This is why you aren't happy - Matthew McConaughey

Thank you!

This stuff just passes me right by...it's just a bunch of garbled nonsense to me.

He was the speaker at a graduation. That 9 minutes is just part of just 45 minute speech m.youtube.com/watch?v=BmCTQ_mkzHU

Most of what celebrities say when they think they are so deep and so forth, for some reason he always seems to be just down to earth and understandable.  Maybe it is the voice.. haha.. Not a bunch of big old fat words that you don't understand and going on and on about crap.  He seems to hit the nail on the head. I think it is his upbringing as well.  

I disagree totally...that is exactly what he's doing, going on and on about jargony crap..."no matter who is in your bed, we all sleep alone these are our personal Jiminy Crickets and there are not enough cops in the entire world to police them, we do our best when our destinations are beyond the measurement...etc etc etc WTF does any of that actually mean? What exactly is "the measurement" and how can "a destination" be beyond something that isn't a place?
and "our immortal finish lines"? Can anyone say mixed metaphor? If something lives forever how can it have a finish line, let alone multiple finish lines?

I think all that weed has permanently pickled his brain.

Plus I don't need some multimillionaire who lives his perfect little life in Hollywood and dresses up as other people for "work" lecturing me on why I'm not happy enough.

Ack, I missed the bit about the entire speech being 45 minutes!
I'd rather stick pins in my eye than sit through that.

You posted a link, we were obviously meant to click on it and listen.
I did.
Then I came back and posted my opinion of it. Did you really only expect to hear people gush about it the same way as you?
People are going to have different opinions, is that a new concept for you? Do you never expect to be challenged on something you listened to and expect to discuss it with others who saw it totally differently?

I think Mr McConaughey would be very disappointed that that you aren't trying to reach beyond your grasp and discover who you aren't.

I have just completed two weeks worth of an outpatient behavioral health program for people who have mental illness and who have attempted suicide. What I have learned from this program is that what speaks to one person won't register with another. Some people are looking to find inspiration wherever they can and some are looking to find fault (and sometimes those fault finders are driven by a world that has told them and a dysfunctional brain telling them that there is no truth to be found.) Some people rely on religion and some people need to find something intrinsically to be their guide. I don't know how therapists do it as we are all fantastically different people.

This speech didn't do much for me. The only exception that I found here is his point of view that the journey is worth celebrating as much as the accomplishment when it has been reached. But why did that stick out to me? Because I am a process person. I have taught myself to celebrate the journey because I often don't meet my goals and my brain has been trained to find accomplishment where I can because it is too frustrating to look at the very long to do list I create for myself and tell myself I failed. That is my life bias.

I think it would be a far more interesting discussion if instead of just saying, wow! Great speech! We actually figured out what spoke to us about it and why it did. Because, IMO, only by turning over these stones do we really ever grow. Learning about ourselves and what makes us tick, I believe is key to the mastery of our minds and emotions.

I respect, too, the view that this speech was garbage, did nothing for you, and you thought it was bunk. Those who can articulate why, IMO, have the exact same shot at personal insight as those for whom it did.

Commentary on things like this fascinates me. And I love the chance to hear another person's take on what they heard and how it differs from me.

Some people find joy in having things to tear apart and bitch about, so either way, mission accomplished!

i believe that happiness and joy are there for the taking.  it's free, it is endless.  have as much as you want.  find it in anything and everything, if you want.  and once found and experienced, it will never be lost.  i was watching Magnificent Seven (remake) last night and one of the characters said "what we lose in the fire, we will find in the ashes".  there are those who think that once happiness or joy is lost, it can never be found again.  i disagree.  it will just take a different form.  it's up to you to find it and have it.  

me, i mentally stockpile happy moments because i need to have them to remember when bad times come (which they always do). i need to remember happy times still exist and they will exist again.

I didn't listen to the whole video because I'm saving it to listen with DH later. He constantly needs to be reminded to take joy in the journey.

Thanks for sharing. 

True, except he was giving a commencement address and expected to talk longer than 30 seconds. 

Where was the other 35 minutes? The link I listened to was 9 or 10 minutes.

Thank you for posting this. I especially needed it today. There is really nothing new in what he said, but the way he expressed those things struck a chord within me and are right along with things I have been pondering over a lot this week.

I've felt pretty good about myself and my life most of my 51 years, but when we moved here I just fell apart. I finally started getting back on track and then the last month and a half I have lost it again. It's weird because there have been times in my life when things have been so very difficult and yet I did ok and now it seems things should be a piece of cake and here I am the last 24 hours just barely holding it together when for all everything that can be seen I have it really good.

So last night and this morning I was thinking that I have got to get away and find what I need to make my focus and having a rough time trying to figure out when I can do that because of this or that going on through the week. This talk is just what I needed to make it to when I can do it. Thank you.