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Post by tyra on Sept 12, 2019 23:26:29 GMT
I'm so sorry. I hope this is the worst thing he ever has to witness. Sadly, no. He has had a pretty bad past couple of years.
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samantha25
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Post by samantha25 on Sept 13, 2019 0:55:18 GMT
Sorry to hear this. I unfortunately had an accident in the laboratory (alcohol spilled on my sweatshirt near open flame and caught on fire), where my torso, upper thighs and fingertips received burns. The third degree burns hurt less than the fingertips. I have recovered fine, with scars and numbness in areas. It would be a horrible and painful death. SO horrific, I hope all can recover and heal the best way they can.
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Post by lucyg on Sept 13, 2019 2:08:33 GMT
I’m both sorry and a bit relieved to hear of her passing.
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adweena
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Post by adweena on Sept 13, 2019 2:22:01 GMT
I encourage him (and you!!) to call or visit www.safecallnow.org/tel:206-459-3020 It is a free service for all first responders. It is staffed by former first responders who have been in similar situations. From their website: “Safe Call Now is a CONFIDENTIAL, comprehensive, 24-hour crisis referral service for all public safety employees, all emergency services personnel and their family members nationwide.” I’m a dispatcher and know several people who have used this service. They say it helped them tremendously. Prayers to you and your hubby.
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Post by tyra on Sept 13, 2019 2:22:39 GMT
I encourage him (and you!!) to call or visit www.safecallnow.org/tel:206-459-3020 It is a free service for all first responders. It is staffed by former first responders who have been in similar situations. From their website: “Safe Call Now is a CONFIDENTIAL, comprehensive, 24-hour crisis referral service for all public safety employees, all emergency services personnel and their family members nationwide.” I’m a dispatcher and know several people who have used this service. They say it helped them tremendously. Prayers to you and your hubby. What a fantastic resource. Thank you!
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brandy327
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Post by brandy327 on Sept 13, 2019 2:24:50 GMT
Oh no. That is horrific. That poor girl. Bet poor family. Your poor dh. It's just heartbreaking. I'm glad she's no longer suffering. But how tragic. I have no advice other than what was already mentioned. But thoughts and prayers for your dh.
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flute4peace
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Post by flute4peace on Sept 13, 2019 4:54:17 GMT
I’m so sorry! I haven’t read responses, but hopefully his dept has required counseling for situations like this. My BIL had to go through fairly extensive counseling and be cleared for service after he was shot, and he now works with a grief support group that goes to smaller departments to help with debriefing when officers experience an awful situation. Hopefully your DH will have similar resources available in his area.
I will be praying for the girl’s family and all the emergency workers involved in her case.
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PLurker
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Post by PLurker on Sept 13, 2019 5:39:05 GMT
That is heart wrenching. My best to the woman, your DH and everyone involved, you included.
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Post by Patter on Sept 13, 2019 10:34:05 GMT
DH has been a cop for over 20yrs and has pretty much seen and heard it all so not a lot bothers him anymore. His dept doesn't have ANY resources for this type of stuff, they just keep it in or talk to their spouses. DH talks to me about it so that's what helps him. I really encourage you to find someone who deals with first responders on this type of stuff and not just a regular run of the mill therapist. If his dept frowns on this and he's scared of the backlash he may get remind him he doesn't have to tell people he's going to see someone. Oh my goodness, I am SO sorry his department does not have any resources for this. That is terribly sad. I am thankful my daughter's department and my husband's department does. Haven't had to help hubby with any of this yet as he is still in the Academy but I listen to DD after EVERY shift. She shares with me, and I pray with her. She unloads to me, and I am blessed I can do that for her. Some of the calls are horrific and some give you a giggle but every officer needs someone to talk to. Thankful he has you!
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Post by camanddanismom on Sept 14, 2019 2:16:21 GMT
So very sorry for your poor DH! That is truly horrific! I feel for her family. With burns like that I assume she is unlikely to survive. Thoughts to your DH!!
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Mary Kay Lady
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Sept 14, 2019 5:37:25 GMT
How terrible. Those are images that can't be unseen. I'm sorry that your DH had to be a part of this.
I can't imagine what the girl and her family are going through. Did she survive?
Edited to add: I just read through all of your posts, OP. I'm sorry to hear of her passing. I can't imagine the heartbreak that her family is experiencing.
Prayers for all involved.
I hate that suicide is becoming more and more common.
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Post by Patter on Sept 14, 2019 10:40:30 GMT
adweena, thanks for the Safe Call Now link. I just shared it with hubby and DD. They have resources at their department but this is still awesome to bookmark and keep. Glad that is available!
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adweena
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Post by adweena on Sept 14, 2019 11:34:59 GMT
You’re welcome! I hadn’t heard of it before it was mentioned by one of my officers who trains new officers. He was in dispatch and asked me to pull it up so his trainee could see it. Once I started asking more I found out that quite a few people have used it. The overall idea is that it is nice to have someone who is completely removed from the situation...completely anonymous and who “gets” what they are going through. I appreciate that they also view us (dispatchers) as people who may need to talk about specific calls as well as spouses and other family members. Lots of resources are available for spouses...how to understand what your other half is going through, how to open up conversation and how to listen to someone who is sharing.
The training officer I mentioned earlier used lifting as an example. Something along the lines of...if you are ‘stuck’ in the gym, you’ve been lifting for months and you just aren’t seeing gains but your buddy is, do you just keep doing what you’re doing? No. You ask your buddy for tips. Then you use those tips and get stronger. Maybe you have to talk to a couple buddies but eventually you find what works for you. That’s what therapy is.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2019 21:31:31 GMT
DH is in law enforcement. Last night they had a call about a potentially suicidal young woman. They pinged her phone, it was in the forest preserve. They found her phone, her backpack, an empty bottle of lighter fluid and a package of lighters. They found her about 50 yards away, completely burnt but still alive, and actively burning. She literally set herself on fire. She was flown to a local hospital, burns over 97% of her body. My heart is broken for her and for her family. I can not imagine. DH is completely shaken. He struggled a lot when he got home last night, over night, and this morning. He has seen some stuff. But this about broke him How's hubby doing? How are you doing?
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Post by my3freaks on Sept 15, 2019 2:59:54 GMT
I can't imagine, how horrible for everyone involved. My thoughts are with you all, I'm sorry you guys are going through this.
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Post by angieh1996 on Sept 15, 2019 4:43:54 GMT
My DH was a LEO for 22 years. I know all to well how heart breaking and difficult some of those calls were. He was the first on scene when a little 5 year old girl was hit and killed by a car. That call was so awful when he got home he just broke down. My thoughts and prayers go out to you, your DH and the other family.
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