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Post by ladytrisha on Nov 7, 2019 17:04:36 GMT
We get 3 days. At my last job they told me I didn't get any ... I said "it's my Dad" - they shut up then.
I can't imagine losing my spouse and being told I had 3 days to recover and get back to normal job function. If you qualify perhaps family leave can help? I'm so sorry for your loss.
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DEX
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Post by DEX on Nov 7, 2019 17:05:32 GMT
None. After my husband passed away, (he died on a Monday) I took the rest of the week off unpaid. If your company is eligible (more than 50 employees, I believe) you may be eligible for FMLA. Talk to your HR person who should give you the paperwork and then take it to your doctor. Your GP should be able to fill out the paperwork for you.
I am so sorry you are struggling. Big hugs from me to you.
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Post by busy on Nov 7, 2019 17:12:25 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. **hugs**
We have unlimited PTO, but it has to be approved. We've had a couple staff with losses recently, both grandparents, and one person took a week, one person took a week and a half (they had to travel to Asia, so took longer). In the case of a spouse or child, I expect most people would take the absolute minimum of a couple weeks. We'd work with people to take the time they needed.
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QueenoftheSloths
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Nov 7, 2019 17:13:23 GMT
Both my jobs are part time with no benefits, no PTO, no anything.
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Post by Merge on Nov 7, 2019 17:22:57 GMT
I'm so sorry. I agree with trying to take short term disability. Not sleeping can definitely be disabling, as can the depression and anxiety that often come along with grief. Please see your doctor and discuss what you're going through, and see if he/she would support a short term disability claim along with treating you/referring you to a therapist as needed.
Be gentle with yourself. (hugs)
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SweetieBsMom
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Nov 7, 2019 17:24:08 GMT
We have a policy similar to what you described. 5 days. I was out on ST Leave with DH before he passed. I was out for 3 months, due back to work on 03/04/19. DH passed on 02/14/19. I had just over 2 weeks to grieve. I agree it's not enough time. The first week I was running around like a crazy person, getting the headstone, going to social security, etc. Basically doing all the stuff you have to do when someone passes. The second week....gosh, I don't remember it at all. I know I was getting out of bed because I had to for DS but couldn't tell you anything else. I remember thinking that I was going to tackle DH's room that second week.....well, still haven't done it. I figure when it's harder to deal with not tackling it than actually tackling it, then I'll be ready. I'm coming up on that, I can feel it.
My work has been really understanding. DH was sick for 7 years and they gave me a lot of flexibility they didn't have to. I did work from home on what would have been our 22nd anniversary. I basically said "Listen, TRUST ME, you do NOT want me in the office. I am going to make everyone uncomfortable crying on/off all day. Let's save us all from that". LOL. I am taking off, and probably will for the foreseeable future, Valentine's Day. I lost my Mom on 02/15 and DH would joke that he can NOT die on 02/15. I want to tell him 02/14 isn't really much better.
For me, work has been a great distraction but on the other side, I'm probably not grieving well. There are nights I start crying on the way home and don't stop until I go to bed.
Sending you hugs. People say it gets easier, I have to believe that even though I'm no where close to "easier" yet.
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peabrain
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Post by peabrain on Nov 7, 2019 17:27:31 GMT
Hugs sweetie
You need some time for YOU!
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peabrain
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Post by peabrain on Nov 7, 2019 17:29:36 GMT
Is there anything I can do to make anything easier on you?
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Post by Fidget on Nov 7, 2019 17:31:17 GMT
I too recently lost my DH - he passed on 10/26. Company policy says 3 days for bereavement. I took 2 extra days and went back to work Monday 11/4. We are all different - work is a good distraction for me. I hope you find peace and are able to take the time off from work that you need.
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Post by bc2ca on Nov 7, 2019 17:44:47 GMT
Policy was always 1-5 days for Bereavement Leave, but please understand this covers time for any employee to attend a funeral. For most employees it means a day or half day off but sometimes a travel day or two is needed. The Bereavement Leave was NEVER intended to cover the time needed for a grieving employee to be ready to return to work. That time is always covered under sick leave and/or short term disability. Sick leave didn't need a doctor's note, but STD did. Every case is individual and I've seen everything from employees returning after a month with an ease-in schedule (scheduled part days or option of leaving if overwhelmed, etc.) to taking 3-6 months off before returning full-time. You are disabled by your grief right now, KelleeM. Please talk to your doctor and get what you need to be put on sick leave.
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