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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Nov 12, 2019 6:33:30 GMT
I read the original post and commented a couple times in the beginning. I just read to page 6.
Am I the only one thinking, that this thread and the original poster...and the subsequent replies, additions and subtractions to the story, back peddling, an inordinate amount of rebuttals....remind me of lovinglifelady(<< or however she spells her screen name) and all her drama.
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Post by christine58 on Nov 12, 2019 11:14:05 GMT
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Nov 12, 2019 12:44:23 GMT
I read the original post and commented a couple times in the beginning. I just read to page 6. Am I the only one thinking, that this thread and the original poster...and the subsequent replies, additions and subtractions to the story, back peddling, an inordinate amount of rebuttals....remind me of lovinglifelady(<< or however she spells her screen name) and all her drama. The OP hasn’t changed her story, nor recanted anything. She’s explained, repeatedly, what happened, as people asked questions.
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Post by Just T on Nov 12, 2019 12:51:31 GMT
I read the original post and commented a couple times in the beginning. I just read to page 6. Am I the only one thinking, that this thread and the original poster...and the subsequent replies, additions and subtractions to the story, back peddling, an inordinate amount of rebuttals....remind me of lovinglifelady(<< or however she spells her screen name) and all her drama. What exactly has she added, subtracted, back peddled, etc?
And NO, I do not think of luvinglifelady. Spitfiregirl is probably one of the original peas if my memory is correct. I think she was once a garden girl, or published in CK, or something. LOL So no, not an alter ego for LLL.
This thread just continues to make me sad.
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Post by cakediva on Nov 12, 2019 13:18:50 GMT
I've read this entire thread, with all the clarifications.
As to the original question asked:
Short answer - NO
Long answer - FUCK NO
I don't care what the hell she said or didn't say. I don't care if she "provoked" him. That's bullshit. NOBODY has any right to assault anhybody at all - be it with a fist, a hamburger or a fist holding a hamburger or any other food item.
And I can't believe the posters commenting that it was somehow her fault because she said things. That's like saying it was a girl's fault she was raped because she wore a short skirt (or any other miriad of excuses).
OP I hope you get some closure on this and that the therapist can help you sort out all your feelings.
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Post by pierogi on Nov 12, 2019 15:24:20 GMT
I think OP is a runner, but that’s neither here nor there. She was assaulted, and instead of kindness, she got blamed.
It’s amazing, and not in a good way.
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Post by Rhondito on Nov 12, 2019 16:28:46 GMT
Am I the only one thinking, that this thread and the original poster...and the subsequent replies, additions and subtractions to the story, back peddling, an inordinate amount of rebuttals....remind me of lovinglifelady(<< or however she spells her screen name) and all her drama. Oh for fucks sake - now you're going to start accusing her of having an alternate ID? Her story has never changed!
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Post by spitfiregirl on Nov 12, 2019 16:41:34 GMT
I think OP is a runner, but that’s neither here nor there. She was assaulted, and instead of kindness, she got blamed. It’s amazing, and not in a good way. what's a runner? you mean literally? you mean post and run? hard to call me a runner if I was an original pea. #2421 or something around there. Ive been around for 19 years. wow
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Post by rodeomom on Nov 12, 2019 16:54:25 GMT
I read the original post and commented a couple times in the beginning. I just read to page 6. Am I the only one thinking, that this thread and the original poster...and the subsequent replies, additions and subtractions to the story, back peddling, an inordinate amount of rebuttals....remind me of lovinglifelady(<< or however she spells her screen name) and all her drama. You need to just stop! She has done none of this! What is wrong with you?
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Post by pierogi on Nov 12, 2019 16:55:29 GMT
I think OP is a runner, but that’s neither here nor there. She was assaulted, and instead of kindness, she got blamed. It’s amazing, and not in a good way. what's a runner? you mean literally? you mean post and run? hard to call me a runner if I was an original pea. #2421 or something around there. Ive been around for 19 years. wow No, I meant a literal runner, as in half/full marathons. Lol, I guessed wrong. My point still stands.
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Post by andreasmom on Nov 12, 2019 17:25:44 GMT
I read the original post and commented a couple times in the beginning. I just read to page 6. Am I the only one thinking, that this thread and the original poster...and the subsequent replies, additions and subtractions to the story, back peddling, an inordinate amount of rebuttals....remind me of lovinglifelady(<< or however she spells her screen name) and all her drama. What exactly has she added, subtracted, back peddled, etc?
And NO, I do not think of luvinglifelady. Spitfiregirl is probably one of the original peas if my memory is correct. I think she was once a garden girl, or published in CK, or something. LOL So no, not an alter ego for LLL.
This thread just continues to make me sad.
Yep, she has been here forever and posts often. I can’t believe the replies to this thread. Again. It is NEVER ok. The topic of conversation before the incident does not matter.
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Post by busy on Nov 12, 2019 17:41:03 GMT
I don't ever remember being so deeply disappointed in so many peas.
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Post by LiLi on Nov 12, 2019 17:45:50 GMT
I can't help but notice who the people are, that are saying that she is any way at all to blame. Or trying to use semantics to blame and shame her. There are some similar *features* amongst them, aren't there?
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Post by roberta on Nov 12, 2019 17:51:09 GMT
spitfiregirl wishing you the best. Hope counseling helps, and please do keep us posted.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 12, 2019 18:36:54 GMT
I read the OP and the page or two that followed, thinking that everyone is entitled to their opinion and it is never into hit someone.
Good grief. A messy Pea thread happened when I stopped reading.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Nov 12, 2019 18:38:42 GMT
I think OP is a runner, but that’s neither here nor there. She was assaulted, and instead of kindness, she got blamed. It’s amazing, and not in a good way. what's a runner? you mean literally? you mean post and run? hard to call me a runner if I was an original pea. #2421 or something around there. Ive been around for 19 years. wow I think she meant runner as in puts on running shoes, jogs...? That’s how I read it.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Nov 12, 2019 18:40:48 GMT
what's a runner? you mean literally? you mean post and run? hard to call me a runner if I was an original pea. #2421 or something around there. Ive been around for 19 years. wow No, I meant a literal runner, as in half/full marathons. Lol, I guessed wrong. My point still stands. I thought that’s what you meant too—I read it exactly the way you intended! I think the OP is (and rightfully so) very sensitive on this thread considering how some of the asshattery that has been posted.
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Post by luckyexwife on Nov 12, 2019 18:47:19 GMT
I don't ever remember being so deeply disappointed in so many peas. Yes, I agree with this. The tearing down of woman that is going on this thread is so deeply disappointing. OP... I hope you are able to rise above the pettiness on this thread, and I do sincerely hope that counseling helps you so you can move forward, however that looks for you.
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Post by Just T on Nov 12, 2019 18:49:23 GMT
I don't ever remember being so deeply disappointed in so many peas. Me either.
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Post by luckyexwife on Nov 12, 2019 18:50:08 GMT
I read the original post and commented a couple times in the beginning. I just read to page 6. Am I the only one thinking, that this thread and the original poster...and the subsequent replies, additions and subtractions to the story, back peddling, an inordinate amount of rebuttals....remind me of lovinglifelady(<< or however she spells her screen name) and all her drama. What the what? ?? The OP has clarified several times, but I don't see backpedaling or subtractions. The OP has responded multiple times to peas that have questioned her about things she has repeatedly answered, and she has tried to answer in ways that people will understand. I think the OP has done very well in trying to clarify, all the while she is being torn down for something that is absolutely not her fault.
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Post by pierogi on Nov 12, 2019 19:00:31 GMT
No, I meant a literal runner, as in half/full marathons. Lol, I guessed wrong. My point still stands. I thought that’s what you meant too—I read it exactly the way you intended! I think the OP is (and rightfully so) very sensitive on this thread considering how some of the asshattery that has been posted. Yeah, I absolutely can’t blame her for being on the defensive given the ridiculous accusations and behavior on this thread.
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Post by julieb on Nov 12, 2019 19:08:34 GMT
Plan and simple assault. No friendship with the wife is worth what this man did to you. Your friend is defending her dh and that is sad. Hope you get the help you need - I can definitely see why you are emotionally scared.
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Post by sideways on Nov 12, 2019 19:12:45 GMT
he was 6 ft 2 and weighs 200 pounds.... and I never said he punched me with a burger. I said he sucker punched me... meaning I did not see it coming and there was no time to defend myself. It was Battery plain and simple. I really think part of your problem of people not agreeing with you about you being a victim is because you asked 'is not ever ok for a man to hit a woman'. You led people to believe he hit you...punched you - like many of us have been victim to before. When someone says 'sucker punched' it leads people to believe you were punched and didn't seeing it coming. Thats is not what happened here. You had a hamburger smashed in your face. Is it battery? Probably. But it also isn't what you insinuated in your post title, which leads people to question your motives. HE DID HIT HER! GFY,
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Post by sideways on Nov 12, 2019 19:19:58 GMT
Late to the thread. Long time pea, mostly lurk now.
OP - I’m so sorry that happened to you. You didn’t deserve it. I’m glad you’re pursuing counseling to take care of yourself. ❤️
To anyone who has been anything less than supportive - GO FUCK YOURSELVES! REMOVE, THEN FUCK YOURSELVES AGAIN SIDEWAYS WITH A CACTUS! SHAME ON ALL OF YOU! You’re the type of women who sees a woman who has been assaulted and asks “What did she do to deserve it?” or asks what the rape victim was wearing.
Again, for good measure:
FUCK YOU! 🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻
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Post by Deleted on Nov 12, 2019 19:46:13 GMT
1. It is not her fault that the man smashed his hamburger in her face. Not one iota of blame goes to her for that. 2. She is responsible for "I knew she told me they couldn't talk about politics together" "My date got up to go to the bathroom. I said something about trump" Those are 2 separate things. You can understand and acknowledge the second without thinking she deserved to be assaulted. I stand by its bullshit. Saying we don’t talk politics doesn’t equate to mention Trump or the NRA and get hit on the face. Any reasonable person isn’t going to hit someone else on the face due to a political discussion and if they can’t control their actions they need to remove themselves from the situation. It’s not her responsibility to temper her words so he can control his actions. It’s his responsibility to control his actions, period. I don’t care if she “poked the bear” she’s not responsible for him hitting her. It’s assault. It’s the same as blaming a woman for being raped or sexually assaulted because of what she was wearing or because she had a drink. Or a domestic violence victim being blamed because she stays with her abuser. That's what I said. We are in agreement.
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Post by sabrinae on Nov 12, 2019 21:25:44 GMT
I stand by its bullshit. Saying we don’t talk politics doesn’t equate to mention Trump or the NRA and get hit on the face. Any reasonable person isn’t going to hit someone else on the face due to a political discussion and if they can’t control their actions they need to remove themselves from the situation. It’s not her responsibility to temper her words so he can control his actions. It’s his responsibility to control his actions, period. I don’t care if she “poked the bear” she’s not responsible for him hitting her. It’s assault. It’s the same as blaming a woman for being raped or sexually assaulted because of what she was wearing or because she had a drink. Or a domestic violence victim being blamed because she stays with her abuser. That's what I said. We are in agreement. You’ve repeatedly blamed her for “provoking” him. So no we don’t agree.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 12, 2019 21:57:38 GMT
That's what I said. We are in agreement. You’ve repeatedly blamed her for “provoking” him. So no we don’t agree. Not once did I blame her for provoking him, much less "repeatedly". As a matter of fact I specifically said "1. It is not her fault that the man smashed his hamburger in her face. Not one iota of blame goes to her for that."
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Post by mollycoddle on Nov 13, 2019 0:38:23 GMT
Wow, I cannot believe some of these responses. Having a hamburger smashed in your face in a public spot would be traumatic for anyone. This guy is an asshole. Period.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Nov 13, 2019 0:42:38 GMT
Am I the only one thinking, that this thread and the original poster...and the subsequent replies, additions and subtractions to the story, back peddling, an inordinate amount of rebuttals....remind me of lovinglifelady(<< or however she spells her screen name) and all her drama. Holy hell. I must have read a completely different thread, because none of that happened?! In terms of her being a different P, ahh. No. Plus Luvnlife would have been on here the night it happened telling us, not a year later.
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Post by Just T on Nov 13, 2019 0:54:57 GMT
You’ve repeatedly blamed her for “provoking” him. So no we don’t agree. Not once did I blame her for provoking him, much less "repeatedly". As a matter of fact I specifically said "1. It is not her fault that the man smashed his hamburger in her face. Not one iota of blame goes to her for that." She is responsible for "I knew she told me they couldn't talk about politics together" "My date got up to go to the bathroom. I said something about trump" You know what? If you would have just left it at THAT statement, no one would have batted an eyelash. But you just HAD to follow it with 2. She is responsible for "I knew she told me they couldn't talk about politics together" "My date got up to go to the bathroom. I said something about trump"
Like I wrote earlier--just being told someone doesn't talk politics with a person does not mean if you discuss politics, you are responsible for being assaulted. I am not going to re-type what I wrote about my brother and his partner. But, the OP was simply told "I don't discuss politics with my husband." Maybe the blame should be on the OP's friend. Maybe she should have said, "Please do not discuss politics because my husband will lose his f*ing mind and become violent."
The OP is NOT responsible for anything that happened.
Why could you not just be supportive of the OP without the "but...." ?
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