony. The department regrets this mistake and has taken the appropriate action." if if I were this person's boss they'd be written up. It's unacceptable. I don't know about this. In my experience with the education system, demanding things often gets you nowhere. Unless there was a contract stating the stoles would be provided, you could be at the school's mercy.
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Post by Deleted on May 21, 2019 6:21:40 GMT
Those that had already received their stoles and left them at home should not have been given a second stole! They forgot to bring theirs, too bad for them. You should not have been left without a stole because of their mistake! Shame on that man! I don't blame you a bit for being upset!
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Post by mikklynn on May 22, 2019 19:42:17 GMT
I would have been very upset, too. Congratulations! Nurses are my favorite people.
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Post by littlemama on May 22, 2019 20:18:26 GMT
My name was spelled wrong on my high school diploma. It kind of sucked the joy out of the day because I didn't have that piece of paper to show for it!
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Post by mallie on May 22, 2019 20:26:35 GMT
My son graduates this week. It reminded my daughter that 3 years ago the program was missing the * by her name signifying honors or grades or something. She worked really hard for that and it still bothers her when she thinks about. I get it. So sorry! This thread has brought me back to the moment when my dd discovered her honors cord was "unavailable" at her graduation. No apology, not even an "oops". Just, "We don't have enough. Just go get on line to walk." Every time the development office calls me for a donation, I remind them of that incident and say, "We don't have enough." So, yes, OP. I validate you. And if this "stuff" is not important enough to do properly, then DON"T DO IT. Don't make stoles or cords or any other signifiers available.
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Post by workingclassdog on May 22, 2019 20:32:58 GMT
I think that SUCKS.. big time and no not being sensitive. You worked hard for that degree!!
Our mishap was with our son and his high school graduation. At the time I was SO mad, but they left his name off of the printed schedule (I can't think the name of it), but where they list all the graduates. We were sitting in the stands looking for his name and started having several people come up to us asking us why our son wasn't graduating.. Talk about EMBARRASSING. The school did print us 4 of our own schedules but really?? And they offered to give us 2 seats in the front row reserved for the valedictorian's family. Well thanks but there are six of us, do you think we are going to split up? And the fact, they didn't mention anything about any of the kids going into the military (our son was going into the AF)... but leaving his name off the schedule was the upsetting part.
BUT six years later?? It's something we don't even think about.
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Post by workingclassdog on May 22, 2019 20:34:48 GMT
My son graduates this week. It reminded my daughter that 3 years ago the program was missing the * by her name signifying honors or grades or something. She worked really hard for that and it still bothers her when she thinks about. I get it. So sorry! I already wrote this.. but my son's name was totally missing from the program... LOL...we had friend's thinking he didn't make it... oye.
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Post by tuva42 on May 23, 2019 19:10:03 GMT
Be mad. For another 10 minutes. Then take a deep breath and let it go. No one can make this right. There will not be another chance for you to wear this for a while.
Don't let this ruin what you've accomplished. That stole was just a tiny thing in the grand scheme of what you did and what you will do in the future with this hard won degree. Don't let it overshadow a time of celebration!
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Post by Judy26 on May 23, 2019 23:22:35 GMT
I would be very upset. You are completely validated to feel as you do. The people you spoke with were rude and condescending. But the most important thing I have to say is Go You!! Well done!! Your accomplishments are worthy and you will be doing a great service to your future patients. Be proud!
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Post by Deleted on May 23, 2019 23:36:39 GMT
You aren't being too sensitive. The people that forgot there's are the ones that should have gone without.
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