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Post by 950nancy on Jun 14, 2019 4:03:09 GMT
ha ha, all of you. My DD is 35, always (mostly always)  lovely to me, and I’m even crazier about her now than the day she was born. (in between, though ... I was so traumatized by her adolescence/early adulthood that I hated babies for years afterwards, because all I could see when I looked at them was “future teenager”) I have a 23 and 25 year old and I much prefer them at this age than a baby. I even preferred them as teens! I am not a baby person. I can appreciate them and enjoy them for a bit, but please, someone take them home. |
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Post by tentoes on Jun 14, 2019 4:17:53 GMT
Add a year and that’s my son. Rinse and repeat. 😡 So you're telling me it doesn't get better? Fantastic!  Mine is 54 and he's coming over tomorrow to fix my broken cooler. He has been so supportive. I just love him to pieces. So maybe it will get better with a few years! |
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Post by rickmer on Jun 14, 2019 12:34:29 GMT
my 18 yo dd is lovely. she is never home and i rarely see her for more than 10 mins so she never has a bad attitude. she makes her own money so no one can say "hey, can you afford that?". she is either hardworking and well adjusted. or a serial killer.
my almost 14 yo on the other hand, late for school last two days cuz "no one woke me up".
when i wake him up he says "mom i got it" and proceeds to fall back to sleep OR lay in bed until the last possible second watching brooklyn 99 on netflix on his phone.
(he has watched all seasons, back to back, 5 times in it's entirety... i never watched an episode but the actors voices are the soundtrack to my life. lol!)
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Post by Kerri W on Jun 14, 2019 14:50:55 GMT
Well my 20 yo is sucking up big time because he needed to borrow money this week, THEN had car trouble and needed another financial bailout. He's pretty easy going normally, but he's extra nice right now. lol 13yo DS is our moody one but as luck would have it we're on good grounds with him today too. He received a new guitar (that he won in a giveaway) in the mail yesterday and was given a free ticket to see Hamilton last night. All is right in my boy's world. For the next 10 minutes or so. I expect things to change drastically before lunchtime.  |
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Post by freebird on Jun 14, 2019 15:10:14 GMT
In other news, it’s Thursday. 🙄 What’s up with you? Well clearly you are wrong. duh. |
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Post by 2marbles on Jun 14, 2019 22:00:44 GMT
My 20 is highly annoyed with me because I asked her to clean the patio for a gathering tomorrow, so her dad (who is mowing and weeding) won't have to. She was the one that bought decorations etc for the patio excursion. I was happy to remain inside in the AC tomorrow.  I'm so evil. And she has done "EVERYTHING"! except their two loads of towels, a load of clothes and washing of her blanket. I did that.  |
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Post by sassyangel on Jun 14, 2019 23:24:31 GMT
Add a year and that’s my son. Rinse and repeat. 😡 So you're telling me it doesn't get better? Fantastic! It does...eventually. I was an 18 year old like your daughter. Now I realize my mother was nowhere near the ogre I thought she was, and I was being a brat. She’s your kid, so pretty sure she’s a good kid deep down, so eventually she will realize this, too. This too will pass, lol. |
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Post by LeaP on Jun 14, 2019 23:29:44 GMT
In other news, it’s Thursday. 🙄 What’s up with you? What? You're still breathing? How embarrassing! <- what my 15 year old thinks, my 18 year old gets tire and then is mad at common sense advice. |
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Post by kate on Jun 15, 2019 2:51:46 GMT
Houseful of teens here... I'm just reading this thread and saying, "Mmmhmmm... Yep... Oh, yes, and this, too!" My boys each look like an upside-down mop: a giant mess of hair with a boy underneath. It's all my fault, of course. My suggesting that they see the barber MADE them not want to go. "I'll get to it, alright?! Quit reminding me!" Um, if you'd actually gotten to it yourself as promised, I wouldn't be compelled to remind you.  |
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Post by lesley on Jun 15, 2019 8:21:01 GMT
In other news, it’s Thursday. 🙄 What’s up with you? What? You're still breathing? How embarrassing! <- what my 15 year old thinks, my 18 year old gets tire and then is mad at common sense advice. This made me giggle. I remember my DD scowling at me and muttering "You and your damned logic."  |
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Post by AnotherPea on Jun 15, 2019 10:39:15 GMT
Mine happened yesterday - Wednesday. Upset because we require car insurance money each week but none of her friends have to pay for car insurance. GO GET ANOTHER JOB IF YOU WANT MORE MONEY! One of the best things that happened to us was my teen daughter making a new set of friends when she started a new “track” in high school. She moved from music to visual arts and all of a sudden her classmates’ socioeconomic status changed and she learned very quickly how generous (and fortunate) her parents were. I only wish the same had happened to her sibling. |
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Post by holly on Jun 15, 2019 13:57:07 GMT
I feel you. My 18 yo DD just graduated and right before graduation it was bad. I think she was super stressed. She was so pissy with me. Then she met a boy and wanted to go to a lake house overnight the night of her graduation with said boy and mutual friend that set them up plus a few others. Uh, no. Couldn’t understand why not, “I’ll be in college in a couple months” I just told her I hope she doesn’t make the same decisions in college and explained the reasons why I didn’t think it was a good idea especially when you just met this boy literally 3 days prior! She got over that, he came over the next day and went to grad parties with her. Seems like a nice guy, timing is all wrong though.
Now if we can make it until August when we drop her off at school! She has 2 jobs this summer so she should be super busy.
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Post by tincin on Jun 15, 2019 15:32:27 GMT
Been there, done that and as a whole mine are much better at 36 and 32. Although right now I’ve feeling a little forgotten by the both of them. I had my spinal fusion on Monday and while the oldest has texted a couple of times to check on me, the youngest has sent one text on Tuesday. Call me crazy but if my Mom had had surgery I would actually pick up the damned phone and call her. Luckily my friends love me and have been calling and texting.
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Post by AnotherPea on Jun 15, 2019 16:50:53 GMT
I feel you. My 18 yo DD just graduated and right before graduation it was bad. I think she was super stressed. She was so pissy with me. Then she met a boy and wanted to go to a lake house overnight the night of her graduation with said boy and mutual friend that set them up plus a few others. Uh, no. Couldn’t understand why not, “I’ll be in college in a couple months” I just told her I hope she doesn’t make the same decisions in college and explained the reasons why I didn’t think it was a good idea especially when you just met this boy literally 3 days prior! She got over that, he came over the next day and went to grad parties with her. Seems like a nice guy, timing is all wrong though. Now if we can make it until August when we drop her off at school! She has 2 jobs this summer so she should be super busy. If she brings it up again, share this story: dd#1 tried something similar. The parents of one of her friends rented a beach house and “everyone “ was going. I nixed it for a few reasons but her good friend went, with a guy she met a week before. Friend got pregnant that night and never did make it to college. |
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Post by AnotherPea on Jun 15, 2019 16:52:08 GMT
Been there, done that and as a whole mine are much better at 36 and 32. Although right now I’ve feeling a little forgotten by the both of them. I had my spinal fusion on Monday and while the oldest has texted a couple of times to check on me, the youngest has sent one text on Tuesday. Call me crazy but if my Mom had had surgery I would actually pick up the damned phone and call her. Luckily my friends love me and have been calling and texting.  I hope you’re doing well. |
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Post by leftturnonly on Jun 15, 2019 17:30:43 GMT
My 16 yr old dd was mad at me this afternoon because the sun was shining or something.  all I could see when I looked at them was “future teenager”  Sorry not sorry that my kids are well past those years! |
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Post by leftturnonly on Jun 15, 2019 17:52:39 GMT
What? You're still breathing? How embarrassing! <- what my 15 year old thinks, my 18 year old gets tire and then is mad at common sense advice. This made me giggle. I remember my DD scowling at me and muttering "You and your damned logic."  That kind of response is guaranteed to make me laugh until the tears start. Which of course would make my kids laugh. Hissy fit fail. |
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Post by artgirl1 on Jun 15, 2019 18:09:37 GMT
ha ha, all of you. My DD is 35, always (mostly always)  lovely to me, and I’m even crazier about her now than the day she was born. (in between, though ... I was so traumatized by her adolescence/early adulthood that I hated babies for years afterwards, because all I could see when I looked at them was “future teenager”) I can so relate to this. My DD is 38 and calls and texts everyday and now is on this kick that I have to move closer. And when she talk about her 5 year son, 'he's so stubborn...he's so opinionated..., he's so etc...., all I think is Karma baby Karma |
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Post by tincin on Jun 16, 2019 3:43:51 GMT
Been there, done that and as a whole mine are much better at 36 and 32. Although right now I’ve feeling a little forgotten by the both of them. I had my spinal fusion on Monday and while the oldest has texted a couple of times to check on me, the youngest has sent one text on Tuesday. Call me crazy but if my Mom had had surgery I would actually pick up the damned phone and call her. Luckily my friends love me and have been calling and texting. I hope you’re doing well. I am, thanks. I feel better than I thought I would. |
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Post by luckyjune on Jun 16, 2019 4:08:16 GMT
I was the meanest mom on the planet during the teen years. I think the kids kept a schedule of whose turn it was to be mad at me. It gets better. And as young adults, all three kids want to hang out with us, so the turmoil of the teen years didn't ruin a thing. Hang in there! ETA I knew it was a losing battle when a convo with DD, age 16 went like this: DD: (After I noticed she wasn't eating) "You can't make me eat!!! Me: You are correct. I was just noticing and making sure you are okay. (A day later...she's still deciding not to eat) DD: You didn't even notice that I'm not eating!!! Me:  Damned if I do, damned if I don't. Happy to report she's outgrown the obnoxiousness and I enjoy her company again! |
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Post by TankTop on Jun 16, 2019 13:22:55 GMT
Why do teens especially hate their mothers?
Dd has literally told me she knew my way was better, “but I wanted to prove you wrong by succeeding the wrong way.”
Me- “Did you succeed?”
Her- “No, it was too hard.”
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Post by Merge on Jun 16, 2019 14:51:23 GMT
Why do teens especially hate their mothers? Dd has literally told me she knew my way was better, “but I wanted to prove you wrong by succeeding the wrong way.” Me- “Did you succeed?” Her- “No, it was too hard.” 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ I tell myself it's part of the separation process as they get ready to leave home. Mine would frequently rather eat tacks than do something the way I told her to do it. Though, to be fair, she does the same thing with her dad. |
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Post by dewryce on Jun 16, 2019 16:54:17 GMT
Why do teens especially hate their mothers? Dd has literally told me she knew my way was better, “but I wanted to prove you wrong by succeeding the wrong way.” Me- “Did you succeed?” Her- “No, it was too hard.” 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ I tell myself it's part of the separation process as they get ready to leave home. Mine would frequently rather eat tacks than do something the way I told her to do it. Though, to be fair, she does the same thing with her dad. Not to scare you, but she may just be delightfully difficult in general. DH likes to say that I wouldn’t win the lottery if he told me to. |
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Post by luckyjune on Jun 16, 2019 22:01:52 GMT
I also learned, early on, that shopping for clothes with DD was a tricky dance. The minute I touched a garment or said, "Oh, this is cute!" the article of clothing became taboo. On many occasions, dd went back to a store and purchased the item I liked...she just couldn't do it when I was there!
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Post by Merge on Jun 16, 2019 22:29:38 GMT
I tell myself it's part of the separation process as they get ready to leave home. Mine would frequently rather eat tacks than do something the way I told her to do it. Though, to be fair, she does the same thing with her dad. Not to scare you, but she may just be delightfully difficult in general. DH likes to say that I wouldn’t win the lottery if he told me to. Oh, she is and has been since day 1. |
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Post by sassyangel on Jun 18, 2019 1:46:44 GMT
Why do teens especially hate their mothers? Dd has literally told me she knew my way was better, “but I wanted to prove you wrong by succeeding the wrong way.” Me- “Did you succeed?” Her- “No, it was too hard.” 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ 😂😂😂 I never hated my mum, deep down I always loved her. But I thought she was put in my universe to do two things:- Make it more difficult. Nag and say I told you so constantly (in hindsight, neither of which she did much, but in my melodramatic teen mind it was *constant*)😂 |
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 18, 2019 3:11:00 GMT
Apparently there is a new stage in development called emerging adult for ages 18-21
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lovely to me, and I’m even crazier about her now than the day she was born.
