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Post by workingclassdog on Nov 12, 2019 17:45:46 GMT
Kinda of any kind of answer..
But I realize with my DD moving out.. I am 51 years old.. and I decided I am too old to be hauling furniture around. I am meaning literally lifting furniture and moving it to another house or whatever.. and that said, I am done moving boxes up and down stairs. (Doesn't mean I CAN'T do it.. I have done my own moving over 30 times.. but means I am retired from doing it)
I realized it when we found a brand new bedroom outfit for her and her fiance.. the thing is huge and heavy. I started thinking.. HEY why am I doing this? He has muscles.. she has muscles... I have done my own moving a million times. So right there and then, I said I will help with small stuff, but this mom is done hauling heavy furniture and going up and down stairs a million times. I'll do just about anything else.
This getting older thing does have it's perks.
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Post by papersilly on Nov 12, 2019 18:20:30 GMT
getting older has so many perks. i don't like being called ma'am but i like asking for help and not getting attitude. i'm only 52 but i can tell i've definitely crossed into the "elders" world when it comes to things like that.
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Post by compeateropeator on Nov 12, 2019 18:24:11 GMT
This makes me smile. We just moved my brother and his family from their rental (which we moved them to last April when their house sold) to their new house. My father (76), the father-in-law (73), and family friend (70) all said after the move that they were tearing up their movers union card as they were retiring. No more moves for them...hahaha. I am 55 and I admit it is getting harder to do. Plus it is not like you are moving one piece of furniture and then the next day another...it is full out all day. I don’t blame you. One thing that we did that was very helpful was to hire to 2 movers (just the people) for 4 hours to actually bring the heavy stuff upstairs. We brought it from the truck in and then they maneuvered it up the stairs. But that was about 500.00 so not really cheap, but was so worth it. Good job on saying no. As you can see I am older than you and have not been able to do that yet.
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Post by femalebusiness on Nov 12, 2019 18:59:14 GMT
We are tenting our house for termites because it hasn't been done in decades. I said I would pack things up but someone else had to carry them out to the van. I am not doing any heavy lifting anymore...ever. I can but won't as it takes my muscles too long to recover these days. My daughter came and hauled all the boxes out for me.
As for tenting for termites, I hope I never, ever have to do this again!!!
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Post by julie5 on Nov 12, 2019 19:06:55 GMT
My mil is in her 70s and starting to tell her kids nope. I would have done it long before her but her kids act like they can’t wipe their own ass with out 5 helpers. My husband included. It took multiple blood clots in her lungs a few months ago to get her to stop doing so much work!
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Post by Basket1lady on Nov 12, 2019 19:39:59 GMT
I’m 51 and just got done moving 15,000 lbs form DC to Brussels. I REPEATEDLY told DH that I’m too old for this! And the whole time I was unpacking, I just kept thinking that I have to move it all back to the States again. And I’ll only be older then. We’ve been in the house 4 weeks today and I had all my boxes unpacked a week ago. This past week stuff went on the walls. We’ll be in Ireland over the weekend, but next weekend I’m nagging DH to get his office unpacked. Then we are officially done.
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Post by librarylady on Nov 12, 2019 19:47:19 GMT
I think we were in our 60s before we said "we are done" with moving.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Nov 12, 2019 19:53:56 GMT
My mil is in her 70s and starting to tell her kids nope. I would have done it long before her but her kids act like they can’t wipe their own ass with out 5 helpers. My husband included. It took multiple blood clots in her lungs a few months ago to get her to stop doing so much work! good for her! I think it depends on the person-- some people are just stubborn and don't want to give up 'doing' things for whatever reason. My parents are 80 and 89, they've had more than their share of health issues lately (dad- 89- is on oxygen, doesn't drive any longer, and just had pneumonia; mom-- had knee replacement surgery in September with bad medication reactions and ended up with a broken bone on her OTHER foot) and yet they STILL didn't want to ask for other people to assist them or to have anyone come into their home to help with the laundry, housecleaning, etc. my opinion? I'll pack stuff up, but moving the boxes and the (heavy) furniture? Heck, no. Movers are professionals-- they can do things so much more quickly that I think it's worth it to hire something like that out.
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Post by roberta on Nov 12, 2019 20:08:17 GMT
60 My dd was a freshman in college and was on the third floor of a dorm with no elevator. (yeah, I was old when I had her. many of my hs friends have older grandchildren!) I said you get one trip out of me so I can see your dorm room. You brought it - you carry it. Just the same as the rule in Girl Scout camping.
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Post by Mystie on Nov 12, 2019 20:13:35 GMT
My friend's son and his wife are buying a home, and my friend's housewarming gift to them is to pay for movers. (She's 55.)
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Post by jubejubes on Nov 12, 2019 20:18:05 GMT
I said NO many years ago. I am in my early 50's and I didn't help the kids move in 2006. I provided a lunch (veggie platter, cold cuts, buns, all the condiments for a sub-sandwich - lettuce, tomato, onions and on & on) plus homemade cookies & brownies.
When I moved in 2010, I paid for movers. I didn't ask my kids to help, as this was my issue, not theirs.
I refuse to be "voluntold" to do anything. Ask nicely, and I may say yes, but if it involves a lot of labour, heavy lifting, then NO. My "free labour" will cost me a lot in massage therapy & possible physio.
I will bake & provide food, but not heavy labour.
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Post by janeinbama on Nov 12, 2019 20:21:01 GMT
It's more of a realization than an age. Long ago, free pizza and beer would get you moved. Now we call the movers or volunteer to watch the babies.
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Post by flanz on Nov 12, 2019 20:21:22 GMT
I’m 51 and just got done moving 15,000 lbs form DC to Brussels. I REPEATEDLY told DH that I’m too old for this! And the whole time I was unpacking, I just kept thinking that I have to move it all back to the States again. And I’ll only be older then. We’ve been in the house 4 weeks today and I had all my boxes unpacked a week ago. This past week stuff went on the walls. We’ll be in Ireland over the weekend, but next weekend I’m nagging DH to get his office unpacked. Then we are officially done. Sorry, but if you don't mind sharing, I'm curious about the cost to move that quantity of household possessions. I wonder if I'd put everything in storage and try to rent furnished while living abroad... Or sell most of our stuff and just store the special pieces..
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Post by supersoda on Nov 12, 2019 20:55:09 GMT
Right now. I have tennis elbow from all the lifting after moving twice this summer (into a temporary apartment between houses) and moving two kids into college. And we had movers for the house moves.
I’ve been in a brace for 6 weeks and just started physical therapy, but picking up more than a few ounces in a certain way still causes excruciating pain.
So yeah, I’m done with moving.
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Post by elaine on Nov 12, 2019 21:02:36 GMT
I’m 51 and just got done moving 15,000 lbs form DC to Brussels. I REPEATEDLY told DH that I’m too old for this! And the whole time I was unpacking, I just kept thinking that I have to move it all back to the States again. And I’ll only be older then. We’ve been in the house 4 weeks today and I had all my boxes unpacked a week ago. This past week stuff went on the walls. We’ll be in Ireland over the weekend, but next weekend I’m nagging DH to get his office unpacked. Then we are officially done. Sorry, but if you don't mind sharing, I'm curious about the cost to move that quantity of household possessions. I wonder if I'd put everything in storage and try to rent furnished while living abroad... Or sell most of our stuff and just store the special pieces.. The military moved them, so she may not have a total for the cost.
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Post by workingclassdog on Nov 12, 2019 21:03:39 GMT
Thankfully they didn't have that much to move.. (well they do have a lot but not like 20 years worth of an entire household).. I would say probably 80% of it is junk.. LOL.. just their typical stuff they have had in their bedrooms forever. They didn't expect us to move furniture and all that.. but from the cars to the house I can deal.. heavy, nope, stairs, nope. A bag to the kitchen.. yep!! LOL.. His parents are younger than us and his dad has much more energy.. so letting them do whatever needs to be done. I can't imagine basket1lady your move!! DANG...
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Post by Merge on Nov 12, 2019 21:04:30 GMT
Long time ago. As soon as we could afford to hire it done. Moving sucks.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 12, 2019 21:05:12 GMT
Right now I am very done with moving crap, like 280 cubic yards of done.
I need to get off my ass and help son clean up the house he is living in. We just let stuff and he has always been overwhelmed by to much cleaning.
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Post by ladytrisha on Nov 12, 2019 21:10:47 GMT
Clearing out my MIL's house did us in. Never again. Tentative plans to move out of state in 2 years - there will be movers and pods or a really pretty moving truck, but not us. Nope. Too old and cranky.
Goal for the next 2 years is to purge and toss what isn't going with us. Lots of "free" stuff will be in the driveway LOL
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Post by idahomom on Nov 12, 2019 21:11:05 GMT
I just turned 51, but I have two fake knees and one fake hip. In a couple of weeks we're getting new kitchen countertops and carpet throughout the house. Hubby says we can move furniture, it's not that much. I said no. We don't move things well together and I'm done doing heavy lifting. Upstairs stuff shouldn't have to come downstairs, but still, solid wood dressers, beds, big mattresses, craft room cabinets, etc.....no. I'll box up things, but we're hiring movers.
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Post by busy on Nov 12, 2019 21:16:11 GMT
Moving sucks. Moving other people sucks even more. I’ll pay for it but I won’t do it.
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Post by Merge on Nov 12, 2019 21:17:47 GMT
Clearing out my MIL's house did us in. Never again. Tentative plans to move out of state in 2 years - there will be movers and pods or a really pretty moving truck, but not us. Nope. Too old and cranky. Goal for the next 2 years is to purge and toss what isn't going with us. Lots of "free" stuff will be in the driveway LOL Yes, thinking back, I think helping clean out MIL/FIL's house and move them and then completely cleaning out my parents' house in the same year is what did us in. No more.
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Post by ~Susan~ on Nov 12, 2019 21:31:27 GMT
I was done moving myself when I was in my 30s and we moved to the house we are in now. It was worth every.single.stinking.penny we paid the movers.
My oldest DD has moved about every 6 months or so for the past 4 years and I am done moving her. My dh and I had little to no help when we moved and she is only doing it because she gets tired of dealing with apartment management. I can't do all those stairs anymore. DH says he doesn't mind, but I am DONE. She might think twice if she had to do more of the heavy lifting.
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 12, 2019 21:38:14 GMT
I was 55 - doctor said get out of Houston so hubby moved me out of Houston. We hired movers to come in and pack and it amazed me how easy that made it. They had my entire house packed up in one afternoon. I did NOTHING to prepare, no cleaning and no getting rid of stuff. I just sat in my chair and answered questions. Never again will I move without movers. They are awesome. The next move we hired another company and it was the same, Awesome!
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Nov 12, 2019 22:21:07 GMT
When DD moved out of the house after college, so I was 56. She was just moving 3 miles away and wanted our help. DH and I both said nope. Told her I'd loan her my SUV and she could haul a U-Haul with it if she wanted, but I would not be loading/unloading, nor packing/unpacking. She's an adult and can hire help since it seems none of her friends are into that whole "helping friends move for pizza/beer" like we were back in the days.
DH was talking about where to retire this weekend. I flat out told him that after 18 moves in 36 years, as well as 2 move outs for major remodels in the last 6 years, that I was DONE! The bulk of that burden fell on me. While I did have movers for nearly all of the moves it is still a lot of work and stress. The only thing that will get me to move again is if he can find Heaven on earth. Pretty sure it doesn't exist so I'm staying put for now!
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Post by Basket1lady on Nov 13, 2019 0:06:25 GMT
I’m 51 and just got done moving 15,000 lbs form DC to Brussels. I REPEATEDLY told DH that I’m too old for this! And the whole time I was unpacking, I just kept thinking that I have to move it all back to the States again. And I’ll only be older then. We’ve been in the house 4 weeks today and I had all my boxes unpacked a week ago. This past week stuff went on the walls. We’ll be in Ireland over the weekend, but next weekend I’m nagging DH to get his office unpacked. Then we are officially done. Sorry, but if you don't mind sharing, I'm curious about the cost to move that quantity of household possessions. I wonder if I'd put everything in storage and try to rent furnished while living abroad... Or sell most of our stuff and just store the special pieces.. The military pays for 21,000 lbs (we put 8,000 lbs into storage) and to ship one vehicle. A crew comes in and packs everything up, loads it into wooden crates and ships it overseas on a freighter. Then another company unloads the crates box by box, putting items where we tell them. It’s not as bad as it sounds, but it’s bad enough. You have to pull down all the shelves, photos, pictures, and random stuff from the walls, wash all the curtains, rugs, and bedding, and then pull all the lightbulbs, batteries, liquids, flammable, etc so that they don’t get packed. It’s a ton of work! Two years ago, we moved ourselves a few miles because our landlords were selling the house we were renting. I packed up 90% of the house myself and we hired some college kids that we knew—that helped a lot. We also had a professional crew for a few hours to move the big stuff. I paid $800 for four guys and a truck for two hours. That was well worth it. We have a king sized Tempurpedic bed that they dealt with, along with an armoire, an antique oak desk, and various other heavy items. But I can’t complain too much. We are off to Ireland this weekend and were in northern France three weeks ago. We paid a grand total of $50 for our tickets. DD is doing her semester abroad there and is going to show us around.
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Post by flanz on Nov 13, 2019 0:13:52 GMT
basket1lady - I'm glad you get to hop around Europe exploring and enjoying the sights! I wonder what it would cost a civilian for a move like the one you describe. I can't even imagine the crazy high cost of that. Thanks for explaining the process.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Nov 13, 2019 0:53:28 GMT
I guess I'm the oddball. I don't mind moving furniture and boxes. Heck, I work in the estate auction business -- we do it all the time. Now, I do have my limits. The younger guys handle the really heavy stuff. But I make a lot of trips with the smaller stuff!
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Post by janeinbama on Nov 13, 2019 1:16:06 GMT
I just turned 51, but I have two fake knees and one fake hip. In a couple of weeks we're getting new kitchen countertops and carpet throughout the house. Hubby says we can move furniture, it's not that much. I said no. We don't move things well together and I'm done doing heavy lifting. Upstairs stuff shouldn't have to come downstairs, but still, solid wood dressers, beds, big mattresses, craft room cabinets, etc.....no. I'll box up things, but we're hiring movers. When we had wood floors installed, we packed "stuff" up and the installers moved furniture from side to side. Installed tile, everything had to be moved out for days.
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Post by katlady on Nov 13, 2019 1:23:30 GMT
I guess I'm the oddball. I don't mind moving furniture and boxes. Heck, I work in the estate auction business -- we do it all the time. Now, I do have my limits. The younger guys handle the really heavy stuff. But I make a lot of trips with the smaller stuff! I am an oddball too. As long as I am physically able to I don’t mind moving furniture and boxes. I am petite, so I reach the limit fairly quickly, but I try to help. I even clear out and move the furniture in my craft room by myself once a year. Always trying to find the perfect setup. Lol!
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