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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Sept 16, 2019 3:38:10 GMT
If I knew then, what I know now. In retrospect, if I had to start again at square one.....
I would never ever get married. Live together relationship, yes. Marriage, no.
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Post by papersilly on Sept 16, 2019 3:44:11 GMT
I'm too afraid to regret anything because I feel like it would negate something else good in my life. So, good and bad, I guess I'll live with it all.
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Post by Jennifer C on Sept 16, 2019 3:56:56 GMT
I wish I would have stayed in nursing school and not taken the job at the post office.
Jennifer
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PLurker
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Post by PLurker on Sept 16, 2019 4:09:24 GMT
Like others with ex DH with kids, I wouldn't change my marriage for the same reason.
I want to say I would get out a lot earlier and although that makes sense to me now, that choice could have lead me to a better or worse place. No way of knowing.
It's easier to see life backwards, what you should have done, after the fact but that would go for the now new path I choose too, right?
Do I get Ground Hog's Days to play it over until I get it just right?
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DEX
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Post by DEX on Sept 16, 2019 4:21:38 GMT
I would never have gotten married for the second time. 17 long years of pain and suffering. I deserved better than that.
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Post by pierkiss on Sept 16, 2019 4:25:03 GMT
Not to go to invite that boy to Snip Snip. 😢🤬
Actually it would be to not befriend that boy period.
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Post by mrsovy on Sept 16, 2019 9:20:23 GMT
I would go back to 1980 and tell my Dad how much I loved him everyday and how I needed him in my life. I don’t know if it would of stopped him taking his own life but I would of tried.
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cherivall
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Post by cherivall on Sept 16, 2019 12:04:16 GMT
Not so much a mistake .. but a “decision” when our 16 yo daughter Kaitlyn got off probation and had been sober for 18 months we decided to stop the random drug test because they were “too expensive”. I am not a what if kind of person ..but every once in a while I do have those moments. 6 months later she died because of her drug use and we now give away free drug test through our foundation to anyone that asks for them Cheri www.kaitlynspromise.com
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Sept 16, 2019 12:57:57 GMT
I wish now I had gone to law school as I wanted and not done the Master's in Social Work route instead. But I'm sure it would have altered the course of my life in so many ways and I wouldn't have ended up where I am now. I wouldn't trade my 'now' out for that.
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sharlag
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I like my artsy with a little bit of fartsy.
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Jun 26, 2014 12:57:48 GMT
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Post by sharlag on Sept 16, 2019 13:37:14 GMT
I wish I had recognized what was going on with DS's mental health earlier. Understood how to intervene before the psychosis took him to the ER, and to a really crappy involuntary state mental hospital situation. More aggressively intervened with his early post-diagnosis treatment.
Hugs to all of you previous posters who have painful regrets!
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Post by roxiemarie0524 on Sept 16, 2019 14:36:37 GMT
I would have gone over to visit my friend on Christmas Eve 1998 as promised instead of getting too busy with last minute Christmas errands. Not sure if it would have stopped him from taking his own life, but maybe it would have stopped him on that day.
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Post by fredfreddy44 on Sept 16, 2019 14:45:13 GMT
I wouldn't change the choice I made but it would nice to live another life to see where the other choice would have sent me.
The one thing I definetely would have changed is going into college as a civil or chemical engineering major.
And there was one guy I was attracted to all through college, either he or I had a SO the whole time until the end. Then when we had our chance, I said no for some reason. I wish I had said yes.
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Post by Mel on Sept 16, 2019 14:47:18 GMT
I would never have started a relationship (friend) with a certain narcissist( I should have seen the signs!).
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Anita
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Post by Anita on Sept 16, 2019 14:51:30 GMT
I would have married my college sweetheart.
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Sept 16, 2019 15:07:55 GMT
I wish I would have waited to get married the first time. I just did what was expected and what "everyone did". I wish I would have gotten a degree (I had an almost full pell grant!).
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Post by scrapmaven on Sept 16, 2019 15:27:53 GMT
If I knew then what I know now...We're each doing our best. I have a pool of stuff from which to choose, but I can't change it, so I'm gonna do my best going fwd.
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Post by Merge on Sept 16, 2019 15:34:59 GMT
I would have waited longer to get married. It’s worked out fine, but I wish I’d had my 20s to really do my own thing and explore my own interests.
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Post by flanz on Sept 16, 2019 16:26:40 GMT
I would not have taken the Depo-Provera shot. With no lifestyle or diet changes I gained 50 or 60 pounds in a matter of a couple of months and from there it just snowballed, the weight gain made my PCOS worse, which affects my insulin issues...just a ton of medical issues spurred from that one decision. And though the drs say it wouldn’t have made a difference, when they took me off bed rest when I was pregnant I wouldn’t have so I could know one billion percent in my heart that losing my son couldn’t have been prevented. Oh, I am so sorry to read your last paragraph. Gentle hugs to you. Ditto dewryce. Huge gentle hugs to you. I'm so sorry.
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Post by flanz on Sept 16, 2019 16:28:36 GMT
I would go back to 1980 and tell my Dad how much I loved him everyday and how I needed him in my life. I don’t know if it would of stopped him taking his own life but I would of tried. Oh, I'm so very sorry! I hope you can be at peace moving forward after such heartbreak and tragedy.
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julie5
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Post by julie5 on Sept 16, 2019 16:37:44 GMT
i know what i want to say... but wouldn't have my 3 terrific kids.... so.... everything else i can think of has been kinda "live and learn" for me. i do think i have been lucky... i also know someone who is coming to terms with the consequences of poor judgment and will have the rest of their lives to continue to be reminded of that decision. Same. It’s hard to regret my first marriage because of my kids. But as I get older and see all the damage in my soul from that union, including turning one child against me, I often wish I had made different choices regarding who I married. It’s the nightmare that never stops c
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Post by malibou on Sept 16, 2019 17:01:23 GMT
I wish I had taken the appointment to West point.
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Post by maryland on Sept 16, 2019 17:24:30 GMT
I think I would have been better off if I had decided to drink coffee instead of Diet Coke. Everything else in my life seems like it fell into place. I love diet coke! I am the opposite of the people who say drinking diet sodas causes them to gain weight. I have my fountain diet coke (with a little regular coke) and I don't eat as much junk food when I have that treat! I love fountain drinks more than sweets.
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Post by maryland on Sept 16, 2019 17:26:07 GMT
The mistake we made was buying a very large, fancy, expensive house. We missed our old house so much, didn't like the strict HOA in the fancy house and after 2 miserable years, we moved back. Took so long to see the big house and didn't get close to what we paid. So much happier in my smaller house in a great neighborhood.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Sept 16, 2019 17:41:52 GMT
I would have never married my son's father.
I would have decided to be a single mom out of the gate and finish the degree I wanted. I knew within one hour of marrying him I'd made a mistake, and within a month I'd made a horrible mistake.
But I stuck it out for 8 years. 8 wasted years.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Sept 16, 2019 17:44:19 GMT
Not so much a mistake .. but a “decision” when our 16 yo daughter Kaitlyn got off probation and had been sober for 18 months we decided to stop the random drug test because they were “too expensive”. I am not a what if kind of person ..but every once in a while I do have those moments. 6 months later she died because of her drug use and we now give away free drug test through our foundation to anyone that asks for them Cheri www.kaitlynspromise.comI'm so sorry you lost your daughter, but what a beautiful way to honor her. I have three friends who've lost their young adult children due to drug overdose. It's so heartbreaking.
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peabrain
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Post by peabrain on Sept 16, 2019 19:08:59 GMT
I would not have taken the Depo-Provera shot. With no lifestyle or diet changes I gained 50 or 60 pounds in a matter of a couple of months and from there it just snowballed, the weight gain made my PCOS worse, which affects my insulin issues...just a ton of medical issues spurred from that one decision. And though the drs say it wouldn’t have made a difference, when they took me off bed rest when I was pregnant I wouldn’t have so I could know one billion percent in my heart that losing my son couldn’t have been prevented. That stuff is the worst! I don't know how they can pump that stuff into women. Do they still make that? Ugg. The worst. I'm sorry for your loss. Hugs
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peabrain
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Post by peabrain on Sept 16, 2019 19:12:28 GMT
I would not have stayed years too long in a crappy ass job I hated. I stayed WAY too long taking that abuse and I'm SOOO much happier now.
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amom23
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Jun 27, 2014 12:39:18 GMT
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Post by amom23 on Sept 16, 2019 19:22:11 GMT
I wish I had gone to beauty school (have a college degree instead) and never broke up with my college boyfriend. Life has been really good, but it would be kinda cool to see what the future could have been if I'd made a couple different choices.
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 16, 2019 21:23:24 GMT
I think I would have been better off if I had decided to drink coffee instead of Diet Coke. Everything else in my life seems like it fell into place. I love diet coke! I am the opposite of the people who say drinking diet sodas causes them to gain weight. I have my fountain diet coke (with a little regular coke) and I don't eat as much junk food when I have that treat! I love fountain drinks more than sweets. My go to treat is a real Pepsi. I have one maybe once or twice a month. So good. I just know that the sweetener isn't great for you.
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Post by kelly316 on Sept 16, 2019 22:35:58 GMT
I would have never married my son's father. I would have decided to be a single mom out of the gate and finish the degree I wanted. I knew within one hour of marrying him I'd made a mistake, and within a month I'd made a horrible mistake. But I stuck it out for 8 years. 8 wasted years. Same. I have more wasted years than that. 😢
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