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Post by 950nancy on Oct 15, 2019 16:20:16 GMT
It just feels nosy. Maybe some docs look at the marital status? It's never come up without my saying something. Aren't there different statistics on life expectancy for married men vs divorced men? Maybe they are asking for the men and feel everyone should have to answer so we don't know what they are up to.
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Oct 15, 2019 16:22:18 GMT
It just feels nosy. Maybe some docs look at the marital status? It's never come up without my saying something. Aren't there different statistics on life expectancy for married men vs divorced men? Maybe they are asking for the men and feel everyone should have to answer so we don't know what they are up to. Very possible! Or for some other reporting/data gathering reason. Or for the doctor's practicing insurance.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Oct 15, 2019 16:37:05 GMT
I am not getting all the hate for this question in this thread. They wouldn’t ask it if it weren’t important.yeah, they would. They ask for stuff all.the.time. that they don't necessarily 'need' in order to treat you effectively as a patient. And a lot of times, even if they HAVE the pertinent information (like, say, about your actual HEALTH condition info), they don't always bother to read it. so... The last stupid form I had to fill out at the doctor's office was something ridiculous- and the DOCTOR herself is the one who said that about it! Whatever it was (I can't remember), the insurance company was requiring it of them. It was NOT information the doctor's office needed or would use. ETA: questions like those seem horribly out-moded and haven't kept up with society. My choices didn't fit our situation, either-- single, divorced, or married. I would choose single, but we were together for 14 years before we got married. So if they were concerned about my 'relationship' status for health / well-being issues, that answer didn't really fit my situation. But there was no 'long-term relationship' choice on the form. Or they could just be UP-FRONT about the questions and actually ask what they WANT to know: 'is anyone else legally responsible for your bills if you can't pay?'
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Post by Rhondito on Oct 15, 2019 17:48:11 GMT
I hate this too! WHY do they need or want to know that? (Also, I firmly believe that the "In case of emergency" portion is there for debt collection - not necessarily for emergencies.) good luck because my sister isn’t responsible for my debts and she’s my ICE contact No, I don't mean as a person to take responsibility for your bills, but as a way to track you down. Many of the forms I've filled out lately have been worded as "Person to contact in case of emergency who doesn't live in your household". Of course there are legit "in case of emergency" requests, but ones like this? I don't think so.
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Post by Country Ham on Oct 15, 2019 18:30:21 GMT
Yes, I failed at a long term relationship! And, I have a sore throat. I'm a big, fat loser. Also, it gives the drs an idea on whether something could be STI related. See how helpful that marital question could of been in your sore throat diagnoses?
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Post by Dalai Mama on Oct 15, 2019 19:51:23 GMT
That would irk me too. I've never seen it on our medical forms here in Canada (so far). I have friends that the second they get married, they start signing everything Mr and Mrs Steve Jones. Ugh. I tend to tick the box for Ms on most forms and always have. It's no one's business whether I'm married or not. Ive never seen it here either. Ditto social insurance number.
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Post by mikklynn on Oct 16, 2019 13:11:21 GMT
The bigger question is why you think divorce is a failure. I think it's recognizing your marriage doesn't work any longer and moving on. I do think it's a failure. But I'm recently recognizing that I might be too hard on myself. It sure doesn't feel like a success, unless I spin it "We successfully identified that our marriage was not working, and ended it." THAT is the right way to look at it.
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Post by Blind Squirrel on Oct 17, 2019 1:58:44 GMT
As a widow, I don't like it when my only choices are married or single.
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Post by theshyone on Oct 17, 2019 6:49:15 GMT
I recently read/listen to Jeannie Gaffigan’s book about her brain tumor and she does a cute little comedy bit about the forms we fill out in a doctors office. Her comedic theory was that it’s just to keep us busy, so that we don’t notice how far behind they are running After having waited 1.5 hours for my daughters doctors appointment today, then an hour for one of mine, then 40 for the next, ill believe it.
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Post by peaname on Oct 17, 2019 8:23:55 GMT
I wouldn’t want to go to a doctor stupid enough to assume married means I’m not at risk for STIs!
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Post by muggins on Oct 17, 2019 11:56:33 GMT
I’ve been shopping around for a new orthodontist for my son. Even for an initial free consultation, I’ve had to fill out extensive forms with personal information. At one office I asked if I really needed to complete every question since I may not become a patient. But I was told I had to. I Left a lot of answers blank.
Compared to the U.K., American medical admin seem to need a whole lot of extra info that I find intrusive. I don’t think even half of it is used to make a more informed diagnosis. I have much better treatment in the U.K. and it’s free.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Oct 17, 2019 15:47:24 GMT
Even for an initial free consultation, I’ve had to fill out extensive forms with personal information. At one office I asked if I really needed to complete every question since I may not become a patient. But I was told I had to. I Left a lot of answers blank. the fact that if you do the forms online, then this information is out there stored on a server somewhere is disconcerting, too. Because we all know that data breaches happen a LOT. (sort of tangential to that: My DH has been job-hunting recently and a lot of the company-specific applications ask for VERY personal information (such as SSN) and the electronic form won't let you move on until you fill in every field. But even after completing the online form, the company may never even call you for an interview if your resume doesn't have enough of the right 'key words' in to get past their resume-sorting software. Meanwhile, your personal info is out there, just waiting for the company to get their servers hacked.)
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