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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 12, 2019 21:43:50 GMT
It's probably a good thing he started planning. He's got a lot of work to do. LOL! But now you have the job of narrating for us to give us a Pea thread to live in infamy! Haha! He is so freaked out about it. |
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Post by beaglemom on Aug 12, 2019 22:43:22 GMT
Live it! Btw...I can not think of you as Marcy....you are “my Lana” My college roommate would say "oh mylanta"(sp?) so that is the way I always see it. |
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Post by OntarioScrapper on Aug 14, 2019 1:40:18 GMT
 Good for you! My husband has been cursing at our printer for over a year now (that's how long we have it). He just has to use HIS laptop and won't print from my computer. Whatever. I also have a laptop. I have told him over and over again to just download the Epson software for our model. Print from that! But no, he didn't. So last week I'm at my Mom's and at the end of the week we are suppose to take 3 days to see theatre plays. He needs to print the tickets. Before I left, he grumbled about the printer. So yet again I remind him he can go to the Epson website and download the software. There's less swearing envolved. So when I see him at the end of the week he says "You were right. I downloaded the printers software. It worked right away. But I don't know WHY if this printer is suppose to be plug and play, I have to use Epson software." Okay close enough.
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Post by mlana on Aug 14, 2019 2:19:19 GMT
Live it! Btw...I can not think of you as Marcy....you are “my Lana” Lol. I’m good with that! Marcy |
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Post by mlana on Aug 14, 2019 2:28:44 GMT
What is wrong with him that you have to do all his paperwork for him? And submit things for HIS job? I'm not one for games, and I've given up over-functioning for my NY resolution. What would happen if you suddenly died? We’ve had a business, a partnership, for more than 30 years. He consults and I handle everything else. It’s worked for us. He’s not used to doing anything paperwork related. In our personal life, I run the $$ and the household. I’m a numbers person and DH is awful with $, especially in the form of credit cards. If I die, my DD will set things up with our long time accountant so that everything gets paid and DH gets an allowance, same as now. The learning curve in his new job won’t be the tech side, he could do that in his sleep, even post-stroke. The curve will be in learning to handle the paperwork and deadlines himself. We’ve been working on that ever since we made the decision that he should take a job outside the company. LOL. He’s still a work in progress. Marcy |
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Post by mlana on Aug 14, 2019 2:37:40 GMT
I aspire to your level of quietly evil effectiveness. Really! I get SO SICK of nagging my husband. Lol I still do a lot of nagging, but... To be truly effectively evil, you have to build your rep. Over the years I’ve done things that make him realize it’s when I’m quiet that he has to worry. Don’t listen when I tell you not to put your dirty undies on the counter next to my toothbrush? why are you asking me how your dirty undies got in your pillowcase? Shouldn’t be a problem, though, right? Since it’s ok to put them near something that goes in my mouth, why should you mind having them near your face? Can’t remember not to use the credit cards? What credit cards? Oh, the ones I took out of your wallet (I did this day after he got his allowance, so he had plenty of cash on him - I’m evil, not stupid) See why he gets worried when I say quietly that I’ll be upset? Nagging, nope that doesn’t bother him at all. A quiet, ‘Oh, so that’s how it’s going to be..’ will usually get his ass moving... Marcy |
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Post by mlana on Aug 14, 2019 2:47:45 GMT
Good job, keep it up! Wish that would work for me, but husband is not really into anything but the television and I hesitate to turn it off as there are shows I like to record to watch later. I hate being a nag and when hubby's actions "require" it I get twice as upset. I get this. My DH is someone who will wait until I get after him before doing a weekly chore he knows is his responsibility. It is so frustrating to have to remember his jobs as well as my own. I’ve always thought he does this in the hope that I will just do it myself, but the chores that are his, cleaning the bathrooms, is one that causes me health issues. In my earlier days, I might have just done it myself, but that doesn’t work for me anymore, which makes his ongoing behavior both hurtful as well as irritating. I use reminders on my phone to tell me to get after him on Sunday to get things done. The rule is I don’t say anything on Sat, but if I have to remind him on Sunday, he has to do it IMMEDIATELY! You can bet your sweet bippy I choose moments that are really inconvenient to him to remind him. LOL Marcy |
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Post by mlana on Aug 14, 2019 2:52:31 GMT
I just start doing whatever it is. He gets off his butt and does it. Now printers and other tech stuff Is set up. Do not touch my cord mess. My DH would sit there and thank me for doing it. It would never occur to him that he should get up and do it if I were doing it. If I will do it, why should he? We have had a deal for years regarding who does what. He handles all the tech stuff and I handle the money. I used to work tech, but I did things so differently it drove him crazy. We worked out this deal and it works for us...mostly. LOL Marcy |
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Post by mlana on Aug 14, 2019 2:58:08 GMT
He could have just as easily taken the pic and turned it in to his HR. I find that pretty irresponsible of him actually! Clearly he knows how to use a phone! I am sorry to hear you had to take drastic measures, but I am glad you have a working printer (I hope). He could have, that’s true. I didn’t mind getting everything together, I preferred it actually, since I knew where everything was. It was just that he gave me a hard time about doing something that was his responsibility, that I needed done so I could do something that was to benefit him. It took him less than 15 minutes to get the printer working and he could not understand why I didn’t stand up and clap or bow down to his greatness. LOL. Look what miracle he had wrought for me! Snort Marcy |
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Post by mlana on Aug 14, 2019 3:03:30 GMT
That rises to a new level of awesome.  My DH will pull the same kind of crap, only when push comes to shove he will tell me that I never reminded him,  usually when it was something I had talked about repeatedly the entire previous week. Here’s a great example that happened just recently. My friend and I had a garage sale at my house a few weeks ago. She said she had a big table top made out of two doors that we could put outside in the driveway so the good tables wouldn’t get wet. Great, let’s do that. She brought the thing over and it is literally falling apart because it had gotten wet so many times, but we used it anyway for lightweight stuff. After the sale as we’re packing up afterward, it occurred to me that we had two nice hollow core doors at the cabin (like the ones the table top had been made of once ago) that were stuffed in a closet that we weren’t using. We replaced them and DH wanted to chuck them into the dumpster. I convinced him to keep them, thinking I could use one for a craft table for the kids or something. Hmmm. Because I know my DH and how he is with things he considers “his stuff,” I asked him privately that night before mentioning it to my friend what he thought about giving those doors to her to rebuild her table top so she could throw the falling apart thing away, and he said he didn’t care. Great! She wanted to have another sale in a couple weeks at her house and could use them then. We were going to be at the lake the next weekend before her sale and we could bring them home then. Had a whole discussion about it! For the next solid week, we talked about the upcoming sale at friend’s house multiple times. I mentioned at least 2-3 times bringing those doors home in his truck because they wouldn’t fit in my car. That first weekend between sales we had to drive separately because I had to meet with a contractor there, and he forgot to bring them home. The following weekend we were there working on various things and we ended up staying later than expected to have dinner there with the neighbors on Sunday night. As we’re getting ready to load up the truck to come home, I mention grabbing those doors and taking them with us because her sale would be later that same week and he just about flipped his lid. “WHY do you tell me this stuff NOW when it’s 8:00 on Sunday night and I have to work tomorrow?” Really? WTF does that have to do with anything? It would literally take him less than 10 minutes to bring them up from the basement closet and put them in the truck, and my friend’s DH could come get them from our house the next day with his truck!  I ended up pulling them both out of the closet and out the patio door by myself, and literally dragging the first one up the hill through the dirt to the truck before he came to help me. (Keep in mind I just spent the last 8 weeks doing PT on my messed up ankle, am seeing a podiatrist again today for my fused toe foot, go to a chiropractor weekly for my back and still need to make an appointment to figure out what is messed up with my clicking shoulder that is making my hand go numb throughout the day. So yeah.) When he quite easily picked up the other door and walked it right up the hill in two minutes... It really ticks me off that if you only ask them once they won’t just do it, but if you ask them more than once you’re automatically a nag.  It also drives me nuts that anything I ask him to do for me or my friends is a chore that he will drag his heels on forever, but anything he asks me to do for him or his friends I should get right on that, chop-chop. Grrr. Whatever. I send texts. they don’t get him moving any better, but they ended the ‘you didn’t tell me’ argument before it got started. |
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Post by mlana on Aug 14, 2019 3:08:09 GMT
I don't blame you one bit! I would be extra annoyed because a printer from the garage probably needs a new ink cartridge, and I don't want to figure that out on Sunday night. It seems that the big issue was scanning though - there are apps that scan, and they do a better job than just taking a picture. I have Scanner Pro on my phone...it might have cost a few bucks. I remember buying it when I saw how nice of a job it did scanning a document at work. Of course, that doesn't help much if you have to print before or after scanning. This printer had been in the garage for 2 years - and it printed with no problem! The picture was fine; they just needed to see the documents existed, more than needed to be able to read it repeatedly. If we had not had a printer readily available, I would have looked for an app to use from now on. As you said, I still would have had to find a way to print. Marcy |
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Post by mlana on Aug 14, 2019 3:09:36 GMT
I couldn't really get past the part where you're doing his paperwork, it's not surprising that he's not motivated to get his shit done when you're always doing it for him. I don't really see this as a win for you, sorry. See the answers to above posters. Marcy |
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Post by likescarrots on Aug 14, 2019 3:16:48 GMT
I couldn't really get past the part where you're doing his paperwork, it's not surprising that he's not motivated to get his shit done when you're always doing it for him. I don't really see this as a win for you, sorry. See the answers to above posters. Marcy The only thing I got from your answers is that you're married to a perpetual child and you will be raising him for the rest of your life. |
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Post by mlana on Aug 14, 2019 3:26:14 GMT
See the answers to above posters. Marcy The only thing I got from your answers is that you're married to a perpetual child and you will be raising him for the rest of your life. Huh. So the part about us having a system that mostly works for us.. Ok, if that’s what you got from it, that’s what you got. Thanks for reading. Marcy |
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Post by seaexplore on Aug 14, 2019 3:33:51 GMT
See the answers to above posters. Marcy The only thing I got from your answers is that you're married to a perpetual child and you will be raising him for the rest of your life. I think she said he had a stroke? Not sure tho. And.... while it wouldn’t fly in my house, if he’s capable of doing it, apparently it’s what works for them. |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 14, 2019 3:37:21 GMT
I send texts. they don’t get him moving any better, but they ended the ‘you didn’t tell me’ argument before it got started. LOL. That might work here. He never deletes them, but I doubt he ever scrolls back through them for reference. |
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Post by likescarrots on Aug 14, 2019 12:17:24 GMT
The only thing I got from your answers is that you're married to a perpetual child and you will be raising him for the rest of your life. I think she said he had a stroke? Not sure tho. And.... while it wouldn’t fly in my house, if he’s capable of doing it, apparently it’s what works for them. she said in another post that he's capable of doing it himself but she 'doesn't mind', except apparently she does mind and it's NOT working for them or she wouldn't have made this post in the first place. |
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Post by seaexplore on Aug 14, 2019 13:28:06 GMT
I think she said he had a stroke? Not sure tho. And.... while it wouldn’t fly in my house, if he’s capable of doing it, apparently it’s what works for them. she said in another post that he's capable of doing it himself but she 'doesn't mind', except apparently she does mind and it's NOT working for them or she wouldn't have made this post in the first place. True to all of that. Yeah. I don’t do stuff that the other person should be capable of doing. Same for my kids... you’re 3, you should be able to get dressed if I pull out the clothes..... you’re 8, make your lunch! |
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Good for you! 
My DH will pull the same kind of crap, only when push comes to shove he will tell me that I never reminded him, 
It also drives me nuts that anything I ask him to do for me or my friends is a chore that he will drag his heels on forever, but anything he asks me to do for him or his friends I should get right on that, chop-chop. Grrr. Whatever.
